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As in any group, people are going to come and go constantly, Jennifer, as I’m sure you have experienced, especially for girls like us, so many go in and out of the closet, purging and splurging.
From what I have seen, and I’m checking new posts, members, etc every day, or pretty close to it, you have nothing to regret.
All we can do is be positive and supporting for each as we come and go, and be sure everyone knows they are loved and welcomed.
And, some of us will be here forever, lol, or at least as long as our home, here, is around.
Hugs, RegineThere are a lot of causes for people coming and going from sites all over the internet, not just here. Typical reasons range from ‘ghosting’, which seems to be a huge thing some less than honest people do, to maybe one of our girls is found out by a spouse and given an ultimatum, and even the ones who build a fake persona looking for hookups and porn and are sadly disappointed when they see that sites like CDH can function without that.
I do believe that our core of ladies is a good solid foundation for having and keeping a place that we, and new girls, can turn to for support and friendship from others so much like ourselves, yet still as different as grains of sand.
A lot of us will come and go, and some will be here, then gone for a bit, but come back. Others will join us just to have some interesting items to read and learn from, sadly, without participation. It is actually a pretty common occurrence on the net and has been since it started, and will continue for the foreseeable future.
PaulaF
Jennifer
As its already been said, there’s many a reason some disappear. I’ve noticed a couple who had been here and have come back. There are plenty of new girls coming here daily.
If you believe in a higher power, people come and go from our lives for a reason. Wish them well, hope they return. Dont let it get you down.
xo – Robyn🤗😁❤️
Hi Jen,
You have nothing to worry about. As the other ladies said, people come and go for all sorts of reasons. Let’s wish them well and hope they come back some day.
Hugs, Stephanie 💖
Hello Jen
I too find it quite sad when friends disappear, I very often check out my ” friend” list….and there is generally someone who has been off site a while. To be honest, I will then PM them, but it’s usually too late…
but looking forward, there are wonderful, beautiful, and caring girls still here!!!…let’s all enjoy the ride while we can.
Love, grace ❤️
I have often wondered about some of the girls who don’t seem to be here as well, Jennifer. As others have said, there are so many reasons which we can only guess at which cause our friends to leave the site.
However, as real as they are for the person concerned, we cannot help but wonder what has become of that person we have grown to know and call a friend. When someone has cancelled their account, at least they have made a rational choice, even if has been forced by a situation in their life.
What I find more troubling are those who just seem to disappear, and are never seen again, which causes me to wonder if something tragic has happened to them, or they have had a sudden health crisis. Since we have an identity different from our legal one, in most cases that is, we have no way to know if our friend has passed or not.
I always think positive and hope that she will show up here again one day though.
Amy
Hi,
As a newcomer to the forum, I’m not sure whether I can comment on those who are no longer here. But, from a personal perspective, I would like to offer up a hypothesis…
I joined CDH recently after being hit by a wall of ‘pink fog’ which honestly, I think could be classified as dysphoria of some sort. After years of repressing/ignoring my need to be Rachel, who I’d lived as quite happily in my younger days, I was faced with a overwhelming desire to stop being ‘the man’ and recapture ‘the woman’. My thoughts were confused and searches on the Internet brought me here.
Reading the various stories and participating in some of the chats have helped me immensely – they’ve normalised my understanding and acceptance of myself. While I might not conform to broadly accepted norms, I know now that I’m not that unusual and that many folks out there feel precisely the same as me and that there is a path for those of us who have wives and families to navigate through.
Right now, I do feel a need to be connected, however indirectly, with girls who are the same as me. But, I can imagine a time/stage in my life when I’m truly comfortable as Rachel once more and where my life has a better balance and I can also imagine not feeling such a need to share myself on a forum like this when that time comes.
Although that may seem a little bit sad (maybe even selfish?) I would also regard it as a success of this forum – helping our sisters to accept themselves, live their lives and be happy must surely be the ultimate triumph.
Rachel xx
As a still relatively new comer, I’ve seen it plenty already and it is disheartening.
This may be the norm in any social media nowadays though (although I don’t think of this site as social media even though its my only outlet for socializing, online anyways) but I could be way off in that assessment.
When I think on the difficulties faced by all the ladies coming out pre-internet era, I am awed at their (or yours if this applies to you) level of fortitude. I’m not sure if I could have been brave enough myself had I not found this site and also been alive in this particular society and time and place in history.
Take heart that even in those ladies short time here I guarantee a few seeds were planted that will grow and develop and one day a lady will BURST from the confines of her male conditioning. Even if its only one girl in a thousand, eventually all those little seedlings grow into a forest.
Agree. I have been a member here since 2016 and have seen lots of ladies come and go. This is the primary reason I make it a point to welcome each new member. Some ladies leave and return, others take breaks when life gets in the way, then they come back. I know I have taken breaks in the past. I suspect it is a form of denial or purging. All I know is that when I am active here, I feel my strongest and most confident. I guess all we can do is do our best to support each other.
Well, I’ve only been here a little while, so the relevancy of my response may be limited.
I have enjoyed and loved sharing and writing on this site and it has helped me immensely.
I sometimes find that things happening with my family/friends and the outer world in general sidetracks me from being on here. My wife and I are considering counselling at the moment, and to be honest, it’s hard for me to focus on the joy I’ve experienced from this community at the moment as a result.
…But I’ve found all my sisters I’ve spoken to on this site to be caring and supportive and fun, and I hope that I’ll be back writing with a bit more frequency in the not too distant future.
Yes it always sad when friends and girls leave, but that’s a reflection of true life. Many click the friends button, but it’s hard to write to everyone. Would be great if you could send multiple hello or how are you to a group of friends at once. It takes time to know people, and they to know us. But it’s a great site and I am getting to know many beautiful girls. As I sad before pop by say hello.
I haven’t been here a long time, myself, but as I tend to be a bit outspoken, I’m sure the regulars have seen my posts, lol.
With the support, and inspiration I have gotten from all the beautiful ladies here, I plan on, and hope and pray I can, be around for a long time. And, if my words, my hugs, or just my friendly ear, are a help to one girl, or thousand, whether they are here a moment, or a lifetime, I will be happy.
Sorry girls, rambling again.
Hugs, RegineSome of the things I love about being a CD of course is the clothes and how I look and feel when wearing them. I love being Patty and when I’m bold and courageous enough to go out and sow her off to others. I love being pretty, sexy and admired.
Then I can take off the clothes, makeup and hair and put Patty away. So from time to time she does go missing.
We all come here for help, happiness and acceptance – and fun – as we journey down our own paths. It’s a mixed blessing of sorts, as all journeys by their nature, eventually end. I would like to think the journey ended positively for the members no longer here and they moved on with a heartfelt thanks to CDH. Sadly that will not always be the case, as life doesn’t always treat us fairly. It does hurt a bit when a friend disappears without a word, but I’ll still wish the best for them always – hoping to hear from them again….
Journeys end, the friendships do not have to. 🙂
Stevie
I have packed away and unpacked Trisha so many times in the last 35 years that I am sure she has some type of box dysphoria. Truth is being a CD doesn’t fit into traditional life. The only people who truly understand us is us. To further complicate it is that each and every one of us is different still.
I for one and very grateful for CDH and more specifically the ladies here. I have recently, 1.5 years ago, decided that Trisha is important enough to me to not box her up again. If someone doesnt accept her so be it and I move forward. CDH and the ladies here have given me the strength for that.
I love all my sister’s here and will do anything I can for each and everyone of them.
I’m sure I would never delete my account. I do know that I might not be as active in a few months. I am seasonally employed and I’m currently free all day. Once March comes, I’ll be back to full time hours. That’ll really cut into my dressing time, too. The reliable income is nice but I’m not looking forward to being drab so much.
The topic has been mentioned before, and I have noticed, from friendship requests I have received but delayed acting upon because of the absence of any biographical info, is that many of these new folks are online for only two or three days, then never post again. IMO, they were only looking for hookup sites and left when we disappointed them.
I was much more active when I first joined. I found many people to chat with and enjoyed the conversations. I have not had much time to dress and have no new stories to add.
I had to step my membership down to free as my income was drastically reduced and paying for membership was no longer an option. I still read the forums and articles. I am living through all of the experiences shared here.
I hope to be back out as Paula soon.
Love and hugs
Paula
Very funny B
….and I for one am glad you are here x
🤣🤣🤣love your accent Steph.
No worries, I’ve been quiet for a while now. Still pop in to see what’s going on everyday, and always love your cheer and humour.
Don’t worry that my interest is waning, the force is strong in this one. Just added a pair of black knee length boots to my winter wardrobe. Spent way too much on them, but when I see something beautiful that you know will look fab on you, and is so versatile, well you just have to have it!!’
Stay safe and healthy my friend.
❤️B
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