- November 22, 2020 at 4:32 am #409329Regine RichParticipantRegistered On: October 9, 2020Topics: 32Replies: 898Has thanked: 9104 timesBeen thanked: 3935 times
I have recently realized(make that been told), there are so many little things we don’t know, or have payed attention to, about being a woman.
As I go through this life change, I find there are so many of my mannerisms, and just ways of doing things, that fem’s do either slightly, or drastically different, from males. Each day, my SO points out something new, that I’m not doing “ladylike”, lol, and I thought I knew it all? pshaw, lol
I was just wondering how many others find this, as they progress deeper into being us?
- November 24, 2020 at 8:03 am #410126Deborah SullivanDuchessRegistered On: February 27, 2020Topics: 2Replies: 602Has thanked: 2629 timesBeen thanked: 2383 times
It is a learning curve but we all pick up on these things from our experiences like what to carry in your purse. We do focus on makeup and fashion at first but the other details do come with time like behavior and mannerisms. I feel I think and react more like a woman more than ever now
- November 24, 2020 at 7:36 am #410115Bianca EverdeneLadyRegistered On: April 11, 2017Topics: 24Replies: 779Has thanked: 3107 timesBeen thanked: 3125 times
Its a constant learning experience, women have had a whole lifetime of experiences and experimenting.
Sometimes I do feel we are kinda going through what young women go through. Trial and error, trying to find out fashion sense, learning to walk in heels and not look like you just got off a horse, applying make up, finding our best shades/tones. Learning to match items of our outfits. How to get in and out a car in a dress, knees together, different underwear for different outfits, getting the right bra size, even how we feel differently when we dress differently. The trade off between cute and comfy and sometimes the discomfort of looking great. How to eat and drink so as to not disturb your lipstick. How to accessorise, scarfs, jewellery, purses, etc etc etc.
SO MUCH FUN
- November 24, 2020 at 1:47 am #410065EmilyLadyRegistered On: April 30, 2016Topics: 22Replies: 780Has thanked: 4465 timesBeen thanked: 2542 times
Every time I feel I am getting close to the finish line and know how to act like the perfect lady, someone moves the line. I think it’s part of being a human being, we are constantly learning, growing and progressing towards who we strive to be. Regardless of your birth gender. Having a spouse you can communicate with openly enough to learn from is priceless!
- November 23, 2020 at 6:41 pm #410003Paula FDuchessRegistered On: August 7, 2019Topics: 14Replies: 1083Has thanked: 14650 timesBeen thanked: 4287 times
Regine, I have been femme ( or trying to be, anyway) for 55 years now, and I can honestly say that I have still not learned everything I need to know. Most of them yes, but my nieces will correct me sometimes, “walk slower”, “take smaller steps”, etc. The fast walking is from my job, since I only have so much time to complete rounds and checks in the building and outside.
I know they aren’t nagging, just helping me remember sometimes.
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- November 23, 2020 at 5:05 pm #409971Stephanie BassPrincess - AnnualRegistered On: November 30, 2019Topics: 12Replies: 1604Has thanked: 17998 timesBeen thanked: 5324 times
Hi Regine wife and i were talking. Thinking about going to Keystone in 2022 if covid allows us to have it .LOL but Wife was saying she has to teach me a few more womanly things to do before we go as going to her girls finishing school as im not bad at being Stephanie but could use a little more polish around the edges . As i guess we all do need a little more polish LOL.
- November 23, 2020 at 5:15 pm #409981Regine RichPrincessRegistered On: October 9, 2020Topics: 32Replies: 898Has thanked: 9104 timesBeen thanked: 3935 times
- November 23, 2020 at 2:25 pm #409893Rei DurdenBaroness - AnnualRegistered On: October 11, 2020Topics: 21Replies: 803Has thanked: 4991 timesBeen thanked: 3337 times
For me it’s not the physical mannerisms, in fact I’m actually more ladylike I my posture etc than my wife…..
in every other respect she’s a total classy lady whereas I am at the worst of times a complete and utter ogre 👹 and at the best of times a ‘work in progress’.
That temper/anger sits on my back riding me hard like the worst addiction.
- November 24, 2020 at 2:16 am #410074Julie CarsonLadyRegistered On: October 26, 2020Topics: 0Replies: 48Has thanked: 1302 timesBeen thanked: 202 times
- November 24, 2020 at 7:28 am #410111Rei DurdenBaroness - AnnualRegistered On: October 11, 2020Topics: 21Replies: 803Has thanked: 4991 timesBeen thanked: 3337 times
That’s an interesting idea, but one that may eventually lead into the whole transition conversation and that’s a no fly zone in my marriage.
- November 22, 2020 at 5:07 am #409337Suzette YorkRegistered On: September 4, 2020Topics: 1Replies: 86Has thanked: 1089 timesBeen thanked: 435 times
i think that you are right if one is going for the stereotype of a lady. All those things that a Mother, Aunt, friends, etc tell girls and do not necessarily tell the boys. But many of the differences in mannerisms may not be good or just outdated such as a lady does not speak up. Many of the physical mannerisms may be a result of society (the way one sits etc may be driven as much from the differences in clothing) and also some might be to try to attract men (shaving legs, pits, or the way one walks). But i agree there is so much to learn about being a woman – every mannerism may have a nuance and you need to be constantly aware until that becomes the norm for you just like any other habit.
It is a fun topic and once that we could spend a lifetime learning – oh isn’t that going to be fun!
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