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- October 23, 2020 at 2:56 pm #397849
I love to read the profiles of members whose posts or replies I find interesting. I’ve noticed that a very large percentage are over the age of 50 as am I. It makes me wonder what the average age of our sisters would be. I have been crossdressing for most of my life but I wish I had really gone full fem when I was younger. I wonder just how passible I would have been at 25 or 30. C’est La Vie.
- October 23, 2020 at 3:27 pm #397853Anonymous
I’ll never be passable, but I think I’m more shapely now than when younger. I’ve lost so much muscle mass, and the weight that comes with that and eating BS, drinking too much beer🤣 Haley is much more feminine at 170 than she was at 205!
- October 23, 2020 at 3:55 pm #397857
I guess as I get older and my testosterone levels drop it brings out the more feminine me that has always been there. I am close to/at the 50 point and I would like to have been more involved with dressing at a younger age. I still have a lot of muscle mass I built up when I was young and if I had been more into my feminine side I would have not built so much. Now poor Maria has to deal with not finding sexy things in her size because of it.
- October 23, 2020 at 4:18 pm #397859Anonymous
I just turned 60. I dabbled with crossdressing on and off most of my life, but guilt and shame kept shutting it down. I have finally come to the level of self acceptance to be able to say I am transgendered and will never purge again. I remember as a teen having dreams at night that I was a girl. In the 1970’s, you didn’t tell anyone things like that. If I was a teen now, I would be transitioning.
Maybe the reason there are so many of us that are older is because back when we were teens, having feelings of wanting to be a girl would land you in trouble. We can finally come with our feelings now.
- October 23, 2020 at 6:20 pm #397895
You just summed it up perfectly for me! Thank you.
- October 23, 2020 at 4:28 pm #397867
Oui C’est la vie Michelle.
I feel when we are younger we try to be who we are meant to be, to attract a partner, be popular, to blend in.
But as we age we care less about being attractive for others and realise the importance of just being ourselves is so important for our mental health.
❤️B
- October 23, 2020 at 5:01 pm #397873
Please Michelle, we prefer the terms “mature” or ” life experienced” lmao.
I’ll be chronologically 60 in a couple weeks and didn’t have any urges until around 55 which makes me a late bloomer. Although I may have missed out on certain experiences had I started earlier I also believe that having some wisdom made it easier for me to accept it within myself. Either way, I love being me.
Olivia
- October 23, 2020 at 5:55 pm #397892
At 66 I am at the point where on one ;level I don’t care who finds out, on another level I don’t want to go out of my way to tell everyone. I to would have my younger self back (pretty sure I would be much more passable). But nowadays when I’m dressed up I just feel more comfortable, more like this is what I should be. I’m sure my co-workers suspect something ( with covid for an excuse to let my hair grow out and now I have colored it ). I love my hair now. Now I am wondering how to tell my brothers, I will either have to tell them most of my newfound fem self or make some kind of weird excuse. Or I guess I could get my hair cut short again and go back into stealth mode. I don’t want to go back, I want to go ahead, to explore more of my feminine side!!!
Sandy
- October 23, 2020 at 6:31 pm #397900
Kay,
That is/was the same scenario I faced. I’ll be 60 in 1.5 weeks and and like you, realized a good while ago I am transgender.
- October 24, 2020 at 5:48 pm #398216
Kay, My 62nd bday was on the 2nd of Oct. and it is fantastic. May your Bday be amazing!!!
Happy Birthday Hugs
Diane
- October 23, 2020 at 7:51 pm #397923
I have just turned 67 on Monday this week, so I amoungst the older girls too. Like others have said I wish I had gone deeper into being femme many years earlier, as I have been dressing up off and on since I was about 12.
Amy
- October 23, 2020 at 8:10 pm #397935
When I was around 10, I had my first interest in female clothing and felt very out of place for feeling like that…
When I was 15, I had my first gf and hoped that it would be an end to my feminine feelings I was having all the time…
When I was 19, I hoped a gap year abroad would help me find myself and clear my head of all those growing feminine feelings.
When I graduated university at 23, I hoped that this feminine ‘phase’ could finally be put to bed and hoped that my mind would now concentrate on my career.
When I was 29, I got married and thought that this must be the turning point, the end of all those built up feminine feelings. I truly believed they would finally disappear…
I am now 35, I have just as many things or possibly more commitments going on in my life then at any other time in my life, but the only difference now compared to any other time is that I finally accepted that my feminine side is here to stay and is a really important part of my life… And I want to embrace it now.
But that’s the key here for me… I want to embrace it ‘now’ . I didn’t want to embrace it on this level at any other stage of my life that I was having these thoughts, and neither do I believe I should have.
Would I be more passable if I had decided I wanted to do this at 18? Most definitely, and I would probably have had a near 2 decades of actually practicing and training and style matching, to be as convincing and passable as I could possibly get myself to be today… (And probably a lot less barbie pink in my closet!)
But it definitely wouldn’t have been me if I had started back then. I didn’t have the wisdom, the mentality or any experiences in life that would have made me decide to be brave and accept that dressing is too important for me to not address seriously. Past some vague youthful aesthetics, there would be nothing to identify and convince me that I was that person as I just wouldn’t be able to relate. It just personally wouldn’t have been me.
Of course I think about the ‘what ifs’ and turning points that could have happened. But being ‘myself’ is the most important and first thing I want. Me with the life I’ve had so far AND now with the feminine side I have finally accepted. For whatever reason, the girl inside wasn’t ready to debut any earlier then she did, and I don’t think any good will come from me regretting that she didnt …
… And I don’t want to.
Because right now, and tomorrow are far more important for me. I want to know and love the girl I am today, and I am excited for what she will become tomorrow… not what she never was.
- October 24, 2020 at 1:47 am #397967Anonymous
Beautifully put Krissi….I so like this post!!
and a girl can never have too much barbie pink….. here’s to all our tomorrow’s girls❤️
smiles, grace x
- October 23, 2020 at 9:27 pm #397946
There was a recent poll called “What is your age?”. The results are quite surprising. Of the CDH respondents to the poll, the TOP cohart fell into the 61-70 category! At 73¾, I myself fall into the 71 – 80 category. Eight respondents are in the Over 80 group!!
If you haven’t voted in this poll, you should give it a whirl. Get counted in your CDH age group!!
- October 24, 2020 at 2:06 am #397971
I am 68 now and time is catching up with me at an alarmingly fast rate, I don’t mind becoming an old lady, still enjoy dressing and loving being able to share my photos with everyone. I have hundreds of pictures and must admit that I looked pretty good in my younger days but the only way I could store them was on DVD.
If I had the technical knowledge to somehow get my glory days onto these magical computers so I could share them it would make this old (but still gorgeous) lady very happy. X X
- October 24, 2020 at 3:25 am #397985
Hi Michelle,
A really interesting post, maybe there is some adaptation of the Shakespeare passage from As You Like it about the seven ages of man, we could have the seven ages of woman CDH style.
I am now 57 and have found I am more comfortable with who I am and I generally now don’t give a hoot what people think. I have tended to become more ‘rebellious’ and more non-conforming as I have got older. I have never been one who felt comfortable having to present as masculine (either physically or emotionally), nowadays I just try and be myself not what I think other people would expect me to be.
Jessica x
- October 24, 2020 at 4:42 am #398002
I began wearing stockings, pantyhose, heels and bras at 4. I began buying my own pantyhose at 13. At 17, I bought my own heels and short shorts. I began wearing them out with my pantyhose. At 18 I got my own place and went fully en femme. I went out a lot. It was fun and so exciting being a young, pretty and sexy girl. I dressed, went out and partied all though college. After college I stopped.
Then after over 20 years I started again. I realized how much I missed it. I began dressing everyday and started going out again. Now being over 60, I find I’m more timid and fearful, but I still love being Patty.
- October 24, 2020 at 4:43 am #398003
Thank you for the reply Jessica James. I’m somewhat the opposite. I was quite rebellious in my youth and very outspoken about my social views. These days I tend to be low key and somewhat conformist in the sense that I see no benefit in rocking the boat. I live in a very far right part of the world where the vast majority of people’s viewpoints are almost impossible to change even when presented with undeniable facts. I coined a phrase several years ago based on an old proverb. My take goes like this. “You can lead a person to knowledge, but you can’t make them think.”
- October 24, 2020 at 4:49 am #398005Anonymous
I turned 60 a few months back.Due to being retired and largely being home all day and the huge plus point of a supportive wife,I can be dressed en femme all day.In the last six years I have dressed up more than any other time in my life.When I was in my teens and twenties,my role models were mostly the girls and women of my age.When I got to 40 I still envied the fashions of the younger ladies but realised that I must dress appropriately for my age.These days I am happy to present as a mature woman.My pfeferred styles’s are elegant,stylish but decidedly non frumpy.I would add to the mix a little dash of motherly.I would be quite happy to dress like the mother of the bride at a wedding.
- October 24, 2020 at 5:30 am #398022Anonymous
I love mother of the bride fashions too-great choice Roberta.
- October 24, 2020 at 5:00 am #398009Anonymous
Like many of us mature ladies who probably had limited time to dress in their younger years I often think how I would have looked fully dressed.Probably more than a little passable.I had the figure and the legs and genuinely curly hair ( still have a good head of hair today) But it didn’t happen,I just concentrate on how I look today.I am very happy.Looking in the mirror I would probably say that I am a little passable but certainly not a hundred per cent.But as others have said it’s the way you feel inside that accounts.My inner woman is surely the most important factor.And I have to say that my inner woman is most fulfilled and contented.
- October 24, 2020 at 5:05 am #398013Anonymous
The one thing about being a sixty something crossdreesser is the fear of having dementia.If I contracted that very sad disease I told my wife to keep an eye on me to ensure that I don’t go wandering the streets dressed enfemme.Hooefully it won’t happen.It’s a cruel disease and my heart goes out to those who are stricken with it and their families.
- October 24, 2020 at 5:52 am #398027Anonymous
Yes; I just turned 61. I started Dressing at 59. It absolutely blows my mind that I have become a Crossdressing Closet Girl (Absolutely!) Even more so is the photos and the willingness to share💥👠 So at this point I can’t honestly say which is the biggest surprise … Crossdressing or Still Crossdressing!
- October 24, 2020 at 7:15 am #398045
I have been wearing girl things my whole life. While never movie-star glamerous, I could pass for girl-next-door pretty with minimal effort thru my 30s. Then the age bomb hit and now at 72 I am obviousley a male. But along with that come the “Who Cares?” what anyone thinks.
- October 24, 2020 at 10:47 am #398086
You never ask a women her age but if i were to do so I would say around 52. At times I wish I was younger and able to express myself more freely like young people do today (and look better doing it) but with age comes knowledge. I am no longer high anxiety ridden and the thrill seeker I was in my teens and twenties. Now I look at dressing not as much as a hormone-driven thrill or something I have to do but something I want to do and when i want to do it. It is a way of actually being and existing comfortably in my own skin when i see fit. Some days I do it and other days do not. I can work privately from my home office for hours during the week and forget I’m dressed whereas in my youth i was super focused on what i was wearing that i forgot what i was doing. In my youth i would try on every article of clothing i could get access to in the short window of opportunity i had. I control it now and it does not control me. Yes, I wish society and family was more accepting of it and I could comfortably walk out of the house or public wearing anything I wanted but for me in my situation I will take what I can get and be at peace with it. Namaste
- October 24, 2020 at 5:16 pm #398208
I’m 67 and soon to be 68. I’m been crossdressing just about my entire life. The one thing I’ve learn is the need to dress comes in two surges throughout your life. The first surge is when you reach puberty and stays consistent for a good part of your young adult life. The second surge comes in your forties when your testosterone levels start to drop and your need to dress continues to grow stronger as the testosterone levels continue to drop as you grow older. I believe this is one of the reasons why you see more older then younger cross-dressers here at CDH.
- October 24, 2020 at 6:12 pm #398221Anonymous
Olivia; I think you’ve worded my thoughts! At moments I long for younger days; Fuller hair, tighter skin, flexibility all the gifts of youth. But I had enough head trips just being 17 let alone having some clown tell me to, “gather your skirts Miss Priss” which was a saying then. I sincerely think if it wasn’t for the pain and grief that my Closet would cause others … stepping out for casual meet & greets would probably be a thing for me. I’m feeling comfortable … others would loose their minds
- October 25, 2020 at 9:29 am #398451
Goodness I’ve had the very same thoughts several times. “What if I would have……” when I was younger.
I had access and many opportunities to dress than I do now. I think I have a pretty good idea of where I would have ended up, and it’s not in the situation I am in today. I do love what we have, our family, wonderful kids. (Younger adults now), and I would not change that.
But again, at 17 or so, I had this job at an opera house, where I had access to amazing undergarments and was able to take advantage of that. I even had fantasies of getting caught (at work), as I had time to “play” as it were, when others were not around.
I would have been in a completely different world today.
As far as older crossdressers go, I find the resources for us are very limited. Most of what is out this is geared to a much younger generation. That is a good thing, but I’d like to have more.
R
- October 25, 2020 at 9:53 am #398465Anonymous
hi, it is in my opinion not a question of age, but how you feel – in my case just have passed 76 and feel when dressed at least 20 years younger!! – good makeup and shapewear makes wonders!
- October 25, 2020 at 10:04 am #398473
Hi………..yes, I too would look back with regret at not coming out sooner……………………My dogs are always teaching me…………they say to live in the now and enjoy, to them life is always “Christmas Morning” ……………The “Closet” is my magic portal to time travel and it is their I relive being a girl……………so that today I can feel being a total girl. So yes, in the closet I can dress as a school girl, have dates and ……you know…….go to college as a girl, be the girl my mom wanted me to be…………..all this helps to make karley a “real person” as she has a “past” to look back on. Sounds crazy huh? karley
- October 25, 2020 at 11:51 am #398503
I just turned 63 and am having fun. Underdress all the time, dress when I can. Again it is for the fun of it.
- October 25, 2020 at 1:21 pm #398548
It never goes away. I am 83 and widowed. This year I began living 24/7 as a woman. I am disabled and live alone, but have female CNAs that attend to me 5 hours each day. They are all very supportive of my new lifestyle. I have a huge wardrobe, make-up and wigs. When I am completely dressed and made up for the day, I am a pretty good looking old lady. Sorry I don’t have a photo to upload. I don’t have one of those smartphones that is also a camera. My doctor has encouraged me to enjoy being transgender. She says it is good for me both mentally and physically. She gave me a big hug after I told her about my feelings. What a doll! I had to
restrain my needs for so many years. Now I am totally happy. Go for it if you can.Carla
- October 27, 2020 at 3:13 pm #399497Anonymous
Carla darling, you are beautiful….
of course doing what you crave is good for you girl….I’m so glad you are happy and even more delighted you are being the lady you so deserve to be….stay safe you lovely lady… biggest huggs, grace ❤️❤️
- October 25, 2020 at 4:33 pm #398627
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I have to say that was an inspiring story. Have fun! I’m very glad you have very accepting people around you! - October 27, 2020 at 2:04 pm #399477Anonymous
I have just turned 70.I have cross dressing for quite a few years. My wife knows I do it but is not very understanding I only dress when she’s at work. I wish I could look as fine you gurls do There’s no way I can dress up and go out . How I would,tho.Heck I would love to be dressed and have “relations” with her Oh well, such is life
- October 27, 2020 at 2:20 pm #399486
I started around 5 yrs old and still going strong at 57 if not even stronger!
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