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I looked around the room. I saw a closet full of dresses,skirts,blouses,and nightgowns. I saw a vanity with make up and jewelry. I saw a shoe rack filled with high heels. I saw a dresser filled with bras,panties,stockings,and slips. I saw myself in the mirror wearing a pretty dress,full lingerie,high heels,make up,jewelry,and a wig. Then I thought back to when I was 12 years old wearing my mothers slip. If someone had said to that 12 year old boy that 60 years from now you will see what I now see I would have said that will never happen but that’s what happened.
My point being that cross dressing is an escalating experience and never say never. OK,so you meet a woman,fall in love and want to get married. Do you tell her? What do you tell her? If you were like me you thought that this will change me and I won’t want to dress anymore. Of course that didn’t last so what now? I guess I could dress up in secret and not tell her and that will be enough. Of course it wasn’t so what now? Or maybe she caught you so what now? You tell her the truth and hope for the best. Perhaps she likes it and you live happily ever after. Perhaps she hates it and divorces you. Those are the two extremes. In the middle you make deals. The question is can you live up to the deal you made whatever it is? See the first sentence in this paragraph. You can be completely honest but it’s only the honesty of the moment and not necessarily the honesty of the future because YOU don’t know what that might be.
I’ve known many cross dressers mostly over the last 25 years. One thing they all had in common is that their cross dressing changed over time. Some of them even went all the way with hormones and surgery. I even knew one that timidly showed up at “First Event” in ill fitting clothes filled with fear. Less than two years later she was a very pretty woman after hormones,facial feminization surgery and SRS. She was also divorced.
What I’ve learned over the years is that probably cross dressers really should not get married because they really don’t know for sure where their cross dressing will lead them. If they do decide to marry they should tell their intended the truth as far as they know it. Finally for any woman thinking about marrying a cross dresser they should be aware that there is a possibility that some day their husband is going to want to transition into a woman. It’s not the norm but it does happen.
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