- August 17, 2020 at 11:40 am #375117Kymera RomaineParticipantRegistered On: August 17, 2020Topics: 3Replies: 4Has thanked: 2 timesBeen thanked: 84 times
Hi, everyone! I’m Kymera. I’m 43, happily married with 3 kids. I am bigender but heterosexual. When I was growing up and the LGBT terminology was in its infancy, I used to refer to myself as “a lesbian blessed with a man’s body”. I love that my body was able to have children with the cis I am attracted to, so I don’t get body dysphoria like trans folks. My philosophy is God made my bidy male my spirit female and so my soul (mind and emotions) is a hermaphrodite. I am not fluid in that I always feel both male and female. I would like to invent a style of clothing that expresses both of my genders simultaneously.
- August 23, 2020 at 5:39 pm #377054Teralynn LovingParticipantRegistered On: October 17, 2019Topics: 2Replies: 942Has thanked: 4796 timesBeen thanked: 1416 times
Hi Kymera, Teralynn here. Welcome to our wonderful online community Luv. I assume it was you that posted the question that appears just before your introduction post! I once told a student that we are the sum of our experiences! All of our experiences from all of our lives whether that be one or many! Who is to say that you have always lived as a male or a female? (I wonder how many of my CDH sisters are thinking- there goes Teralynn with her nutty previous lives theory!) But if you have lived physical lives as both a male and a female why would you not occasionally feel you are both in your current life? Just saying what makes sense makes sense! Love your femme name and glad you have us. Actually, you will find the membership to be open, friendly and a wonderful source of support for all crossdressing people no matter who they think they are! (Male, Female, Both, Neither or Whatever) You came in with a bang, I hope you stay around and really get to know how wonderful some of our members really are! If I can ever be of service please feel free to contact me through this site and let me know how I can help. A post on my home profile page wall will get the fastest response. – Blessings
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- August 18, 2020 at 4:54 am #375363Stevie SteinerParticipantRegistered On: June 11, 2020Topics: 22Replies: 462Has thanked: 1895 timesBeen thanked: 2161 times
I tried to answer yes and no…..
I am aware of my male ” twin ” , it influences me at times, but is a small part of me….. The outside part anyway.
As a Gemini, I am a female dominant twin, all wrapped up in one package. Will that do???
- August 17, 2020 at 11:52 pm #375335TJ Laber-TeaParticipantRegistered On: June 29, 2020Topics: 11Replies: 75Has thanked: 576 timesBeen thanked: 266 times
I am still searching for a ‘definition’ that fits me. I find my mood often determines which version of me I feel. Generally when miserable I end up slumping around in drab. Whereas when happier I feel and act more feminine, either in mannerism or dressing.
Im still pretty new tbf, so not really sure what this means for me. Currently i float between gender non conforming and non binary I think.
Interesting question though 😊
- August 17, 2020 at 8:13 pm #375303Paula1ParticipantRegistered On: October 22, 2015Topics: 7Replies: 480Has thanked: 483 timesBeen thanked: 947 times
- August 17, 2020 at 7:39 pm #375287Stephanie FlowersAmbassadorRegistered On: June 26, 2017Topics: 24Replies: 4130Has thanked: 5787 timesBeen thanked: 6098 times
Kymera happy to welcome you here with us and for your question. Its hard to best say as even now I feel who I am is combined with both of my male and female mannerisms. Younger I was controlled by society ways and very much in my male mode. Keeping my feminine side much hidden. Much later in life when Stephanie did finally arrived there were changes that brought both sides out and in conflict of deciding which one would show. I said yes but again I’m still evaluating who is and when. Both seemed to be there and together they’re acting as one….🌷
- August 17, 2020 at 5:48 pm #375249Sandy JaysonParticipantRegistered On: September 29, 2019Topics: 12Replies: 168Has thanked: 396 timesBeen thanked: 685 times
- August 17, 2020 at 5:23 pm #375244Kay AndersonParticipantRegistered On: June 1, 2020Topics: 14Replies: 422Has thanked: 3202 timesBeen thanked: 2085 times
Welcome to CDH!
I voted No. I feel like I am a woman, but I somehow ended up with a Y chromosome. It took me a long time to realize this. There were many layers of denial that had to be peeled back. One of the big things that worked against me is when I was a teen in the 1970’s, no one talked about gender issues. Now that I am realizing this, my life circumstances are a bit complex to transition. Trying to keep an open mind about what my future might look like.
- August 24, 2020 at 8:17 am #377239stephanie plumbParticipantRegistered On: November 17, 2018Topics: 80Replies: 708Has thanked: 799 timesBeen thanked: 2160 times
My situation is very similar to yours. Just like to point out though that you didn’t ‘end up’ with a Y chromosome. You started with one. Then during your brain stem development part of it (the BSTc) was irreversibly wired to be more like a females than a males, probably caused by fluctuating hormone levels. I did a post on it last year. Name escapes me, but it can’t be hard to find if you are interested.
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- August 17, 2020 at 4:15 pm #375222Alice UnderwireParticipantRegistered On: September 16, 2019Topics: 15Replies: 1742Has thanked: 497 timesBeen thanked: 3050 times
Welcome to CDH.
I’ve had a man’s body my entire life but enjoy wearing women’s clothing . I don’t think I’d call it bigender, nor male or female. Sort of a mix or blend with respect to gender. Would that be gender fluid? As many have said labels can be non specific so often it’s best to avoid them.
Enjoy your travels through CDH.
- August 17, 2020 at 2:02 pm #375182BertaParticipantRegistered On: March 25, 2019Topics: 0Replies: 19Has thanked: 206 timesBeen thanked: 82 times
I selected “NO” as I am all male when dressed en-drab and, other than wishing I was dressed in fine feminine silks and satin’s, I am content with my maleness. Now when I’m wearing my satin lingerie under my male outer wear I am very much feeling feminine with all that silky satin caressing my skin. I’ve never been able to “dress” to go “out” as a woman and have no idea what Berta might look like. My totally feminine joy and experience occurs for a few hours after my wife has gone to bed or will be out of the house for a few hours. Then I’ll dress in my elegant satin floor length fully skirted nightgowns (usually 2 or 3 for that glorious satin feel and effect multiple layers create) with a strapless 48C bra filled with my Pals forms for the wonderfully feminine feelings this provides. It is on these occasions that I find myself wishing I was a complete female. (I’m sure this is what my Mom wanted when she dressed me in satin baby girl clothes and underwear from birth until I started school!)
Berta Monday, August 17, 2020, 5 PM EDT
- August 17, 2020 at 1:37 pm #375173Sa•man•thaAmbassadorRegistered On: January 21, 2018Topics: 202Replies: 1333Has thanked: 5611 timesBeen thanked: 4475 times
Hello Kymera! First off, I’d like to welcome you to CDH! You’ll find many friends and cohorts here, and we hope you enjoy the site as we all explore our way thru life. If you have any questions, or issues with the site feel free to pm me, or any of the ambassador staff. Thanks for introducing yourself to us Kymera!
Now as to your question. I can remember thinking of myself as equally girl and boy back to my pre pubescent childhood, although I didn’t comprehend it the same way then as now. And I certainly didn’t talk about it. I’m not sure if I’d say I’m bigender, maybe? Nowadays I view myself more as woman stuffed in a man’s body… I dont especially enjoy the man’s body but I don’t dispute that it’s what I have…
- August 17, 2020 at 1:04 pm #375151Araminta PurdyParticipantRegistered On: January 23, 2020Topics: 0Replies: 142Has thanked: 191 timesBeen thanked: 415 times
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