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If you live with an SO who didn’t immediately call a lawyer when she first knew of your desires, I wanted to tell you to not give up but keep slowly pushing the envelop and have patience with her acceptance of your lifestyle.
If your SO truly loves and cares for you they will eventually, on their own terms, come to accept the femininity in you. When they see its not earth shattering and you’re not some monster but the same man they married but with another unique side that most males don’t have they will realize its actually to their benefit. Our female side is more compassionate, gentle and understanding of womens issues which can bring a closer relationship bond than normal.
In my case I outed myself to my SO about 5 years ago and had the usual rocky reaction and questions but we stayed together. I agreed to not dress in front of her but keep it private and she agreed to a DADT relationship because it was just my “thing”. It gradually got to the point of me being able to dress around her as “casual feminine” as I call it with flats, leggings, panties, bra with no forms and womens tees. I also underdressed in public with her approval. But no dresses, skirts, heels, wigs or makeup. I would have to steal time for fully dressing whenever I could away from her and DADT.
I could dress “casual feminine” around the house all the time but she didn’t want to see me with large forms so I wore them until she announced she was coming into the room when I would cover up or take the forms out. Today that changed.
Last night we were talking and she told me she liked the feminine me. This was the first time she has told me that and I wasn’t dressed at all at the time. I thanked her for her understanding and felt like some progress had been made. Its good to be accepted in any small way.
Today I was wearing pantyhose under female jogging pants, a red full coverage bra with my D silicone forms under a pink womens long sleeve tee while sitting at our dining table eating. She walked into the room unannounced so I didn’t have time to cover or remove the forms so all I could do was just sit there eating, waiting on some comment about obvious big boobs.
She sat down and said nothing about the way I was dressed. I kept waiting on a negative comment but still nothing so I said I had to go outside to check on something (I really did) and would take my forms out before going outside. She said.. Why take them out? I was surprised, then she said… Just put on a coat. Progress! Obviously shes come to a point where she accepts me with forms in front of her with no problem… woo hoo! I’m going to wear them all day and hope it opens up more conversation. Progress! I hope to be able to do more and eventually dress fully around her… goals.
So have patience and give your SO all the time they need to adjust. Things just may work out better than you think. Has your SO become more accepting of you over time?
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