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I dont want to get every body mad for what I am going to say we only can fool our bodies in looks and hormones who we want to be the big question is that we can’t have feelings like a real women because our DNA is a MAN this is your building blocks of who you realy are your mine set and feelings is a man thinking witch we cannot change because your male side will fight against your female side and your DNA side will win. I just hope that every body isn’t mad at me I am just telling the truth about it how it realy is.
Dennis, this is not a note of anger or criticism. I think your point is well taken. However, your target of being “fully women” implies a very narrow point for the definition of womanhood. It does not give cis women the benefit of being broad and fluid in their gender characteristics, emotions, and expressions. In reality there is a very broad target for us to aim for and be successful in hitting. Luv, Mary
Hi Dennis,
If I understand you correctly, you might enjoy a CDH article I wrote a few months ago, “Cofirming Your Female Identity In Public.”
Speaking only for myself, when I go in public, if someone asks me if I am a man or woman, I always answer “yes.” I am a heterosexual man who enjoys occasionally expressing the female extension of my personality.
Peggy Sue
I have knowing doctors who wanted to be other sex and when they fully transition there male side fought against the female side for 9 years then they toke there own life if you dont fully transition you will be what you want to be fully transition is agents GOD no mater how you cut it
Dennis;
I’ve seen this statement before, and there’s a world of difference between the tone this takes and reality. Most TG people who transition do not choose to de-transition (by a very very large majority). The only group I hear saying this as justification are typically evangelists and generally uninformed individuals. Please go and talk to your local medical associations and mental health specialists to confirm this, and don’t take my word for it. One person does not make a case for everyone.
We all have to live with the consequences of our decisions. I can say having seen people who have struggled for decades to behave as they “should have”; I feel that any group that tries to shame and convince people that they shouldn’t be their authentic selves to be selfish, and ultimately as harming to society and themselves as a common thug. The damage done to some of these people is senseless and is a life wasted or half lived, if they don’t end it early.
Support people in living their *BEST* life as they see fit, and the outcome for everyone will be better.
If you’re finding yourself in conflict between these two viewpoints, please get some professional help; I say this because we’re are a support group, and if you’re feeling this pain, we won’t be enough.
If you’re trying to tell us how wrong we are, then please accept that I very much hold an opposing opinion and am as entitled to this opinion as I believe you are to yours. All rights end when we try to force others to behave according to our opinions. Faith is a simply a shared opinion.-Molly
Dennis
What life had dealt us is unfortunately natural to being male and we must accept that but this is certainly not true to where thoughts maybe bubbling in our minds of what we may need to be. A battle between what we are and how we feel inside to actually be who we are and always to be feeling we were ment to be all along. Stop the fight and filter out your feelings and look for happiness in your heart. Don’t fight it embrace your femininity, and look for what makes you happy. Best to you in finding your paths moving forward.
Stephanie 🌷
Hi Dennis, I tend to agree with Mary Francis. In my lifetime (I am 67) I have known cis women who range from girly girls to full blown Alphas. The cis Alpha female most often had beta males as partners. I feel that men and women both share the same set of emotions with some being stronger depending on the Alpha or beta inclination. I was on a hormone patch and my “girly” emotions were really at the surface. There in I think is the answer. Males and females at a very early age are taught what emotions are acceptable and when those constraints are removed from either sex anything is possible. Best wishes….. Stephanie
Hi Dennis
If you were to say
“I believe fully transitioning is against God” I would be very happy to accept your opinion the same way I accept the multitude of diverse opinions I have encountered in my life. Expressing an opinion or a personal belief that is different than mine is fine. No problem. But to tell everyone that “fully transitioning is against God no matter how you slice it” just doesn’t feel like an opinion. It feels like you are informing all of us of a fact that we were somehow deficient in knowing. I take issue with that. It would be just as unpalatable to me if someone were to say “you gotta be in my religion or you’re going to hell”. Pretty much the same attitude. I am willing to respect your beliefs as long as you respect ours.Autumn
I am not telling you what to do I am just saying how the consequent are your choice
Ha! I may technically still be “a man” in your eyes, but I sure have had some fantastic times being — and feeling — as much like a woman as could be!
The problem has been that I adopted thinking like yours and for too long stayed in a life that the current younger generation would never put up with. We need to learn from them as well as our foresisters.
By the way, my name is Dawn!
Dennis,
I wouldn’t presume to speak for everyone, but I subscribe to the medical school of thought which says that everything within us (both physical and mental) is about chemistry. And though that Y chromosome has a profound effect on us, it isn’t the all in all. That chemistry is complicated, and varies over time.In one respect, you are correct, Not even surgery and hormone injections can make us into what we label cis-females. But at the functional, emotional level, we can be every bit as feminine as a natural-born girls – not to say that we all reach that level.
For myself, I was always a misfit in male society, and even though I had a satisfactory life in the role of husband and father, I think of myself as a woman at the social level.
No offense taken; I’m just expressing a different point of view.
Bettylou
Hi Dennis Initially I did take offense. Then I read again. You like all of us are here for one reason or another. I believe you are questioning your gender identity as so many here. That is a good thing and you should if you have any doubts about the sex you were born and the gender you most identify. Why i Identify with the female gender? I am just not educated enough to give you a answer today. I do want to understand. I think we all do. Most of us have spent a life time rejecting and denying those feminine feelings because we were told we were not suppose to have them. We are proof…… please read. Most of us were born the male sex. Most of us defiantly have very feminine feelings about our clothing and how we want the world to see us . We are trying to learn what we have been told not to learn in fact we have been shamed and made to feel guilty for wanting to learn and express it. Your comments may have had a big impact in the past, Today’s technology has allowed all of us to connect with each other. We are united when it comes to our thoughts and feelings concerning our gender identity. We all understand your last comment about telling us “how it really is’. we were given what you were given that male privilege it is just not going to work here. Luv Stephanie
Dennis – I really admire the restraint shown by all the other comments above. But I’m just going to say it. I’m over sixty years old, and I’ve seen and lived around people like you my whole life. I gave up on organized religion at some point in high school when I realized it was really about economic advantage, not God. I have my own beliefs about God, and I don’t feel any need to explain them to anyone else, nor to convince anyone that I’m right. But if you’re going to go around telling others that you know what is and is not approved by God, well brother (sister?) you’re not going to get any slack from me. Your kind of narrow minded attitudes have caused more damage and more wars and more pain in the world than any of us can quantify. I really believe you should take your opinions back to the right wing evangelical BS web site you came from and leave us the hell alone.
Mikey
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