My Androgyny

Do you feel OK with being seen as a man in feminine clothing?

Can we broaden society’s view of acceptable and gender appropriate clothes?

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    Falecia McGuire
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    Hi Folks,

    Like many of you, I’d guess, I’m comfortable with being a man, but could easily wear nothing other than feminine clothing.  Particularly, in this day and age, women’s clothes are far more versatile than the restriction of men’s.  The lighter weight fabrics and form fitting of many assortments of tops, bottoms, and footwear allow greater comfort – in my opinion.  Some women don’t agree and find men’s outfits better suited for working around the house or the yard.  For me, however, I find skinny jeans and workout tops less burdensome, offering less restrictive movements.  Even a moderate feminine heel is more comfortable and easier to maneuver the boots many working men wear.  Around the kitchen, feminine outfit always work better for me.  I like the angle of a higher (heeled) stance at the chopping board.  The extra height also makes it easier to access the taller cupboards.

    Glad to meet you,

    Falecia (FAM)

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     Camryn Occasionnel 
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    Sadly, for myself, I have to answer “NO.” Since I am such a closeted crossdresser, there is no chance I would be seen in public since I never go out dressed.

    However, there is always a chance I might be seen, for example, by a neighbor who caught a glimpse of me from a second story window as I went outside en femme to feed the cats on my patio! I figure, if they never confront me about it, that’s great. But I would be horrified if I KNEW someone saw me out there, and terrified if they ever confronted me with it. The humiliation would be stroke-worthy.

    But I am dreaming of a time when my answer would be a qualified “YES.” I hope that one day, I’ll have the appearance and the confidence to go out with a small group of gurls my age (never alone) to a CD-friendly venue, secure in the knowledge that I would be seen as just another older lady out for a social evening. If, upon closer inspection, someone suspects that I/we might be men dressed up as women, then I can accept that – as long as they’re not looking for trouble.

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     Anne Preuss 
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    I voted no because my Holy Grail is to be passable be it daylight or nighttime.  I’m getting laser treatments to remove face/neck/chest hair.  So for someone to see me dressed and still view me as a man in womens clothing is unacceptable in my mind.  But I can understand how someone else might not care at all because for them, they just wish to enjoy the look and feeling of womens clothing and don’t care how others might view them.  Different strokes for different folks.

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     Kimmie 
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    I had to think for a while before answering. In the end, I voted no because I could never pass as a woman and feel uncomfortable being seen in public as a man in woman’s clothes. Still, I wear only panties every day, even days I go to the gym or to an appointment at the doctor. I’ve even begun swimming at a local public pool and my suit consists of a woman’s bikini bottom. If I were able to pass, I would want to be considered to be a woman when en femme.

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     Leslies Ann Gray Girl 
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    I’ve only been out dressed under my male stuff, bra,panties and when i could hide under shirt and coat. One time i forgot i had transparent pink nail polish on till i got back home from the store,i laughed and said o well.I voted no because i think its my duty if in fem to dress all the way fem and look like a woman , total,no male showing.Till i am comfortable with the way i look i will stay hidden . Thanks for the question,its nice to hear different thoughts on this . Love , Leslie.

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     Dawn Judson 
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    When I’m dressed as a woman, I want people to believe that I am one.

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     Danielle Clark 
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    I wasn’t sure how to answer this one. For me, there is a pretty defined line between my male and female self. There’s not much overlap. When I’m a guy, I dress as a guy. When I’m a girl, I dress as feminine as possible, and always do hair and makeup if I’m going out. I guess I love to blend into society as a woman. Now, if someone happens to pick up on the fact that I am actually a guy, I’m okay with that. I’m sure it’s happened many times, like when showing my guy ID at a bar, or even just while talking (I’m still working on feminizing my voice). But I try to be as feminine as I can when dressed. Ultimately, I would rather be seen as a woman instead of a guy in feminine clothing, so I voted no.

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     Charlene Love 
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    Its The truth I am a man in womens attire … I cant worry about ppls opinion on me because if i do i could not live my life … Hopefully there is someone out there whom will love me regardless and I will too…I have come to the point in my were I am going to enjoy my life because alot of things i thought i did not like i do like and its nothing wrong with it… yes it would be nice to have a vagina and be a women but i am not i am a man who is blessed to be able to embrace and enjoy my life … growing up we were told we can be whomever we wanted to be and 20 years later i want to be more feminine… but even though i am single and dont have any friends in the community i am happy that i am coming to terms and accepting and embracing my feminine characteristics.

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     MacKenzie Alexandra 
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    My response is a resounding yes without reservation.

    I am a man; I don’t see myself as a woman.  Regardless of the clothes that I choose to wear, I am being no one other than me.  There is little doubt that I am man whether I wearing a dress & heels or a shirt & tie. I do not wear a wig, (I feel like I’m hiding the real me when I have) and rarely wear makeup.  This, however, does not stop me from taking care of business wearing the clothes that are most comfortable to me or just fit my mood.

    Part me is if a women can dress as she feels, why shouldn’t a man.  The other part of me just doesn’t care. I have always marched to a different drummer since I was a child; why should it be any different with the clothes I prefer to wear.  I don’t believe it should.  Therefore, I dress to be comfortable and to Express who I am.

    Now, I acknowledge that others among us have different motivations.  And as such, your connection to your femininity is different which creates feelings quite divergent from mine. There is nothing wrong with that. We are not all the same.

    MacKenzie Alexandra

     

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     Jeri McNerly 
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    I love being seen dressed as a woman. I find it extremely erotic!

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     *skippy1965(Cynthia) 
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    Marianne,
    You and I are indeed soul twins. We share many traits including wearing female clothes even in male mode. I hope you get the chance to be everything you want to be in the coming years1
    Cyn

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     fiona moss 
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    Oh! its a complicated one this! my first hunch was to say no because I have never been outside dressed femme, but on the other hand, one day I do want to do it, so that would be a yes! I answered no, because of the current situation and how confident I feel, ask the same question some time in the future and my answer will hopefully be a big happy yes!

    Fiona xxxx

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     Bren Whyme 
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    Hi Ladies,

    I voted Yes!! I believe everyone, everywhere has the right to dress as they wish, to express themselves as they wish, within reason. I have no problem seeing a man in a skirt and heels, although I would rather be seen as a woman when I wear heels in public. My SO and I were shopping today, I in drab, and we noticed an obvious Crossdresser en  femme and I have her a smile. She was obvious and obviously self conscious of herself and quickly rushed by me before I could tell her she looked lovely. But she had every right to be dressed as she wished. Society is not ready to see men in woman’s clothing everywhere just yet, but it is beginning to change. I for one see myself as one of the pioneering girls that is making a positive change to society’s attitudes towards crossdressers. I have only been out a couple times now en femme but go out with my head high, dressed appropriate for my surroundings and always give a smile.

    Hugs, Brenda

     

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     Candy Can 
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    I’m working on it. Answered NO, but I know that inside my brain I’m good with it. However I also know that the world balks at the image of a man en femme. The cultural conflict is real and we are pioneering at the frontier of what’s acceptable.

    The answers here indicate a real range of motivations.
    I am a guy with a feminine side. (Some are a girl in the wrong body – which leads to a different attitude).
    I also feel people should be able to think, dress, say as they wish, so long as they don’t infringe the rights of others – so I very much support those guys who just like heels eg, or wear skirts or dresses. I would love a world where dressing as you wish, is a non issue – basically, women HAVE arrived at that position in our society, and I would like the same freedom for males.

    we are pioneering at the frontier of what’s acceptable”
    Agree with that statement. So how to push that envelope?
    I think the young of today are doing that to some extent. But maybe we can do our bit too.
    Dress a little more androgonously, Get shoes and boots with a bit of a heel, Wear a blouse or polo with girl side buttons, and move on from there. Little by little, things will change.
    “Be the change you want there to be”.

     

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     Marianne 
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    I answered yes. Though I rather be seen as a woman when out en femme, and for most I probably am, I have no problem with people identifying me as a crossdresser or transgender. Wearing solely clothes from the women’s department also in male mode for work helps me reassure myself I am a woman regardless some inconsistent elements in my outward appearance.

    Marianne

    Marianne

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     Ronda Francine 
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    I voted yes

    The first time I went out dressed was about ten years ago. I was going to meet a friend at a local bar and restaurant in town. I was very scared to say the least, but I went in anyway, I encountered a women who was staring at me, I just smiled at her and she smiled back and  went on with her business. I saw my friend sitting at the bar, and went over to her, she was very surprised to see me there. Long story short, I down two margaritas, I was relaxed enough that I enjoyed the rest of the evening.

    Now days, I wear women’s clothing all the time. My tops are polo shirts that the buttons are on the left side and I wear women’s jeans.

    Ronda Francine

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