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Registered On: April 8, 2020Topics: 56Replies: 244Has thanked: 6627 timesBeen thanked: 1949 timesIn another thread, a CDH member suggested that if a person does not have breasts to fill a bra, then wearing a bra is a fetish. My first pushback was that I just like wearing a bra, even with no breasts, and that wearing a bra does not eroticize me. The only function of my bras are to make me happy.
Then I had to think about it. Is there a subconscious sexual titillation in putting on a bra? As the day goes on, I tend to forget I am wearing a bra, but when I am conscious of it, I enjoy the hug it gives me. But fetish? I do not know about that.
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Registered On: December 25, 2022Topics: 4Replies: 366Has thanked: 442 timesBeen thanked: 1175 timesWho cares. If you like it, wear it. Have you seen how young people dress today. I swear, they dress every morning in the dark and just pick up and put on whatever is easiest.
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Having no breasts myself, I find bras so pretty and love the hug they give me through the day,feeling the straps across my back. For me it’s no fetish, just the beautiful feeling of being able to wear something so pretty under my usual man drab. Underneath feeling that pretty hug retains my sense of femininity and makes me smile
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- Registered On: January 2, 2023Topics: 0Replies: 419Has thanked: 642 timesBeen thanked: 1474 times
As I said on a prior forum, when I put on panties, I feel playful, when I put on a bra , I feel totally like a woman. No other article of clothing has this effect on me.
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- Registered On: September 24, 2021Topics: 27Replies: 342Has thanked: 2303 timesBeen thanked: 2022 times
wearing a brand new bra this morning and it just feels great, thats about all the thought I put into it. Just pure enjoyment.
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- Registered On: April 22, 2023Topics: 16Replies: 982Has thanked: 3517 timesBeen thanked: 2408 times
I am wearing a new bra, today, too. My wife is working overtime, so I have been able to dress, too.
At first, I thought that the bra’s cups were too close together for my chest, but when I look now, things look more natural. First impressions are not always correct.
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To me I’d say it’s fetish, I don’t need one to wear as a male. Once I put one on with my forms then it changes me into the women I am at that point. And I am a bra lover/collector, I’d hate to even guess how many I have!! I buy every chance I get!
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Without it my breast forms keep falling off. Joking aside I think it emphasizes the whole experience.Having matching knickers(I hate the word panties) completes the look.Although I
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- Registered On: September 20, 2020Topics: 3Replies: 166Has thanked: 666 timesBeen thanked: 915 times
I don’t really care what the reason I wear one is . All I know is I love bra’s or in my case mostly bralettes and I enjoy wearing them as often as possible. End of story
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Very well said Natalie
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Having recently been caught dressed by my DADT SO…. I can honestly say for me wearing a bra is a function. OK, except for some days when I wear a bralette, nighttime is when I have worn a bra with my forms inserted for years. Until the “ooops day”, I also slept fully femme
On her “instruction”, the week or two when I tried to “abstain” from all things femme, was sheer hell. Catherine Louise Ryan is a large part of my being and when she is forced into hiding, my world is not a happy place.
Now I’m back to 50/50 (have to make my male gear look “worn” ) and surviving…..Hopefully things will change for the better as time rolls on. But right now…
Slowly does it…
Caty.
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I’ve waited some time to see others take on this matter.
As the OP Cece X you do realise that a fetish is not by any means exclusively a sexual or erotic state?
You may like to clarify your question.
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- Registered On: September 13, 2019Topics: 13Replies: 1110Has thanked: 1 timeBeen thanked: 4696 times
I like wearing hats. Sometimes they serve a purpose like keeping the sun out of my eyes, but I wear them on cloudy days as well. Is it a fetish because I wear a hat when I don’t need too? I wear a bra when I don’T need to as well. Does that make it a fetish? I don’t think so. Mt wife wear sexy lingerie when we go out on dates knowing we will end up intimate. Is she wearing it because it is a fetish, or because she looks and feels sexy voth for herself and me?
Bra wearing can certainly be a fetish, but just wearung one does not make it a fetish. Si, as many have said, it can be both. I absolutely love the sexy, sensous and sexual nature of bras and all lingerie, but I also just enjoy wearing just like I like wearing my hat.
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It does if you check out the definition of fetish and find that it is not exclusively a sexual matter. For a dictionary or thesaurus type definition Miriam Webster gets it spot on. Many other accredited sources agree.
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- Registered On: September 13, 2019Topics: 13Replies: 1110Has thanked: 1 timeBeen thanked: 4696 times
fetish
noun
an object regarded with awe as being the embodiment or habitation of a potent spirit or as having magical
any object, idea, etc., eliciting unquestioning reverence, respect, or devotion:to make a fetish of high grades.
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Most of your quotes have not worked so unable to respond properly. Interestingly from what I can see of your post accredited research will bring up many more options including levels of attachment to an object.
When there are no breasts or forms to be held in place, the wearing of a bra does not perform any function other than one of the variations of fetishism. That is using the word properly and considering it’s development all the way from it’s general emergence in the 17th century.
Quite incredible how most people immediately associate it with sexual connotations when it originated from black magic or religion lol
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- Registered On: April 22, 2023Topics: 16Replies: 982Has thanked: 3517 timesBeen thanked: 2408 times
“When there are no breasts or forms to be held in place, the wearing of a bra does not perform any function other than one of the variations of fetishism. ” Kay
Certain bras which have a firm enough form can give the wearer a shape that they wouldn’t have except by wearing the bra. If firm enough, it wouldn’t matter if there are breast forms in the bra or not. The bra itself is enough to gain a new shape. It can be subtle, too.
Breast forms make me sweaty, so I have done this a few times.
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I edited my ppst so I hope it is easier to read. I am not sure why it posted as it did since I thought I cleaned up up in the first place. I just chose one of the internet dictionary for its definitions, not doubt there are many more.
My point is just because somerhing can have a sexual aspect and theredore be a fetish by some definitions, it can just as easily not. Wearing a bra can be no different then wearing a shirt. Just because we don’t have breasts doesn’t make wear one a fetish, though wear one can ceetainly be a fetish.
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Can’t agree. A garment is worn for a functional or a non functional reason. Most women will tel you that about bras. 100% of non function and some aspects of function spin off as fetish and that’s where it gets murky and isnt black and white.
My final point to you is that leaving aside any sexual element you like wearing a bra and wear one for that reason. Fair enough nothing wrong with that at all. However it is by definition a fetish due to (without going deep) a ritual or a desire.
Ive no idea why people buck against the label fetish. It’s a very old and useful description if nothing else.
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I still disagree.Just because you wear so.ethi g that you don’t need does not make it a fwtish. By dedinition thrèe it has a sexual, erotic or arousal nature. Since the first two dedinitions do not apply, it comes down to number three. While for.many it does have that aspect, for.many it does not and is therefore not a fetish. Now, if there is so.e other defunition I am.not aware of, plrase enlighten me, but as for the standard definitions listed above and in the context I am using, weari g a bra may noy be a fetish, just as wearing a short or hat for reasons other then their standard purpose is not a fetish.
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Oh come on. Disagree all you want but I’ve already given you a lead in a previous post as to the definition of fetish and a reference source.
Sorry but your argument is fundamentally flawed as you insist on sticking with a sexual connotation as the definition of fetish. Very very basic research (not just grabbing the first google answer that suits lol) will show that is totally incorrect. Most of what you are saying is entirely subjective as opposed to researched objective.
As a good example for you someone can have a fetish for silence. Doesn’t mean they’re getting all turned on by silence, it means in simple terms that they like it, want it and aquire it.
Early use of the definition of fetish referred to worship of inanimate objects by certain groups, not to have an orgy or disappear off to the bathroom.
A bit like putting on a bra when there’s nothing to hold or shape but you like it. No problem but when people don’t understand the basics how can we develop and continue our journey?
I’m out of here on this subject, all been said barr one point no one has picked up on that would add a condition to my assertions xx
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To be perfectly honest, I do not have any idea what tour point is. The OP was asking about bras as a fetish in an erotic and/or sexual nature, and I and others have responded that it does not have to be that if you just enjoy wearing on just like wearing a hat. To be sure there are other definitions of fetish that I addressed earlier and that you elude to, but rhey do not apply since most do not worship their bra, nor idolize them, so the other definitions are moot.
I am obciously missing some point, but for the life of me I can not figure out what it is. I feel I have addressed the three common definitions from several sources, but no doubt there are other less used definitions that I have not come across in my several web searches, and I do not have access the definitive Oxford Old English dictionary.
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It is probably a little of both. I have had at least and A cup if not a B cup most of my life. So wearing a bra makes me feel more pulled together and it feels like my shirts look better on me when the girls are in control. However, there is another side of me that just loves wearing a bra. My wife can’t grasp that side of it. For her bras are a necessity. For me part necessity and part enjoyment. Now that we are empty nesters I wear a bra most of the time, except for when I am at work in the office. On work from home days you bet I have one on. And there is a good chance I have on a skirt also.
Thanks,
Tracy
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Interesting question. I didn’t start dressing until later in life. It started out with me thinking “fetish” but quickly turned into much more. I knew the first time that I put on a bra that I wanted to fill it as naturally as I could. I started researching and found Naturaful, whose claim was to promote mammary cell growth. I also paired it with the natural supplements of fenugreek and saw palmetto. Amazingly, I must have been receptive to something because I began to develop breasts. I can now respectfully fill a C cup and love it! I’ve always had a fundamental effeminate nature and the bra definitely helps me achieve a feeling that I love. Almost like one woman talked about the anxiety jacket for dogs. When I put a bra on, I get a wave of calmness that blankets me. So, I believe, for me, it is function over fetish.
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Fetish? Nope – a bra is a big part of my existence as Holly. Function? Not really – I have “pecs” but not really breasts. I am waiting for the delivery of some breast forms – in the meantime I just stuff my bra (pairs of socks don’t look too bad with the right bra!) and envy those GGs who don’t need to… By the way: A Cups are the cutest and most beautiful possible! Holly XXX
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Both for me
As far as holding the non existent boulders I have they serve no purpose but marking me feel fem and happy they achieve this purpose. I buy A cup ones and slowing trying to grow to fill them, do not want any bigger than that though and don’t use forms
As far as fetish goes then yes. Dressing in a part is a fetish for me to be honest as I love sexy lingerie on women and I guess I’d like to replicate that
Emily x
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I fill my bras pretty well. I actually just like wearing them. Keeps the girls up and much more comfortable really. Problem is I can only wear them during certain times. Don’t ask, don’t tell. Don’t let me see anything.
I have also found the more I wear a bra and the longer I do, the less it is about sex. I still feel “good” wearing it. I work from home so I don’t “dress” up and under a T-shirt I like wearing one.
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I am a trans woman, I transitioned almost two years ago now, so I live in my bras. The only time I’m not wearing my bra is in the shower. I recently found out that I am actually an intersex female, which explains a lot of things I’ve gone through during my life, one being that I’ve never felt any sensual gratification wearing feminine clothing. When wearing what I always felt were my clothes, I was always at peace and felt completely calm.
The gratification I feel, when dressed each day, is the great delight and sheer joy of finally being able to live as the woman I’ve always known I was since early childhood.Hugs girls, big hugs,
Ms. Lauren M
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A fetish? Not in my case. Wearing a bra is the only way to support my forms that give me look of that part of the female anatomy that I’ve always loved. At my age, I get no sexual satisfaction from female breasts, yet I still enjoy seeing them and snuggling up to them (my wife’s). Actually, I am more comforted by them than anything. Anyway, I couldn’t feel as though I were truly cross dressed without wearing a bra of one kind or another.
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Function: I need it to support and enhance my forms.
Fetish: I love the way I look and feel with a bra on.
That is not to say a bra is the only garment that offers support. I have other pieces of lingerie that can support and enhance my chest. I also have dresses and tank tops with built in support. I love the way I feel in any supportive garment.
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I do have moobs and the one bra I have makes them feel so good! But I enjoy the feel anyway. It’s not a fetish, just like I don’t feel my Crossdressing is a fetish. It’s much deeper than a fetish
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I think it’s not just one or the other.
Fetish – mmmmm I certainly feel a rush as I fasten mine, and I love the glimpse of my breasts as I put on my makeup.
Function – dresses are made to accommodate breasts and look odd without them.
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Hi CeCe, well, I would guess it could be for some and not for others, or partially for some and mostly for others, or the reverse. If what’s being suggested in your original post is the case, I suppose wearing stockings could be considered fetishistic, panties, shaping undergarments, heels, a wig, cosmetics. I mean, I do see an awful lot of GG walking around in jeans and a top and flats. Who knows what’s under all that. Since those used to be strictly or mostly for males, are they now getting into the fetish domain? I see guys walking around in jeans and tees, and who knows what’s under all that. Maybe wearing suits and ties (think SUITS, iykwim) nowadays where it’s not required could be considered a little bit of a fetish.
For me, at age 4 or 5 (which is the earliest I can fully remember, which strongly suggests my inner desires were most likely even before that), I seriously doubt I wanted to be a girl so I could wear undergarments that would provide me with erotic feelings. When I wear a bra I pretty much use my inserts, but there are times when I wear my smaller bra because I do have some development and I don’t want to use the inserts. Maybe it’s because the less I have to do to ‘rearrange’ my body, but still add on the outer accoutrements of feminine attire, the more I feel…like myself.
But that’s me, ymmv.
Hugs, ChloëC
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For me there certainly is a lot of thrill and arousal when I put on feminine garments and that’s part of what makes it really fun. Bras are symbolic of breasts and I have a deep desire to have breasts so fastening on a pretty bra fulfills a lot of that desire. How much of that is sexual and how much that matters I don’t know. I wonder if I were to dress more often and more casually if the arousal would go down. As it is I have to be so careful about where and when I dress that there is a lot of adrenaline involved and I never have a chance to be truly calm. And either way, arousal doesn’t invalidate my dressing or my desire to have the body of a woman.
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I know what you mean about the arousal feelings. I’m the same way and even after a lifetime of crossdressing the arousal is still there. Have I ever hoped it would go away? Not really. A big part of my enjoyment is the arousal. But for you maybe it will get less in time especially if you start to dress more for the enjoyment of dressing and being your girl self. I think we are all wired differently and sometimes our wiring is fixed. :)
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- Registered On: November 27, 2019Topics: 1Replies: 89Has thanked: 668 timesBeen thanked: 369 times
I wear a bra with forms as I do not have enough of me to fill the cups. I do wish I had my own breasts to allow me to wear a bra to hug them. I love the feeling of a bra band holding me snuggly and the feeling it gives me. The straps that assist in keeping my forms in position feel wonderful to me. My wife wears a underwired bra and will always sigh when removing her bra. Then she puts a wireless bra on for sleeping in. I like many other dressers wear wireless bras all the time as my male body is just a bit wide to wear a wired bra. I do wish I had my own breasts to wear some styles of bra. I feel it would be heaven
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Maybe it is an age thing, but I can’t ever remember being aroused by crossdressing, but I understand that there are those who do.
Fetish: a form of sexual desire in which gratification is strongly linked to a particular object or activity or a part of the body other than the sexual organs.
That is not why I dress.
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Couldn’t be further wrong. A fetish is not neccesarily sexual. Check your reference sources.
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I wear a bra for my breast forms and to be my new identity. With out a bra or forms I just feel weird and my outside does not match my inside. So a bra for me is normal and just a part of the clothes that I wear for my female gender.
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Hi new to this CD Heaven. Bra wearer forever. I feel it makes me more feminine. Wouldn’t consider going without a bra and forms. Never a fetish, just what I love to wear.
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Some can fetishize the femininity. I feel that most of us here wear our bras as a true sign of being feminine. Men and women in general have components of the wardrobes that are common. The one thing that sets it all apart is the bra. For me personally, it sets me free.
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Fetish seems to indicate that it has a sexual attraction/result when wearing it. Some CDs probably have that reaction just as many do with nylons, garter belts, etc. Sort of like the old definition of transvestite…”a male who dresses in female clothing in order to achieve sexual gratification.” But I don’t think wearing a bra in itself is a fetish. It is a desire or a need to feel feminine, or look feminine. Sort of depends on the person and the reason for wearing it. From what you say it doesn’t seem like a fetish. :)
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Again terminology corrupted.
To hold a fetish is not neccesarily a sexual urge. There are so many on here who presume it is and they are incorrect. A quick look on any decent reference source shows that particularly in the context of my comment and the question posed, it can be described as an object of worship, fixation or rite. As in my post and without any mention of a sexual link.
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I live 24/7 as a woman and a bra w/forms is necessary for me to present as a woman. I wear one all day, every day and the fact that I enjoy doing so does not make it a fetish.
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Hey Cece
As is so often the case I find myself completely in agreement with Melodee on this one. It’s a spectrum rather than a binary choice; not necessarily a case of fetish / function (tick one box only) but more of a broad church. Wearing a bra might have a different significance for different people, and it might vary over time for one individual.
In my case it just feels completely natural to wear one, all day every day. At this point I’d feel naked without it.
I’ve always used forms but am actually thinking of dropping sizes and just going for something that accentuates my natural small boobs. My sister / spirit animal Tracey is an A cup and has always looked fabulous :)
Hugs
Ellie x
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I wear one every day and I don’t feel that it’s a fetish. It just makes me happy!:)
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Ill preface my answer with an anti anxiety medical aid for anxious dogs. Its a tight fitting vest that fits over their chest / waist and calms them down.
I personally find the tightness of the bra is like a anti anxiety vest in its side effect on my mind.
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I know a few GG’s that are naturally small breasted that still wear bras. My boobs are bigger and I struggle to fill a B cup. Would it be considered a fetish for them?
I don’t think so.
I prefer the look of a C or bigger when dressed but I feel more comfortable and happy in a bralette than I do in a bra over a C.
I don’t consider it a fetish as I’m more comfortable (physically and mentally) when wearing a bralette.
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I don’t know, some just seem to over analyze everything, but to each their own. I myself feel maybe it is both, I do enjoy wearing a bra. I like the way it fills out my top or dress I put on in the morning. When I don’t have to work I dress first thing in the morning and stay dressed all day. I don’t go out dressed, I would never pass no amount of make-up would be able to cover this mug of mine…… LOL Hats off to all of you that can pass, the last time I did go out in public was a halloween party, my x-wife didn’t go but she helped me with my make-up. Would have liked to tell her how much I enjoyed it, but she would not have been the right one to tell.
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It seems to me that, like most things, there’s a spectrum. Your statement implies that it must be entirely one thing, or mutually exclusively entirely another, and moreso, that it would be the same for everyone.
It possible that for some people, in some part of their journey it starts out as mostly fetish, but along their path it transitions into more function. It’s entirely possible that some view it simply as part of being feminine, and there’s little to no sexual aspect at all.
As I would suggest with any part of this topic, it’s totally normal to try and see where it is you fall on any given spectrum, but once you find that point (or even vague notion of it) it becomes more a matter of accepting that. “This is how I feel this topic applies to me, and I’m OK with that.”
It is here you will find the happiness you seek. ;)
– M
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Himmm, I used to have natural, firm and perky breasts. I wore a bra to reduce pointys and rubbing my nipples raw. Later as I aged, my breasts began to flatten and sag. I thought that my body shape looked awful as a result. So now I still wear a bra daily but mostly it is to give me back my old shape. My clothes fit nicely and I don’t look like I’m a million years old. I don’t think about it much but just feel happy when I see myself in the mirror. Each day the bra goes on and each night the bra goes off. For me, it’s as simple as that. Marg
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I would say yes and no. Since I am presenting as a woman 24/7 except at my main job and I prefer the look of ‘real breasts’, for that I need my bra. So if that is a fetish wouldn’t lacy, colorful panties also be a fetish??
So for me I don’t care if it is a fetish.
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I’ve been dressing in stockings, pantyhose, heels, dresses and bras since I was 4. Back then I think it was a fascination. I enjoyed the feelings and experience of wearing those things.
As I got more into my teens, I could see where those things became more of a fetish. I love the thrill, excitement and rush of it, including the erotic aspects which at times could be very intense and often gave me the nerve, courage and desire to go out femme.
The feelings and appearance of having sexy legs in pantyhose, heels and teeny shorts, breasts in a bra and pretty hair could be very powerful and intense.
No question that I felt similar. Very young it was a curiosity and, as you said, fascination. But hitting puberty with this fascination and actually starting to experiment with wearing, especially underwear/lingerie, it hit me like a volcano. Later on when I could more analyze it as an adult I’ve always felt it was at least borderline fetish because those intense feelings have never waned. I’m sure there are many like us. :)
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I have gynecomastia which gives me some sort of breasts that start to fill a bra. I don’t need to wear a bra but I prefer to since they give my breasts the female definition that I desire. For me, a bra is also affirming since it is a uniquely feminine clothing article. I do like pretty, lacy bras which I wear for me to feel sexy as a woman!
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I’ve been dressing in stockings, pantyhose, heels, dresses and bras since I was 4. Back then I think it was a fascination. I enjoyed the feelings and experience of wearing those things.
As I got more into my teens, I could see where those things became more of a fetish. I love the thrill, excitement and rush of it, including the erotic aspects which at times could be very intense and often gave me the nerve, courage and desire to go out femme.
The feelings and appearance of having sexy legs in pantyhose, heels and teeny shorts, breasts in a bra and pretty hair could be very powerful and intense.
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Well I wear a bralette daily and enjoy it. I have bras I use with my forms when fully dressed and bralettes for without them. I find that it’s just part of my routine to put my bralettes on in the morning and like others have said I enjoy the feeling of it around me. So as I don’t have natural breasts to fill out a bra does that make it a fetish? At the end of the day I feel the need to wear one so whatever it is I enjoy them.
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“pushback” what on earth does that mean? You simply replied to me you didn’t push a thing. Your reasoning was actually single source agreement, stereotypical and definitely not a strong counter to the points I made. In fact one comment bordered on potentially offensive after you clearly stating that some members of our community do not understand why we dress.Id suggest that applies strongly to yourself if anyone!!! I can assure you after more than half a century of cross dressing and contact with others, I for one am as clear as anyone can be on the reasons and respect all as imdividuals.
It’s clearly weighing heavily on your mind as you have chosen to reinvigorate the debate after already making your point, that suggests you see an element of truth in what I said.
If you have no breasts and are not wearing breastforms, wearing a bra is an exercise in fetishism or exhibitionism as it has no other function. I stand by my comments.
That’s not to say there is anything wrong with fetishism, most crossdressers early on go through a phase of arousal when dressed aka one aspect of fetish dressing. Some leave it behimd, some don’t. It can be very satisfying, great fun and makes people happy .
The flip of the coin is non fetish cross dressing. I’m wearing some very femme patterned leggings, a pink stripe t shirt. Knickers as underwear which happen to be lacey. All required clothing in styles and colours that are comfortable and aesthetically pleasing as well as being an excellent outfit for today. Most full or near full time girls follow the same line, it’s not all sequins and mac makeup.
You are at least in part, by your own description a fetishistic cross dresser. Nothing at all wrong with that as I said earlier.Just dont be so defensive and a little clearer analysis of the written word wouldn’t go amiss which could mean you’d not feel the need to seek affirmation for your pov by regurgitating the debate,which was incidentally well covered (I’ve just had a good look through it) .
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Call it what you will, different reasons for different folks. Seems a lot over thinking. I wear one because it makes me feel good, sometimes sexy, sometimes just a more feminine feeling.
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I too enjoy wearing one it reinforces my feminine feelings about myself. It just part of the ritual for me, to let Roberta come out. It has never bothered me to wear one but I tend to buy good quality. Putting on a bra with my forms attached to me is such a wonderful feeling.
So, definitely not a fetish.
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Agreed 100% breast forms mean wearing a bra is not for fetishistic reasons.
The poster seemed, on the original to be almost offended that there was any hint of fetishism wearing an empty bra.
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