- June 2, 2023 at 6:16 pm #742292PerseParticipantRegistered On: May 20, 2023Topics: 3Replies: 47Has thanked: 102 timesBeen thanked: 117 times
Lots of people say that they have a wide preference for music.And lots of them do. I do as well.
Last weekend I met up with some old friends and we went out and had a few drinks and stuff.
We were not in uniform or anything but it was almost all tee shirts, denim and boots and no I did not rock up in some fabulous outfit.
It did get me thinking though.
Last wekend I was quite happy listening to Punk,Ska ,Swamp rock and any sort of stuff, dressed in tees denim and boots
This weekend I am dressed in a silk dress Stockings and heels.
I am sipping Chenin Blanc and listening to Melody Gardot
Does anyone else notice a musical difference when they go en femme
- June 14, 2023 at 6:25 am #744521Jennifer AtwellLadyRegistered On: April 14, 2023Topics: 1Replies: 107Has thanked: 450 timesBeen thanked: 363 times
- June 13, 2023 at 6:29 pm #744464Jenny LynnLadyRegistered On: May 10, 2023Topics: 0Replies: 113Has thanked: 77 timesBeen thanked: 312 times
Oh yes. My whole persona is so much different. I went out and about today as Jenny. First time in years. Just a drive to a quiet country park.
I was shaking like a leaf on a tree in a windstorm!
But to get back to the question at hand. Yes. I find most everything about me changes when I let Jenny take over.
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- June 13, 2023 at 6:15 pm #744461Michelle WayneLadyRegistered On: May 16, 2023Topics: 0Replies: 34Has thanked: 456 timesBeen thanked: 123 times
I love this question. Thanks you asking/sharing it. I don’t think I notice a difference as I pretty much like many types of music as it appears many others do. I will say Michael can not dance at all but I think Michelle could go at it for hours. I don’t notice differences while presenting female in any form of entertainment but certainly do in other ways.
- June 12, 2023 at 8:13 pm #744278Jasmine AndrewsLadyRegistered On: February 24, 2019Topics: 1Replies: 97Has thanked: 26 timesBeen thanked: 319 times
Like many here, I have diverse musical tastes, but my chore playlist is mostly “girly pop”, I’m not sure that there’s a relationship to the fact that I usually do my chores dressed, or if it’s just that this playlist is songs that have an upbeat tempo that helps me keep going on things I don’t really want to do
- June 7, 2023 at 6:13 am #743102Nikki Just NikkiLadyRegistered On: September 29, 2022Topics: 9Replies: 228Has thanked: 1490 timesBeen thanked: 1451 times
I have wide ranging musical tastes, from indie to free jazz, punk to irish folk. I don’t notice a change whether I’m en femme or drab. That said, there is some music that always seems to bring Nikki out: classical. Doesn’t matter if it’s Mendelssohn or Mussorgsky, give me an allegro, and Nikki is off to the races!
- June 6, 2023 at 11:14 pm #743076AnonymousLadyTopics: 0Replies: 0Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 0 times
My first comment please go easy 😊
I have a wide taste in music but all comes back ultimately to rock.
The only change that occurs isn’t what im listening to it’s what thoughts it provokes. Back in the 80s when I was in my early 20s I would have loved to be a rock chick, now I’m out in the open as Kay I do tend to brood on what could have been. Just too old now for the leathers lol,
- June 6, 2023 at 1:52 pm #743021Cerys BurtonLadyRegistered On: February 2, 2021Topics: 99Replies: 344Has thanked: 262 timesBeen thanked: 2834 times
I like what I like. How I’m dressed makes no difference. It’s mostly rock, but I love old fashioned Rock N Roll. I used to be a Mod in the 80s so I’m a huge fan of the Kinks, Small Faces, The Who. I love the Blues. I like some jazz. Carole King saved me. When I was at my lowest, in my well of depression, Carole King’s Tapestry saved me. Seriously it did. I’m not sure I’d be here if it wasn’t for Tapestry.
Obviously, mood changes. At the moment I’m listening to Early Kinks, but how I’m presenting makes no difference…. I think the only difference would be karaoke…. My go-to song is Proud Mary… Drab mode, it’s the original CCR version. Cerys mode, it has to be Tina!
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- June 13, 2023 at 6:35 pm #744466Jenny LynnLadyRegistered On: May 10, 2023Topics: 0Replies: 113Has thanked: 77 timesBeen thanked: 312 times
- June 13, 2023 at 5:54 pm #744460Michelle WayneLadyRegistered On: May 16, 2023Topics: 0Replies: 34Has thanked: 456 timesBeen thanked: 123 times
If we could only look like Tina!
- June 6, 2023 at 3:16 am #742894Samantha RDuchessRegistered On: January 17, 2023Topics: 4Replies: 191Has thanked: 253 timesBeen thanked: 789 times
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- June 3, 2023 at 3:19 pm #742498Fiona BlackBaroness - AnnualRegistered On: November 23, 2019Topics: 1Replies: 787Has thanked: 652 timesBeen thanked: 3475 times
- June 3, 2023 at 4:05 pm #742501PerseLadyRegistered On: May 20, 2023Topics: 3Replies: 47Has thanked: 102 timesBeen thanked: 117 times
I think I may have been a bit blunt in my Question.In hindsight , maybe I should have rephrased it. My wee chat with Emily (below) might give a closer picture to what I meant.
I am kinda fellow traveller with you on the old rock’n’roller bit maybe a bit closer to old r&b for me but surely siblings. I still don’t know how contempory R&B is related to the old stuff never mind the British version. Some young person will surely explain it to me some day
- June 3, 2023 at 9:57 am #742450Emily AltManaging AmbassadorRegistered On: August 24, 2019Topics: 47Replies: 1744Has thanked: 2183 timesBeen thanked: 9214 times
Well I’m trans so there’s only one persona listening….and probably dancing. That might be indie, alt, grunge, industrial, goth, shoegaze, house, electronica, trip hop, or whatever. Even when I had 2 distinct personas, my tastes didn’t change with my outfit.
IRL, I’ve noticed that the music most women listen to is no different than what guys listen to. The genre will change, but the ratio stays pretty even. I’ve been to hundreds of shows and spent countless hours in dance clubs. It’s always been a pretty even mix.
I’d offer that it’s okay to blur the lines. If Jane likes Lizzo so can John. And there’s no reason Jane can’t steal a few tracks from John’s Deerhunter albums.
- June 3, 2023 at 12:32 pm #742473LadyRegistered On: May 20, 2023Topics: 3Replies: 47Has thanked: 102 timesBeen thanked: 117 times
I don’t really mean that the 2 personas have actual different tastes in music. Your personal taste goes right to one’s core. I think it is more to do with the change of mood one feels when you go from drab to en femme.
Obviously as trans you are en femme 24/7. There is no switch. I just mean that I am listening to a certain part of my musical collection rather than another. I don’t have to be in a dress to like Melody Gardot but at the same time I didn’t want to listen to Motorhead when I was in heels and a gorgeous dress. It would have ruined the mood. I was in my zone.
I find dressing en femme has a very calming effect on me obviously outside of the anxiety of getting caught so the music I listen then just reflects this.
Hope I have explained my reason for my original post.
- June 3, 2023 at 1:42 pm #742483Emily AltManaging AmbassadorRegistered On: August 24, 2019Topics: 47Replies: 1744Has thanked: 2183 timesBeen thanked: 9214 times
You didn’t have to explain but thank you! Our musical choices and the ways we enjoy them are entirely a personal matter. No right or wrong answers. I was merely giving my perspective. BTW listening to Motorhead while wearing stilettos and a short leather dress sounds like a lot of fun!
- June 3, 2023 at 7:53 am #742411J JLadyRegistered On: September 13, 2019Topics: 12Replies: 1020Has thanked: 1 timeBeen thanked: 4280 times
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- June 3, 2023 at 1:31 am #742326Kris BurtonLadyRegistered On: August 6, 2022Topics: 2Replies: 188Has thanked: 1050 timesBeen thanked: 1193 times
It doesn’t so much change as I allow a little secret of mine to come to the surface. As my male self, I do not dance – much too shy. However as the far more uninhibited Kris I get to enjoy that activity as much as I please, both publicly and privately. Latin – tinged popular dance music a particular favorite. I even get to indulge my guilty-pleasure of disco much more than I did when it was very popular, and my love of 60s-70s Motown/R&B is now greatly enhanced. Besides, as Kris I feel I have free reign to do all the female dance moves I like, and it feels great to cut loose!
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- June 3, 2023 at 2:14 am #742343LadyRegistered On: May 20, 2023Topics: 3Replies: 47Has thanked: 102 timesBeen thanked: 117 times
I understand. Perse had a couple of little dances around the kitchen last night when Spotify threw out a few little Latin tunes. Also I think she is a better dancer than her alter ego
- June 3, 2023 at 12:28 am #742321Caty RyanBaronessRegistered On: August 27, 2017Topics: 144Replies: 1414Has thanked: 12 timesBeen thanked: 6274 times
Yes.. male me is an old broken down rocker who likes to think he can bang out a few chords on his electric guitar… (Maton.. great “Oz made brand”.)
Caty loves and has an I Pod play list of “soft sentimental songs” by female artists such as Diana Krall, Roberta Flack Linda Rondstadt, and others, (especially Linda’s “Nelson Riddle orchestra “torch” songs” period.)
This gets played as she transforms from “gnarly old geezer”, to mature, elegant, (she hopes) senior lady.
- June 3, 2023 at 4:10 pm #742502Lorraine LowryDuchessRegistered On: January 2, 2023Topics: 0Replies: 375Has thanked: 587 timesBeen thanked: 1313 times
Gnarly? If you don’t like “ The fist time ever I saw your face” then you have never deeply loved someone. You tell them Caty. I like many different kinds of music from classical to The Beach Boys to George Strait. When I asked my oldest friend what song reminded him of me, he immediately said “409”. “ nothing can catch her, nothing can touch my 409.” Look it up children. Don’t care where I’m at or what I’m wearing, from the Marriage of Figaro to You Don’t have to Call Me Darlin, just crank it up.
- June 3, 2023 at 3:05 am #742348LadyRegistered On: May 20, 2023Topics: 3Replies: 47Has thanked: 102 timesBeen thanked: 117 times
In my circles I am the one who has traditionally made the mixtapes for everyone. A while back I made a CD for my sister of only Female voices. Her other sisters, feeling left out also had to get their own personal CDs as well. I really enjoyed the process though of choosing a playlist specifically for someone within defined parameters. Enough to burn on to a CD, 15 to 20 songs.
Some of the other women in my life also wanted a bit of this too. I never really realised how many women I have in my life up to then so I started making a more generic selection of tunes for all. Same parameters though, female voices, And only tunes that I might listen to, So there was no Beyonce or Adele or people like that. They seem to have gone over well though as I am up to a Femmes 9 already. One release per year
The real point though is in the process of choosing stuff for a totally female audience. I had to connect with that other part of me that was not into beer and rock’n’roll. The part where Perse came from. I really like that side of me. A kinder, gentler side which I hope is coming more to the fore in my everyday life. My SO might not agree as she thinks I am turning into a grumpy old git.
One can dream though
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