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So, I recently came out as a crossdresser to my girlfriend of a few months and my therapist in the same week. I wanted there to be no secrets and allow my girlfriend the ability to decide early how she feels about this . My therapist was happy that I am opening up about it and beginning to accept this part of me. My girlfriend, was very accepting and curious. She asked all sorts of questions, she did research, she said for me to be who I need to be. While she is not ready to see me (nor am I ready for that either), she hasn’t changed towards me in the least. I suggested she discuss with her therapist if she would like and I have invited her to join me for one of my sessions in case she would like to discuss in depth together. We are setting some boundaries for the both of us, but overall she has handled it amazingly well. She is so loving that I am not surprised, but I am so so grateful. I went through a long term marriage and I never told her about it, but it is likely she may have known. Neither of us discussed it and I was certainly not, nor am I still, comfortable talking much about my CDing. I never felt safe with my ex to be able to share this part of me. She was such a “judgy” person, I was desperately afraid of how she’d handle it and who she would tell.
After coming out to my girlfriend and therapist, while we don’t talk about it much (thankfully), I feel like I am embracing it more than I ever have. Growing up and through my 20s/30s, it felt like it was my dirty little secret. I was ashamed of it. I would go in bursts where I needed to dress up and then go for years without needing to again. However, in recent months something has changed in me. I feel more accepting of my crossdressing in private (no desire to go out in public, just around my home). Amazon has made it easy for me to fill out a small wardrobe with outfits and lingerie for me to wear around the house when I am alone. Just this week, I have found a panty that is so soft and comfortable I made the conscious decision to ditch my male boxer-briefs. I feel free being able to wear my new discovery under my male clothing all the time. Not sure what the future holds, but I look forward to sharing here the journey and I love that my girlfriend is so accepting.
So this is me, Chloe, and I am pleased to meet you all.
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