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Hello All My Lovely Ladies
I’m sorry I haven’t been on CDH much lately but I’ve a little busy playing the crazy “Dating game!”
I want to share with you Girls my experience so far. Now for all of you with supportive Wives and SO’s, It would be nice to hear their thoughts on this as well. We all love to hear what the GG’s have to offer.
Sorry if this gets long winded, but there’s a lot to share. I want to give you Girls good info on this.
In the past few weeks I have put myself out there en-femme on various dating sites.
First and most important. Why En-Femme? Why NOT?
For me…most important is this…Robyn Devine is NOT going back in the closet for ANYONE! EVER!!
Think about this…like myself…a lot of us ideally want a woman who will love and support our feminine side RIGHT??
So WHY in the heck would you put yourself back in the closet? That’s how I look at it. Sell myself as a guy only to months later say “Hey, Im a crossdresser!” I think your setting yourself up for failure. Besides…almost every woman on a dating site wants honesty…you cant get anymore honest than marketing your en-femme self right off the bat.
So take some good photos, lots of smiles, laughing, fill out the profiles and let them simmer!!
My advice…what’s worked for me is stating “Friends first! No expectations”
Next comes waiting for women to respond. now are the women DINGING my phone off the hook…No. However, by posting en-femme, you’ve weeded out the women who cant hack it. This will leave you with responses from the women who can.
Now that doesn’t mean they all want a date. Some will compliment you and that’s it or sometimes they actually disappear. Some will strike up a conversation but then it kind of fizzles and stops there.
Its their loss because this Robyn is amazing and wonderful! Oh Well, sit on couch and wait for Prince Charming sweetie..!
Don’t get depressed just yet! Out of mmm a dozen responses I’ve gotten from women, 3 of them have been sincere DATES!! 2 out of the 3 were great and have moved off the dating site/app to communicating by phone. No 3…well…lets just say her PTSD was a turn off.
So in short…life is too short and reward does not come without risk! Put your beautiful self out there, talk to as many of those ladies as possible and enjoy. I think you’ll be surprised…women are more open to us than you think.
Please feel free to ask questions. I can share a lot more in discussion. I want you to find that special someone too. You Girls are very important to me!! You’ve changed my life for the better, and I want to return the favor!
XO Robyn Devine XO 🤗❤️💋💃
Hi all
This is an interesting subject, but please be careful what you post.
May I say firstly, that there is nothing wrong with talking about sexual desire and preference as it relates to crossdressing.
It is perfectly acceptable to say “I am attracted to women” or “I am attracted to men, but only when I crossdress” or similar general comments.
However, In order to keep this site functioning the way it was intended to, I am going to ask you all to refrain from discussing specific sexual practices, techniques or results in the replies to this thread.
The subject in this topic is quite close to the boundaries, so it is easy to post something which is out with the site guidelines
Also, please do not post links to forums or sites which are not seen as ‘family friendly’ as these are not with in the sites remit. This includes dating sites.
We will edit some posts that we feel are a little close to the line, so just a gentle reminder.
I appreciate your help in keeping CDH a sanctuary for us girls.
Thank you !
Dawn (Admin)
Dawn,
I don’t understand why this subject is close to the boundaries. Can you please clarify? Personally I don’t see it. Not saying your wrong or disagreeing in any way. Just wondering for future reference so I don’t inadvertently cross a boundary that I’m not seeing or understand.
Thanks,
Mindy
I know what I wrote. Specifically naming certain sites had been taken out. No worries.
If anyone wants specifics, they can PM me.
Robyn
Hi Mandy et.al.,
The ethos behind CDH is to keep the site family friendly and steer well away from possible ‘adult’ sites which can link to pornography and encourage pick ups. There are many other outlets for these, just not here.
By its nature this thread sails very close to both of these and care should be taken not to cross that boundary.
As you may have seen, I have removed specific references to sites, but individuals can ask for information directly from each oher, which is not a problem.
Hope that helps clear things up.
Dawn (Admin)
Brilliant topic Robyn
I can only comment from my experience as a guy with online dating. Quite frankly, it’s a bust!
The women that reply are weighed down by their particular grievances or by their ‘hidden’ agendas. Or, in some instances, by their dislike for men who are ‘cheating’ on their wives…
The remainder are wanting to – – – – and don’t want to establish any lasting relationship.
So… out of 400 contacts I have four wonderful friends and a wife that I met offline!I love her to bits! Hugs, Polly
Hey Sis,
I admire the COURAGE it took for you to jump in the on-line dating fray as your AUTHENTIC self. Good for you girl. And I am so happy to hear that you’ve had some wins. Keep rockin, keep having fun, keep looking for the best life has to offer, and most of all, keep BEING YOU
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Sam
Great question!!
Yes. There is a fair amount of work in the beginning when you describe yourself and what your looking for. Some sites, short and sweet works best. Others its good to add a lot more detail.
Playing with words and what seems to draw their attention. Even so far as to “dare” them jokingly.
As the sites will also suggest…after a couple weeks going in and changing some things here or there. Shuffling your pictures around. Try to keep it fresh so it doesn’t get stale.
You’ll get an idea of what seems to work and what doesn’t after a while. If you specifics you can PM me too!
Robyn 🤗❤️
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Ok, that makes sense. I read the post and thought it was great! I’m single and sometimes think about dating again but don’t want to have to hide Mindy. I seldom leave my property as Mindy but when I’m home I’m Mindy 100% of the time and I don’t want that to change. I haven’t dated in at least 5 years, I have actually lost count of the years. I remember one woman I met on a dating site telling me she divorced her husband of 20 some odd years because she came home early one day and caught him wearing her clothes and makeup. I kinda defended him and never heard from her again. Met another woman that told me she met a guy online and he fessed up that he liked to dress in woman’s clothing from time to time. She said she ended the date early and blocked him on her phone and on line.Hi Robyn my girlfriend for one im happy for you that you found someone to be able to visit with and enjoy there company.. Then having the courage to put yourself out there and hope these sites have a nice group of women that you can feel comfortable with .. Im so happy for you girl as all of us need some friendship from a far and some closer to enjoy ..
Stephanie
Tried the online thing and few times actually met someone but 99 percent of time most are like bots at the end they wanting you to go to another site and pay lol. Neither Donna or the other half play that game. Been doing good meeting people locally. And having some great friends fixing me up on Dates at times. Matter fact first night went high profile and had dinner had several come to our table and started talking some and even got few numbers. Well long story short been seeing this one guy for 3 weeks straight on weekends and talk on phone some during the week.
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Stephanie
Thank you always Girlfriend! Your always so supportive! 🤗❤️
You and all the Girls here at CDH have changed my world! I would still be fumbling around and trying to figure out what to do without ALL of you.
It’s also why coming back to post and share my experience is a big deal to me! I want to return the favor back to ALL of you.
Whether its just going out en-femme or being so bold as online dating…
Nothing is ever EASY. So if I can come here and share some of my courage with you Girls, and in turn that helps someone step out there en-femme and feel that liberaation…then that makes me happy.
XO Robyn XO 🤗💋❤️
Lady’s
There are apps specifically for the LGBTQ community and trans community .. those include men en wonen who are open to dating trans people …. Why try your luck with sites and people who are not interested in dating trans people ?!
Just search the app market for trans or transgender dating
Greetz Tess
Before we had online dating, some of the clubs actually maintained physical, real, bulletin boards for people wanting to meet other people. Those have morphed quite a bit in 40 years into the dating services we have now.
One thing that has remained constant though, is that even if two people connected, the success of them being able to ‘hit it off’ has remained quite low, regardless of what is advertised online or on TV.
I have made more friends in face to face encounters than I ever have through 3rd party methods.
PaulaF
I’ve actually been doing the same. I’m on a few dating sites and so far…I don’t think I’ve had much luck. I don’t know if it is just me, but I seem to get ghosted quite a lot. I’ll get a bunch of likes, but very few responses. I’ve made a few friends online through these methods, but nothing to really write home about. I understand that is just the basic dating site experience though.
Before I got together with my bf I dabbled in the online dating community a bit, at first looking for women at the time (in my late teens) in guy profile/mode only. Never went on a date with anyone online as the women I talked to seemed too weird and high maintenance for me to deal with lol completely aside from any possible concerns the woman may have had with me dressing. Once I got to my 20s I wanted a boyfriend, and I found a great guy who I had been best friends with. I’m bi and when I found out he was bi I knew I was very interested in him. He knew about me being a CD when we were dating and was fine with it so I knew I had found Mr. Right.
Best of luck to you finding that someone special Robin, and a question for you – you mention obviously that you want to be Robin online and thus find a woman who is accepting of Robin, but what kind of woman are you looking for personality wise in addition to someone who is accepting of Robin? I’ve heard stories of woman who were accepting of a CD but didn’t have a good personality otherwise, and I even read one story where a woman showed interest in dating a CD with the specific hope of “turning” him back into a total non-CD after deciding she liked other qualities about him that made him date-worthy. It can be scary out there, keep updating us on how it’s going!
Hi Jess
That’s truly the most important factor is can they accept, respect and appreciate Robyn as well as my man side.
Hence my reason for being Robyn on a dating site. If they cant accept this from day one…then were not going to waste each others time.
Personality it all depends. I’m pretty good at listening and reading someone, so if they are someone who is a bad match, I can tell. For someone who wants to change me…TOUGH $#IT!! Robyn WILL NOT go back to the closet for ANYONE!!
Dont let anyone cage you from this point forward…EVER!
Xo – Robyn 💋🤗
Hi Robyn, I don’t think anything is more attractive and desirable in a mate than truth and honesty!
You go girl!
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