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      Lily-Rose Nielsen
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      Registered On: November 2, 2020
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      So true. When I joined CDH I was so insecure of myself that my profile picture was rather heavy redacted. I was wearing a wig and I didn’t dare showing myself “natural”. Now I’m out publicly every day, I haven’t worn male clothes for weeks. And you can see new photos on my profile section for photos. They are straight from the camera exactly as the were taken.

      Lots of Hugs

      Lily-Rose

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      Bettylou Cox
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      Truer words were never spoken,Gabriela. A relative newbie to the world of CD, I actually did post my first photo….’TAin’t pretty! I have definitely made progress, though I still don’t look nearly as good as you lovely ladies tell me I do (but thank you, anyway).

      Hugs,
      Bettylou

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        Grace Scarlett
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        okay Bettylou….then I’m not going to say how lovely you are anymore…even though you are lovely !!!…..

        Whispers –  damn, did I say that out loud….I bet she heard me….haha

        Grace ❤️❤️

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          Bettylou Cox
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          Grace, dear,

          A girl my age has to take compliments with a grain of salt, lest she forget she IS a girl my age, and do something foolish. Nevertheless, they are morale boosters.

          Hugs,
          Bettylou

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      Marie Chandler
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      Amen, sister!

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      Stephanie Scott
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      Registered On: February 8, 2021
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      Gabriela,

      Great message!

      Sadly, unlike GGs (and a number of folks here), I have very little raw material to work with, no matter how much advice or practice I were to get! 😂 😆 😝 (And it ain’t much!).

      Steph

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      Rozalyne Richards
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      Registered On: March 10, 2018
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      Hi Gabriella, mine is definitely a working progress there is so much i have to work on, i have to work on my voice, my make-up, my walk, i could be the sister to the bride of frankenstein,

      Also i have to work on my courage to walk out of the door now and again xxxxx

      Hugs Rozalyne x

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      Layla Jones
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      Well said everyone is at a different place with different skills wants and needs and no matter how well you dress or express yourself there’s always something new to learn and I no ill never stop. The hard part is how to word honest constructive help to offer help and not come across as mean or even take that constructive criticism well when the heels on the other foot. Layla x

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      Heather Jameson
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      That hit’s the nail on the head Gabby. I remember some of my early attempts especially with makeup, kind of a cross between the bride of Frankenstein and a really scary hooker. Thankfully the 70’s and the 80’s, a time before digital photography, lack of evidence, nothing to see here. As I just said in another post I replied to, we are all here to support and help each other. There’s enough people in this world that still don’t like us so we have to stick together and help each other. Just remember what Thumper’s mom told him, if you can’t sat something nice, then say nothing at all.

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        Grace Scarlett
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        Heather…

        “a cross between the bride of Frankenstein and a really scary hooker”…….

        Thank you heather, that’s just made my day 😂😂😂😂.

        Grace x

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          Heather Jameson
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          You like that one Gracie, funny but true. lol

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      Rayna (was Dala) Carlian
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      Yes!!! 100% sister!!

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      stephanie plumb
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      So true Gabriella. I don’t post public pics for privacy reasons, not because I am afraid of negative feedback.  I do take pics though, for self assessment as confirmation of how my look – but above all – my confidence has grown.  And to better assess how different styles suit me.  For whatever reason a photo seems to “tell the truth” more than the “magic mirror” does, as it captures a moment in time that can be reflected upon later.

      The issue with posted photo’s is that repliers always tell you what they think you want to hear, and don’t want to offend, so bite their tongue, when sometimes some honest feedback might be welcomed.  We all make mistakes and are blind to them,  so some honest criticism could be helpful. I have seen many a photo and thought “if only she had smiled, she would have looked so much better.”  I never say it though. Is it a form of dishonesty to pretend you like someone’s look?

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      Regine Rich
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      So true, Gabriella, Myself, I have posted my pics from the first day I fully dressed, and while I know they are atrocious, no one has said a thing, and I am PROUD of them, because it shows to me, I had the courage to begin, and my progress throughout.
      This site is all about affirmation and support, not condemnation
      Love you all,
      Hugs, Regi👩💕

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      Val’sheril Starsong
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      Honestly, one of the things I can genuinely say I’m proud of about this sisterhood is I can’t recall seeing a single negative comment on a photo. I think we encompass all steps on this shared journey, and each of us truly relates to how much effort goes into even our meager beginnings. I’m glad we can all be here to see, and to help, each other truly blossom.

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      Eva Kelly
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      Comparing ourselves to others is a trap we often fall into and it breeds discouragement. Be nice to ourselves and practice. Enjoy the journey!

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      Grace Scarlett
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      Gabriela.

      You are so right!!!…

      I would hope that nobody is here to criticise…just advise. It takes a lot of ooomph to post your first pics and from that day on, confidence grows and self esteem grows as you master your look. I expect not many of us would say we are the finished article.

      Looking back, we all started somewhere, and most of us have progressed to where we are now, with lots of discarded pics along the way!!!….

      if you post a pic on here, by all means look to improve….but mainly just be proud that you did !!!!

      Well done,

      grace in progress ❤️

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        MelanieElizabeth
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        I can’t agree with you more Grace. Just posting a picture here takes courage be proud of yourself. Most of us are works in progress and I haven’t seen anyone ever post a negative word about someone’s appearance. We are here to support each other.

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      Polly Stewart
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      Registered On: January 2, 2021
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      Gorgeous Gabriella

      Ohh, I so, so agree! I blanch when I review old photos of me in a pink bobbed wig! Gawd… ewyewwww

      With the help of my amazing wife I have been able to improve myself to a point that I pass at even a short distance. However, without HRT and other stuff all I can do is refine my clothing style and range, practice my femme voice, refine my makeup and moisturising regime and a host of other femme things…

      A lot still to do but what fun doing them!

      Love Polly

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