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    Fiona-Ann Moss
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    hi girls! i’m in a kind of philosophical mood today. I was thinking about what to post today, whilst sitting in the car eating my lunch during dinner break at work. I got to thinking that there are many reasons why people dress femme. I feel this topic might come over as a little contraversal maybe? I dont know, but I figured three main reasons…..

    1. you just like womens clothes

    2. you are femme at heart like a woman stuck inside a mans body

    3. wearing womens clothes is like a kind of sexual thing, maybe a fetish or roleplay.

    ive no doubt, some people would argue that they are a mixture of all three or just two.

    I also got to thinking (its a wonder I actually have time to eat my dinner!) that most men sometime in their lives have worn a pair of their wifes panties, but would never admit it. I admit I have too, even when cross dressing was furthest from my mind, I simply had no underpants, so I made do with a pair of my wifes panties! go on girls, help me out with this one!

    love and kisses fiona xxx

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      I would say it started off as 1 and 3, now it is much more 1 and 2. Let’s face it, women have the best choice in clothes 😁 I know Amy is very much part of my psyche, but not enough to have gender dysphoria, I am content with being male, but I know my feminine side brings so much happiness to me, without Amy, there is definitely something missing

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      Martina Klarc
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      Definitely all 3 for me, it started when I was too young to even know the difference between men & women, I just knew at a very early age that I hated my clothes & wanted to dress like a girl. Fast track years later it lead to arousal but that was not the primary purpose. Fast track again to today I just feel totally at ease and happy when totally en femme & although I still may become “aroused” that is still not the primary purpose, I’m ok with being a man now but I love being a woman as much & often as possible !

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      Huggs6 Luv
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      I just like woman’s clothes

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      Its a blend of all three. I definitely like the feel of the clothing. Could be the fit or texture, even the shape the clothng gives my body.

      But the enjoyment of 1 is fueled by 2 and 3. Sometimes I just want to feel feminine. Other times I want to feel sexy and use it for sexual gratification or even just get it from the clothing.

      But I would prefer, and use to dress in womens clothing in private all the time even if its just yoga pants, a sports bra and panties. It just feels better. Good thing is in a couple months I will have that back.

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      Laura K Kay
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      2 all the way love to look fem on the outside to match my inside feelings.

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      Beth Green
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      I have gone through all three stages at various periods in my life. As a prepubescent boy it was 1. Too young to experience the sexual arousal but excited by the look and feel of feminine clothing. With puberty came 3. Wearing panties, nylons, girdles, bras, slips and dresses was a sexual turn on. This portion lasted for many years partially due to the closeting of the behavior and from not allowing emotional growth of my inner feelings.

      Now, with age and maturity, I have explored my inner self and found a wonderful woman in there! Now it is mostly 2 with a little 1 and 3 sometimes peeking out. But Beth is mostly interested in BEING a woman. The thoughts, how do I feel about this or that. The passions, as a woman am I excited or disgusted by a political or personal subject. The feelings, do I love or hate someone or something.

      Early on in my journey out of the closet I took a couple of tests to determine where I stand on the scale of male to female. I don’t have the links anymore but if you see tests like this they can be helpful and affirming. The first test was to determine what type of brain you have. I have a 75% female brain. This affirms my inner feelings, I am mostly female but still some male. The second test was to actually put me on a scale of male to female. If closer to male then I am cross dressing as a fetish. If closer to female then I may have dysphoria and need to seek further help. My results were 57% female, androgen class. I am slightly more feminine but not enough to warrant any changes, and I am accepting of my male body and wish to keep it. Keep enjoying cross dressing, it is a part of me.

      Sex? Beth is not interested, there is too much to learn and too much LIFE to live! The male part of me would like to have female companionship but it has been a long drought since the last girlfriend so it has become less important. The important part now is the growth and happiness of Beth.

      Beth

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      I would say I used to be 1 and 3 but since I decided to embrace my femininity and stop fighting loosing my masculinity I’m more 1 and 2. I love the feel of women’s clothes and always have, and also to find my inner woman

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      Very strongly number 2. Dressing isn’t anything fetishistic or sexual for me. It’s just who I am. I am a woman first and foremost.

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      I think I am a ‘3’.

      I love women but don’t want to be one.

      I find women’s clothing to be an incredible turn on – either on a woman or, occasionally, on myself. It developed whilst I was still at school where I was fascinated by pleated skirts and white blouses that hinted at a bra beneath. As I got older, I developed the confidence to buy some items of clothing – some of which I wore, but not all of the time.

      I think clothing can be incredibly sexual, especially lingerie and uniforms.

      I know I look terrible wearing them and have no desire to be seen although one day I would love to swim in a full swimsuit…!

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      I think that i am at least partly number 3 for sure. Until recently number 1 was more the curious side until i became single again. Ive started to buy a few things like panties and a bra, a couple of camisoles and today got my first yoga leggings. Ive found an excitement (not sexual) exploring womens clothing and fashion on amazon/online that i have never felt when looking for mens clothes. As the other half of me cant stand shopping for clothes I have begun to understand how fun it is for women to shop and the excitement of trying to find something that you like and can see yourself wearing. OMG i love shopping and browsing all the different styles and shapes and did i mention the ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 colors. Im getting dizzy just thinking about it

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      I am a number two. Still working through all the feelings.

      Eva

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      1 and 3 apply but depends on my mood which feels strongest.

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      For me its pretty much #1 , i have underdressed for years and have no desire to take it any further then to the point i am at now yes i would love to feel comfortable all day everyday and not wear 2 layers of clothes but there’s more to think of then just myself in my situation so for now i will take the couple hrs i get each night after everyone goes to bed to lounge comfortably.

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      i think i am a bit feminine, i think that is because i don’t like certain aspects of masculinity, and while i dont have any kind of physical dysphoria sometimes i hate my male brain, so wearing femme clothes (in lots of ways) makes me feel that i am closer to it.

      Sorry, that sounds mad.

      It is also sexual, but only in the sense that i think of myself as a girl when i’m with my wife – happily she does too.

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      interesting subject judging from all replies; for me in my “younger” days it was definitely  3, but now being a “mature woman”, it is just the pleasure to dress, go out and enjoy the female world

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      1,2,3 all xx

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      1            For sure.  The cloths are the best part.

      2            Need to think about this one for a bit. I have never thought of myself as a woman stuck in mans body.  I have read enough transgender stories, so I know this truly happens to some people at birth. I have never rebelled at having a man’s body.  I have a lot of complaints about it but don’t hate it. For me I have two people living in one vessel. In order to keep them both happy Chesley has to have her fair share of time on the outside.  The only time Chesley gets irritated about having to take time off is when she has on a great pair of nails.  She hates to give them up. Always the last thing to go.

      3            Definitely a sexual thing because it is sexy being in heels and long hair, although being Chesley does not always result in a sexual release. I often contemplate if the women we are ( have created ) is the woman we want to be with. Is it possible that some of this is a result of not finding this woman we are; so we create her and then spend time with her. As a male if I ever met the Chesley I know I would be in heaven. To heavy for a Friday night.   <!–[endif]–>🌹 💋

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      Oh, Fiona…

      #2, #1 in that order… Yep, I identify with womanhood and Yep, I just love women’s clothing! Love the heels and all the ‘stuff’ that goes along with the experience.
      I think I have been sitting on my alternate gender for such a long time And have had the freedom and the opportunity to bring it to the fore.

      #3 is for those exciting moments when the ‘red’ fog overcomes us both! That shall remain a quiet secret for the moment at any rate. ;D

      Woopee xxx Polly

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      Mostly 3 and 1. However, over the years I got an emotional (not sexual) thrill when I dressed and saw I made a fairly attractive woman. Once I started going out and passing it was and is such a thrill to be perceived and treated as a woman.

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      Hi Fiona,

      Yes I would say its all three but if I had to prioritize my list I would go this way.

      2, 3, then 1. I feel so sexy and feminine which makes me a happy girl.

      Love,
      Katey

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      For me it is a fluctuating mix of all three. Regarding #1, I do love the clothes and how for women they decide on a different look every day and present themselves as an object of art, rather than just grabbing a mix of shirts and pants from the work/formal/casual/sport categories. I love being able to create expressive looks from among the wardrobe items I have. And I must look hot; for me, that’s the point.

      One of my favorite things is when people I’ve come to know online address me as, Hey sexy. So #3 is a big part of it for me; that’s how it all began when I first tried on lingerie six years ago after a self identified str8 life. I just wanted to do it and the experience was literally breathtaking, I was almost weak from the intensity of each moment as my body appeared in a fishnet teddy and fishnet nylon stockings. I wished I had high heels to finish the look, and putting on the first pair of heels I bought several weeks later was another heart pounding moment. I may love the sensation of high heels most of all, and they made my legs look gorgeous (so I was told).

      As for #2 I never felt I wanted to be a woman but have felt and been told I wished I was born a woman. One of the most striking sensations on manifesting as a crossdresser was becoming the object of desire rather than chasing the desired. I don’t think I want to become a woman, but dressing as one feels very natural, and on my first date as Violet I felt very comfortable and actually confident. Dressing in stockings and high heels and a dress and opening the door to my gentleman caller felt very exciting and natural, and to be told my look was A+ was a real thrill. So I guess for me it is strongly 1 and a little bit 2 filtered always through 3.

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      I think it’s a mix of ask 3 a well.

      1. You just like womens clothes. I don’t just like them, I love them. Wider selections, better and more confortable materials. The only article I don’t like is shoes. But I, as Annaleigh, only have a few items to choose from at this time.

      2. You are femme at heart like a woman stuck inside a mans body. I would say Annaleigh is more an alter ego than anything, but she is gorgeous. Unfortunately, she is stuck in the body of an often injured male and therefore feels like she’s 80. Yes, I know I talk in the 3rd person, but it’s usual for me.

      3. Wearing womens clothes is like a kind of sexual thing, maybe a fetish or roleplay. I’m always aroused wearing anything feminine. Right now, I only have some bikini style panties from Hanes, a pair of black tights, and a black slip. But I’m so aroused, I feel I could explode. And while I wouldn’t go so far as to try to attract a male, I would want to go out en femme and see if I could attract a GG. I think that would be amazingly hot.

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      I would say I fall into the first category. Specifically, as I’ve been reading “Living with Crossdressing: Defining a New Normal” I would say I most identify with the “girl next door” type from the book. I just enjoy the clothing and make-up, working my darnedest to appear geniuenely like a woman, but not an over-sexualized version. Just the typical girl you’d see at the mall or headed out for dinner/drinks with her friends.

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      I believe I am a combination of 1 and 2. Definitely more 1 right now. But there are times that I feel #2.

      Gloria

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      Definitely a combination of 1 & 2. By birth I’m a male, so under the current situation as a male I’m bi, but if I could be dressed and live as a female 24/7 I would. I enjoy being naked with a man and if I am, I always wear my female under clothes. On a couple of occasions I’ve dressed and my friend went crazy. He loved it when I dressed for him and so did I.

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      Lily-Rose Nielsen
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      Hi

      I’m trans so I will definitely go for #2

      Hugs
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      Ladies, c’mon now. This is a family friendly site. The OP isnt asking for sexual experiences or fantasies. Please keep it between the lines here. Thanks.

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      Well It started out as a sexual kink, My first girlfriend had this thing for men dressed up for sex. Well that was fun and that fun kink slowly turned into a fetish.

      Overtime, I really started to really like the look, the cut, the feel of women’s clothing. Now I am what they call androgynous, what I mean I like to blend both genders together.

      That is where I pretty much stayed for the last 30 some years. I like to say I am the best Half man and half woman combo.

      This is my happy zone

      Hippie

      Edit/Updated On Tue 14:39 Dec 29 2020

      PS

      I forgot to say I am a combination of one and three. I am nowhere near a two. Don’t feel like a woman trapped in a man’s body at all

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      I’m a number 2 and a lot of number 3. I don’t think I could go near a guy when dressed in male clothes. I don’t think of myself as bi, but I guess that depends on how you view it. There’s a part of me that gives me a little thrill thinking of man on man sex, so I may eventually want to go there.

      Love Nicole

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      I’m WAY #1. A bit of #2 and a lot of #3.

      #1 for as long as I can remember, I’ve been jealous of women because they have so many other options for clothes. I love how skirts and dresses twirl and flounce. At a young age, I would find my Mom’s underwear and pantyhose and put them on and it made me feel so girly. That continued for a long time and I eventually tried some makeup and then realized THIS STUFF IS HARD TO GET OFF 🙂 I just think women get to have all of the fun in the clothing world and I wanted to be able to join in!

      #2 because I’m Bi. Not really fully Bi. It’s never happened but it is my ultimate fantasy (and will have to stay just a fantasy) to do that to a man while I’m dressed as a woman (extra fantasy points to have a GG with me and help). As a man, I’m not interested in kissing another man or doing other ‘stuff’. However, when I’m dressed as a woman, like other posts that I’ve read, I do think about being a guy’s girlfriend and just being a girly girl with him (kissing, hugging, cuddling, etc).

      #3 I get a lot of sexual pleasure from dressing up. You ladies can weigh in, but does it just become ‘normal’ at some point? I mean, I don’t know how I could tuck or use a gaff when I’m ‘excited’. Do you eventually, just dress up and be a girl or does it always stay sexually arousing?

      I’ve only been a member for 3 days, but what I’ve learned so far is that I’m not alone and that there are lots of other ladies that feel like I feel and that makes me happy.

      <kisses> tara 🙂

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        Tara,

        I’ve had similar feelings when dressed. I finally worked up the courage and had the opportunity to try it once. For me at least it was not a good experience. I neither enjoyed it nor was excited by doing it. But, I’m glad I did try so that I know what it is like. Best of luck on your continued journey and welcome.

         

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      This has to be the longest thread on this site and rightfully so. It’s a great topic!

      I’m a 1 & 2 combo with a little tiny bit of 3, tee tiny bit of 3.

      I shall explain the tiny bit portion due to the very recent experience I got to have. So when I was younger and single and dressing very frequently the sexual aspect all but disappeared. Dressing took on a whole new meaning. I just loved the clothes and feeling like a woman. I would spend my weekends en femme and most evenings the same. Occasionally it took on a sexual aspect but it was rare.

      I found a wonderful woman that I fell head over heels for and thought my dressing would go away so I threw out all my femme stuff , including those heels I fell over lol, and proceeded forward with our relationship. As time went on the urge to dress came back of course and I would fantasize about dressing around her and having sex with her while dressed.

      Well I came out to her recently and in an effort by her to work toward acceptance she has done a number of things to “test the waters”. One of those things was doing my makeup and letting me put a bra on at which time we started fooling around. We went through the preliminary part and tried to get to the primary part but I couldn’t perform. I was bothered by it as I thought it would be something so fantastic. Fast forward a couple more nights and she picked my bra and panties for me and same scenario. I took a break to try to calm myself a little and muster the needed confidence to continue and that’s when I realized the thing I loved so much was holding me back. My dressing. I had her take my bra off as I thought it might make me feel more feminine but once again nothing. So at this point I can only deduce that dressing isn’t the sexual thing I believed it to be.

      Do I love the clothes? Yes. Do I feel like a woman trapped in a man’s body sometimes ? Yes.  Is there a sexual aspect? Possibly but I have my doubts at the moment.

      Thanks

      Jessica

       

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      Andi Persephone
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      i would have to go with #1 and #2.

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      Henrietta Talmadge
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      Definitely 1 and 3. I love the way I look but for me it’s extremely important to look hot! While I don’t and am not sure I’d sleep in panties I would certainly sleep in a chemise or similar. Or a silky top and tap pants. I DO wish my wife were not just aware but leaned a bit bi-curious so I could find out how “convincing” I can be. Whether I should or shouldn’t I do visit sites frequented by bi and gay men to get a nice ego boost. I’ve found that pics of me in certain types of lingerie or clothing generate a lot of interest. While I’ve been curious about such things for much of my life I’ve made it this far without experimenting but I acknowledge that maybe I just haven’t met the right person.

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      Kathleen
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      All three please !

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      What an interesting question!

      In my case it would be a combination between #1 and #3.

      Regarding #1, it is almost funny how through the years I have become much more attracted to womens clothes, but also how my thinkings have changed. Let me explain… Some years ago I could watch a dress and basically think “it looks fine”. But know I would think something like “I would love to own and wear that dress and I would pair it with this heels”. It is amazing to think how my thinkings changed, and how I can think completely different to something like a dress.

      #3 is easier, as I accept that to me there is a sexual connotation to crossdress. To wear panties, a bra, a dress, gets me excited and easily leads me into my fantasies. But with all the excitement and thrilling I can also experience some guilt and shame feelings that other sisters shared here before.

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      I love to be bride femme girl. I am bride girl also I like tight skirt ,high heels.

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      1 and 2 for me.
      I would like to expand on #2 a bit. My mom lost a baby at birth a year before I was born. It was a girl. And I felt a strong desire to be a girl ever since I can remember. So I can not help but wonder if I don’t have a little bit of reincarnated spirit inside me. If this makes any sense.

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      I will make it a simple one since all these Girls have such great answers! But for me it’s all 3 and like 110% for all of them, I am addicted to anything female all day 24/7.

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      Well, I like women’s clothes but certainly as a sexual frisson. I love going out dressed-even now when I am anything but sexy-it makes me feel so naughty, so exposed, so risque.

      It makes all my senses so heightened, most especially my sexuality and, I suppose, that is what it mainly is- a sexual explosion of sensuality.

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        When Can I get back to the frisson of finds in charity shops, just before our last lockdown(UK) some were open again. Some hosiery, and in one, some Charnos half slips, so silky: Nicola bought five, £10.

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      Haley Ann
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      Wow! Long question, but an easy answer. For me, dressing has always had a sexual connotation, as my desire to feel femme was related to my sexual needs. As I accepted my bisexuality, dressing became a way to attract men, like myself, that would not considering hooking up with another man. But, a  girl with something extra was a different story. My first encounter with a CD was both fascinating and fantastic. And in my encounters, I prefer to play a very submissive and feminine role…probably not politically correct in today’s world, but then I really don’t care. I have a gentleman friend, my age, and he’s never seen me in drab, and never will. He treats me like a lady…and maybe sometimes I’m a little naughty as a result. I enjoy responding physically so much more when dressed. This girl knows how to have a good time😘 oh…so, #3🤣🤣

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        Henrietta Talmadge
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        GURL!!! I KNOW that song all too well! I don’t just love the way I feel with silky, smooth undergarments on I also love the way I look in them along with thigh highs or a chemise with just a hint of cheeks showing. I’ve always thought if I could combine my first wife and my current wife I could have an AMAZING sex life. Pretty sure wife number 1 would be not just good with me dressing up but would probably have gone for some serious role reversal. # 2 LOVES to shop for clothes, shoes and accessories.

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      Michelle Bailey
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      I suppose being honest with myself  I am in group I , but saying that I would love to live my live fully en femme 24/7 and be accepted as a woman , so what does that make me ?  Michelle  xx

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        Marian Andersen
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        Michelle, true for me as well.  Love the feeling of being a woman!

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    • #405916
      Jamie Kane
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      For me it’s 3. There’s a lot of guilt, shame and fear of being caught by doing something that is wrong. There’s that aspect and the aspect of I’m fascinated by the creative process a woman goes through to look the way she does.

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      • #406158
        Kimmie
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        Jamie,

        I totally understand the feelings of shame and guilt that you identify. I also feel the thrill of the “danger” of being caught. While I used quotes on danger, the risks CDs take are real. Those risks are there because many (most?) think being a CD is wrong. It might be wrong for them, but it isn’t for us. It is just different than them. Society needs to become more accepting of differences. I fear we’ve gone backward in that the last four years in the US, but hope springs eternal.

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    • #403961
      Sonia Pink
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      1. I’d say 1 and 3 for me , I love wearing woman’s clothes , they just feel comfortable and safe , and I’d say a lot of fantasies involve said clothes . But iam very happy just sat about in a dress .  Sonia xxx
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      Number 3 for me…well mostly. For me it is thrilling and exciting. I’m realizing that when I’m stressed or in a rut, that’s when the pink surges. A crunch or coping mechanism?  Not sure. With that being said. I’ve always felt the need to hide the fact that I’m feminine in a lot of ways. So I guess, part of option 2 also.

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    • #402507
      Dezi Dizazter
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      Mostly #3.  Some #1.

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      Joe Sanderson
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      I would say that I’m for sure a combination of #1 and #3. I simply love how comfortable things like dresses, skirts, even women’s jeans are more comfortable. But I also like lingerie and things like that. It’s a fun combo!

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    • #399138
      Bee Dee
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      Hi. Well… I’m definitely into lingerie, so there is a fetish aspect for me. My dressing started with lingerie and progressed to other clothes after a long and slow process over 20 years. I have never really felt comfortable in my life and have been depressed at various times. I can be a worrier and suffer from lack of sleep, self conscious and at times socialy awkward or at least that is how I think I come across. I don’t want to transition as I don’t feel like I’m in the wrong body but I’d be lying if I said I never fantasised about being a woman. I definitely feel more fem when I dress. I think it’s an escape from my life. Not that I have a bad life, because I don’t at all…but I’m someone who doesn’t talk about my feelings very easily, so its probably a stress relief for me. I did experiment with a guy when I was younger, before I met my wife, which I told her about when we got together but I would never want to be with a man. To be honest, I’ve had a fascination with female clothing but it’s only really started showing in the last few years. Since I’ve been wearing skirts and dresses, I love it. Just a lovely thing to do, very Liberating, comfortable and relaxing after the initial excitement dies down. So I’m a mix of 1 and 3. Thanks for reading.

      Take care, Bee.

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        Rachel
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        Hi Bee Dee those words are striaght from my heart so i thank you for wording so well.

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          Hi Rachel, you’re welcome!

          Take care, Bee.

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    • #399046
      Joanne Jackson
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      I’m a two, definitely a two, and a lot of one, of course.  No three for me. Man? I feel like a woman!  Always have, so the dressing is natural not sexual.

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    • #399040
      Robyn Devine
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      As someone who is artistic and creative, its a combination of 1 and 3 to varying degrees.

      1. Womens clothes allow me to express who I am in ways being a man in drab cannot.  All the colors and styles give me an unlimited palette of ways to express myself.

      2. I dont feel trapped in a mans body. Im a switch and enjoy my feminine side as much as my masculine side.

      3. Yes its a roleplay in a sense.  Being able to express myself and to allow my sexuality to come out in full. I definitely become more “sexual” but men in drab do nothing for me.  I much prefer a woman or men dressed in femme, its just sooo much more appealing and exciting!

      Robyn

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      Ellie Hope
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      Hi Fiona,

      For me, it is a mixture but predominantly, I feel like a girl in a man’s body, and the other two apply as well to a smaller extent. However, I do not think I suffer from gender dysphoria; my life has been good as a male, although that does seem to be changing lately.

      Looking back, if   I had grown up as a woman, I believe I would have been less prone to depression and more self confident with higher self esteem. Maybe that’s just “the grass is greener” thinking, I’m not sure.

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    • #398945
      Becca Booty
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      Em,

       

      I also am curious to be with a man while dressed in lingerie and heels. But not in man mode.

       

      Becca

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      for me its many thing I loved the first time I put panties ion and then wore  bra when I was alone and actually outside but no one knew I had one on I have tried on sisters panties and  bra and stepdaughters panties and bra and loved them both

      I actually wore my 1st wife bra which as big  and also now my 2nd wife since divorced and married again I do love her and loved 1st wife just fought too much with her and now have a woman that enjoys being with me but does no know I wear her bras or her daughters bra

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    • #397549
      Nicole Bellavita
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      For me it’s a combination of two things.  Primarily, it’s what/who I am inside.  Second, it feels SO good to ESCAPE my miserable male life and be someone else.

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    • #397415
      Rachel Cross
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      id say for me  its sort of a release of my male side. women seam to be more fun and able to do more things that as a man you would probably get laughed at. it all started for me when i got divorced after 25 years. i dated a few women and they all seamed to be alittle crazy or had some sort of hang ups. its hard to find a good looking woman in their 50’s that isnt already taken. i sort of alway had this bi side inside of me. so one halloween i decided i wanted to dress like a woman. i did and went out. i loved the feeling and reactions i got. after that it was like i cant find the kind of woman i want. so ill be the kind of woman i want. i work as a male all day and find it nice to go home and live my other life as a woman. its so much easier and relaxing. just fun to get away from my boring male life. besides, women have sexier clothes, shoes and can do just about anything a man can do. i havent bought any man clothes in about 20 years. but i can always find women clothes to buy. i like halloween, probably why i like dressing up too.

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        Kimmie
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        Rachel,

        I understand what you mean about becoming the woman you couldn’t find when you dress. That was, subconsciously for me, what I was doing when I started dressing as a young boy. I started around the time my relationship with the girl who lived next door changed. We had “played doctor” with each other frequently. She was a couple ears older than I and lost interest before I did. Looking back, I think the dressing started for me as a way of reviving our games in my mind.

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    • #397131
      Emily
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      Like most of the others I would have to say that I’m a bit of all three, although I’m mostly 1 & 3. I really love the way that women’s clothes feel and how they make me feel.  I love being able to express my femininity and really pamper myself. I’ve even noticed that my more masculine clothes have started to have a more feminine nature to them, as in skinny jeans, 2-3 in heel boots.  I’ve done it slowly so if anyone has noticed they certainly haven’t mentioned anything to me.  As much as I love dressing up I don’t ever want to transition so I don’t feel like a woman in a man’s body.  I have dreamt that I could “magically” be transformed into a full women, just to see what it would be like and be able to go out without having to hide the male side of me.  When I’m dressed as a guy and in full masculine mode, I don’t really think of men sexually in any way, I just don’t get turned on by men.  But at the same time when I’m Emily I would be lying if I said that I hadn’t thought about something a little more.

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        Rachel Lace
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        Emily,

        I couldn’t have said it any better than you. 1 and 3 have always felt right. I started stealing panties and lingerie when I was around 12. I just always loved the feel and look, also how sexy it made me feel.

        Although I wouldn’t change being a man, I’ve also dreamt what it would be like to be a woman and all the pleasures that come with it. The strangest thing is when I’m wearing lingerie I fantasize about things I normally wouldn’t think about.

        I don’t have the opportunities to wear much lingerie anymore but I miss it so much and thrill it brings.

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      • #398343
        Tammy Harolding
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        Emily you have saved me! I thought I was screwed up thinking of males when I was all dressed up, I do not think I would ever act on it, but you never know do you?

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        • #398744
          Emily
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          It’s kinda strange because normally I’m not attracted to men at all, but when I’m dressed up and Emily I get really curious what it would be like to be a fully real woman. In regular every day situations and absolutely in bed … I don’t think I would ever act on it because I would still have to find the man attractive and obviously ok with me being CD

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    • #396688
      Reese Fields
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      Like many others here, it’s a combination of them all.  The more I dive into myself, the more gender fluid I think I am. But With a wife and kids it’s too late to explore that. There’s certainly a sexual component about it. Mostly I just love being on the girls. When I’m in Reese mode, I pamper myself more. Bubble baths with aromatherapy, skin treatments, and a glass of chadonay.

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    • #396651
      Demy Ansar
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      OMG, if you’re not with her right now, can I have her name and address?? Pretty pleaaaaaaase? ;-D

      xx Demy

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    • #396649
      Demy Ansar
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      Hi Maya, I have to say your openness is amazing and you’ve worded it so well! It was a pleasure reading it.

      You ROCK, girl!!

      xx Demy

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    • #396640
      Abby M
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      I would say partly a sexual fetish but also that I like women’s clothing. That I feel like it helps me to relax and to get in touch with certain attributes that aren’t traditionally masculine. Grew up with toxic masculinity and I feel this is more true to my personality so it’s a different type of masculinity. I don’t really identify as a woman.

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      For me it’s more about the excitement, the relaxation I can get from wearing and feeling a tights hugging my leg or a bra feeling on my chest and a dress or skirt swishing around my legs but I don’t feel compelled to be a woman  sexually as having feelings for  another man but when I’m in my crossdressing mood i sometimes have felt an interest about a crossdressed man but it’s nothing sexual but it’s more than a feeling a would have on a man when I’m a guy. It just feels different that’s all i guess I don’t feel the same about a woman who isn’t dressed as a girl at the same time. Have you felt the same ?

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    • #393570
      Vanessa ?
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      I’m sort of a wacky hybrid with elements of all three options, I suppose.

      1. I definitely do enjoy how women’s clothes (particular skirts/dresses and leggings) feel when I’m wearing them! The flowy-ness of a skirt/dress is really nice, I honestly prefer skirts/dresses to pants (which I basically never wear if I can help it, until it gets down to around the mid-20s outside), or even shorts.  Even panties feel kinda nice, being all soft and smooth and silky compared to the plain generic fabric of my usual guy underwear.  It’s interesting how I am much more tolerant of tighter women’s clothing than I am of tight-fitting men’s clothing.  Something about the way tighter guy clothes feel when I’m in guy-mode is extremely unpleasant… but when I’m in girl-mode a top that hugs my chest a bit tighter so it looks like I have boobs is a plus rather than a minus.
      2. While I don’t feel full-on transgender (woman trapped in a man’s body) and have no plans on ever transitioning or even making Vanessa a full-time thing, it does seem like there is some degree of shift in personality when I’m dressed up and in full Vanessa-mode compared to my usual guy self.  I’ve described before that Vanessa and guy-me are both “part of me” but neither one encompasses my full identity.  Vanessa is typically a bit more confident than my usual self (sometimes a lot more confident depending on the situation), but also a bit less patient with other people, and quicker to get a little snarky with someone who’s being annoying haha.
      3. And yes there is definitely a sexual aspect to it.  I don’t typically get “turned on” just by the process of dressing up, but sometimes when I’m already in that kind of mood I want to dress up also… but sometimes not? It’s a bit odd.  Anyway… I have little to no interest in hooking up with men when I’m in guy-mode (I’ve done it in the past out of sheer curiosity but I’m pretty much done with that at this point, I know what I like and what I don’t like… and I know I don’t feel any attraction to men, despite having fun with them sometimes) but when I’m in girl-mode I get much more into that sort of thing, and will even go on dates with guys and such, though the guy has to understand and be okay with the fact that it’ll never be anything more than just a few dates and maybe some fun afterward — a relationship is not a possibility.  Along similar lines as the personality shift mentioned in #2, there’s a shift in what I’m comfortable with when I’m Vanessa — for example, I’d never kiss a guy when I was in guy-mode (the thought honestly grosses me out a bit) but Vanessa enjoys it quite a bit.
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      One and two for me.If a gender  therapist saw the hundreds of pairs of tights/ pantyhose I own they would suggest that I had a fetish.There might have been a sexual aapect to it when I was a child and teenager but my principal reason for dressing is to feel and act like a woman as much as I can.I love all clothes it’ not just about the hosiery.I am not the macho guy type who just seeks dressing as occasional therapyNothing wrong with that of course.Its just that .I want to be a woman even though I don’t come under the trans umbrella.

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      I dress  as a cd but only wearing panties and bras and my wife does not know I think that I do

      I think after so many yrs of cding I realize I am bi or gay and just enjoy wearing fem items under my clothes …. I considered it a fetish when I started but as I grew I realized I was gay and wanted to be female for some guy to love

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    • #393183
      Stephanie Roberts
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      I am a combination of 1 and 2. I love how women’s clothes feel. This then affirms my femininity.

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    • #393162
      Ambermaria Martinez
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      Omg definitely number 2 I always felt inside me that im a woman in a man’s body .never ever felt i was a boy growing up.

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      For me I am a 2 but and a 1 I just prefer the feel of woman’s clothing.

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    • #393103
      Rei Durden
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      You nailed it! A mix of all 3 with the percentage constantly fluctuating.

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    • #393043
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      For me it’s #1 but mostly #3. Wearing women’s clothing relaxes me. It gives me a sexual outlet and opens up my imagination to what it’s like to be the opposite gender.

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      I choose 1 and 3  . both them yes . xx

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    • #389284
      Amanda Woods
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      For me personally I think it is a mixture of the three, much love ladies

    • #389274
      Candice Fisher
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      I would say I’m a 2

    • #389257
      Beachingirl
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      I’m 2 for sure

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      Number two for me.   Pretty sure I’m not dysphoric. But when I put on womens’ clothes they fit my soul.

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      Leslie
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      For me the answer is easy – I have to!
      If you look the woman I admit it not just their great looks but it is their wardrobes that attract me. So much better than the best of men’s attire in any period of history. But historically I have been a jeans, shirt and trainers person. Though now I would most likely sell my soul for a new pair of pretty panties! The pink fog has me well and truly in its power!

    • #388658
      Sarah Du Hessisse
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      Hi everyone

      I am completely 1 and 2.

      I love women’s clothes so soft & relaxing, and Glamorous.

      I love dressing in them I just feel so relaxed & complete that nothing else matters, doing

      my make up and deciding what jewellery to wear. I don’t let anybody get into my head to be negative, no one knows my femme side so they never will. All you girls are great and not alone

      be positive.

    • #388571
      MichelleVictoriaDalston
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      Hi My experience is to some degree aligned with “the clothes maketh the man” though in my case it’s the hair make up nail polish and full feminine attire that almost give a sense of being someone else and that someone else is female with female thoughts and desires

      That said I could never fully transition as I am comfortable being a guy and nowadays find I am comfortable being a girl too

      I think of it like the left side of the brain controls the right of the body and vice versa and maybe a persons gender and sexuality can split the same way

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      Tammy Johnson
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      For me I’d definitely say #1 and #3.  In regards to #1, I just feel like there are so many more options in women’s clothing.  If I want to feel sexy, putting on a nice mini skirt, with stockings, a garter and thong panties, paired with a nice blouse and some boots.  If I’m feeling a bit lazy, then some women’s yoga pants and a tshirt feels great too and I still feel sexy.

      As for #3, it was definitely somewhat of a turn on when I snuck a few pairs of my cousins thong panties to wear at age 13.  I felt and looked sexy so it was obviously a turn on.  The fact that they were so comfortable was an added bonus and I’ve been wearing them ever since.  I think there is definitely a fetish aspect for me, as I have had past girlfriends that were very accepting and loved to dress me up in their clothes or buy outfits for  me specifically.  One in particular loved to dress me up, do my makeup and hair and was the first one to get me to go out publicly.  Unfortunately, with my wife I don’t know that she is there yet, she has to know with some of my thongs that they are female even though most of them are basic colors and no lace/bows etc.

    • #383817
      Sophie
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      For me it started as #2…when I was young

      later in life, it sometimes was #3

      now it’s mostly back to #2

       

      I don’t see myself ever transitioning…so, I consider myself some sort of gender fluid, still a man in most of my life but very much a girl when I choose to be, not just a guy who likes to wear girl clothes but a total girl. I have allowed myself to be a bit more feminine when I am in ‘man-mode’ and this has improved my overall mental health.

      I used to be insecure about the fact that I was a man who only weighs 120lbs, no chest hair and have girly bones but I don’t let that happen anymore. When I start to feel that way, I remember one of the many bullies who used to make me feel weak and bad and just say out loud “fuck that guy”

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    • #383621
      Maya Sol
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      I see myself as “custom made”. People like to make everything simple so the society declared a simple “type” of people and everyone should be belong to one of these “types”. But it’s not true in nature: people have complicated needs and fetishes.

      I’m a mixture of all, 1, 2 and 3, but I’m much more 1 and 3 then 2. I do dream to magically turned into a real woman, and I do started to do more femme moves, but it’s more to serve 1 and 3 then I really feel that I “trapped inside a man body”. I made my body to looks something between: I have natural long hair and it make me to look younger then my real age (close to 50! with my original dark brown long hair), I’m thin and I keep my body no hairy at all anywhere except my long hair. So more it’s more femme look, but on the other hand I don’t mind to have muscles. I have pretty shaved legs with muscles 🙂 So it’s more femme look but more a combination of both.

      As for clothes, I’m wearing my normal man clothes, recently more skinny and tight, but on the other hand I don’t feel comfortable wearing tight clothes, makeup and heels for more then a short time. Not from the look of it or what the other will say. I do look good in it and it make it horny, but I suffer that it’s too tights and the shoes hurt after short time. When I’m alone at home I do wear a dress, skirt, femme underwear, stockings, etc. Less then that I put a lipstick but I’m almost ALWAYS putting lipstick before a take a shower. When my wife is not around I’m ALWAYS go into bad with a femme clothes on. My wife knows but I’m proffering to sleep naked with her anyway 🙂

      As for sex: it’s a kind of fetish after all. That’s how I explained my wife more then 10 years ago when we started to date and I told her about my secret me after some time. She was the first one that I dated that I was exposed to her about my “secret femme life”. I neither told my ex wife nor my ex girlfriends. It do improved our sex at the beginning so I recommended to tell your partner! We are not doing it anymore, but more because two things: our relationship is not in is best lately so our sex is lately is more dry. The other reason for no femme clothes with sex: most women are not really like a femme partner, even these that tried sex with other women. Most will aceppt you and really be supportive to your needs, but for most women it’s ugly and not attractive at all. If you are very lucky your partner has a fetish for femme man! my dream partner! sadly my wife is very supportive and understands my needs, but as most women are thinking, it make me less attractive to her.

      More about sex and fetishes: I do need my CD fetish as I need food and sex! If I don’t have it then I’m nerves and hungry. I guess like drugs, and I’m not doing drugs, I keep my body healthy! Anyway, this is my natural addiction and I need it. When I have it then I less need it after, until I’m hungry for it again.

      Getting old: As I’m close to 50 now and I do need sex as before, but I feel that my CD fetish is less effecting now, but it’s hard to tell. I feel better to dress when my wife is not around, so in the past I was dreaming what I’ll do before that she went for a few days and I was crazy in hunger for the CD fetish feeding, but yesterday my wife went for a few days and while I do dressed, for some reason I less needed it and I was in more of the “OK, let’s feed it because I need it” mood then exploding like it always was in that situation.

      Getting old 2: Am I more in desire to be a women? more trapped inside a man body? Will I become gay? I still don’t know! I less think about the last one. Men are not attractive for me but I do like the fantasy of a man with muscles fuck me as a woman in brutality. In case of men, I hate hairy so much! even on myself. I do have a fantasy of a time travel machine that will allow me to meet me in different time in the past and then we all do a huge sex together 🙂 but you always feel natural with your body so it’s different. It’s just a good fantasy idea! Except for the hairy that I badly dislike, I don’t have any real feeling to other man. I do want to try gay sex one time, only because I feel that I need to try anything in life 🙂 I don’t feel hungry for it at all. Am I trapped inside a man body? I’m still not sure and I’m still not sure that in the future I’ll not turn into living as I trans somewhere full time dressing as a woman everywhere. I really don’t know yet.

    • #383610
      Evany Evans
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      For me, since I was 8 years old, I had mostly 1 inside me, yet as I matured and grew I found that today it’s mostly 2 that causes me to dress and controls my desire to dress. It grew from a simple curiosity to an absolute need over my life and I know now that Evany is a part of me indefinitely. I however have absolutely no regrets about letting her out and I’ll never ever look back to when it was just 1 that caused my feelings.

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    • #379530
      Christina Wiliams
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      Sadly a closet as my wife not willing so I hide underneath male clothes for some time now… but the lingerie I can wear most of the day I love so much … so am content to a point

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    • #375113
      Linda Summers
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      I wore for the first time when I was 30 form my ex wife,  always together with my desire to be a woman in bad as well.

      love lilnda

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    • #375080
      Jennifer Swanson
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      When I first started trying on panties as a 12 year old I loved the soft silky feeling.  Partially sexual but mostly the feminine feeling. As life progressed and children came I let all of that go.  I got back into panties 5 years ago.  A year ago wondered what it would be like to dress.  I bought a skirt, blouse, jacket shoes and a wig.  I went out to a pub and absolutely loved the feeling.  Maybe as a woman I felt much freer to express my emotions.  I had no interest in picking up anyone.  Now I have over 100 items from top to bottom.  My wife approves and helps with styles and makeup suggestions.  I spend my time at home dressed everyday.  I dress to go out if it’s some place special.  The greatest joy has been finding all of you ladies.  It makes me so happy I just want to laugh and cry at the same time.  Hugs to all of you.

    • #375064
      Lea
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      It’s complicated, lol. I think of the art tri-color wheel where every color can be made by a unique combo of red, green, blue. I think of myself like that…a combo of 1/2/3 and it varies slightly each week, and over the years.

    • #374888
      Diana W
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      As I’m adjusting to my new life as a cross dresser I’m beginning to figure things out a little more.  Number three is definitely not part of it.  I do not get a sexual thrill from wearing feminine clothes, even the panties.  I don’t get turned on from it at all.  This is something I can’t define.  It’s something I need.  Wearing a skirt or a dress just feels RIGHT.  I feel complete when I’m dressed en femme.  I definitely have a feminine side.  I feel her excitement when I bring home a new dress or blouse.  I feel her emotion when she gets addressed by my wife or by someone online.  I’m grateful that my wife is trying to understand and be supportive.  I don’t know what the future holds but I do know that Diana isn’t going away.

    • #374861
      Michelle Last
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      Number 3 mostly and number 1 also.

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    • #374759
      Alice Lidell
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      Pretty much an equal mix of 1 and 3 for me. I love the look and feel of women’s clothing, as well as the way I feel when I wear it. 2 doesn’t really apply to me at this point in time.

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    • #374756
      Rachel Williams
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      Fiona

      Started as 3 but has developed into a blend of 1 and 3. Don’t believe 2 comes into play with me but am not interested in spending a heap of money on counselling in order to check

      .Rachel

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    • #374745
      Jennifer Lynn
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      For me it would be #2 first and foremost, #1 next (I love the diversity of womens clothing), finally #3 at first it made me feel sexual arousal but now I only feel normal as it is how I belong

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    • #371683
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      1. I love the feel of women’s clothes, especially dresses (even more when they swirl around) but also lacy knickers, and especially stockings and suspenders, and also shoes with a bit of a heel, and the feeling of a bra or basque. It makes me feel feminine but also much more relaxed and much happier, which my wife notices and likes too. I think that it actually helps my physical health a bit through the psychological effect. I would happily dress as Lucy all the time if I could; it feels very natural and much more comfortable.

      2. I am a transvestite not transgender/transsexual, but would sometimes love to have proper female breasts. I often wonder what it would like to really be a woman, but not to ‘transition’ which I have no interest in.

      3. Certainly sexual sometimes, especially when I started, but less often now, when I am happy just being Lucy, which I find suppresses my male sexual urges, as well as making me more relaxed generally, but it was cross-dressing that made me discover bisexuality, although this only interests or excites me when dressed as Lucy, not when as a man.

    • #370655
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      Crossdressing for me started after dating a girl from work. We had seen each other for a few months just before Christmas. When Christmas came I bought her some lingerie from Agent Provocateur expensive it was too. We had an encounter with her putting it on me and I stopped her. She insisted I would wear them. After giving in and eventually being really turned on by this I started wearing regularly. She even returned the compliment and bought me my own. Lingerie I had only seen in photos. What Katie Did. Six strap suspender belt deep briefs and a bullit bra and stockings. This became a regular thing and one weekend when shopping she found a dress and asked me what I thought. It was for me. As things progressed I was dressing most weekends and she then told me she wanted me to buy a wig and breast forms. Now after six years I still love the dressing but it’s not about the sexual turn on anymore. I just love wearing woman’s clothes. I don’t wear male underwear anymore and even for work I wear suspenders and stockings under my suit who would know anyway. It has changed my whole outlook and now love looking at  women in a different way.  Thanks for the opportunity to share.

    • #370331
      Chris Moisan
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      Me…I wear cute satin panties 24/7 and I wear a satin nighty to bed. I do have a $1000 satin wedding gown that I will occasionally ask the wife to strap me into and I’ll wear it around the house. I have worn it to a couple Halloween parties. Strangely…that’s about it.

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    • #369875
      Janice Fadden
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      I definitely have bits of all 3 choices. I think I like it this way. I never want to loose the thrill.

       

      Janice

      XOXO

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    • #367684
      Juliet Blisston
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      hmm I would say my journey started out as three and still partly is but now it’s also one. Because I genuinely like the feel of soft panties a bra on my breast and a nice flowing skirt or a nice nightgown for sleep or on days when you have nothing to do and think nice day to wear a nightie all day.

    • #367666
      Helene Bock
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      Difficult question! – for me it has changed with the years as first a more sexual sensation to dress up, then to “de-stress”, while since I asked myself a question; would it be possible to pass as a woman more than 25 years ago, I now enjoy dressing up and going out and just be a “woman”. With this is ofcourse all pleasures of doing my makeup, buying and wearing female clothes plus underwear (ofcourse).  Now when going out nicely dressed as “Helene”, I am a woman! and accepted as such.

    • #363234
      Diana W
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      At this point I can’t explain exactly what drew me to this.  I do feel good wearing feminine clothes, especially a dress.  But I know it goes deeper than that.  I feel I have a feminine persona and I feel her come through sometimes.  I’m pretty sure transitioning is not in my future and I’m not sure how far I want to take this.  Right now I’m just enjoying the experiences that are all so new to me and I’m not worrying about what the future holds.

    • #363056
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      My first time out. Just now at age 66! I have to admit. It took my friend Kettle One and all of a sudden I had this inspiration to put on a tight fitting bra with my C-cup breast forms, along with a loose fitting sweat shirt, and lo and behold, I went for a walk around midnight in a low populated area of Philadelphia. Wow! I had no idea 15 minutes before I did all this that I was going to do it. And did it I did. Practiced my feminine walk – -shoulders back, leaning back a bit, and arms gently swaying at my side with fingers relaxed and curled pointing down to my feet, I can’t express the thrill. I even turned (slightly) towards passing and parked cars as I/they passed. Not sure anyone knew what was up but still thrilling to me. Can’t wait to take even more risks (for me) again soon. Love to all, Heather

    • #362061
      Carla
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      Hi Fiona Ann,

      I find this a difficult question to answer. Only two weeks ago I confessed my feelings to my wife and it’s been a mixed up and confusing time. I’ve always found women’s clothes exciting  and I love women so much. I seem to be able to mix with women easier than I do with men. The first time I wore women’s clothes was in the early 80s and I would have sex with my girlfriend at the time wearing some of her clothes. Once we split up my experiences were limited to girlfriends clothes and later my wife. None of them ever knew, they would be horrified. As a ‘new romantic’ in the 80s I could wear make up, nail varnish and quite feminine clothes which I loved.

      I also found that I often got turned on by wearing these clothes and the sense of going something that seemed ‘wrong’ to others was so appealing. I have known many transgender women due to my work in the past so have a good understanding of the conflict that sometimes happens. I feel relaxed in women’s clothes, I feel wonderful, sexy. It’s a rare occurrence that I am able to do so.

      After I confessed to my wife she said she would support me and I felt a great weight had been lifted. Nearly three weeks on and I’m not sure she realises what it entails. I want the whole thing, but not full time. My wife doesn’t want me to go out for example with her and I do t think she realised that I would need breast pads, underwear, make up, wig etc. She’s also worried how far it will go. Once I get used to the way of life, will I want more. I must admit that when I am dressed, I get fantasies of being chatted up by a man. I’ve always considered myself 100% straight… until then. Now I wonder.

      Thank you for letting me share. I am fine with being a man but if I woke up tomorrow morning as a woman I would be quite happy.

       

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        Becca Booty
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        Hi Carla,

        I understand you.  I consider myself straight. Well at least until I dress up and it’s pretty much only in lingerie as my dressing up is a sexual fetish for me. I get turned on and think about how it be to be with a big strong man.  So I guess you could call me bi curious. But only when I’m dressed up like a woman. Go figure huh.

        Anyway thanks for posting your answer.

        Kisses

        Becca

    • #358178
      Kim Lake
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      Hi girls, I’m going to be a little bit candid here so apologies if I offend anyone. (That’s got your attention!) This started as a sexual thing for me. In my early relationships with women I found myself fascinated by their clothing and underwear. Although I believe that this is more of a gay thing, ever since I can remember, I’ve also had a real fascination for the look and feel of wet clothing in a sensual and tactile way (not wet t shirt contests!)  and sometimes more stimulated by that than nudity or sexual contact. Some women perhaps understandably, are offended by this type of interest but most of my relationships have been driven in this way. One partner I had actually explained to me that it wasn’t so much the wearing of nice clothing and getting wet that excited her but the effect that it had on me and the empowerment that it gave her.

      I spent many years as a single parent to 5 children and during that time had very few relationships. Out of principle I do not like to watch porn because of its exploitative nature and began to dress in some nice underwear for pleasure when I had some private time.

      As my children got older and I was able to seek relationships I found myself feeling increasingly influenced by my feminine side. My dressing became more a part of my personality and well-being and as I have mentioned in other forums, and to the lovely people who have messaged me I have adopted an androgynous style which enables me to wear mostly women’s clothing all of the time without attracting too much attention. It makes me feel so good and I get a great deal of satisfaction in doing so.

      Despite my increasing feminine influences there is still a significant sexual side to my identity as my GGF enjoys my dressing but despite my explanations will only accept it as a fetish/roleplay thing and refuses to acknowledge that it could be any part of my changing identity.

      I find myself playing with the idea that one day I would like to have some degree of intimacy with a man who would take pleasure in me wearing feminine, sensual clothing in almost a reverse role situation that I held in my earlier relationships.

      Can I just say a big thank you to all you girls on the forum for being there for me – I joined the group in February and at that time would never have dreamed of being able to open up like this in an open discussion.

      Hugs

      Kim x

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        Amanda Clay
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        Hi Kim,

        Thank you for your candid thoughts.  Your story sounds similar to mine.  I found myself amazed at how good panties felt the very first time I put on a pair of girlfriends panties because they were simply the closest thing at hand.  That was 25 yrs ago.  I have been trying to find self acceptance ever since.  That is why I have joined this site.  I very much need to be able to love all of myself.  I have experienced a wide range of emotions that drive my desire to be and feel femme.  Sometimes that includes a desire to be free of the weight of my masculine world.  Sometimes it just feels safe.  It seems like CD takes me all over the emotional map. Something along the lines of terrific to terrifying.  I would probably be labeled a sissyboy.  Not to sure what to make of all of that.  I hope to find greater self acceptance and thusly inner peace by joining this site.  Thank you again for your sharing.

        Mandy

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    • #357691
      Brittney Andrews
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      All three reasons listed have influenced my CDing:

      #1 Growing-up I developed a curious liking for the soft silky nylon/rayon material of dresses from the 70s and early 80s. I always wondered how it would feel to walk in a dress and how the hem would move with my legs.

      #3 My grand aunt allowed me access to her wardrobe of dresses, panties, and slips. This is the roleplaying aspect of my early CDing; She allowed me to play dress-up.

      #2 This has been my more recent influence and the reason for #1. The reason I liked soft silky nylon/rayon is because I have a feminine spirit. I consider myself gender fluid. I’m not a woman trapped in a man’s body and I don’t have gender dysphoria. This and other reasons(marriage, family acceptance, and finances), I have no plans for HRT or SRS. However since 2016, I’ve decided to express my fem side and since 2018 I classify myself a social CDer. I dress en full fem within my local transgender community.

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      All three really, mostly 1 and three though.

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    • #356338
      Nick Lacroix
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      I have to say 1 and 3 when first started but maybe a little of 2 as well

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    • #356228
      Steffanie James
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      For me it’s a mix….I have always had a femme side, crossdressing is a way for me to express that side of me. When I let steffanie out I want to feel sexy, I want to feel like I’m attractive. Steffanie has evolved and continues to as I get more in touch with her, I can’t wait to see what happens next!

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    • #356122
      Joanna Huston
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      All 3 and I love being a woman that I was meant to be!

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    • #356097
      Janice Fadden
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      Can I pick all of the above?

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    • #355736
      Stevie Steiner
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      I would have to say long ago it was #2 with a fair dash of #3.  For many years now it’s pretty much #2.  I was lucky enough to be honest with myself a long time ago in that respect.

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    • #355733
      Alana Teal
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      I think for me it started with 1 and into 3. My sister’s always had nicer looking clothes than I did. And certainly their panties were prettier and better than my boy underwear.

       

      Now there is a certain amount of 2 involved, though I’m not even close to being passible, so I relegate myself to underdressing in panties mostly, sometimes pantyhose or leggings too. I sleep mostly in panties and a T-shirt. I’m the colder months, I have a pair of Cudl-duds women’s pajamas that I wear. They are not too girly so I even wear them around the house when my daughter’s are home and I think they have no clue they are women’s pjs.

       

      I completely wax below the waist and wear panties 7/24/365. My wife likes my chest hair, so that is here to stay at least for now. I really dislike my bodyhair and I think wearing a pretty bra with hairy chest and shoulders would look ridiculous.

       

      I’m a pretty woman inside a man’s body. As I said, not even close to being able to pass, soI don’t really want to transition as I don’t like taking even an aspirin or other drugs so HRT is a no go.

       

      My wife let me try on her thigh highs the other night. She didn’t even bat an eye at my request.

       

      So for now, I’m content to be a girl inside and wear pretty panties, the girlie the better, pink and flowery. And occasionally sneak in other girly outerwear that I can get away with.

    • #355703
      Jenny Jones
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      For me, I think it started as a 1/3 thing, but over time the three was gradually replaced by 2. But mostly one still. I enjoy women’s clothing, but I do think that a part of that reason is because its women’s clothing. I enjoy the switch from my traditional masculine identity to a feminine one, not to the degree of wanting to transition, but to the degree I want to keep this side around as much as possible.

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    • #353684
      Nick Lacroix
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      For me I enjoy dressing up both as a sexual thing and it brings me inner peace. I feel extremely confident when dressed.

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    • #353672
      Michelle Tiffany
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      It seems like I started by wanting to wear the clothes.  I have always loved the clothes and it’s always so exciting to be dressed.  It really never gets old.

      However, I do also have a very strong feminine feeling inside and I would love to dress mostly full time and let my femininity flower openly everyday.

      So, I guess mainly a mix of 1 and 2, with a little bit of 3, but 2 is the strongest feeling inside of me now.

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    • #353274
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      I am definately #2. I was born with a female spirit and soul. Wish that I was born with the physical body too. To me this is more than dressing up part time. I can’t transition right now, but keeping my mind open for the future.

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    • #352403
      Ria Freichuk
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      I have always liked wearing women’s clothes. I started as a child and have never stopped.

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    • #346229
      Simone C
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      Hi Girls!

      I’ve read a lot and thought a lot about this topic, and come to the conclusion that I (and many others when I read above) fit the category of “dual-role transvestite”. This is someone (of either gender) who dresses temporarily in the clothing of the opposite gender to experience what it is like to be or to take the role of the opposite gender. There is no desire for reassignment treatment, and it is not a fetish for clothing as such.

      Actually it used to be more women doing this because male-dominated society didn’t allow intelligent women into certain places and roles, so they dressed and behaved as men to experience it without prejudices. There is plenty of literature of women dressing as men for that reason, and I am sure many of them shared our fears of how society, family and their SO would react if they had been found out. There were happily also notable cases of the SO or male friends supporting them, recognising the hypocrisy of society then, and science and literature are better for it. There were of course some for whom it was sexual, many though simply recognised they could not experience or achieve something without temporarily presenting as male. Of course, women have the advantage here that it is easier as a woman to pass as a rather small, fresh faced man than it is for a large, athletic male to pass as a demure, svelte woman. I also think society then and now is more forgiving of women presenting as men (no one reacts to women in jeans, try wearing a skirt as a man though!)

      The real dilemma for me in the past was how to align this with the obvious thrill of wearing soft, sexy clothes. Surely that is a fetish? It was when I was talking though to a GG friend it fell into place. She said “I LOVE wearing something sexy, you think we buy all that lace and lingerie for men only? I get SUCH A BUZZ walking around knowing that underneath my plain business suit is a super hot set of lingerie. Wow! And at night that long slinky nightgown isn’t only for seduction, it feels good!”

      That nailed it for me, for those of us who want to experience being a woman sometimes OF COURSE getting that buzz from sexy lingerie is part of the whole thing. And yes, that is what I want. How does it feel to be a GG, sometimes in loose weekend clothes, sometimes in more sexy dress. I am being a woman, not fantasising about lingerie as such. When I am Simone I take on a feminine persona as much as I can, to experience as much as I can what that means.

      This has had some really great moments, being out and a woman admiring my dress. Yes, and I do say a woman, as she clearly saw me as a fellow woman at the time. It was an appreciative comment, woman to woman, which felt great.

      I’ve also experienced the downside of aggressive men trying to come on to the woman I was at the time and not taking the “no!”. The anger and fear I felt as a woman at that moment was real. It was not a fear of being outed, so what if I were? In some ways fun to see the idiot’s reaction to finding he was trying to hit onto a MAN! No, it was the fear that as a woman I was both at a disadvantage culturally, and that somehow this idiot thought it was OK to leer at my boobs and make lewd suggestions.

      Being in my two alternative genders lets me get a real understanding and respect for BOTH genders and the pluses and minuses of each.

      I have no desire to change permanently (I quite like my alternative), just wish I could alter the body shape as easily as I slip into the mental state of Simone. Damn, and figure out how to get the make-up right!!

      Best wishes to all of you across the spectrum, where you are is yours, I’ve found mine.

      S

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        Lacey Faradae
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        Very well said, for this topic the answers and combinations of the answers can vary tremendously, although it’s clear one we all can agree on is how wonderful it makes us feel…

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        Erica Carlson
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        You nailed it girl!! Xoxoxo

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      I am 1 and 3. Started as 3 and it still is a lot of 3 but 1 is more and more becoming eqaul to 3 after doing this more or less 35 years. I just love to be Sonia,  either the casual Sonia or the more glamorous or also the slutty one.  I love walking around in the apartment doing hously things, watching TV etc etc.

      I am Sonia 3-4 times a week.

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      Heather Megan
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      Like a lot of the girls here, I think was a journey through all 3, though there will always be aspects of each. Definitely started as an admiration, appreciation of and desire for women’s clothing, then as I got older became for fetish than anything, and was tightly tied to a hyper sexualized context, but though maturity and self-actualization through dressing more and understanding my own feelings, made me realize it was #2 and coming to know my inner girl and let her free

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      Kimmie
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      Sarah,

      No need to be ashamed. You’re among friends.

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      Stef Smith
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      Sarah hi

      great post

      i think for me i m a combo

      i don’t think i have a femme side in the sense that its used here but i do like the clothing a lot. The variety in style and fabrics

      i d be lying if i said there was no sexual Component because there is just not all the time. Sometimes i ll just dress up in lingerie and watch porn pleasuring myself. Its definitely not as often as it was BEFORE i ridded myself of shame and guilt! Now its just when i want to role play.

      also a big change was going full time panties and mixed clothing : eg femme jeans and sweater panties bra toes panted light make up but still look toally masculine

       

      that was a huge change along with acceptance

      so i m like 1 and 3

       

      steff

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      When I first started is was a sexual fetish for me with just sexy lingerie, but it is now an important, therapy for me, I feel very relaxed when dressed and take my time getting ready and enjoying the experience.

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      Sarah Lacy
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      Is it a cop out to say ” a bit of all three?”

      #1. Always loved the styles of womens clothing, the silkiness, touch, feel etc. From an early age when looking at glamour photographs always had a strange inkling to wonder what it would be like to be wearing the clothes that the models in the photo shoots were dressed in. Those thoughts have never really gone away just that the range of clothing especially intimate underwear has increased over the years.

      #2. As for this, certainly not femme at heart, genuinely enjoy  being male but feel more in touch with my femme side (whatever that means,) calmer, more reasonable and less aggressive in thoughts after a spell of dressing.

      #3. This is the big one for me. Always has been a sexual thing for as long as I can remember. I think it is a combination of the sensuality of wearing female intimates against my skin, the sexual arousal, fetish, perhaps even the long held guilt complexes of dressing and who knows what primordial mix of emotions cross dressing stirs up within me. Whatever the reason the very thought and activity of dressing is a sexual thrill and despite being a guilty burden sometime it is always ever present.

      In summary, quite a bit of #1, a trace of #2 and rather ashamedly a profusion of  #3.

      Sarah

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      Really good topic. Thanks. I definitely have a combo of three. Used to repress but now celebrate. Hooray for this site and wonderful gurls like you to talk to.

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      Celeste Jo
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      Depends on what I’m wearing, if it’s more ‘normal’ clothes it’s because I just enjoy the feel and getting to be ‘someone else’.  While I am comfortable being male most of the time sometimes you just need a break.

      If I’m wearing something sexy though then it’s definitely a sexual thing.  But then I imagine a gg would get a sexual rush too from wearing something uncomfortable but super sexy looking for her SO

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      Loving reading through all the responses! For me it’s a majority 3 and 1 and a little bit of 2. I love the feeling of dressing in women’s clothing. Most of that feeling is sexual. Dressing puts me in a different mindset and I enjoy having a man treat me like a woman sexually. I sometimes do wish I actually was a woman to get the full experience.

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      Hi I can honestly say I’m feminine at heart I have always know I’m truly a girl inside and want to become the woman that I am. When it comes to sexual orientation I’ve always worn lingerie panties bras ect. And have always felt humbled being the girl in our encounters.

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      Rosiebeth
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      Well Fiona

      you are right.  For me it’s all three.  I just love to wear woman’s clothes.  The look, feel and of course looking pretty and yes I love feeling like a woman all dressed up thinking I should have been born a woman along with those role playing fantasies that are extremely sexual.   So I love all three of your points.

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