- February 17, 2021 at 5:17 am #449410Stephanie ScottParticipantRegistered On: February 8, 2021Topics: 18Replies: 246Has thanked: 706 timesBeen thanked: 1289 times
I’ve been wanting to ask a GG for a long time: how in the heck do you navigate the absolute flood of women’s beauty products out there and figure out what you need and want and what you don’t? What works for you and what doesn’t? Hair, makeup, skin, nails, etc etc. It seems overwhelming and daunting. I look at all my wife’s stuff and my daughter’s stuff and think to myself about what hard work, money, and time must be put into figuring it all out. Is it trial and error? Advice from others? What your mothers or older sisters taught you?
Then I think about the issue from a CDing standpoint where there is no real basis of knowledge to glean from with likely no role model or mentor when it comes to beauty when we grow up. Much harder for CDs (at least those who don’t have knowledge and acceptance from their wives or moms or whatever) to access information, and there are a number of services who try to scam CDers, by selling stuff that is overpriced or unneeded.
I’d love to have someone tutor me on what things I should be looking for based on my individual needs but for a lot of us, it’s just overwhelming. Well, at least it is for me.
Thank you! 🙂
- March 22, 2021 at 5:25 pm #467701Eileen BachBaronessRegistered On: February 27, 2021Topics: 1Replies: 59Has thanked: 8 timesBeen thanked: 243 times
Most likely a subject for another topic, it seems your wife was a bit accepting at one point. So now she knows you CD. Broaching the make-up subject will make things worse before resolving her acceptance.
You mentioned a beard. Sweetie, that has to go. Or join a Circus. It is quite possible that the wife sees CDing as nonsense until you’re clean shaven.
But this topic is about choosing cosmetics. Lets take lipstick as an example. You don’t want the cheapo, or the high end celebrity brands. Nor do you want those that claim to last a week or so. Now, what shade? I’ll bet you want a red lipstick. We’ve already eliminated 80% of every lipstick on display.
Same logic goes with other products. You want a foundation that matches you complexion, sans beard. That alone narrows down possible choices.
Buy your own facial scrub and moisturizer. A wife does not want anyone else using her stuff, that’s an invasion of privacy.
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- March 25, 2021 at 7:34 pm #469188Bettylou CoxDuchessRegistered On: May 26, 2019Topics: 20Replies: 2094Has thanked: 4170 timesBeen thanked: 7494 times
Your remark to Stephanie about lipstick caught my attention. Revlon and L’Oreal seem to dominate the market; I use both, but I’m not impressed by either. The only other I have used was a tube of Becca, following a makeover at Ulta last year. Since she became disabled, my wife quit using makeup, and can’t help me. Would you be willing to offer any suggestions?
- March 28, 2021 at 8:48 am #470233Eileen BachBaronessRegistered On: February 27, 2021Topics: 1Replies: 59Has thanked: 8 timesBeen thanked: 243 times
So sad about your wife’s handicap. Sure, the major cosmetic brands dominate and there really isn’t much difference in quality. All skins are unique, so one’s face will work well with one brand and not so much another. I happen to use Revlon, my Terri likes their deep red hues.
Every gal has to learn to do their own make up sometime. Older faces have different needs than the young gals. I never helped with my hubby’s face, other than hold in laughter. Practice until you get it right.
What you really should do is make up your wife just right and take her out to dinner.
- March 28, 2021 at 11:20 am #470256Bettylou CoxDuchessRegistered On: May 26, 2019Topics: 20Replies: 2094Has thanked: 4170 timesBeen thanked: 7494 times
Thank you, Eileen..and doing my wife’s makeup is something I’ve thought about, but didn’t have the nerve to suggest. I’ll do it when we go the the jewelry show next weekend.
- March 22, 2021 at 5:38 pm #467704Stephanie ScottLadyRegistered On: February 8, 2021Topics: 18Replies: 246Has thanked: 706 timesBeen thanked: 1289 times
Oh I have no intention of broaching ANY CD related topics with her! Lol. Much less makeup. She was INCREDIBLY supporting and encouraging for about 5 years before changing her mind and deciding that CDing is sinful. She was very adamant about wanting it to stop, and so I purged everything — including her old hand me down makeup she had given me when she changed brands.
The beard exists both to dissuade me from dressing (and to hide as much of my face as possible). I’ve only shaved it off once in 12 years (and dressed fully when I did with a couple new things I acquired along the way). So there isn’t really a way currently for me to openly obtain anything that could even be mildly construed as CD-related. A circus freak I definitely am! Lol 🎪
You are so generous with your time and your advice! I’m very appreciative! And I’m keeping it all in mind in case things change with her acceptance level.
- March 25, 2021 at 5:45 pm #469134BaronessRegistered On: February 27, 2021Topics: 1Replies: 59Has thanked: 8 timesBeen thanked: 243 times
It’s to bad that you wife seemed to have little problems with your CDing for five years. So now what for you? My husband also wore a decent size beard until it turned all grey and was outed. Before then, he dressed privately and looked ridiculous. I miss his beard, but we are both doing better without it.
- March 25, 2021 at 5:56 pm #469142Stephanie ScottLadyRegistered On: February 8, 2021Topics: 18Replies: 246Has thanked: 706 timesBeen thanked: 1289 times
I dress in private on very very rare occasions, I look ridiculous with my beard, and I sacrifice for my wife as husbands are called to do. Guess that’s about it!
I hide my face, but you can see what I otherwise look like in my public photos.
And I want to thank you on behalf of all of us for you kind, selfless loving acceptance of your husband. It’s a beautiful picture of sacrificial love!
- March 21, 2021 at 7:37 am #466904BaronessRegistered On: February 27, 2021Topics: 1Replies: 59Has thanked: 8 timesBeen thanked: 243 times
Unlike GG’s who’ve been practicing most their lives, CD’s start from scratch all at once. Like Rita said, prepare skin first. That’s a daunting task itself. Most guys won’t use moisturizes or creams.
As when painting a car, the best paint job ever won’t matter if the primer coat is poorly done. On the down side, your wife will notice your new found love for skin care.
My husband’s work place is dirty, needing strong soap to get clean. He occasionally uses a moisturizer when his skin gets really dry. As Terri, she looks fairly good despite skin abuse.
Which product to use? Experimenting will be costly. Most similar items do the same thing. Brands depend on customer loyalty. Stay away from cheap brands, or the really expensive ones. Try to find a place that will do make up lessons to help with your technique.
- March 21, 2021 at 8:15 am #466920LadyRegistered On: February 8, 2021Topics: 18Replies: 246Has thanked: 706 timesBeen thanked: 1289 times
Thank you so much for your thoughtful response. It’s interesting to me that almost every woman who answers this question and similar ones focuses on skin care over everything else. Most of us (well, at least I do!) jump to the end paint job. I look at all my wife’s moisturizers and skin care products and my head spins. I love your base coat analogy.
I also know that men’s skin is different than women’s. I’m not sure if or how that changes the equation and whether it is better or worse. I started using my wife’s facial scrub and moisturizer in the shower — it was mainly a desperate attempt to find a solution to the dry skin issue I have with my beard. And voila! It relieved a lot of that problem and also made my cheeks feel so smooth! Lol. But it is relatively expensive stuff I fear, and I don’t want to be secretly depriving her of her product faster than she thinks it should go, so I only use it on occasion.
I wish we could just share in Stephanie as we once did, when she gave me her hand me down products when she was experimenting with different brands, but alas, that ship has sailed I guess. 😞
Im SO thankful for your response! You are very kind (and your husband a lucky guy).
- March 19, 2021 at 1:39 pm #466104Rita ToryBaronessRegistered On: February 5, 2021Topics: 1Replies: 26Has thanked: 30 timesBeen thanked: 71 times
It’s also predominantly about what sits with you; I tend to use brands I know to be ethical and fair; I don’t want o use anything that has been produced in sweat shops with poor working conditions.
Very few women I know use the products their mothers used; my daughters and granddaughters didn’t use the same as me and you have to change over time as skin, nails and hair changes overtime too. Most good providers will let you use samples and most of the ‘fashion & beauty’ mags include samples
Have fun experimenting – we all did
- March 19, 2021 at 1:56 pm #466110LadyRegistered On: February 8, 2021Topics: 18Replies: 246Has thanked: 706 timesBeen thanked: 1289 times
Thank you so much! You have no idea how much I’d love to experiment. I really wish I could but my CDing days — at least in terms of putting myself all together — are over. 😞
- March 19, 2021 at 2:07 pm #466115Rita ToryBaronessRegistered On: February 5, 2021Topics: 1Replies: 26Has thanked: 30 timesBeen thanked: 71 times
So sorry to hear this; please take care of yourself ; hope your wife changes her mind again for your sake.
- March 19, 2021 at 2:55 pm #466138LadyRegistered On: February 8, 2021Topics: 18Replies: 246Has thanked: 706 timesBeen thanked: 1289 times
Thank you Rita. You’re very kind. I understand her position, but I don’t think there’s any way around it. Doesn’t matter which way I go, I feel bad. She won’t change her mind — of that I’m sure — and when I dress (behind her back) it feels like I’m betraying her and being a hypocrite. But I have this dual nature that involves the female side of my standing in the corner with her arms crossed stomping her high heeled foot…lol. And I don’t share my wife’s view about the morality of CDing, so outside of the context of jeopardizing our relationship, I see nothing wrong with it. I’m in a trick bag… Thank you for your kindness and sensitivity.
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- March 19, 2021 at 11:22 am #466056BaronessRegistered On: February 5, 2021Topics: 1Replies: 26Has thanked: 30 timesBeen thanked: 71 times
Afraid I can’t help much as I very rarely wear makeup but my advice would be go for quality over quantity both in terms of buying and wearing and most importantly prepare you skin first. Exfoliate, cleanse, moisturise, and wear BB cream, then and only then, apply make up. My OH says it takes more prep than decorating. BTW I don’t wear make up very often but I always cleanse and moisturise. We GGs only exfoliate 2 – 3 times a week otherwise our skin gets exhausted!
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