- March 27, 2021 at 7:29 am #469844michaela janeParticipantRegistered On: December 9, 2016Topics: 23Replies: 308Has thanked: 302 timesBeen thanked: 730 times
I needed to make an outdoor adventure and it didn’t quite work out right. Nothing serious happened thankfully but I had it all planned out. This was my 2nd ever outing, the first was just a 30 minute drive. This one was planned as a “get out of the car” trip, a first for me. I chose an interstate rest area, 40 minutes drive from my house (I picked that idea up from some lovely lady here).
So, fully dressed, I got in the car and off I went. No problems initially but then I got into traffic on the outskirts of town. Traffic lights, back ups etc…. I began to get nervous pains in my stomach and almost turned off and went back home. Eventually, I got where I wanted to be, found a nice spot away from the main parking area, close to a picnic table and sat listening to the radio for a bit while watching what was going on around me. No cars were coming past me, my parking spot was on a one way stretch toward the exit. Then the time came to get out. At that very moment, a truck came down the road and, with 6 empty parking spaces to my right, he decided to park right next to me! His window wound down and, with his truck being higher than my car, he had a good view into my window and he took advantage of it. That was enough for me, my adventure was ruined. I backed out of my parking spot and left. Hopefully I can try again next week.
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- March 30, 2021 at 3:37 pm #471441Laura LovettLadyRegistered On: March 26, 2020Topics: 13Replies: 1112Has thanked: 3645 timesBeen thanked: 5365 times
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- March 30, 2021 at 1:04 pm #471370Michelle CrossLadyRegistered On: January 8, 2021Topics: 1Replies: 35Has thanked: 26 timesBeen thanked: 154 times
If you go out in public and look half pretty be ready to be looked at and even hit on! I don’t wear provocative clothes but often wear a skirt or dress, usually around knee length, and hose/tights. Pics are on Flickr. I have been hit on and even had young men yell compliments to me from a passing car. I do wear a female wedding ring set as I am not interested in being with a man. Now if I am am ever hit on by a beautiful woman….. !
- March 31, 2021 at 7:55 am #471719michaela janeLadyRegistered On: December 9, 2016Topics: 23Replies: 308Has thanked: 302 timesBeen thanked: 730 times
At my age (73), I certainly was not prevocative, knee length denim skirt, long sleeved high neck top, pantyhose (tights), shoulder length wig etc….etc….
- March 29, 2021 at 7:30 am #470685Jin CrockerLadyRegistered On: November 15, 2019Topics: 4Replies: 337Has thanked: 27 timesBeen thanked: 932 times
- March 29, 2021 at 3:05 am #470591Hilda BeaumontDuchessRegistered On: March 14, 2020Topics: 9Replies: 208Has thanked: 499 timesBeen thanked: 756 times
I think you did very well; you overcame your nervousness and stayed strong despite things not going quite as you had hoped. So definitely more than a Pyrrhic victory. I’m not convinced that rest stops and similarly isolated places are a good choice for us sisters. They are often rendezvous for those with nefarious intentions. I’ve been out dressed during the day quite a lot but I’m lucky in that I live in Brighton which is very, very LGBTQ+ friendly and I find that supermarkets, shops, coffee shops and restaurants are welcoming and helpful whatever it is I’m buying; from food to lipstick to lunch. To get to the various venues I invariably travel on the local buses. Again Brighton is blessed with excellent public transport and during the lockdown everyone has to wear masks so my ‘developing’ make up skills aren’t revealed. In all of these occasions except one I have been solo. The exception was meeting up with the lovely Laura for coffee in the Old Steine. These highly public places offer considerable security and most folk just want to go about their daily business without taking too much notice of their surroundings.
I hope this is helpful
Love and hugs
- March 30, 2021 at 3:36 pm #471439Laura LovettLadyRegistered On: March 26, 2020Topics: 13Replies: 1112Has thanked: 3645 timesBeen thanked: 5365 times
That was a lovely day – so idyllic, looking out to the pier and the sea beyond, past the fountains, over the gardens, sipping hot coffee, putting the world to rights whilst watching it go by.
People around were minding their own business – either that or smiling – I don’t recall a single frown coming our way.
So excited that in a month and a half we can do it again!
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- March 28, 2021 at 10:15 am #470247TerriDuchessRegistered On: May 17, 2016Topics: 0Replies: 186Has thanked: 187 timesBeen thanked: 589 times
First, in my opinion, going to rest stop by yourself was a bad choice to go enfemme. Im your age and first went out in 1979 or 80 to a CD party. It was a life changing experience. Meeting others like myself was amazing. After you build up some confidence. Go to a diner and have someone to eat. The waitress does care what you look like. From looking at your pics I think you will have no problem. Most people dont care. As soon as I open my mouth people know Im a man. Your going out to be yourself. Each time it will get easier.
- March 29, 2021 at 1:20 am #470568Diana MorganLadyRegistered On: February 22, 2021Topics: 8Replies: 647Has thanked: 4436 timesBeen thanked: 2055 times
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- March 28, 2021 at 4:59 am #470146Regine RichPrincessRegistered On: October 9, 2020Topics: 32Replies: 889Has thanked: 8999 timesBeen thanked: 3900 times
When I first read your post, I was going to jump in and defend the man, until I read he was in a pickup, not a Truck in my opinion. but I am still going to,lol
I read several comments calling the driver a creep, which is what raised my ire
As a long haul semi driver for years, I feel I have a little insight here.
Yes, semi drivers all look down into your cars as we pass, or park beside you, but what do you expect? men will be men, but that doesnt make us “creeps”. The life of a semi driver is very lonely(I loved it), and we get few pleasures on the road, we are the most necessary, but hated group out there. The sight of a beautiful, or even pleasant looking woman, brings a little spark of happiness into our world, if even for a few minutes. By the way, a view of happy children in the back seat does the same!
Sorry if this seems a rant, but I felt I needed to defend semi drivers everywhere,
- March 29, 2021 at 2:48 am #470587Olivia LivinLadyRegistered On: October 22, 2018Topics: 47Replies: 1620Has thanked: 8016 timesBeen thanked: 4300 times
Thumbs up to the truckers who get it there for us. Everything we consume or desire was loaded and hauled by at least one truck, generally several.
The naughty part of me sometimes likes being the entertainment committee chairperson.
Headin to the corner(head down)
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- March 28, 2021 at 6:43 am #470183LadyRegistered On: December 9, 2016Topics: 23Replies: 308Has thanked: 302 timesBeen thanked: 730 times
Regine, PICKUP!!!! that’s the word I was looking for. Thank you! Most people around me just call them a truck and us expat Brits have a hard time working out if a truck is a semi-truck (half a truck?), 18 wheeler, tractor trailer or a pickup truck. Back home, it’s simply a lorry, be it a 7.5 ton or a 32 ton articulated. or whatever, it’s just a lorry.
Thanks for your defence of professional drivers, I spent 20 years on the road as a service engineer, not on trucks or lorries but in a car and have great respect for truckers, yep, even in the UK they are truckers, even if they drive lorries.
In all of this, my outing was without incident, it was all in my head and I know that, the guy who parked next to me was probably not interested in me at all, he might have even been doing the same thing as me, we’ll never know.
- March 28, 2021 at 9:42 am #470239Regine RichPrincessRegistered On: October 9, 2020Topics: 32Replies: 889Has thanked: 8999 timesBeen thanked: 3900 times
Thank you, Michaela,
I get very defensive sometimes, on the attitude of the general population towards truckers, and have to speak up when I can, and in the case of a “truck”, it infuriates me when the news reports an accident or otherwise ,caused by a “truck”, and it ends up being said pickup.Just re-enforces the bad image we have,
As for your outing, I am so glad it didnt end badly, all things considered, and hope you get your nerve up soon,
- March 28, 2021 at 12:49 am #470080Paula FDuchessRegistered On: August 7, 2019Topics: 14Replies: 1075Has thanked: 14513 timesBeen thanked: 4264 times
Congrats on handling the traffic without a major problem. In a way it may have been good that you saw a potential creep for what he was, esp so soon in your excursions. Too many trips without a problem causes complacency and you could had your guard down. Having one so early may help keep you on your toes.
All of you girls, go out and have fun, but please be aware and careful too. Things can change so quickly. We want you back here in the same condition as the last time you logged out.
- March 27, 2021 at 8:20 pm #470048Amy MyersBaronessRegistered On: February 11, 2019Topics: 16Replies: 1322Has thanked: 3794 timesBeen thanked: 3689 times
I think I would have done much the same as you. That sounds a bit scary, ‘course it might have been just fine. As a previous poster said, if your presentation is good enough, you will attract some attention from men.
More populated areas seem a lot scarier at first for us, but I think they are safer as there is little chance anything bad is likely to happen with more people around. My experience is that folks are usually busy in their own lives and world that they don’t pay all much attention. We feel like the world is watching us, but the reality is quite different.
Just my few cents worth. Hope your next outing goes better!
- March 27, 2021 at 7:10 pm #470037Sa•man•thaManaging AmbassadorRegistered On: January 21, 2018Topics: 473Replies: 1802Has thanked: 8113 timesBeen thanked: 7287 times
Probably a ‘meeting’ place?
Yea rest areas are notorious about that. Might be a better spot for in the daytime. Evening or night, there may be a park, a cemetery or even around your neighborhood as safer options? Just thinkin’ out loud. Mad props on trying tho Michaela, absolutely!! Hope it goes better for ya next time hon ❤
- March 27, 2021 at 6:36 pm #470029Bridgette VonSmirffLadyRegistered On: October 18, 2020Topics: 29Replies: 902Has thanked: 12700 timesBeen thanked: 3341 times
Really, I think you did well not letting the traffic stop you, and I believe you audio did right in leaving when a creep showed up. Creepers gonna creep. That’s where being around more people is usually safer, as others have said. Try, try again, and don’t let the creeps win.
- March 27, 2021 at 3:33 pm #469989Alice UnderwireLadyRegistered On: September 16, 2019Topics: 26Replies: 3083Has thanked: 2932 timesBeen thanked: 6484 times
As Grace and others say, you did very well getting out into traffic and the highway. Your story shows the need of being prepared for a potential assault/threat. You might consider mace or ensure you have a cell to call 911.
For your next outing consider a pubic well visited location like a gas station or coffee shop.
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- March 27, 2021 at 12:50 pm #469945Sandy JaysonDuchessRegistered On: September 29, 2019Topics: 22Replies: 479Has thanked: 973 timesBeen thanked: 2172 times
Michaela, sorry your adventure didn’t go as planed. Your plan sounds like the one I’ve posted here a few times. The first time it was several minutes before I got out of the car and if someone had parked next to me I would have chickened out also. Others have posted here also beware of rest stops, I would say that if you know the place and you did like I did and went out during daylight hours you should be OK. I wanted to be seen but only from a distance, it’s easy to pass at 30 to 80 ft. My most concerning time was when a couple parked next to my car when I was sitting at a park bench about 30 ft away. Fortunately they were busy walking the dog that after 5 min. it was easy for my to walk back to the car. Best of luck next time.
- March 27, 2021 at 6:40 pm #470031LadyRegistered On: December 9, 2016Topics: 23Replies: 308Has thanked: 302 timesBeen thanked: 730 times
Yes, it may well have been your idea that spurred me on. For me it was daylight, just after lunch and yes, I sat in the car scoping out the close area. It was just as I was about to get out of the car that the uninvited guest turned up. I will be trying again, same place maybe, I liked the layout.
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- March 27, 2021 at 10:38 am #469910Effie JayneDuchessRegistered On: February 7, 2021Topics: 27Replies: 679Has thanked: 1370 timesBeen thanked: 2344 times
- March 27, 2021 at 10:37 am #469908Stephanie ScottLadyRegistered On: February 8, 2021Topics: 18Replies: 246Has thanked: 706 timesBeen thanked: 1289 times
Actually sounds like victory to me! 😊
1) I’m guessing that because you presented a very feminine appearance, you drew the attention of the trucker. As we know, men are primarily stimulated by the visual, AND men tend to be more aggressive initiators of contact (good and bad). Honestly, I’d take his attention as a compliment in its context. Back when I used to go out when dressed, take long drives, etc., I had truckers pass me and honk their horns on the road, and I once had a trucker pass by and turn around so he could honk TWICE while I was pumping gas in my above the knee skirt and heels. Obviously, they seemed to appreciate my feminine projection, and I took it as a compliment.
2) As I’ve said on other threads, being out en femme raised my awareness of security issues women face. For all intents and purposes, you ARE a woman in those scenarios in terms of being the “prey” or the “target” of those men out there who have bad intentions. That awareness then informed my future actions en femme such that I started acting more responsibly for my safety — parking under lights, avoiding rest stops, parking near others, etc.
I commend that approach to you, because you’re obviously pretty enough to draw attention! That is both good AND bad! 😊 🤗
- March 27, 2021 at 10:26 am #469905LadyRegistered On: February 22, 2021Topics: 8Replies: 647Has thanked: 4436 timesBeen thanked: 2055 times
Wow Michaela you accomplished so much! Driving in daylight en femme, so you didn’t get to step out of the car – toobad betterluck next time. Don’t let one small incident spoil the day for you, you went out and provided an eyeful for a lonely trucker, he will probanly dream of you on his way to wherever he goes!
Keep on doing what your doing sister- you’re an inspiration.
Big warm hugs
- March 27, 2021 at 10:05 am #469886Angela BoothLadyRegistered On: August 1, 2020Topics: 1Replies: 106Has thanked: 116 timesBeen thanked: 495 times
Hi Michaela. At what point was this day ruined? You went out and didn’t turn back when nervous in the traffic queue. You arrived and got out of the car. You sat and watched the world go by. What happened when the semi parked up? Nothing. What’s the likelihood of seeing that driver again?
To me you had a resounding success as you overcame a lot to do what you did. We all have nerves going out and see things that aren’t there. You did well girl and keep going.
- March 27, 2021 at 9:52 am #469882Tabitha B.DuchessRegistered On: August 23, 2015Topics: 4Replies: 79Has thanked: 26 timesBeen thanked: 200 times
When it comes to Rest Areas, check to see if there is a designated “Cars Only” parking area. Some Rest Areas were designed this way in order to give more (longer) parking spaces for 18 wheelers than for cars. But, these Rest Areas provide an unintended benefit for us girls!
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- March 27, 2021 at 8:49 am #469871LadyRegistered On: March 26, 2020Topics: 13Replies: 1112Has thanked: 3645 timesBeen thanked: 5365 times
The hardest part of going out is getting out, and getting out of the car is the hardest part of all!
I still find it difficult – but it’s like swimming in cold water – once you’re in, it’s lovely, and it’s often best to just dive right in rather than think about it first.
- March 27, 2021 at 7:58 am #469852Stephanie KennedyPrincessRegistered On: March 15, 2019Topics: 12Replies: 701Has thanked: 4369 timesBeen thanked: 2672 times
Hi Michaela. Make use of those feminine feelings. If it does not feel right its just not right for you at the time. You have to feel safe and comfortable firstly. The good thing is you are letting the woman in you get some fresh air. You as a person are beginning to be whole, that’s a wonderful thing for you and the people that are close to you. Good for you.
- March 27, 2021 at 7:43 am #469849Grace ScarlettBaroness - AnnualRegistered On: February 16, 2021Topics: 65Replies: 1348Has thanked: 4820 timesBeen thanked: 7384 times
Every story has two sides, perhaps he just parked next to the gorgeous girl on her own..because you were there. If it had been a family in your car, he would probably have parked well away…..Gosh, we all know what men are like, haha.
It’s so good to hear that it didn’t put you off, and you are giving it another go…well done…
- March 27, 2021 at 7:33 am #469847Sandy HoneyLadyRegistered On: February 24, 2021Topics: 7Replies: 143Has thanked: 84 timesBeen thanked: 671 times
Sorry it didn’t completely turn out the way you planned. When I travel as Sandy and have to stop at a rest area I park right in front of the building. I wouldn’t feel safe as a lone woman parked away from the main parking area. But the fact that you did this is a giant step in your growth as a woman.
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