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Registered On: August 26, 2021Topics: 21Replies: 1026Has thanked: 3613 timesBeen thanked: 3568 timesSooo, my wife had let me know that she is not comfortable with my crossdressing. She wants me to be the man she married. However, she also wants me to be happy. Our marriage has been somewhat strained since I told her.
I dialed it way back, anyway (ditched all of my stuff and tried to quit). Well after a few months, nothing was said and I started buying things again (panties first, then stockings, leggings, etc.), but went back in the closet.
Well, just two days ago, while on vacation, when we were heading out to dinner, I asked her if she had any Chapstick. My lips were a little chafed from the sun. She didn’t, but offered either a tinted lip balm or one of her lipsticks that was very light.
I hid my enthusiasm as best as I could and tried both, setting on the lipstick.
I don’t know if she gave it much thought. But it felt incredibly good to me.
I don’t see this as a turning point. But I was shocked, nonetheless.
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Raquel, I had a similar experience this week.
My wife does not know about my cross dressing. I know she would not approve. I’ve lost a lot of weight recently – we both have. That and working out, my legs are looking really good and she’s commented a couple times that they’d look great shaved and with heels. She only said that in jest, but believe me, if she pushed for it, I would obviously agree.
But what really surprised and thrilled me…. I needed a new hoodie so we were shopping for that in the men’s dept. I found an UA but she didn’t like the way it fit me. Then I tried on a hoodie from a clearance rack. We both liked the fit, but I pointed out that I thought it was a woman’s jacket because the zipper was on the wrong side. We looked at the brand, Beyond Yoga, and she agreed that it was but said that no one would notice. I tried them both on again and she agreed I should buy the BY brand. Even though she had no clue what this meant to me, I was beyond thrilled.
Sadly, on the way home, she looked on line and found that it was indeed a men’s jacket and that in the reviews, the biggest complaint was that the zipper was on the wrong side, like a woman’s jacket.
I still don’t care – I knew it did not have the cut of a woman’s jacket, but the zipper is a nice subtle touch that is feminine to me.
I did tell her I was disappointed that it was a men’s jacket because between the jacket and what she’s said about my legs, I felt like I was getting in touch with me feminine side. She laughed.
Little hints.
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Registered On: September 13, 2019Topics: 12Replies: 1012Has thanked: 1 timeBeen thanked: 4230 timesJust an FYI, but that is probably a euro hoody. For some odd reason European jacket zippers are opposite of American zippers, though I suspect both are made somewhere in Asia.
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- Registered On: August 26, 2021Topics: 21Replies: 1026Has thanked: 3613 timesBeen thanked: 3568 times
That’s wonderful, Heather. My wife is so anti-cd, that when I arrived home with a new pair of men’s Nike running shoes six months ago that had a splash of pink in the swoosh (which is part of the reason I selected them), she commented that they looked like “women’s” shoes with displeasure in her voice.
I can’t win.
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I’d be in the same boat, if she knew. There is nothing feminine about my new jacket except the zipper and only the person wearing it would notice that. If it had a feminine looking cut to it, to make it look feminine, she would have declined it. And it turns out it is a men’s jacket. Oh well.
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Glad you had that experience. Maybe ask her for some “chapstick” again some day and see what happens. Or, when the moment is right bring up the crossdressing subject again.
My wife and I have had very good conversations while driving together. Just last month we took a driving trip and spent a lot of time discussing my crossdressing desires, and her feelings. It worked out well, and she needs to know.
Have fun, Staci…
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Sadly purging never works. Enjoy.
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- Registered On: August 26, 2021Topics: 21Replies: 1026Has thanked: 3613 timesBeen thanked: 3568 times
I know that all too well. But it at least kept it at bay while she got over the shock, I think. She didn’t see anything of Raquel (she doesn’t know my femme name) for about 6 months, allowing the dust to settle.
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I feel so good for you right now… keep taking those baby steps!
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- Registered On: August 26, 2021Topics: 21Replies: 1026Has thanked: 3613 timesBeen thanked: 3568 times
Like I said, I don’t think there was any thought about it, by my wife. And I definitely didn’t get the impression she had changed her stance and was green lighting any other ever-so-slight manifestation of girliness.
I’ll just cherish this as something she did without any meaning, at least not to her.
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Raquel –
It’s nice to hear she did that, whether she gave it much thought or not. It’s little things that are nice. Once we were out and my wife gave me Burt’s Bee lip shimmer, think it was rhubarb, which gave my lips a bit of color. It wasn’t expected and was nice of her to do. Enjoy the little things and as others have said baby steps.
XOXO
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The lip balm was Elf brand. The lipstick was Nars, which is fairly expensive. I selected that, because it WAS lipstick, after all. And I’d had a tube of Nars in the past. It’s very silky.
Both provided the lightest hint of color.
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I have pretty much given up on chapstick as I find lipstick is vastly superior. I use a neutral shade most often, but have some bright I’d as well, including Cherries in the Snow which my cousin turned me on. Just beware, it is a bold color and does not come off easily.
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- Registered On: April 29, 2022Topics: 10Replies: 729Has thanked: 9711 timesBeen thanked: 3249 times
Congratulations! Yes baby steps do not push too much I hope you can have another dialog with her soon or at least have her agree to read something about crossdressing to give her a better understanding of who we and you are and how those who do crossdress are affected by it. Hopefully some additional knowledge can move her a little closer to a level of unconditional love and understanding to have a common ground that is acceptable for both of you. Ultimately many women want and love their man. I hope she will see the benefits and understand the positive ways it affects you. Wishing you the best in this situation.
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- Registered On: August 26, 2021Topics: 21Replies: 1026Has thanked: 3613 timesBeen thanked: 3568 times
Trust me. I won’t push. I probably won’t ever even mention this. I’ll just keep it locked up in my memory as a fantasy of how things could be; the two of us sharing makeup as such.
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