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You know the one, the guideline in the terms of use that some say restricts our free speech on the site.
It comes up from time to time, sometimes interupting and overtaking the thread of an otherwise innocent member.
I have in the past been an offender and do on occassion step close to edge, for which I was corrected. Although it was difficult at the time, I do concede the point and fully agree that it makes for a safer place for us all to fully enjoy. At the time, I distanced myself in anger and weighed my options. I concluded that not being a member was a much larger cost. Our current ambassadors from what I’ve witnessed do allow minor transgressions and try to correct further actions in a professional way before things get out of hand.
We are invited to be part of this wonderful community. By accepting that invitation, you in turn agree to their terms of use as is true for almost any group. The line has to drawn somewhere, and as a private entity it is theirs to draw where they deem necessary. One of the differences is that they are monitored and enforced here, for the benefit of everybody. You’ve probably seen what some of the others have become.
Yes, I do agree that there are some subjects that do actually relate directly to some CD and trans persons that fall on the far side of that line unfortunately, it really doesn’t take much to recognize others within the group that might share some of the same thoughts you do. In which case you could simply PM them to discuss it further or trade e-mails or numbers for ongoing communications, which I have done on occassion.
I don’t want to see us lose good members, particularly if its simply over an avoidance of colouring within the lines. Please take the time to consider the consequences to yourself, other members who would likely miss you and the things you share, and those who might disagree or be hurt with a possibly argumentative passage or stance you are trying to make.
Rant over, Hugs all around
💋Olivia
Well stated and I will bear that in mind – stealing other people’s thunder or their whisper is, perhaps rather mean or cruel. Thank you, well timed and tactful. Needed that…. will put that on a stickie note on my comp ! : )
AnyaHi Liv!
Nicely said for a rant.
I am sure it’s just “the man” keeping us in our place.
See what I did there? Lol
All kidding aside…
The ambassadors here do a fantastic job of keeping CDH the wonderful accepting place that it is.
Sometimes there will be differences of opinion. I have witnessed a few. Ladies just have to remember what’s right or what works for some or most doesn’t mean it’s for everyone. There is never a good reason to be unkind.
Thank you ambassadors!
Thank you kind ladies!
Hugs
Autumn
Hi Olivia.
Totally agree….the bottom line being, there has to be a bottom line or we decend into chaos….
As a support site, its second to none, and it’s policed by Angels….
Every time they intervene, it always seems to me to be timely, and if a post is closed, I can usually see why, before it goes too far….you can usually see the way it’s heading…
Okay some posts are ambushed by humour mongers…and I’m as guilty as anyone, but I wouldn’t dream of intentionally insulting anyone…it’s just the way I am….laughter really is the BEST medicine….be happy
Grace, Famous Naughty Corner resident xxxx
CDH is unique in that its values embrace kindness, love, support and openness with regard to almost any issue a sister chooses to raise. When any of us over steps the mark, which is rare but easy to do that when one is het up, the editorial team deal with the situation firmly and kindly with a minimum of fuss. For me as a cross dresser there is just no other place to be. If CDH disappeared it would leave a great hole in my life. I so value all the sisters here and what they have to say.
Love and hugs
HildaRuth 💋💋Thank you Olivia and everyone who has responded.
Moderating any online forum is not a job that I am capable of doing for the simple reason that I am way too opinionated for my own good. That is why I admire and respect those who do it here in a way that seems to embody the spirit of kindness and compassion that is the hallmark of CDH.
Nowhere else on the internet have I encountered anything quite like here. This feels like our family room where we can be together in harmony and share the positive and negative aspects of our lives in an atmosphere of gentle uncritical affection for each other. We can reach out if we are troubled or uncertain or just expressing our doubts and fears about ourselves and there will be others who will understand and offer comfort and warmth in return.
CDH is unique in what it offers and those lines are drawn to keep us safe just as a parent will set boundaries to keep their children safe. Here we can play nicely and have nice things and that is made possible by those who gently and kindly maintain the lines.
So this is my long winded way of saying a heartfelt thank you to everyone who ensures that CDH is very welcoming place for all of us.
Warm hugs
Rowena 👩🏻🦳
I like CDH for the fact that it keeps the drooling horn dogs out and gives us a place to share serious thoughts and be ourselves
…”drooling horn dogs”…😂😂😂
Those drooling horn dogs do exist!!!! I was on another CD site a few years ago. They encouraged members to post a foto; so I did. Then I had a request to chat from another member. I responded. What a mistake. It was one of those drooling horn dogs. He was not a CD but a CD pursuer. He wanted me to meet him in Las Vegas. He’d put me up in a hotel and wanted me to be his submissive. OMG. He would not take NO for an answer, even after I told him I was married and not interested in any sort of a sub-relationship. I had to get off of that site, tried deleting all my info (but I noticed I couldn’t delete my foto so be wary). I came back to the safety of CDH. I’m so glad the management team here catches and boots off those trolls as quickly as possible. Hugs to all, Krista.
As one of the Admin team on here, may I say on behalf of us all, thank you to all who have posted supportive comments.
As Sa*man*tha has all ready said all the things which I want to say in her own words, all I can do is reenforce that we try and keep the site ‘classy’ and ‘family friendly’, and this is what makes it so valuable, as there are many sites out there which fall well below this standard and cater for a different clientele.
Having said that, it is the contribution from the members who set the tone and keep the site forums and chat rooms alive and vibrant, we admin just nudge the tiller every now and then as and when needed.
Hugs
Dawn x
Admin, (and Matron ! )
Gen
“Hi, I’m ex offender” lmao I love that!
I have never been one to accept” because I said so” without proper backup for it, and threats just get my back up even more.
At the time of my offense, I was standing up for the right to discuss a subject that is relevant to some here, not myself actually, but it was also very upsetting for quite a few others. It was rough and tumble for a bit between myself, some members on both sides of the issue, and admin of the site. It was “Tifftastic”(miss them), one of our former ambassadors who took the time to reach out to me personally (which on its own, made a difference) and reasoned with me through ongoing and understanding messages, helping me to better understand the position and positive goals of this wonderful site.
I wasn’t sent to the correctional corner, but instead put myself in exile to ponder all that had happened. I noticed that the subject had created rifts between ladies who otherwise been friends, taking away some of the needed support network and frankly I missed being involved with so many other positive spirits.
I think that I’m mostly reformed, although not perfect in any way.
You girls are awesome!
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