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I have only been experimenting with cross dressing for about two months. I am finding that the time and effort I am devoting is expanding and accelerating, sort of like being on a toboggan, it goes faster and faster and I have no brakes!
I have begun to observe that the way I see things and the way my mind processes what I see is changing without me putting any conscious effort into it, it’s just happening.
some examples: I went grocery shopping yesterday and as I walked through the store and would encounter various women, I was not, as I usually would have with my male eye, evaluating them as potential sexual partners. Rather I was wondering more about what their life was like and who they were and very surprisingly, looking at their faces I was studying their make up design and wondering how they put it on to achieve a particular effect. This is a complete and total change from past behavior and was not a planned change. Next example, shopping on Amazon for some English bitter orange marmalade (I’ll be sharing recipes next) and in my “we thought you might like” suggestions feed popped up a pair of ankle strap pumps, which ring a number of my bells, and after I thought oh aren’t those cute and what a pretty purpleish pink color, I actually thought oh my God I have nothing to wear that with, what do I need to buy to go with those? And I actually analyzed the color n some detail, filing it for seeing something that would really go with them… And wondered what color hose and garter belt will they need to look best? And for Another illustration of my change, for reasons unimportant to this conversation, most of the furniture, rugs and accents were involuntarily removed from my house. So I am slowly starting to refurnish and one of the first things I was thinking of was some rugs to replace the missing ones and soften these hardwood floors. Whereas in the past I would most likely have just bought something just based on the rug being OK now I am finding that I am pausing and working on a material, color, style theme plan for each room, thinking what is the covering on the furniture going to be? Leather fabric, what color? What style furniture, What era. And trying to have an artists eye and creating an entire effect. What will I it on the table for an accent piece. Now I do have fairly good taste and I managed to get away in the past was just throwing something together but now I find I need to feng shui it!
when I first slipped on a pair of heels a couple months ago and liked the way they looked and started experimenting I never expected any of this! Now now matter my future course in life I feel none of this can be a bad thing and can only help me develop as a person.
In a strange question in this strange land we are in together girls, is this progression “normal“?
I chose “no”, because I am mostly just a guy who likes to wear women’s clothes. I do see your point, and yes it does happen some, but I am still pretty much male even when dressed. Of course that is just me, and I habe no doubt many here who are further down the scale see things as you do, and I applaud you all for it. Be yourself, whether that is fully, partially, not feminine at all.
It may be that the realization of your fem self has released your creativity. Isn’t it fun to shop for nice things? I never get tired of looking at womens clothes and accessories. Men just don’t care much about decorating.
While grocery shopping I spent 10 minutes agonizing over if I should buy the Fresh Linen or the Outdoor Breeze dryer sheets! Who knew they came in flavors?
Further down the aisle I noticed a sale on scented candles… 10 more minutes gone which I spent sniffing…Now I know why gals can spend 2 hours buying one little thing… I will never complain again!
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I understand. Its as if new senses have opened up that you never knew you had. All of a sudden it has to be the right item to compliment all the other things you like. Who knew style, color, and coordination could be so beautiful and soothing. Men certainly don’t get it at all. Have fun shopping! Its a female thing to do.
Thanks Megan for this: another really tricky one! I’m certainly more in touch with the feminine within me as each day goes by: but I think it was always there and it’s only now I’m giving it permission to come out. As someone else said I think sometimes it’s about allowing oneself to express ones creativity and emotion and that is perhaps easier the more certain you are about your feminine side. I’ve seen seismic shifts in my sexuality down to finding myself fussing and worrying about what I’m good to wear days before a zoom meeting!
Hugs Gabby
Yes it does for those who want to be as good as they can. The brain is re tuning itself to see things from a females perspective. You realise that your male tendencies do not fit and start to look at how women do things, such as you have observed, but also mannerisms, chat and much more. Your brain has to make those changes so in effect is feminising itself.
Agree. I can relate to everything you’ve experienced. Being on hormones takes it to another level entirely.
Thank you, Megan, for starting this discussion.
Although I took the yes option, perhaps I should not really be surprised at what happened. I have for some years had a degree of discomfort with my gender identity, but it has never been enough to remotely threaten my wellbeing. I was also always unconfutable with masculine pursuits. My late wife allowed me to dress to a limited extent and that was a valuable safety valve. I was any event very fortunate in many ways.
After her passing I took the decision that I wished to adopt the female role in my own private space only. I had no wish especially at that time to deal with drama and conflict going public. As I live alone, I probably spend over 80% of my time as a woman. The only time extended time I spend as a male is during family holidays.
The thing that has surprised me is the extent of the relief that most of time I no longer have to be masculine, and I can enjoy my growing femininity. I would prefer to be totally female, but I have a very good compromise that avoids unwanted conflict in my life, and I am not going to try and fix what is not broken. I do however socialise as a woman online and enjoy the experience although I am cautious in this.
I have noticed that I am very much at peace in a domestic role, I am retired, that I can now adopt a traditional female role and that I now have a strong desire to become more passive in my relationship with others. This carries over to when I am outside and officially in a male role.
Megan
Yes it’s a strange phenomenon how we girls look at things differently now. Not through tough masculine eyes, but more caring, gentle encouraging eyes. Stay sweet and positive
Hugs GingerInteresting that this topic pops up today! As many of you know, I am a transitioned trans woman, and I have to say, it’s almost like I’ve had a brain transplant! The people I work with say they can’t even remember what I used to be like because I’ve changed so much. I was told by several female co workers that “You’ve become so much like a woman, and obviously comfortable as one, that’s how we see you now.”
Wow! Talk about unexpected! My world has been involuntarily changed, and I have to say, very much for the better! I would never go back to my life before transitioning!Big hugs girls, big hugs,
Ms. Lauren M
Megan,
I voted for response #3. If I search my soul, I find that something inside led me to crossdressing. Rather than crossdressing leading me to some form of womanhood. It was there before I slipped on my older sister’s nightgown that very first time. It’s there now.
Fifty years ago, transgender wasn’t a thing, but I’ll have to say, that I was never “all male”. I don’t feel like a woman trapped in a man’s body, but rather a 50/50, or maybe, honestly, 40/60 female/male mix. Although sometimes the mix may be 60/40 female/male, or even 90/10 or 10/90, depending on god-knows-what. And the proportions are never separated, but instead, it’s like they’ve been thrown in a blender.
So, whether I’m just underdressed in panties, or fully en femme, I have the feelings of both parts.
I wonder how many of you experience your femininity this way.
Much love,
RaquelHi Megan, great question!
I voted yes, only because there wasn’t anything stronger (like Definitely yes!). 😉
As I’ve become more femme over the years, I have definitely noticed a change in my attitude, my behavior, how I view the world and other people, etc. I believe (I hope) that I’ve become a better person as I’ve become a better woman.
Hugs,
Holly
Megan, quite a few years back I lost my wife of over thirty years to cancer. She knew about but hated Genivieve. After recovering somewhat from the loss, Genivieve was allowed to express herself in a way that previously had not been possible. During this time I went from wanting to look as feminine as possible, to wanting to not only look but BE as much a woman as possible when presenting as Genivieve. Many things about the way I thought and reacted to the world around me changed as that part of me came out. Because of that change in my thinking, Genivieve had so many wonderful female experiences as a result!
Genivieve 💋
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