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[Leena Muller]

My wife is very supportive of me but I swear that it bothers her more than she lets on. She has said that it’s not a big deal and she wants me to be who I am. She even buys me wardrobe items if she sees something I might like when she shops. Gives me advice on my outfits, etc.
I asked her about it the other day and she gave me the same supportive reply. While  dressing helps me, I don’t want her to have any bad feelings.
I’m just curious if more frequent SO dressing was helpful to any of you? As in you got more used to it and you didn’t really think about it anymore. I only dress one or two times a week. There are times I may not dress for a couple of weeks at all.
Were there other things that helped?While dressing is great for me, I cannot continue, knowing that she may be hurting on any level.
I know that it is different for everyone but  I would be interested in any opinions. Thanks.

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[Leena Muller]

Thanks, Eileen. That’s exactly what I had running through my head. I appreciate your candor. I guess that I wanted to hear it from a woman.
BTW, I generally find your comments and input on the site to be perfectly on point.  Thanks again.

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[Eileen Bach]

Dear Leena,

This is common with many couples, your wife seems accepting in order to preserve the relationship. Till comes the day she can’t take it anymore and you wonder what went wrong. A hetero man, a husband, a boyfriend, dressing as a lady is difficult to understand. A challenge to her femininity. A support group is helpful, I despise therapists.

You have to be honest with yourself, then her, how far this will go. A woman may want to make her man happy, up to the point when she’s living with another woman. You say you can’t continue if she’s hurting. If you can manage to stop, you’ll be grumpy and she’ll feel it’s her fault.

It’s important that she understands that you can’t willingly quit. And for you to understand that she wants the man she married in her life. That means no panties or nighties in the bedroom.

Dress up times can be agreed on, she can participate or not. You two have a decent start in that she knows you CD and is trying to be supportive and really doesn’t know how.

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