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    Susan Zed
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    Registered On: May 16, 2019
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    I have always been open and honest with my partners in regards to my dressing and with my wife it went well for many years. However, about three years ago she started to not want dressing at all in the bedroom and because I felt guilty, I stopped all dressing in front of her. In fact from being very open and shopping for clothes with her, we went to not talking about dressing at all. I still dressed when alone but it was back in secret. I was not happy but I thought it was for the best. Anyway, yesterday we had a heart to heart and she told me that she didnt know if I still dressed but said it was still ok and in fact I should dress because she knew it was good for me mentally. That was wonderful to hear and brought us back closer. This morning I dressed again knowing that she was happyfor me to do it and as I stood doing the washing up in my skirt, top, pantyhose and underneath my bra and panties I felt soso happy again!

     

    Susan x

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      Susan Zed
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      Just an update. After we had spoken I was still shy about Susan being out in front of her again, and kept almost doing it but didn’t. Then yesterday a pair of women’s Sandals arrived for me quicker than I expected and my wife took them in. I picked up the courage and told her that I had bought them and she asked me if I had tried them on. That gave me the push I needed and went upstairs and put on some panties, tights and a skirt, leaving my male top on as I was in zoom meetings later, and came back down and showed her. She was happy to chat about them and later having stayed in the skirt etc I told her how happy I felt and she said that is how I should be…myself. Today, she went to work in the .orning and I dressed up fully including bra and breast forms. I stayed dressed all day and she came home and everything was normal. I loved it and will now dress every day unless we have to go out anywhere. This is exactly how I want it with it being normal to dress as a woman and today I think I finally really accepted myself.

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      Ellie Hope
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      Sweetie, I hear you. The same scenario is happening to me, and my spouse and I are now reconnecting again in hopefully long term way. She is still not comfortable being seen in public with Ellie, but wants to work on that. Outside of the public sector, she is very supportive, for which I am truly grateful.

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      Jenny Jones
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      These are always the best stories to hear I am happy that things are going well for you!

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      Robin Snow
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      Hi Susan,

      I am happy you two were able to work it all out.  Communication is  key.

      Hugs,

      Robin

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      Susan Zed
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      Yesterday I thanked my SO, telling her I had dressed again after our conversation and for the first time in years I did not feel bad about it. She was very pleased to hear it. The next step is to openly dress in front of her again..I will see what she says when I asked how she will feel if I did. It used to be so good just being dressed each day and just be together around the house. For me, just dressing as if I am an ordinary woman makes me feel so good, not glammed up, but in a comfortable dress and cardi, stretchy skirt and tights with top and bra etc. Naturally women like and doing normal things like fixing lunch or chatting about the news with her. I sometimes have the fantasy that I was caught by my Mum when I was younger and she understood me and just let me dress like my sisters and it was accepted that I was just one of the girls. That is the feeling I have when dressed with my wife there. It us just what I dress in and it is normal.

       

      Susan x

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      Helene Bock
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      Lucky you, my first wife when found out by “accident” of my dressing she thought I had a “screw loose” and never wanted to discuss it, yet later she knew I continued dressing when I was out on busines trips by car. This situation lasted until she unfortunately passed away.  My second wife have seen my full female wardrobe, yet not my underwear, shapewear, etc plus a few photos of “Helene” on FB before I closed the account, she even mentioned once she might like to “meet” Helene, but I have never persued the issue as I want her to bring it up again, yet she is having a laugh when we are out shopping for her; clothes and underwear as she say I have good taste!

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      Jessica Wilde
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      This story has lifted my spirits also. At a time when my spirits are at rock bottom I needed some positivity concerning the situation.

      I’m so glad your wife accepts you and realizes your need to dress. Mine does not and it’s soul crushing.

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      Susan Zed
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      You are right Amanda, they do go through different periods, sometimes a partner will have enthusiastically have helped me, but then later will feel threatened by it. I think it is because it exists “outside” of the core relationship. It can lead to idea that the dressing is more important than the person.

       

      Susan

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      Susan Zed
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      Thanks Emily and glad to hear it made you happier 😀 x

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      Rei Durden
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      Susan your wife certainly understands your needs and what’s important to her too.

      Fabulous to read, we often understand how difficult it is for us with the turmoil in our lives, that we forget that our SOs are fighting inner turmoils of their own. Quiet periods are often a reflection of self doubt, a time to  re-evaluate, after all many never thought their SO would be wearing feminine clothes and make-up. That a big ask of any partner to accept, and a even bigger question they have to ask themselves, can I live with this.

      This kind of advice has made conversations between my wife and I a lot easier.

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      Amanda Burton
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      Susan your wife certainly understands your needs and what’s important to her too.

      Fabulous to read, we often understand how difficult it is for us with the turmoil in our lives, that we forget that our SOs are fighting inner turmoils of their own. Quiet periods are often a reflection of self doubt, a time to  re-evaluate, after all many never thought their SO would be wearing feminine clothes and make-up. That a big ask of any partner to accept, and a even bigger question they have to ask themselves, can I live with this.

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      Emily Alt
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      Thanks for sharing this Susan.  It lifted my spirits.  So good to hear stories like yours!

      Emily

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      Stephanie Bass
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      Hi Susan nice to meet you  and congrats on having a wonderful talk with wife and getting things ironed out And going back in a good direction  . Im in kind of same boat as you are as came out to wife right after we were married  and doing good also now for 37 years . she also says im a much better person when Dressed as Stephanie . We do play a little in bedroom as no hanky but a little panky HA ha  she has very much said she is not a Lesbian and i accept that we also have fun in other ways .. Enough about that .LOL.. So again nice to meet you and hope you can continue on this loveing wife journey you are starting over good luck sweetheart .

      Stephanie Bass

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      Olivia Livin
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      Big Cheers to new beginings Susan

      You have a wonderful relationship with your wife, it sounds like you possibly misunderstood the not in the bedroom limit.

      Supressing ourselves can change our outlook ans attitude, she obviously noticed this and understood the root of it. Good on her.

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      Grace Scarlett
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      Welcome back Susan!!!

      I cannot even begin to imagine how good you must feel…it’s lovely when a relationship on here goes the right way…..wonderful!!

      warm huggs, grace xx

       

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