Woman the man of the house?

Would any of you like your wife to become the man of the house and you become their wife?

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    • #613241
      Mary Jane
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      My wife is the breadwinner in a high paying job.

      I work the farm developing it into a profitable hobby farm.

      My wife is great at admin. And ideas. I’m good at making those things happen. I’m pragmatic. She artistic.

      I will get rid of pesky pests, (rodents, snakes, hares and foxes.) She pays the bills.

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      Lea
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      My wife is successful, beautiful, smart, mostly open minded, had broken many gender stereotypes, has broken many cultural stereotypes. I fully support her in her endeavors, and not once would it occur to me that we must have gender-based roles.

      I do wish she would take more interest in keeping the cars maintained, lawn care, fixing broken items at home, carry the suitcases to the car, setup the electronics, remember the wifi password, watch the bills and bank accounts. But she has me…lol. She does have a female friend that does all that….I think it’s because her husband isn’t inclined too, so someone has to.

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      Elizabeth
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      I live in a FLR. My wife is already in charge of our household and I am happy and satisfied with that. If she wasn’t dominant it is very likely I would not have been living as Jennifer for the past 27 years and I am totally grateful to her for making my life so amazing.

      Wish I’d a wife like that

      I’m beginning to think of myself as a male everyday. Ironically I don’t want to have surgery, just to wear female clothing

      Liz

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      Jennifer Lynn
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      I live in a FLR. My wife is already in charge of our household and I am happy and satisfied with that. If she wasn’t dominant it is very likely I would not have been living as Jennifer for the past 27 years and I am totally grateful to her for making my life so amazing.

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      Raquel Smith
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      I voted no, because I don’t want to be in a relationship with a man. I love my wife the way she is, feminine. I married my wife, because I am primarily attracted to women. Well, for that and many other reasons, obviously.

      But, do I fantasize, sometimes though, that I could be treated as a woman by a man in certain situations? Use your imagination. Yes.

      And do I also wish my wife knew everything about and loved my femininity, and treated me like a woman in certain situations? Absolutely.

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      Requal Joanne
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      An old pole revisited.   I may be old fashion in todays’ world, but I am the man of the house and Requal only makes the occasional appearance.

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      Lacey Cyn
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      This is a really weird question. It might be more generational or maybe how people were raised, regional, maybe even country, but I kind of don’t really understand what it is supposed to mean anymore.

      My spouse and I are equal partners. We both work full time 50+ hours a week. We both cook. We both clean. I tend to do more housework, and grab things from her chore list to do, but it’s because I work remotely from home and have down time, while she is at the office all day. I have more time to do it. Like I can fold laundry during a conference call and still be paying attention and contribute. I handle our mutual finances and we both have our own separate accounts for our discretionary spending. We both spend time together and also do things separately as well.

      Now she does make the joke sometimes when she comes home and dinner is done that I am a good wife, but I make the same joke when she does the same after I come back from a work trip or had to run around all day.

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      Sharon
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      We have no man in the house, we are equals.

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      Stevie Paris
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      My wife encourages my crossdressing while setting limits, but we are in an FLR so she is the man of the house.

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      Darcy Grigsby
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      I lead a fairly traditional role as husband/provider. My wife works as a nurse (two 12hr shifts a week). We split a lot of the household chores but she does the bulk of the indoor tasks while I do the outdoor labor. That said I feel a great deal of pressure as the primary breadwinner. With nearly 100% of my free time being consumed by the needs of the family. When speaking to my therapist it has been revealed that that pressure is one of the root causes of my dressing. I use it to escape the pressure/demands of being that provider all the time. So yes I would love to be a stay at home spouse. I would love to maintain the home, but I would do it in the clothing that brings a smile to my face!

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        MelanieElizabeth
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        Well said Darcy! I think for a lot of us dressing is an escape from the pressures of day to day responsibilities. Nothing is better than just letting go of our troubles and enjoying some stress free time being someone else for a bit. It’s a great stress reliever being Melanie  for the day! My biggest worries are getting my makeup right and that’s a rather pleasant place to be once in a while. Even if it’s just a temporary visit.

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      Lacy Satin
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      I’m very happy being the man of my house but at times I just want to be with my wife as equals and be able to enjoy femininity side by side with her.

      I think my perfect life would be if we could share equally in everything.  I would prefer walking side by side with her enjoying masculine duties as well as enjoying the fun pleasures of femininity.

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      Chloé Rian
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      I voted “no” mostly because if we’re changing roles, I’d rather have my wife be more in the Female Led Relationship (FLR) type of role. I don’t know if that makes her “the man” because more than likely she’s assign most of the “manly” tasks back to me, ha.

      I could certainly fit into a purely swapped roles situation and be a housewife at home and still have my male persona for work. As long as I get to wear a cute dress and heels while doing it 😉

      -Chloé

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        Kristen Smithly
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        We are in a somewhat FLR relationship. I assume most of what use to be called the “woman’s role’. I cook all the meals, prepare her lunch for work, I do all the shopping, cleaning, laundry. I serve her dinner, snacks, etc. first. An example of her FLR over me is when she wants something from the store, such as a prescription. “I have a prescript at the drug store, pick it up today.” or “I need a pale pink lip gloss in such and such brand. Make sure you get it for me, today”. Things like that, she does dominate some in our FLR but not much.It’s more of being told than asked, and things are on her time table, not mine.She isn’t a bitch, she compliments me on my attire, and is very pleasant. For those wondering, yes, in the bedroom she is in control.

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          Marti
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          Hi Kirsten,

          I think often some or most of these dynamics may apply in some relationships, but I’m not sure it constitutes an FLR relationship. But if your wife / partner also controls how you dress, controls the money, and how you are allowed to spend it, then a relationship is drifting into FLR territory. Just my opinion.

          Marti xxx

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      Dani Grand
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      Interesting question. I answered ‘maybe’ because I don’t really know what ‘being the man of the house’ means anymore. I’d have to know a bit more about the arrangement before I jumped headlong into it.

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      Prudence
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      Hi Elizabeth,  Being eternally single, I do both . So I guess thats why I answered maybe. But kinda already have that covered.  Hugs

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      Liz….

      Living on my own….I have to do everything!!!…but I do hate trousers….he can keep them.

      so while I am the the woman of the house nearly all the time, he does cook sometimes, and we always share the washing up…and do you know something….we have never had an argument!!!!

      smiles, grace xx

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      Krista
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      Hi Elizabeth, I’d love it.  Right now I’m the man of the house, oh and the woman of the house.  My wife spends all her time in her home office doing volunteer work and recently doing some babysitting of our grandkids at our daughter’s house.  It would be lovely to let my wife take care of the typical male chores around the house (shovelling snow, mowing the lawn, pruning trees, taking out the garbage/recycling, little fixit tasks, etc). But her solution would be to hire someone else to do it; no chance I’d ever see her push a snow shovel or lawn mower.  I love doing the grocery shopping (and hearing all the cashiers call me Ma’am) and the cooking (my chance to be creative – too bad my wife hates most spices).  Now that we have full blown winter here, I get to wear leggings around the house all day.  Thanks for the question, Have a lovely rest of the week, Hugs, Krista.

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      I think my wife has been the (man) of the house 🏠 for decades, lol X

      She has had to run the house basically on her own while I’ve been to busy working,

      Since I’ve retired I’ve taken over all the clothes washing and the washing up of the pots and pans, and i do all the cleaning through out the house so basically I’ve taken over the role of the housewife, yippee I’ve turned into the woman of the house X

      Now all I’ve got to do is see if she will let me wear a dress 👗 X

      Hugs 🤗 Roz X

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      • #577040
        Elizabeth
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        Hope your situation changes Rozelyn
        Liz

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      Paula Here
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      I like the question.

      It makes us look at gender roles.

      I will use the stereotypical roles as a guide to answer.

      In my Family, i am the primary earner 70% of house hold income. SO other stayed home to raise Child. Now back to work.  So that is one male stereotype.

      I cook and do the dishes ( female)

      I do 50% of house work (female)

      I do laundry (female)

      I do the house hold repairs (male)

      SO takes care of the finances (male)

      SO takes care of the Social calender (female)

      SO takes care of presents for celebrations of any kind. (Female)

      I am very happy with our split of things.  If my wife was up for a female led relationship, where she took total control and told me what to do when to do it and i got to be a 50’s house wife, i would be all in. But I think a balance is needed to keep all parties feeling equal and respected.

      Thanks for the pole

      Love and Hugs

      Paula

       

    • #577018
      Michelle McQueen
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      After retiring I became bored with too much time on my hands so I gradually took over household duties like cooking, grocery shopping, laundry, etc. The wife is delighted. The thing she likes the most is my cooking and I think if I made mud pies she would still say they tasted great because she doesn’t want to cook anymore. I’m usually dressed in some way when I cook and she has even told me several times that I make a great wife. In other matters I’m still the man of the house.

    • #577016
      Amber Scott
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      I’m attracted to strong, confident women. Being in a FLR would be a dream come true at least behind closed doors. Someday maybe.

      Be safe. Love and Peace.

      Amber

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      Liara Wolfe
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      It would be wonderful to be treated as a woman by my wife.

      Hugs, Liara

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      Mandy Wife
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      Hmmm, I have to ask what “man of the house” actually means?  Just because you are practical / possibly earn more doesn’t make you any more “man about the house”!

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      • #576982
        Elizabeth
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        I was thinking of a scenario where the man of the house couldn’t do what is deemed male work like painting wallpaper, handiwork about the house or if he couldn’t make his partner pregnant.

        Liz

         

         

         

         

         

         

         

        Liz

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      Marti
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      Hi Liz,

      When I met and moved in with my wife to be, she was a full time teacher, and I wasn’t gainfully employed, so it made sense for me to pick up a lot of the chores and child minding to make her life easier. There would be a meal on the table at the end of the day, the washing got done and simple things like that. The kids were a little bit older, so I didn’t get into the ‘young mums’ circles.

      She was definitely the ‘boss’ when it came to life at home together with the family in one sense. But I definitely wasn’t the ‘wife’ – she always joked that when we got together, she acquired another child 😉

      Marti xxx

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      Kimberly Ann Victoria
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      Yes very much! I would like to be the housewife and have my future wife be the husband of the house

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        Grace Darling
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        Oh gosh!….Me too.  I would sooo much love to be a traditional wife.  Would love to be in that role to my SO but if that can’t be, would just love to be a wife to someone who wants someone like me, who is prepared to submit and obey…I want to cook, clean, garden, keep house, make things pretty.

        I never want to wear the trousers!

        Love to all,

        Grace

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          Kimberly Ann Victoria
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          I know Grace, That would be heavenly to a wife for a women

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      Laura Lovett
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      There are those who would argue that most women wear the trousers these days…

      Maybe – yeah, why not – it’d be fun!

      Mind you, I already do most of the laundry, child care and collection,, cooking, etc…

      Or maybe it’s unfair of me to stereotype women’s roles – like it is to stereotype anyone into a role because of sex, nationality, religion, etc… just a thought!

       

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      Barb Wire
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      Good morning from snowy Ontario, Elizabeth!

      I’m assuming you’re speaking figuratively??

      I’ve been the lady-of-the-house for over 20 years!

      When my SO climbed the corporate ladder, I put my career on hold while I became the primary caregiver for our children. So, I had NO problem wearing the apron and other fine and feminine accoutrements!

      I was the only dude looking after the kids in our neighbourhood back in the 90s. I hung out with the other moms as our kids had play-dates. Once, at my place while I was chatting with my girlfriends and our kids were playing road hockey, a salesman came to my door and asked to see “the lady of the house”. I was looking rather scruffy and said, “You’re looking at him. Whaddya want?” The moms busted out laughing!

      I do hope that nowadays that if a dude stays home with the kids that he’s not abandoned by his male friends. I didn’t get much respect with the dads back then. F*ck em!

      Hugs, Barb 👵🏽

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        Cerys Burton
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        Barb,
        My wife has also climbed the career ladder, and I, like you gave up work to be the stay at home dad. Our son is 21 now and away at university. My wife has climbed the ladder well. She always has been the may wage earner. I’ve just been made redundant for the 2nd time in my life and at 54, don’t expect to working full time again (not my choice, just expectation). In most aspects, my wife has become what was known as “the man of the house”. This isn’t a crossdressing thing, it’s just life.
        I don’t want to be “the wife” and I don’t want my wife to be “the husband”. I’m still very much a male when dressed, and I don’t wish to be dressed all of the time. I’m happy being a man, and my wife is happy that it stays that way.

        Cerys.

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          Barb Wire
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          I hear ya, Cerys!

          Oh, I’m still a dude! I do lots of dudie things, like cheer for Liverpool over a pint with the lads. (I have a friend in Yorkshire who’s a Liverpool NUT! And he gets very defensive about HIS team! Of course, I prod him some, just like a dude!). Good fun!

          However… having an expansive spectrum (ahem…) I can become girly quite easily. So, I guess you can say I’m a “femmy-dude”. And I have many girls here to thank for helping me come to this realization. I’m very gender-fluid. And my SO appreciates that in me, at least within my state-of-mind. I look at the world more reflectively without the aggressive constraints of testosterone now that I’m nearly 60. Testosterone is okay if you’re a footballer, but not if you want to hold and advance in your career nowadays. And this is coming from my corporate SO!

          Fortunately, I rebounded for a couple of years after our kids left home, much to my SO’s delight, but she wasn’t concerned. She says I did an admirable job with our kids. Our daughter is an RN and is climbing her ladder rather fast and our son is working on his PhD in computer science.

          I hope your son is doing well at university! Nice chatting with you!

          I think I’ll go and open a fresh pair of Oroblus…

          Hugs, Barb 🤗

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            Elizabeth
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            Your group would include North and Central America teams, Canada , USA, Mexico, Venezuela, Guatemala and Bolivia?
            We in Northern Ireland always seem to get drawn with the top teams in Europe. Not that I’m anti English, but England always seem to get drawn against lesser teams. They played San Marino and beat them 10-0.
            Liz

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            Cerys Burton
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            Barb, Thanks!
            My son is studying for a masters in physics in Imperial. So I think we did an OK job bringing him up 🙂
            I’ve never had ambition. I’m quite highly skilled (Electrical engineer), but I’ve had a tough physical working life working in industry, and depression hit me like a cricket bat across the head a number of years back, so I’ve decided I do not need the stress of a high paying, stress inducing job. My body isn’t keen either 🙂 I keep myself busy driving for a food bank. If I find a nice little part time job, I’ll go for it, but I’m not chasing the money ever again.

            Cerys.

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            Barb Wire
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            Btw, Canada beat Mexico in men’s World Cup qualifying yesterday by 2-1 in freezing Edmonton, Alberta! What a game! Alphonso Davies is a phenom!

            :B

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            Elizabeth
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            Is that Canada qualified for the World Cup? Northern Ireland drew with Italy 0-0  in Belfast. We should have beaten them. We didn’t qualify because we finished 3rd in our group. We where in a group with Italy, Switzerland, Bulgaria and Lithuania. Switzerland topped the group, Italy finished 2nd and have to compete against another 2nd placed team in another group to qualify.

            Liz

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            Barb Wire
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            Canada is currently on top of their CONCACAF group with the U.S. in second spot one point behind and Mexico is in 3rd. Top three teams advance to the World Cup and the 4th plays in an intercontinental playoff.

            If we qualify, it’ll be the first time since 1986!

            Sorry about Northern Ireland…

            ⚽ Barb

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