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My earlier query and poll were too vague.
So:
“Orientation, Express”, all abroad! (PI)
What is your sexual preference while in femme mode?
Men, like Shania Twain says, make me feel like a woman. lol
Definitely lesbian, although I wouldn’t turn down certain men.
Well, when you put it that way: My Sexual Preference is my wife, and none other; I’m very much “old school” in that respect. But socially, I’ve never been comfortable around men, and my preference is either women or solitude.
The clothes I happen to wear do not define who I am but are an expression of one aspect of my personality i.e. an a-sexual biological male who chooses to wear clothing that society has ascribed as being woman’s wear and therefore feminine and female. In terms of gender expression, I am male despite there being significant amounts of time when I seriously wish that I had a females body. In terms of sexuality, I am a-sexual irrespective of the desires, appetites and passions I periodically experience regarding being accepted and fully ‘taken’ by a man.
I guess this all makes me a crossdressing a-sexual curious man or in simple terms, just me and I’m pretty darned happy with that.
Like everyone, I’m kinda like a Photoshop image in that I have a number of differing layers that make up the final image.
Take care girls.
Anne-Marie.
I am attracted to women no matter how I’m dressed, or presenting myself. In fact, one of the body language things I have to be careful of when out and about, is how I look at an attractive woman. Not like a man would, but like another woman would. Subtle differences, but important.
If you wanted to, you could call me hetro, when in male mode, and a lesbian when in femme mode.
Amy
This is complicated and I think a lot of you will agree. As a man I am hetrosexual and feel uncomfortable seeing two guys kissing. However if I am dressed as Sandra I like male attention and would even consider a date but there would be lines to cross that I am not sure about.
Don’t tell Giles x
I’m strictly heterosexual, so depending on how I’m dressed, or alone with only my feelings, when I think of being intimate, I am thinking of being with the opposite sex (it’s a lot easier when I’m actually dressed one way or the other, but I don’t need to be fully).
If I see a couple of the same sex in close intimacy, what they’re doing doesn’t bother me, but I accept that it’s not something I’m interested in. Some might think, does that make me two separate people (sort of like a split personality), but I don’t see it that way. Not a ‘split’ but sort of a two ‘faces’ of the same person. My taste in foods, etc, are still the same, I just make sure I keep things in moderation. Well, except chocolate
When you meet someone new, and they are charming and considerate and well mannered and then you get to know them and you can see them turn somewhat meaner or a little belligerent (depending on the circumstances), we may wonder about them, and make sure we stay on their good side, but we don’t think they’re a Sybil or Eve. Neither am I.
Hi Chloe, this is scary as after I posted my reply I have thought some more and absolutely think the same as you that we almost have a split personality. On the one hand we are truly straight as a guy but when we present as a female it is nice to be attractive to men and want their attention. I for one would not mind a kiss and cuddle if it was the right guy but there are lines in the sand that may be breached and that scares me a little. As a guy seeing two men kissing makes me feel uncomfortable but is it all right if one is looking pretty in a dress etc? I think so, my isn’t life weird, Sandra x
Personally I still want to be with a woman and have no desire to be with a man. I see nothing wrong with those that do want a man when dressed or not. My desire to dress is from my love of the female body and how pretty they are able to dress and look.
I guess I should elaborate just a little (ha! it’s never that, but) I identify as a cross dresser because that’s what I’m probably closest to on the transgender spectrum, today. Yet, if I could have a do-over somewhere in my late teens, and absolutely not have ANY knowledge of where my current life has taken me, I would very seriously consider GRS and become a transsexual (well I sort of actually did consider back then, as I read as much on Harry Benjamin as I could and bought and read several books that came out at that time about transgendered people – Canary, Mirror Images, Conundrum – as well as paid particular attention to the talk shows of that day that had transsexuals on. The revelation was a Lou Gordon show where he interviewed several post-ops who looked just like any woman you’d see in any store, mall, street in the country. A revelation, as prior to that, most interviewees were Las Vegas showgirls, wannabe starlets, or workers in certain ‘industries’. I made a choice then and here I am today with the results which I don’t ever want to give up. But, had I continued , yes I’m heterosexual and would then be very seriously interested in men (I’m pretty sure of that). Having the ‘naughty’ parts that I do and interested in males today? Well, not so much (remember, I’m hetero). But maybe with being really well dressed, then being a little close, snuggling, etc. as has been suggested, well, that could work, given certain conditions. Anyway, that’s me. Your results may vary.
Interesting subject and comes close to home. I have always considered myself to be hetero but as others have shared, when in total female persona an dress, thoughts of what it would be like to be with a man as a woman has come to mind. With that said, my wife is totally accepting of my fem side and we’ve become very good live in girlfriends but the image that she once had of me as a man has diminished greatly over the years. I guess that was expected so she has said that I should embrace my fem side and that it would be ok to have a male boyfriend if it made me happy. That would be big step and I’m torn on the idea even though I haver her blessing.
Hiya, I can recommend ALICE IN GENDERLAND to read it describes exactly your situation and is a true story and a good read. Sandra x
Hi Harietta,
I am having this very discussion with a friend of mine here at CDH.
I have come to the conclusion that I am (maybe, most likely, probably) Heterosexual.
As a man, I have no interest in men. As a Woman I have no interest in women. That includes people identifying as or presenting as women. So yes, as a woman, I want a man.
Short and Sweet
Jillian
My sexual preference doesn’t change with my gender orientation, which does change. I am only interested, sexually, in women. That, for me, does not change with clothing.
I always prefer women. I have been hit on many times when I was Patty. Guys would compliment me, wanted to get to know me better, do things for me. I liked that. They often would tell me what beautiful and sexy legs I had. They couldn’t stop looking at them. I loved that. Wearing pantyhose and heels and showing of my legs is why I became a crossdresser. I’ve had them touch my legs or ask if they could feel my legs. I don’t recall refusing or stopping anyone, but with extreme limits.
Hi Sian,
You day you are only interested in women but does that include CDs?
Gilly
My sexual orientation doesn’t really change depending on what I wear. If i like you i like you.
Hi, this is the battle that we have, the big question. I love women, I love their ways, their clothes, jealous of their bodies. I guess that is why I like being dressed and being so like them. I am married, and love my wife. But there is still a part of me that loves other things. Being a teenager and into my 20’s during the 70’s and 80’s the whole gender issue challenged, lots of androgyny, where I kinda slipped into. As such you didn’t see gender quite so obviously so could be closer to men, certain men. Obviously we all make choices, your life and loves change. But for me being dressed and getting complimented by men still makes me tingle. On the few occasions I have been out with my wife she is amazed how confident I appear to be and the comments I get (usually good), that is why she said she wouldn’t like me going out dressed by myself haha….I actually prefer being with her when we are out perhaps safety in numbers.
Hi Michelle, I think she would be jealous if you got too much attention from males, I get a tingle when I chat to guys on dating sites if they compliment me and lay on the flattery.
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