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Hi ladies,
I finally cracked this afternoon. My wife and I had been discussing this for some time. I posted about the initial conversation a while ago, I wasn’t super happy with the concept at the time and we shelved it for quite a while but it came back up last week and started the wheels turning in my head. I definitely wasn’t ready then and I’m not sure I was ready for it today but it seemed like time to rip off the band-aid. My wife left on a trip for a few days, leaving our youngest daughter at home (18). Since she has her own suite I got dressed and made up and then got back to work but the opportunity was nagging at me. It was all done by text since my daughter is a bit ‘conversation phobic’, I figured this was easiest for her. Also, I wasn’t quite prepared to reveal Abbie in the flesh and it didn’t seem right to come out if I was in drab. Anyway, her response was this:
“I support u (thumbs up emoji) welcome to the rainbow club” — she came out as LGBTQ last year. Her response is pretty much exactly what I thought she’d say.
I don’t feel a whole lot freer than I did before but I’m guessing it will take time. So I guess, I’m sharing this for some perspective and to let others know it can be OK sometimes to let the cat out of the bag.
Congrats to everyone who’s come out to someone and I’m rooting for those that hope to get there someday!
Thanks for reading!
— Abbie 🥰😘
Congrats Abbie for coming out to daughter. Glad things went well. That one less load have to carry no more.
Hugs
Donna
Happy for you, Abbie! I came out to my adult (middle) stepson last year – solely because he lives with us and I was tired of hiding my painted toenails from him! He took it great, said it was my house and should do what I want. In the last year he has seen “Geena” fully dressed a few times and hasn’t batted an eye! It is such a relief for me each time after coming out to those FEW people I have! Again, happy for you girl!!
Hugs, Geena 😊😊
Wow, that’s great to hear Geena. I always assume boys are less receptive to gender bending than girls but it seems to be opening up lately. Thanks and congrats! Hugs
— Abbie 😘
That’s Great Abbie!!
Hopefully you will begin to feel freer as you spend more time around your daughter. Im sure you probably still have reservations about telling her. Maybe this will help you become more confident around her and more confident that her acceptance is real.Chelly
Thanks Chelly,
I’m hoping so. This might take a few weeks to process. I don’t know how people do it all at once, I mean come out to everyone at the same time.
— Abbie 🥰
You have a terrific young lady there, Abbie!! What an absolutely incredible, affirming response!!!
I hope my daughter and her bride-to-be will accept me just as well. We’re going to their wedding next week, but I won’t come out to them until the end of the year.
Thanks Brielle,
and congrats to your daughter! It sounds like you’re set up for a good reception when you do tell her.
— Abbie 🥰
It’s really something isn’t it? We hold it in , twist ourselves in knots, get our undies in a bundle and then, and then when we make the big reveal, it’s just like you experienced. Kind of, “ho hum, good for you, no big surprise, yeah, I kinda thought so, I’m with you on this, ok I gotta go help my boyfriend with his nails”. Kids these days. Sheesh!
; ) Miss C
Exactly.
Being ready for the ‘flood’ following a reveal to close family and friends just does not prepare you for the ease with which a lot of them accept us.
My Aunt Kathy helped mom with both my sister and I until I was about 2, and she has been extraordinarily close to sis and I all our lives. When that fateful day came and sis and I went to tell her about Paula and step out of the family closet, I was in no way prepared for her response.
Her words hit me like I never expected. “Well, it’s about time you said something. I’ve been waiting for a long time. Now sit down and I want to know EVERYTHING.”
So, so much better than the next several friends and family I told. She and my sis stayed right behind me as many relatives as they could.
Treasure the family who know Abbie, and let them see what wonderful person you are.
PaulaF
That’s amazing Paula,
I’m hoping someone will want to know everything at some point.
— Abbie 🥰
I’ve come out to close friends and my sisters. I’m out to the public and the DJ world but none of my extended family are in those circles. I received immediate acceptance from my chosen circle. The feeling was euphoric and so much easier than I thought.
I’m glad you made the move. Life will be much easier now that you’re not hiding.
❤
Beth
The DJ world? Beth, do you go clubbing or are you a DJ?
and Thanks!
— Abbie 🥰
Congrats, Abbie!!!!
After thirty years in the closest, for many reasons including FEAR, I told all five of my kids plus spouses. There were a lot of questions, but way more acceptance, support, and love. They ALL were happy for me, knowing I was happy and whole. Quite a few “evolved” friends as well as my condo neighbors were told at all. They too were very supportive and accepting.The young folks today are so tolerant and accepting. Because of them, I have hope that in the future people will only become more accepting.
So, be proud of your authentic self, step into the light where you feel safe and comfortable – and have FUN’
Hugs
JulesWonderful news, Abbie! It must be such a relief. And kudos to your daughter, first for being brave and out, herself, and second for embracing you for coming out. 🥰 It really warms my ❤️, every time I hear news like this.
Much love,
Raquel
Thanks Raquel,
that was the effect I was hoping to have by sharing it. People don’t get enough good news these days.
— Abbie 🥰
Abbie
Well done you and what a lovely response.
Love Sarah
xx
I do view it as a win even though it wasn’t the most comfortable situation and still remains a bit awkward as I’m still not 100% comfortable being dressed around anyone yet.
Those phones eh? There’s always the ‘recently deleted’ photo album too where things sit after you think you’ve gotten rid of them. These kind of traps were the reason I finally had to come out, it was going to happen one way or another and I figured I might as well control how it happens.
— Abbie 🥰
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