Therapy first before telling SO?

[Jasmine Secrét]

I’ve been wondering if I should go to CD therapy before telling my SO. Then maybe we can go together to help her with any questions or support issues. Ideas?

[Julie Shaw]

Tell her first, then you can decide together where to go. IMHO

[Terri]

It can’t hurt. The therapist might discuss questions that your wife could ask when you tell her. I told my wife 40 yrs ago. She is still non accepting but we work things out. Good luck.

[Laura Lovett]

I would say counselling rather than therapy, dear – therapy makes it seem like going to someone for a cure.

I know, I quibble about words – but I think it’s an important distinction.

A decent counsellor should have experience of CDing and marriages – the good, the bad and everything else, and be impartial and supporting to both sides – in my opinion.

Definitely worth discussing as much as possible with your wife, allowing her plenty of room for her feelings.

Love Laura

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