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      DeeAnn Hopings
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      Thanks DeeAnn, I’m just really getting nervous now. Im sure she read the email since she’s giving me these weird looks and doesn’t want to talk much to me. I’m starting to get worried.

      Given the significance of coming out, it can take a while for people to process this new information. There are also a lot of incorrect notions that people have in lieu of the truth. Also, maybe she doesn’t know how to respond or is afraid to say anything. This is a big deal, without question…

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      Emily
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      Well done you for taking that brave step! Best of luck for the outcome. If nothing else, at now you know she knows. What she does with the information is out of your hands.

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      Alina
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      Take care it will get better

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      Heather Harrison
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      That is so courageous and good luck!

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      Robin Snow
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      Hi Jessica,

      Good luck!  I hope all goes well!

      Hugs,

      Robin

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      DeeAnn Hopings
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      Hey everyone, Thanks so much for the support and the kind words. I can’t even begin to say how great it feels to be encouraged by everyone.

      I haven’t heard anything yet from my mom. I’m not sure she’s seen the email yet since she doesn’t always check her email. I know she was going to tonight though for something unrelated and might see it. Though I don’t know if she’ll acknowledge it one way or the other. I don’t want to outright ask if she read it and possibly set off an issue, but I am feeling more and more nervous as the time passes. I’m like a kid waiting for Santa.

      I’ll be sure to let everyone know once I know.

      The coming out process is never an easy thing, but it is a necessary thing. What is important is that when you take the initiative, as you did, you “hold the narrative”. In this case what it means is that you get to tell YOUR Story in YOUR Way. You get to tell where things sit for you, what you feel and what you think may happen going forward. It is a very different situation from being caught and outed. Then it is more about damage control and less about what you feel and need.

      Even though it may feel quite stressful while you are waiting to have The Conversation, it was the right thing to do. Also, in one way or another, the majority of us have been there, so we understand…

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        Thanks DeeAnn, I’m just really getting nervous now. Im sure she read the email since she’s giving me these weird looks and doesn’t want to talk much to me. I’m starting to get worried.

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      Stephanie Green
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      Wishing you all the best, Jessica.

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      Bobbi
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      Good luck!  I hope your mom embraces Jessica.  🙂

       

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      Hey everyone, Thanks so much for the support and the kind words. I can’t even begin to say how great it feels to be encouraged by everyone.

      I haven’t heard anything yet from my mom. I’m not sure she’s seen the email yet since she doesn’t always check her email. I know she was going to tonight though for something unrelated and might see it. Though I don’t know if she’ll acknowledge it one way or the other. I don’t want to outright ask if she read it and possibly set off an issue, but I am feeling more and more nervous as the time passes. I’m like a kid waiting for Santa.

      I’ll be sure to let everyone know once I know.

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      Alina
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      Or resetting the start, as I am.

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    • #386443
      DeeAnn Hopings
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      However long the journey, it ALWAYS begins with the first step…

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        Yep, and that first step is the hardest to take.

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      Dani CD
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      Good luck Jessica, we are all thinking of you. Dani👩🏻‍🔧xoxo

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        Thanks, I’m hoping I can give everyone good news soon.

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      Hi Jessica! Wow, congrats and good luck hon.  I hope that you receive a positive response but want to add, dont feel discouraged if that doesn’t happen right away… my own mom was cool about it initially but it took her a couple months to really start to come to acceptance.  Wishing you the best dear 😊

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        Thanks, I’m just hoping she’s cool with it. I mean if she never wants to see Jessica then so be it, but as long as she’s ok with me doing it means a lot.

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      Samantha Roarke
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      Late to the party….But good luck sweets! As always we’re pulling for you!!

      -SR-

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        Thanks Samantha, everyone’s support means so much to me. If it wasn’t for everyone here I would never have found the courage to tell her. Now I’m just waiting to see what happens. I don’t even know if she read the email yet since she doesn’t always check her email.

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      Alina
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      I still have 1 brother nd sister who do not know.

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        Neat, so far my one classmate knew before I sent the email to my mom.

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      Well done, you brave girl you!   No point in being scared now is there?  The girl is out of the closet. It takes a lot to stop a mom from loving her children.  And you never know, she might have suspected so the news won’t be such a surprise.

      When our daughter started with “Mum, dad, I have got something to tell you ……  ”    I guess we suspected what was coming ,…    “I’m gay.”      We looked at each and smiled  “Ohhh….  that’s okay.” And it was, neither of us was shocked, or angry, or disappointed – not one little bit.  There had been subliminal clues for some time, and moodiness/self harming until she finally got it out. A big relief for all of us.

      I guess whatever happens it will be a big relief for you too.

      Stephanie p

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        Thanks Stephanie, yeah either way she’ll know. Good or bad I’ll just have to take what comes. Still nervous though.

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      Kathleen 60454
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      Jessica,

      Best of luck and luv for you. Hoped that everything turns out for the best for you.

      Kathleen

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        Thank you, I’m hoping it does too.

    • #386302
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      Two mornings ago 4 am I was out in my driveway for the first time, shirt over bra, mazi skirt over black half slip over black panties. Saw a neighbor cross the street went back inside, then said what am I doing and went back out, walked and stood there.  down the drive way to the street. No neighbor around.

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      • #386309
        Amanda Burton
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        Alina, they are probably all peeping out the corners of their curtains to admire you without you noticing sweetie.

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      Stevie Steiner
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      Wow, that is a big step Jessica.  Congratulations on that brave move.  I hope you gave yourself a pat on the back when you stopped shaking.  Dont just focus on the fear, but relish the freedom you are giving yourself too.  My hopes and prayers are with you hon!

      Stevie

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        Thanks Stevie.

    • #386299
      Seren
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      Good luck brave girl! I hope she’s able to accept and embrace the real you

      Seren xx

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        Thanks, I’m hoping she will too.

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      Patty Phose
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      Best wishes and good luck with that.

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        Thanks Patty.

    • #386284
      Alina
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      I took the leap with a brother and sister. Brother CD’d as a teen, working on getting him back.

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      Stephanie Bass
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      Hi Jessica good luck Girlfriend as like Paula i lost my mom before i told her she had another daughter Really wish i had built the courage like you have before she passed  .Anyhow good luck either way it goes your a winner and have a whole lot of girlfriends to back you up and support you . remember some of us girls have pretty broad shoulders to lay your head on and laugh or cry pm anytime

      Stephanie Bass

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        Thanks Stephanie, I’ll remember that.

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      This is awesome I always wished I had told my my mother before she had passed away

      I hope all turns out well XX Paula

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        Thanks Paula.

    • #386088
      K Swim
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      Wow. I know I was the one who guided you to this community, but you have now taken it much further than I probably ever will. I hope it turns out well for you.

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        Thanks, if it wasn’t for you, I would have never met everyone here. I’d still be in my shell so to speak. But thanks to everyone here, I’ve started coming out of it. I’m just hoping that I haven’t tried to fly when I can barely walk.

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          K Swim
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          Glad I could assist. Even though I haven’t told anyone about my secret life, I’m actually quite comfortable where I am, so don’t worry about passing me up in the act of coming out to others.

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    • #386087
      Diane Crow
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      Congratulations girl! We are all behind you! Cant wait to hear how it turns out but to be honest, it has already turned out great because you make this step. So regardless of how she takes it, you are so better for it!!

      Big Hugs

      Diane

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      • #386120
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        Thank you.

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    • #386086
      patty williams
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      Wow Jessica that is a huge step good for you girlfriend.

      Keep us posted .

      Hugs Patty

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        Thanks, I will.

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      Amanda Burton
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      Good luck Jessica sweetie, we are all behind you, and hope you get the result you heart desires.
      Congratulations on your courage, we’ve all got our fingers crossed sweetie.
      LOL Amanda X

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        Thanks, I’m hoping she’s ok with it.

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      PY Marshall
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      Jessica ,this was destined to happen ,be strong and i am quite shure that this has to be the natural step forward .Pyxx.

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        Thanks, I hope it is.

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      Tabitha Tee
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      Good luck, sweetie .

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        Thanks Tabitha.

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      Alina
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      I know the feeling I let 1 brother who CD, and 1 sister who is very supportive, so yes it was hard to ell them.

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        Yeah it really is, I worked on the email for weeks. Something was just telling me today was the day to send it off. I’m just really hoping it was a good idea.

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      Grace Scarlett
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      Best wishes Jessica…your poor heart must be pounding honey awaiting the news…I so hope it’s the rainbow you crave…..if it should be the storm, please please don’t bottle it all up and talk to us….the girls are here for YOU …..Grace xx

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        So do I, even if it’s the storm, I’m just hoping she won’t stop loving me.

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      Jessica.

      I hope all goes well for you hun.

      I am here. I remember when I told everyone at the family reunion. I thought I was going to faint. But Natasha stood her ground. All turned out just fine.

      Again if I can do anything. Do not hesitate to ask hun.

      Hugs

      Natasha💋

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        Thank you, I’m just really nervous she won’t want this.

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    • #386038
      Jessica Powers
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      We’re all behind you hun.  Best wishes

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        Thanks.

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      The best of luck to you Jessica.  I to am trying to figure out how to tell my mother.  She is in a care facility and has alzimers.  Some times she retains things in her head and sometimes not.  I feel I should tell her something since I have not had a hair cut in almost a year, recently had my hair colored and gotten my ears pierced.  She my miss a lot of what goes on around her but these things will be hard to miss.

      Once again good luck I hope all goes well between the two of you.         Sandy

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        Thanks, I hope you’re able to find a way to your mother.

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      Halle Riley
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      Good luck, Jessica! Let us know how it all goes!

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        Thanks, I will be sure to let everyone know.

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