- August 17, 2020 at 11:40 am #375117Kymera RomaineParticipantRegistered On: August 17, 2020Topics: 3Replies: 4Has thanked: 2 timesBeen thanked: 101 times
Hi, everyone! I’m Kymera. I’m 43, happily married with 3 kids. I am bigender but heterosexual. When I was growing up and the LGBT terminology was in its infancy, I used to refer to myself as “a lesbian blessed with a man’s body”. I love that my body was able to have children with the cis I am attracted to, so I don’t get body dysphoria like trans folks. My philosophy is God made my bidy male my spirit female and so my soul (mind and emotions) is a hermaphrodite. I am not fluid in that I always feel both male and female. I would like to invent a style of clothing that expresses both of my genders simultaneously.
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- October 25, 2020 at 4:41 pm #398637Robyn DevineParticipantRegistered On: October 24, 2020Topics: 11Replies: 336Has thanked: 891 timesBeen thanked: 1342 times
Hi Kymera and welcome to CDH. I definitely like ideas. I too tend to stay away from tags, groups or molds being I dont exactly fit them or agree with them. Good for you..stay strong!
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- October 22, 2020 at 7:01 pm #397617Rei DurdenParticipantRegistered On: October 11, 2020Topics: 14Replies: 490Has thanked: 3180 timesBeen thanked: 1829 times
- October 22, 2020 at 2:19 am #397396Michelle BaileyParticipantRegistered On: July 17, 2020Topics: 1Replies: 99Has thanked: 2051 timesBeen thanked: 368 times
As a closest and underdresser I answered yes ,I know that if I was ever able to dress en femme 24/7 then the answer would have no ,living a dream yes please would love every minute of it and my male side would be buried for ever . Michelle xx
- August 23, 2020 at 5:39 pm #377054Teralynn LovingParticipantRegistered On: October 17, 2019Topics: 2Replies: 1002Has thanked: 6266 timesBeen thanked: 1611 times
Hi Kymera, Teralynn here. Welcome to our wonderful online community Luv. I assume it was you that posted the question that appears just before your introduction post! I once told a student that we are the sum of our experiences! All of our experiences from all of our lives whether that be one or many! Who is to say that you have always lived as a male or a female? (I wonder how many of my CDH sisters are thinking- there goes Teralynn with her nutty previous lives theory!) But if you have lived physical lives as both a male and a female why would you not occasionally feel you are both in your current life? Just saying what makes sense makes sense! Love your femme name and glad you have us. Actually, you will find the membership to be open, friendly and a wonderful source of support for all crossdressing people no matter who they think they are! (Male, Female, Both, Neither or Whatever) You came in with a bang, I hope you stay around and really get to know how wonderful some of our members really are! If I can ever be of service please feel free to contact me through this site and let me know how I can help. A post on my home profile page wall will get the fastest response. – Blessings
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- August 18, 2020 at 4:54 am #375363Stevie SteinerAmbassadorRegistered On: June 11, 2020Topics: 26Replies: 643Has thanked: 2915 timesBeen thanked: 3176 times
I tried to answer yes and no…..
I am aware of my male ” twin ” , it influences me at times, but is a small part of me….. The outside part anyway.
As a Gemini, I am a female dominant twin, all wrapped up in one package. Will that do???
- August 17, 2020 at 11:52 pm #375335TJ LibertyParticipantRegistered On: June 29, 2020Topics: 11Replies: 75Has thanked: 576 timesBeen thanked: 277 times
I am still searching for a ‘definition’ that fits me. I find my mood often determines which version of me I feel. Generally when miserable I end up slumping around in drab. Whereas when happier I feel and act more feminine, either in mannerism or dressing.
Im still pretty new tbf, so not really sure what this means for me. Currently i float between gender non conforming and non binary I think.
Interesting question though 😊
- August 17, 2020 at 8:13 pm #375303Paula1ParticipantRegistered On: October 22, 2015Topics: 7Replies: 504Has thanked: 516 timesBeen thanked: 1062 times
- August 17, 2020 at 7:39 pm #375287Stephanie FlowersAmbassadorRegistered On: June 26, 2017Topics: 25Replies: 4387Has thanked: 6774 timesBeen thanked: 6928 times
Kymera happy to welcome you here with us and for your question. Its hard to best say as even now I feel who I am is combined with both of my male and female mannerisms. Younger I was controlled by society ways and very much in my male mode. Keeping my feminine side much hidden. Much later in life when Stephanie did finally arrived there were changes that brought both sides out and in conflict of deciding which one would show. I said yes but again I’m still evaluating who is and when. Both seemed to be there and together they’re acting as one….🌷
- August 17, 2020 at 5:48 pm #375249Sandy JaysonParticipantRegistered On: September 29, 2019Topics: 13Replies: 237Has thanked: 557 timesBeen thanked: 1004 times
- August 17, 2020 at 5:23 pm #375244Kay AndersonParticipantRegistered On: June 1, 2020Topics: 17Replies: 561Has thanked: 5660 timesBeen thanked: 2979 times
Welcome to CDH!
I voted No. I feel like I am a woman, but I somehow ended up with a Y chromosome. It took me a long time to realize this. There were many layers of denial that had to be peeled back. One of the big things that worked against me is when I was a teen in the 1970’s, no one talked about gender issues. Now that I am realizing this, my life circumstances are a bit complex to transition. Trying to keep an open mind about what my future might look like.
- August 24, 2020 at 8:17 am #377239stephanie plumbParticipantRegistered On: November 17, 2018Topics: 97Replies: 917Has thanked: 1087 timesBeen thanked: 3433 times
My situation is very similar to yours. Just like to point out though that you didn’t ‘end up’ with a Y chromosome. You started with one. Then during your brain stem development part of it (the BSTc) was irreversibly wired to be more like a females than a males, probably caused by fluctuating hormone levels. I did a post on it last year. Name escapes me, but it can’t be hard to find if you are interested.
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- August 17, 2020 at 4:15 pm #375222Alice UnderwireParticipantRegistered On: September 16, 2019Topics: 17Replies: 2063Has thanked: 721 timesBeen thanked: 3779 times
Welcome to CDH.
I’ve had a man’s body my entire life but enjoy wearing women’s clothing . I don’t think I’d call it bigender, nor male or female. Sort of a mix or blend with respect to gender. Would that be gender fluid? As many have said labels can be non specific so often it’s best to avoid them.
Enjoy your travels through CDH.
- August 17, 2020 at 2:02 pm #375182BertaParticipantRegistered On: March 25, 2019Topics: 0Replies: 23Has thanked: 218 timesBeen thanked: 96 times
I selected “NO” as I am all male when dressed en-drab and, other than wishing I was dressed in fine feminine silks and satin’s, I am content with my maleness. Now when I’m wearing my satin lingerie under my male outer wear I am very much feeling feminine with all that silky satin caressing my skin. I’ve never been able to “dress” to go “out” as a woman and have no idea what Berta might look like. My totally feminine joy and experience occurs for a few hours after my wife has gone to bed or will be out of the house for a few hours. Then I’ll dress in my elegant satin floor length fully skirted nightgowns (usually 2 or 3 for that glorious satin feel and effect multiple layers create) with a strapless 48C bra filled with my Pals forms for the wonderfully feminine feelings this provides. It is on these occasions that I find myself wishing I was a complete female. (I’m sure this is what my Mom wanted when she dressed me in satin baby girl clothes and underwear from birth until I started school!)
Berta Monday, August 17, 2020, 5 PM EDT
- August 17, 2020 at 1:37 pm #375173Sa•man•thaFounderRegistered On: January 21, 2018Topics: 312Replies: 1456Has thanked: 6324 timesBeen thanked: 5142 times
Hello Kymera! First off, I’d like to welcome you to CDH! You’ll find many friends and cohorts here, and we hope you enjoy the site as we all explore our way thru life. If you have any questions, or issues with the site feel free to pm me, or any of the ambassador staff. Thanks for introducing yourself to us Kymera!
Now as to your question. I can remember thinking of myself as equally girl and boy back to my pre pubescent childhood, although I didn’t comprehend it the same way then as now. And I certainly didn’t talk about it. I’m not sure if I’d say I’m bigender, maybe? Nowadays I view myself more as woman stuffed in a man’s body… I dont especially enjoy the man’s body but I don’t dispute that it’s what I have…
- August 17, 2020 at 1:04 pm #375151Araminta PurdyParticipantRegistered On: January 23, 2020Topics: 1Replies: 180Has thanked: 223 timesBeen thanked: 555 times
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