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      For the last few months, I’ve really tried to push the boundaries. I’ve really felt more comfortable with my look, my mannerisms,  even my voice. Trust me, I’ve been putting the wrench time in more than I ever have..  Being Jeri, has never been more fun.  Like most of you, I dress every chance I get.  With the kids grown, and the wife passing a few years ago, not much stops me.  I just got bored of dressing up and staying inside.  It was just getting stale. So I figured, the night time works for me.  Lately I’ve enjoyed driving (plenty far from home) to other towns in full dress.  Hit drive through lanes, even bought a hotel room or two.  Really proud of myself for having the guts to do it.  I’m the shy, quiet kid… but the rush is real.    Now I took full advantage of Halloween, and hit the ultimate… Walked a Mall with a couple girlfriends.  Got plenty of looks, not sure if good or bad. But no one said a word. Thinking it was only because they were all in costumes.   So……. the fear of a big crowd, I was petrified.  But I marched right through it. So glad I chose flats over heals. We walked a ton.

      Now a week goes by, and I ask Linsday to go to Wal-Mart to try it there. She’s digging it and helps me get ready.   I’m not in that store 5 minutes and I realize that I made the wrong decision.   A group of high school kids kept harassing me, mocked me through the whole store, even all the way to the car. I’m not a someone who cries. I would have rather them followed me to sporting goods, so I could have introduced them to the aluminum bat selection.   It still hurts a couple days later.  I keep looking at the closet.  Just wondering… where do I go from here?  I know it shouldn’t be a gamebreaker….  but I can’t get that feeling out of my mind.   You ladies ever hit this bump? I’d love to hear your thoughts and recommendations.

    • #779392
      Angela Booth
      Hostess

      Pushing the boundaries has drawbacks, as you have found. You do not say if Lindsay is a real girl or dresser like you. I had the odd call out years ago but this drove me to get my look right and was lucky to have GG’s for support so everything became easier as I evolved. Take the knock as experience and push yourself forward.

    • #779415
      Anonymous

      Jerri, I have never had anything like that happen to me. Kids can be jerks, I know, I taught high school for 34 years. I just try to be confident in who I am, you will probably never see these kids again. Going out can be such a rewarding experience, please don’t let this one unfortunate incident stop you from being who you are. I try to blend in when I go out, I also only dress when out of town. Keep being you girl.

    • #779424

      Jerri,There are small minded and just plain obnoxious people out there,dont let them get to you.Three weeks ago in Fry s food store I was walking down the aisle and some rude, entitled ,wanna be macho male walked directly in front of me and smirked at me.It surprised and angered for a moment then I considered the source…..him,not me.You keep on being the lady you are and enjoy your femininety.YOU GO GIRL.

    • #779446

      Was there something about your presentation that you think attracted BS from the crazies? It isn’t about passing per se, but sometimes a random factor being off will kill the Benefit of the Doubt.

    • #779453
      Lynne Eden
      Editor

      Hi Jerri,

      I had a very similar experience when I first ventured out in the city in the mid-Nineties.
      At the time, being of little experience, I was not dressed convincingly at all.
      As I walked along the crowded avenue people more studiously avoided looking at me, compared to the odd looks that I got.

      Of a sudden, and I’m sure that they must have been young men riding in the back of a pick-up truck, I heard a shouting and hollering from behind me. “Look at the tranny! Look at the tranny!” This being accompanied by wild yells and whoops. I didn’t dare to look behind me, although they must have been crawling the kerb. I eventually managed to shake them off by going into one of the stores and staying in there for a lengthy period of time.

      As you can imagine, this did shake me up but at the time I had a lot to learn. It was also a very different day and age.

      All in all though I really liked the feeling of being in the city wearing a short skirt outfit so I was not going to let that incident stop me.

      I go out a lot dressed female these days and think I make a good presentation and fit in well.

      During the summer, I took note of how a lot of the men dress for going into town; grubby ill-fitting shorts, greasy ballcap etc. and no-one pays them any mind.

      It is definitely always best to maintain situational awareness and keep your guard up though.

      Something else that I would like to add is that High School kids can be very cruel so, although it is easy for me to say, try not to take it personal.

      Aurora Lynnette

    • #779458
      Lynne Eden
      Editor

      Hi Jerri,

      Another thought is, how many of those High School kids are actually gay, trans or have tried on their sisters’ clothing? Chances are, in every crowd there are a few.

      Aurora Lynnette

    • #779470
      Roberta Broussard
      Duchess - Annual

      Well, you now have that experience behind you. Not likely it will ever happen again. Chances are even better that you’ll never see those kids again. Makes you feel sorry for the kids they pick on at their school. Because you know that they do that too.

    • #779515

      I’ve been out many times in rural communities outside of my own.   No women are in skirts or dresses.  I dress in jeans or tights with a loose top or flannel shirt to match most other women.  No heals.  Mostly tennis shoes or boots in the winter.  With the wig and makeup I’ve only had two curious looks.  But I haven’t ventured out in hot weather where lighter clothes would be required.

    • #779530
      Anonymous

      Honestly, I have never had any such experience in the more than 13 years since I first began going out. Not even at walmart. Maybe it was just a really an unfortunate event, not likely to happen again.

    • #779542
      Fiona Black
      Baroness - Annual

      Jerri,

      Sorry to hear about your bad experience. I’ve been out over 300+ times and have never had a bad experience. If you dress to blend in in might be worth it to review your clothing choice, makeup and mannerisms to see if there is something that really stood out that caught their attention.

    • #779680
      Harriette
      Lady

      Walmart? A crossdresser would be one of the least persons to stand out.

      The closest that I came to a similar experience was walking in a new pair of flat, leather, summer sandals to a local mall, to pick up my first wedge shoes. I had tested the sandals at home and they seemed OK. By the time that I got to the store, my feet were blistered badly. Fortunately, the light coloured wedges fit, as I had to wear them to walk to a drug store at the other end of the mall, to buy some moleskin for my blistered walk home. The shoes are still bloodstained.

      Walking through the mall, a small bunch of teenaged boys saw me and snickered as I passed them, but that was it. They didn’t follow or harass me.

      In Walmart, it would have been good if you tried to get help from a clerk on the floor. If nothing else, s/he could have called for security. When it comes to your own security, don’t be afraid to ask others for assistance.

      Chin up. The chances of something similar happening again are slim, based on the
      experience of others here, especially if you dress to blend in.

    • #779455
      Lynne Eden
      Editor

      Hi Micki,

      I agree with your choice of venues and is good advice for all of us.

      Aurora Lynnette

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