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    Fiona-Ann Moss
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    hi girls! i’m in a kind of philosophical mood today. I was thinking about what to post today, whilst sitting in the car eating my lunch during dinner break at work. I got to thinking that there are many reasons why people dress femme. I feel this topic might come over as a little contraversal maybe? I dont know, but I figured three main reasons…..

    1. you just like womens clothes

    2. you are femme at heart like a woman stuck inside a mans body

    3. wearing womens clothes is like a kind of sexual thing, maybe a fetish or roleplay.

    ive no doubt, some people would argue that they are a mixture of all three or just two.

    I also got to thinking (its a wonder I actually have time to eat my dinner!) that most men sometime in their lives have worn a pair of their wifes panties, but would never admit it. I admit I have too, even when cross dressing was furthest from my mind, I simply had no underpants, so I made do with a pair of my wifes panties! go on girls, help me out with this one!

    love and kisses fiona xxx

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      Reese Fields
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      Like many others here, it’s a combination of them all.  The more I dive into myself, the more gender fluid I think I am. But With a wife and kids it’s too late to explore that. There’s certainly a sexual component about it. Mostly I just love being on the girls. When I’m in Reese mode, I pamper myself more. Bubble baths with aromatherapy, skin treatments, and a glass of chadonay.

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      Demy Ansar
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      OMG, if you’re not with her right now, can I have her name and address?? Pretty pleaaaaaaase? ;-D

      xx Demy

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      Demy Ansar
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      Hi Maya, I have to say your openness is amazing and you’ve worded it so well! It was a pleasure reading it.

      You ROCK, girl!!

      xx Demy

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      Abby M
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      I would say partly a sexual fetish but also that I like women’s clothing. That I feel like it helps me to relax and to get in touch with certain attributes that aren’t traditionally masculine. Grew up with toxic masculinity and I feel this is more true to my personality so it’s a different type of masculinity. I don’t really identify as a woman.

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      Tracy Patti
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      For me it’s more about the excitement, the relaxation I can get from wearing and feeling a tights hugging my leg or a bra feeling on my chest and a dress or skirt swishing around my legs but I don’t feel compelled to be a woman  sexually as having feelings for  another man but when I’m in my crossdressing mood i sometimes have felt an interest about a crossdressed man but it’s nothing sexual but it’s more than a feeling a would have on a man when I’m a guy. It just feels different that’s all i guess I don’t feel the same about a woman who isn’t dressed as a girl at the same time. Have you felt the same ?

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      Vanessa ?
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      I’m sort of a wacky hybrid with elements of all three options, I suppose.

      1. I definitely do enjoy how women’s clothes (particular skirts/dresses and leggings) feel when I’m wearing them! The flowy-ness of a skirt/dress is really nice, I honestly prefer skirts/dresses to pants (which I basically never wear if I can help it, until it gets down to around the mid-20s outside), or even shorts.  Even panties feel kinda nice, being all soft and smooth and silky compared to the plain generic fabric of my usual guy underwear.  It’s interesting how I am much more tolerant of tighter women’s clothing than I am of tight-fitting men’s clothing.  Something about the way tighter guy clothes feel when I’m in guy-mode is extremely unpleasant… but when I’m in girl-mode a top that hugs my chest a bit tighter so it looks like I have boobs is a plus rather than a minus.
      2. While I don’t feel full-on transgender (woman trapped in a man’s body) and have no plans on ever transitioning or even making Vanessa a full-time thing, it does seem like there is some degree of shift in personality when I’m dressed up and in full Vanessa-mode compared to my usual guy self.  I’ve described before that Vanessa and guy-me are both “part of me” but neither one encompasses my full identity.  Vanessa is typically a bit more confident than my usual self (sometimes a lot more confident depending on the situation), but also a bit less patient with other people, and quicker to get a little snarky with someone who’s being annoying haha.
      3. And yes there is definitely a sexual aspect to it.  I don’t typically get “turned on” just by the process of dressing up, but sometimes when I’m already in that kind of mood I want to dress up also… but sometimes not? It’s a bit odd.  Anyway… I have little to no interest in hooking up with men when I’m in guy-mode (I’ve done it in the past out of sheer curiosity but I’m pretty much done with that at this point, I know what I like and what I don’t like… and I know I don’t feel any attraction to men, despite having fun with them sometimes) but when I’m in girl-mode I get much more into that sort of thing, and will even go on dates with guys and such, though the guy has to understand and be okay with the fact that it’ll never be anything more than just a few dates and maybe some fun afterward — a relationship is not a possibility.  Along similar lines as the personality shift mentioned in #2, there’s a shift in what I’m comfortable with when I’m Vanessa — for example, I’d never kiss a guy when I was in guy-mode (the thought honestly grosses me out a bit) but Vanessa enjoys it quite a bit.
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      Roberta Denny
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      One and two for me.If a gender  therapist saw the hundreds of pairs of tights/ pantyhose I own they would suggest that I had a fetish.There might have been a sexual aapect to it when I was a child and teenager but my principal reason for dressing is to feel and act like a woman as much as I can.I love all clothes it’ not just about the hosiery.I am not the macho guy type who just seeks dressing as occasional therapyNothing wrong with that of course.Its just that .I want to be a woman even though I don’t come under the trans umbrella.

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      Janet williams
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      I dress  as a cd but only wearing panties and bras and my wife does not know I think that I do

      I think after so many yrs of cding I realize I am bi or gay and just enjoy wearing fem items under my clothes …. I considered it a fetish when I started but as I grew I realized I was gay and wanted to be female for some guy to love

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      Stephanie Roberts
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      I am a combination of 1 and 2. I love how women’s clothes feel. This then affirms my femininity.

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      Ambermaria Martinez
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      Omg definitely number 2 I always felt inside me that im a woman in a man’s body .never ever felt i was a boy growing up.

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      Vanessa Vanreed
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      For me I am a 2 but and a 1 I just prefer the feel of woman’s clothing.

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      Rei Durden
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      You nailed it! A mix of all 3 with the percentage constantly fluctuating.

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      Chrissy Fairchild
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      For me it’s #1 but mostly #3. Wearing women’s clothing relaxes me. It gives me a sexual outlet and opens up my imagination to what it’s like to be the opposite gender.

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      I choose 1 and 3  . both them yes . xx

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      Amanda Woods
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      For me personally I think it is a mixture of the three, much love ladies

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      Candice Fisher
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      I would say I’m a 2

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      Beachingirl
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      I’m 2 for sure

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      Bobbi Sue
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      Number two for me.   Pretty sure I’m not dysphoric. But when I put on womens’ clothes they fit my soul.

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      Leslie
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      For me the answer is easy – I have to!
      If you look the woman I admit it not just their great looks but it is their wardrobes that attract me. So much better than the best of men’s attire in any period of history. But historically I have been a jeans, shirt and trainers person. Though now I would most likely sell my soul for a new pair of pretty panties! The pink fog has me well and truly in its power!

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      Sarah Du Hessisse
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      Hi everyone

      I am completely 1 and 2.

      I love women’s clothes so soft & relaxing, and Glamorous.

      I love dressing in them I just feel so relaxed & complete that nothing else matters, doing

      my make up and deciding what jewellery to wear. I don’t let anybody get into my head to be negative, no one knows my femme side so they never will. All you girls are great and not alone

      be positive.

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      MichelleVictoriaDalston
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      Hi My experience is to some degree aligned with “the clothes maketh the man” though in my case it’s the hair make up nail polish and full feminine attire that almost give a sense of being someone else and that someone else is female with female thoughts and desires

      That said I could never fully transition as I am comfortable being a guy and nowadays find I am comfortable being a girl too

      I think of it like the left side of the brain controls the right of the body and vice versa and maybe a persons gender and sexuality can split the same way

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      Tammy Johnson
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      For me I’d definitely say #1 and #3.  In regards to #1, I just feel like there are so many more options in women’s clothing.  If I want to feel sexy, putting on a nice mini skirt, with stockings, a garter and thong panties, paired with a nice blouse and some boots.  If I’m feeling a bit lazy, then some women’s yoga pants and a tshirt feels great too and I still feel sexy.

      As for #3, it was definitely somewhat of a turn on when I snuck a few pairs of my cousins thong panties to wear at age 13.  I felt and looked sexy so it was obviously a turn on.  The fact that they were so comfortable was an added bonus and I’ve been wearing them ever since.  I think there is definitely a fetish aspect for me, as I have had past girlfriends that were very accepting and loved to dress me up in their clothes or buy outfits for  me specifically.  One in particular loved to dress me up, do my makeup and hair and was the first one to get me to go out publicly.  Unfortunately, with my wife I don’t know that she is there yet, she has to know with some of my thongs that they are female even though most of them are basic colors and no lace/bows etc.

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      Stephanie
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      For me it started as #2…when I was young

      later in life, it sometimes was #3

      now it’s mostly back to #2

       

      I don’t see myself ever transitioning…so, I consider myself some sort of gender fluid, still a man in most of my life but very much a girl when I choose to be, not just a guy who likes to wear girl clothes but a total girl. I have allowed myself to be a bit more feminine when I am in ‘man-mode’ and this has improved my overall mental health.

      I used to be insecure about the fact that I was a man who only weighs 120lbs, no chest hair and have girly bones but I don’t let that happen anymore. When I start to feel that way, I remember one of the many bullies who used to make me feel weak and bad and just say out loud “fuck that guy”

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      Maya Sol
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      I see myself as “custom made”. People like to make everything simple so the society declared a simple “type” of people and everyone should be belong to one of these “types”. But it’s not true in nature: people have complicated needs and fetishes.

      I’m a mixture of all, 1, 2 and 3, but I’m much more 1 and 3 then 2. I do dream to magically turned into a real woman, and I do started to do more femme moves, but it’s more to serve 1 and 3 then I really feel that I “trapped inside a man body”. I made my body to looks something between: I have natural long hair and it make me to look younger then my real age (close to 50! with my original dark brown long hair), I’m thin and I keep my body no hairy at all anywhere except my long hair. So more it’s more femme look, but on the other hand I don’t mind to have muscles. I have pretty shaved legs with muscles 🙂 So it’s more femme look but more a combination of both.

      As for clothes, I’m wearing my normal man clothes, recently more skinny and tight, but on the other hand I don’t feel comfortable wearing tight clothes, makeup and heels for more then a short time. Not from the look of it or what the other will say. I do look good in it and it make it horny, but I suffer that it’s too tights and the shoes hurt after short time. When I’m alone at home I do wear a dress, skirt, femme underwear, stockings, etc. Less then that I put a lipstick but I’m almost ALWAYS putting lipstick before a take a shower. When my wife is not around I’m ALWAYS go into bad with a femme clothes on. My wife knows but I’m proffering to sleep naked with her anyway 🙂

      As for sex: it’s a kind of fetish after all. That’s how I explained my wife more then 10 years ago when we started to date and I told her about my secret me after some time. She was the first one that I dated that I was exposed to her about my “secret femme life”. I neither told my ex wife nor my ex girlfriends. It do improved our sex at the beginning so I recommended to tell your partner! We are not doing it anymore, but more because two things: our relationship is not in is best lately so our sex is lately is more dry. The other reason for no femme clothes with sex: most women are not really like a femme partner, even these that tried sex with other women. Most will aceppt you and really be supportive to your needs, but for most women it’s ugly and not attractive at all. If you are very lucky your partner has a fetish for femme man! my dream partner! sadly my wife is very supportive and understands my needs, but as most women are thinking, it make me less attractive to her.

      More about sex and fetishes: I do need my CD fetish as I need food and sex! If I don’t have it then I’m nerves and hungry. I guess like drugs, and I’m not doing drugs, I keep my body healthy! Anyway, this is my natural addiction and I need it. When I have it then I less need it after, until I’m hungry for it again.

      Getting old: As I’m close to 50 now and I do need sex as before, but I feel that my CD fetish is less effecting now, but it’s hard to tell. I feel better to dress when my wife is not around, so in the past I was dreaming what I’ll do before that she went for a few days and I was crazy in hunger for the CD fetish feeding, but yesterday my wife went for a few days and while I do dressed, for some reason I less needed it and I was in more of the “OK, let’s feed it because I need it” mood then exploding like it always was in that situation.

      Getting old 2: Am I more in desire to be a women? more trapped inside a man body? Will I become gay? I still don’t know! I less think about the last one. Men are not attractive for me but I do like the fantasy of a man with muscles fuck me as a woman in brutality. In case of men, I hate hairy so much! even on myself. I do have a fantasy of a time travel machine that will allow me to meet me in different time in the past and then we all do a huge sex together 🙂 but you always feel natural with your body so it’s different. It’s just a good fantasy idea! Except for the hairy that I badly dislike, I don’t have any real feeling to other man. I do want to try gay sex one time, only because I feel that I need to try anything in life 🙂 I don’t feel hungry for it at all. Am I trapped inside a man body? I’m still not sure and I’m still not sure that in the future I’ll not turn into living as I trans somewhere full time dressing as a woman everywhere. I really don’t know yet.

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      Evany Evans
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      For me, since I was 8 years old, I had mostly 1 inside me, yet as I matured and grew I found that today it’s mostly 2 that causes me to dress and controls my desire to dress. It grew from a simple curiosity to an absolute need over my life and I know now that Evany is a part of me indefinitely. I however have absolutely no regrets about letting her out and I’ll never ever look back to when it was just 1 that caused my feelings.

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      Christina Wiliams
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      Sadly a closet as my wife not willing so I hide underneath male clothes for some time now… but the lingerie I can wear most of the day I love so much … so am content to a point

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      Linda Summers
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      I wore for the first time when I was 30 form my ex wife,  always together with my desire to be a woman in bad as well.

      love lilnda

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      Jennifer Swanson
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      When I first started trying on panties as a 12 year old I loved the soft silky feeling.  Partially sexual but mostly the feminine feeling. As life progressed and children came I let all of that go.  I got back into panties 5 years ago.  A year ago wondered what it would be like to dress.  I bought a skirt, blouse, jacket shoes and a wig.  I went out to a pub and absolutely loved the feeling.  Maybe as a woman I felt much freer to express my emotions.  I had no interest in picking up anyone.  Now I have over 100 items from top to bottom.  My wife approves and helps with styles and makeup suggestions.  I spend my time at home dressed everyday.  I dress to go out if it’s some place special.  The greatest joy has been finding all of you ladies.  It makes me so happy I just want to laugh and cry at the same time.  Hugs to all of you.

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      Lea
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      It’s complicated, lol. I think of the art tri-color wheel where every color can be made by a unique combo of red, green, blue. I think of myself like that…a combo of 1/2/3 and it varies slightly each week, and over the years.

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      As I’m adjusting to my new life as a cross dresser I’m beginning to figure things out a little more.  Number three is definitely not part of it.  I do not get a sexual thrill from wearing feminine clothes, even the panties.  I don’t get turned on from it at all.  This is something I can’t define.  It’s something I need.  Wearing a skirt or a dress just feels RIGHT.  I feel complete when I’m dressed en femme.  I definitely have a feminine side.  I feel her excitement when I bring home a new dress or blouse.  I feel her emotion when she gets addressed by my wife or by someone online.  I’m grateful that my wife is trying to understand and be supportive.  I don’t know what the future holds but I do know that Diana isn’t going away.

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      Michelle Last
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      Number 3 mostly and number 1 also.

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      Alice Lidell
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      Pretty much an equal mix of 1 and 3 for me. I love the look and feel of women’s clothing, as well as the way I feel when I wear it. 2 doesn’t really apply to me at this point in time.

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      Rachel Williams
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      Fiona

      Started as 3 but has developed into a blend of 1 and 3. Don’t believe 2 comes into play with me but am not interested in spending a heap of money on counselling in order to check

      .Rachel

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      Jennifer Lynn
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      For me it would be #2 first and foremost, #1 next (I love the diversity of womens clothing), finally #3 at first it made me feel sexual arousal but now I only feel normal as it is how I belong

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      1. I love the feel of women’s clothes, especially dresses (even more when they swirl around) but also lacy knickers, and especially stockings and suspenders, and also shoes with a bit of a heel, and the feeling of a bra or basque. It makes me feel feminine but also much more relaxed and much happier, which my wife notices and likes too. I think that it actually helps my physical health a bit through the psychological effect. I would happily dress as Lucy all the time if I could; it feels very natural and much more comfortable.

      2. I am a transvestite not transgender/transsexual, but would sometimes love to have proper female breasts. I often wonder what it would like to really be a woman, but not to ‘transition’ which I have no interest in.

      3. Certainly sexual sometimes, especially when I started, but less often now, when I am happy just being Lucy, which I find suppresses my male sexual urges, as well as making me more relaxed generally, but it was cross-dressing that made me discover bisexuality, although this only interests or excites me when dressed as Lucy, not when as a man.

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      Crossdressing for me started after dating a girl from work. We had seen each other for a few months just before Christmas. When Christmas came I bought her some lingerie from Agent Provocateur expensive it was too. We had an encounter with her putting it on me and I stopped her. She insisted I would wear them. After giving in and eventually being really turned on by this I started wearing regularly. She even returned the compliment and bought me my own. Lingerie I had only seen in photos. What Katie Did. Six strap suspender belt deep briefs and a bullit bra and stockings. This became a regular thing and one weekend when shopping she found a dress and asked me what I thought. It was for me. As things progressed I was dressing most weekends and she then told me she wanted me to buy a wig and breast forms. Now after six years I still love the dressing but it’s not about the sexual turn on anymore. I just love wearing woman’s clothes. I don’t wear male underwear anymore and even for work I wear suspenders and stockings under my suit who would know anyway. It has changed my whole outlook and now love looking at  women in a different way.  Thanks for the opportunity to share.

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      Chris Moisan
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      Me…I wear cute satin panties 24/7 and I wear a satin nighty to bed. I do have a $1000 satin wedding gown that I will occasionally ask the wife to strap me into and I’ll wear it around the house. I have worn it to a couple Halloween parties. Strangely…that’s about it.

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      Janice Fadden
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      I definitely have bits of all 3 choices. I think I like it this way. I never want to loose the thrill.

       

      Janice

      XOXO

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      Juliet Blisston
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      hmm I would say my journey started out as three and still partly is but now it’s also one. Because I genuinely like the feel of soft panties a bra on my breast and a nice flowing skirt or a nice nightgown for sleep or on days when you have nothing to do and think nice day to wear a nightie all day.

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      Helene Bock
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      Difficult question! – for me it has changed with the years as first a more sexual sensation to dress up, then to “de-stress”, while since I asked myself a question; would it be possible to pass as a woman more than 25 years ago, I now enjoy dressing up and going out and just be a “woman”. With this is ofcourse all pleasures of doing my makeup, buying and wearing female clothes plus underwear (ofcourse).  Now when going out nicely dressed as “Helene”, I am a woman! and accepted as such.

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      At this point I can’t explain exactly what drew me to this.  I do feel good wearing feminine clothes, especially a dress.  But I know it goes deeper than that.  I feel I have a feminine persona and I feel her come through sometimes.  I’m pretty sure transitioning is not in my future and I’m not sure how far I want to take this.  Right now I’m just enjoying the experiences that are all so new to me and I’m not worrying about what the future holds.

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      My first time out. Just now at age 66! I have to admit. It took my friend Kettle One and all of a sudden I had this inspiration to put on a tight fitting bra with my C-cup breast forms, along with a loose fitting sweat shirt, and lo and behold, I went for a walk around midnight in a low populated area of Philadelphia. Wow! I had no idea 15 minutes before I did all this that I was going to do it. And did it I did. Practiced my feminine walk – -shoulders back, leaning back a bit, and arms gently swaying at my side with fingers relaxed and curled pointing down to my feet, I can’t express the thrill. I even turned (slightly) towards passing and parked cars as I/they passed. Not sure anyone knew what was up but still thrilling to me. Can’t wait to take even more risks (for me) again soon. Love to all, Heather

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      Hi Fiona Ann,

      I find this a difficult question to answer. Only two weeks ago I confessed my feelings to my wife and it’s been a mixed up and confusing time. I’ve always found women’s clothes exciting  and I love women so much. I seem to be able to mix with women easier than I do with men. The first time I wore women’s clothes was in the early 80s and I would have sex with my girlfriend at the time wearing some of her clothes. Once we split up my experiences were limited to girlfriends clothes and later my wife. None of them ever knew, they would be horrified. As a ‘new romantic’ in the 80s I could wear make up, nail varnish and quite feminine clothes which I loved.

      I also found that I often got turned on by wearing these clothes and the sense of going something that seemed ‘wrong’ to others was so appealing. I have known many transgender women due to my work in the past so have a good understanding of the conflict that sometimes happens. I feel relaxed in women’s clothes, I feel wonderful, sexy. It’s a rare occurrence that I am able to do so.

      After I confessed to my wife she said she would support me and I felt a great weight had been lifted. Nearly three weeks on and I’m not sure she realises what it entails. I want the whole thing, but not full time. My wife doesn’t want me to go out for example with her and I do t think she realised that I would need breast pads, underwear, make up, wig etc. She’s also worried how far it will go. Once I get used to the way of life, will I want more. I must admit that when I am dressed, I get fantasies of being chatted up by a man. I’ve always considered myself 100% straight… until then. Now I wonder.

      Thank you for letting me share. I am fine with being a man but if I woke up tomorrow morning as a woman I would be quite happy.

       

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        Hi Carla,

        I understand you.  I consider myself straight. Well at least until I dress up and it’s pretty much only in lingerie as my dressing up is a sexual fetish for me. I get turned on and think about how it be to be with a big strong man.  So I guess you could call me bi curious. But only when I’m dressed up like a woman. Go figure huh.

        Anyway thanks for posting your answer.

        Kisses

        Becca

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      Hi girls, I’m going to be a little bit candid here so apologies if I offend anyone. (That’s got your attention!) This started as a sexual thing for me. In my early relationships with women I found myself fascinated by their clothing and underwear. Although I believe that this is more of a gay thing, ever since I can remember, I’ve also had a real fascination for the look and feel of wet clothing in a sensual and tactile way (not wet t shirt contests!)  and sometimes more stimulated by that than nudity or sexual contact. Some women perhaps understandably, are offended by this type of interest but most of my relationships have been driven in this way. One partner I had actually explained to me that it wasn’t so much the wearing of nice clothing and getting wet that excited her but the effect that it had on me and the empowerment that it gave her.

      I spent many years as a single parent to 5 children and during that time had very few relationships. Out of principle I do not like to watch porn because of its exploitative nature and began to dress in some nice underwear for pleasure when I had some private time.

      As my children got older and I was able to seek relationships I found myself feeling increasingly influenced by my feminine side. My dressing became more a part of my personality and well-being and as I have mentioned in other forums, and to the lovely people who have messaged me I have adopted an androgynous style which enables me to wear mostly women’s clothing all of the time without attracting too much attention. It makes me feel so good and I get a great deal of satisfaction in doing so.

      Despite my increasing feminine influences there is still a significant sexual side to my identity as my GGF enjoys my dressing but despite my explanations will only accept it as a fetish/roleplay thing and refuses to acknowledge that it could be any part of my changing identity.

      I find myself playing with the idea that one day I would like to have some degree of intimacy with a man who would take pleasure in me wearing feminine, sensual clothing in almost a reverse role situation that I held in my earlier relationships.

      Can I just say a big thank you to all you girls on the forum for being there for me – I joined the group in February and at that time would never have dreamed of being able to open up like this in an open discussion.

      Hugs

      Kim x

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        Hi Kim,

        Thank you for your candid thoughts.  Your story sounds similar to mine.  I found myself amazed at how good panties felt the very first time I put on a pair of girlfriends panties because they were simply the closest thing at hand.  That was 25 yrs ago.  I have been trying to find self acceptance ever since.  That is why I have joined this site.  I very much need to be able to love all of myself.  I have experienced a wide range of emotions that drive my desire to be and feel femme.  Sometimes that includes a desire to be free of the weight of my masculine world.  Sometimes it just feels safe.  It seems like CD takes me all over the emotional map. Something along the lines of terrific to terrifying.  I would probably be labeled a sissyboy.  Not to sure what to make of all of that.  I hope to find greater self acceptance and thusly inner peace by joining this site.  Thank you again for your sharing.

        Mandy

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      Brittney Andrews
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      All three reasons listed have influenced my CDing:

      #1 Growing-up I developed a curious liking for the soft silky nylon/rayon material of dresses from the 70s and early 80s. I always wondered how it would feel to walk in a dress and how the hem would move with my legs.

      #3 My grand aunt allowed me access to her wardrobe of dresses, panties, and slips. This is the roleplaying aspect of my early CDing; She allowed me to play dress-up.

      #2 This has been my more recent influence and the reason for #1. The reason I liked soft silky nylon/rayon is because I have a feminine spirit. I consider myself gender fluid. I’m not a woman trapped in a man’s body and I don’t have gender dysphoria. This and other reasons(marriage, family acceptance, and finances), I have no plans for HRT or SRS. However since 2016, I’ve decided to express my fem side and since 2018 I classify myself a social CDer. I dress en full fem within my local transgender community.

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      All three really, mostly 1 and three though.

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      Nick Lacroix
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      I have to say 1 and 3 when first started but maybe a little of 2 as well

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      For me it’s a mix….I have always had a femme side, crossdressing is a way for me to express that side of me. When I let steffanie out I want to feel sexy, I want to feel like I’m attractive. Steffanie has evolved and continues to as I get more in touch with her, I can’t wait to see what happens next!

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    • #356122
      Joanna Huston
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      All 3 and I love being a woman that I was meant to be!

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      Janice Fadden
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      Can I pick all of the above?

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      Stevie Steiner
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      I would have to say long ago it was #2 with a fair dash of #3.  For many years now it’s pretty much #2.  I was lucky enough to be honest with myself a long time ago in that respect.

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      I think for me it started with 1 and into 3. My sister’s always had nicer looking clothes than I did. And certainly their panties were prettier and better than my boy underwear.

       

      Now there is a certain amount of 2 involved, though I’m not even close to being passible, so I relegate myself to underdressing in panties mostly, sometimes pantyhose or leggings too. I sleep mostly in panties and a T-shirt. I’m the colder months, I have a pair of Cudl-duds women’s pajamas that I wear. They are not too girly so I even wear them around the house when my daughter’s are home and I think they have no clue they are women’s pjs.

       

      I completely wax below the waist and wear panties 7/24/365. My wife likes my chest hair, so that is here to stay at least for now. I really dislike my bodyhair and I think wearing a pretty bra with hairy chest and shoulders would look ridiculous.

       

      I’m a pretty woman inside a man’s body. As I said, not even close to being able to pass, soI don’t really want to transition as I don’t like taking even an aspirin or other drugs so HRT is a no go.

       

      My wife let me try on her thigh highs the other night. She didn’t even bat an eye at my request.

       

      So for now, I’m content to be a girl inside and wear pretty panties, the girlie the better, pink and flowery. And occasionally sneak in other girly outerwear that I can get away with.

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      Jenny Jones
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      For me, I think it started as a 1/3 thing, but over time the three was gradually replaced by 2. But mostly one still. I enjoy women’s clothing, but I do think that a part of that reason is because its women’s clothing. I enjoy the switch from my traditional masculine identity to a feminine one, not to the degree of wanting to transition, but to the degree I want to keep this side around as much as possible.

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      Nick Lacroix
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      For me I enjoy dressing up both as a sexual thing and it brings me inner peace. I feel extremely confident when dressed.

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      It seems like I started by wanting to wear the clothes.  I have always loved the clothes and it’s always so exciting to be dressed.  It really never gets old.

      However, I do also have a very strong feminine feeling inside and I would love to dress mostly full time and let my femininity flower openly everyday.

      So, I guess mainly a mix of 1 and 2, with a little bit of 3, but 2 is the strongest feeling inside of me now.

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      Kay Anderson
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      I am definately #2. I was born with a female spirit and soul. Wish that I was born with the physical body too. To me this is more than dressing up part time. I can’t transition right now, but keeping my mind open for the future.

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      Ria Freichuk
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      I have always liked wearing women’s clothes. I started as a child and have never stopped.

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    • #346229
      Simone C
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      Hi Girls!

      I’ve read a lot and thought a lot about this topic, and come to the conclusion that I (and many others when I read above) fit the category of “dual-role transvestite”. This is someone (of either gender) who dresses temporarily in the clothing of the opposite gender to experience what it is like to be or to take the role of the opposite gender. There is no desire for reassignment treatment, and it is not a fetish for clothing as such.

      Actually it used to be more women doing this because male-dominated society didn’t allow intelligent women into certain places and roles, so they dressed and behaved as men to experience it without prejudices. There is plenty of literature of women dressing as men for that reason, and I am sure many of them shared our fears of how society, family and their SO would react if they had been found out. There were happily also notable cases of the SO or male friends supporting them, recognising the hypocrisy of society then, and science and literature are better for it. There were of course some for whom it was sexual, many though simply recognised they could not experience or achieve something without temporarily presenting as male. Of course, women have the advantage here that it is easier as a woman to pass as a rather small, fresh faced man than it is for a large, athletic male to pass as a demure, svelte woman. I also think society then and now is more forgiving of women presenting as men (no one reacts to women in jeans, try wearing a skirt as a man though!)

      The real dilemma for me in the past was how to align this with the obvious thrill of wearing soft, sexy clothes. Surely that is a fetish? It was when I was talking though to a GG friend it fell into place. She said “I LOVE wearing something sexy, you think we buy all that lace and lingerie for men only? I get SUCH A BUZZ walking around knowing that underneath my plain business suit is a super hot set of lingerie. Wow! And at night that long slinky nightgown isn’t only for seduction, it feels good!”

      That nailed it for me, for those of us who want to experience being a woman sometimes OF COURSE getting that buzz from sexy lingerie is part of the whole thing. And yes, that is what I want. How does it feel to be a GG, sometimes in loose weekend clothes, sometimes in more sexy dress. I am being a woman, not fantasising about lingerie as such. When I am Simone I take on a feminine persona as much as I can, to experience as much as I can what that means.

      This has had some really great moments, being out and a woman admiring my dress. Yes, and I do say a woman, as she clearly saw me as a fellow woman at the time. It was an appreciative comment, woman to woman, which felt great.

      I’ve also experienced the downside of aggressive men trying to come on to the woman I was at the time and not taking the “no!”. The anger and fear I felt as a woman at that moment was real. It was not a fear of being outed, so what if I were? In some ways fun to see the idiot’s reaction to finding he was trying to hit onto a MAN! No, it was the fear that as a woman I was both at a disadvantage culturally, and that somehow this idiot thought it was OK to leer at my boobs and make lewd suggestions.

      Being in my two alternative genders lets me get a real understanding and respect for BOTH genders and the pluses and minuses of each.

      I have no desire to change permanently (I quite like my alternative), just wish I could alter the body shape as easily as I slip into the mental state of Simone. Damn, and figure out how to get the make-up right!!

      Best wishes to all of you across the spectrum, where you are is yours, I’ve found mine.

      S

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        Lacey Faradae
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        Very well said, for this topic the answers and combinations of the answers can vary tremendously, although it’s clear one we all can agree on is how wonderful it makes us feel…

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        Erica Carlson
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        You nailed it girl!! Xoxoxo

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      Sonia
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      I am 1 and 3. Started as 3 and it still is a lot of 3 but 1 is more and more becoming eqaul to 3 after doing this more or less 35 years. I just love to be Sonia,  either the casual Sonia or the more glamorous or also the slutty one.  I love walking around in the apartment doing hously things, watching TV etc etc.

      I am Sonia 3-4 times a week.

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      Heather Megan
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      Like a lot of the girls here, I think was a journey through all 3, though there will always be aspects of each. Definitely started as an admiration, appreciation of and desire for women’s clothing, then as I got older became for fetish than anything, and was tightly tied to a hyper sexualized context, but though maturity and self-actualization through dressing more and understanding my own feelings, made me realize it was #2 and coming to know my inner girl and let her free

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      Kimmie
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      Sarah,

      No need to be ashamed. You’re among friends.

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      Stef Smith
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      Sarah hi

      great post

      i think for me i m a combo

      i don’t think i have a femme side in the sense that its used here but i do like the clothing a lot. The variety in style and fabrics

      i d be lying if i said there was no sexual Component because there is just not all the time. Sometimes i ll just dress up in lingerie and watch porn pleasuring myself. Its definitely not as often as it was BEFORE i ridded myself of shame and guilt! Now its just when i want to role play.

      also a big change was going full time panties and mixed clothing : eg femme jeans and sweater panties bra toes panted light make up but still look toally masculine

       

      that was a huge change along with acceptance

      so i m like 1 and 3

       

      steff

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      When I first started is was a sexual fetish for me with just sexy lingerie, but it is now an important, therapy for me, I feel very relaxed when dressed and take my time getting ready and enjoying the experience.

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      Is it a cop out to say ” a bit of all three?”

      #1. Always loved the styles of womens clothing, the silkiness, touch, feel etc. From an early age when looking at glamour photographs always had a strange inkling to wonder what it would be like to be wearing the clothes that the models in the photo shoots were dressed in. Those thoughts have never really gone away just that the range of clothing especially intimate underwear has increased over the years.

      #2. As for this, certainly not femme at heart, genuinely enjoy  being male but feel more in touch with my femme side (whatever that means,) calmer, more reasonable and less aggressive in thoughts after a spell of dressing.

      #3. This is the big one for me. Always has been a sexual thing for as long as I can remember. I think it is a combination of the sensuality of wearing female intimates against my skin, the sexual arousal, fetish, perhaps even the long held guilt complexes of dressing and who knows what primordial mix of emotions cross dressing stirs up within me. Whatever the reason the very thought and activity of dressing is a sexual thrill and despite being a guilty burden sometime it is always ever present.

      In summary, quite a bit of #1, a trace of #2 and rather ashamedly a profusion of  #3.

      Sarah

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      Really good topic. Thanks. I definitely have a combo of three. Used to repress but now celebrate. Hooray for this site and wonderful gurls like you to talk to.

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      Celeste Jo
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      Depends on what I’m wearing, if it’s more ‘normal’ clothes it’s because I just enjoy the feel and getting to be ‘someone else’.  While I am comfortable being male most of the time sometimes you just need a break.

      If I’m wearing something sexy though then it’s definitely a sexual thing.  But then I imagine a gg would get a sexual rush too from wearing something uncomfortable but super sexy looking for her SO

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      Loving reading through all the responses! For me it’s a majority 3 and 1 and a little bit of 2. I love the feeling of dressing in women’s clothing. Most of that feeling is sexual. Dressing puts me in a different mindset and I enjoy having a man treat me like a woman sexually. I sometimes do wish I actually was a woman to get the full experience.

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      Hi I can honestly say I’m feminine at heart I have always know I’m truly a girl inside and want to become the woman that I am. When it comes to sexual orientation I’ve always worn lingerie panties bras ect. And have always felt humbled being the girl in our encounters.

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      Well Fiona

      you are right.  For me it’s all three.  I just love to wear woman’s clothes.  The look, feel and of course looking pretty and yes I love feeling like a woman all dressed up thinking I should have been born a woman along with those role playing fantasies that are extremely sexual.   So I love all three of your points.

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      Number 2 is probably the closest match for me. I have experienced the feelings of the other choices as well. But at this stage in life, most definitely feel trapped in the wrong body and am only truly content when at least partially dressed.

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      #1 is definitely growing. It used to be #3 mostly, but when en femme, it’s 90 % #1. When not, when fantasizing, then it’s more like the other way round. As I have taken more opportunities to dress up, the more all round feeling of joy has been taking over.

      #2 might be part of some fantasy, but even that rather externally, having breasts etc.

      Ask me again later! Also a little bit afraid of where I am going with this.

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      A bit of all 3, but #3 is definitely a big one.

      I get really excited with the idea of dressing up, of wearing a woman’s dress or piece of clothing that I’ve seen being worn by a woman, or at a shop’s window, or some online photo.

      When I’m dressed up I can’t help feeling myself. If unfortunately I can’t dress up I close my eyes and get carried away…

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      Re Bobby 1951 posts. I don’t mind responding publicly since I have trouble with private texts on occasion. I am at FD so will try and make it short. Plus I may not be alone in this issue and some may learn! I may have minimal androgen insufficiency! It is rare and that’s all the 2 professionals I have been to can figure out. It started with a testosterone injection because I was feeling cold a lot more. My T-level was panic (13). Nothing more said but maybe I have been exposed to lots of chemicals and I took a steroid named Dinabol for spec-ops and power lifting but no more than a year so rules that out.

      All this took 5-6 years. I am not sure if that is a blood test diagnosis and it may just be bits and pieces of lots of things but the T-shots put things in gear and even though both sexes have all 3 major hormones the more shots the greater my estrogen and progesterone! I actually enjoy having more female hormones. It really chills be out. The only stressful part was a very slow male things and size change and my wife was so good to me. No hormones we know will shrink male parts per se. I am getting breasts but slowly and wife and I are both happy about that.

      Accepting was not just ,” Oh cool”! It was traumatic at first. I began with panties and was open with wife from beginning! I accept for last 2-3 years I am a female. I used to say from breasts to knees. My wife is so supportive and we try humor because we also both have stressful jobs. She has helped me learn to dress right but I have my own fashion style also.

      I made a joke to her about surgery and she laughed. Its fine just as it is..you are more intimate as my lover. I didn’t plan surgery I just wanted her to laugh! I have already posted so many positive effects dealing with PTSD..hence I am fine just as I am. As far as actual causative effects it may be a combination. No more docs. I went to urologist 8 months ago in panties and even called my girl thing by its girl thing name. His reply was as long as you as accept yourself .

      I love this site..I have met super people sharing and growing from others!

      Sorry it’s long again!  Have a great day ladies! Stay safe!

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      hi there. Number two mostly. I would dress and be a woman as much as I could if I could. There’s a touch of number 3 also. I do feel more like a women when I’m dressed as a woman. I’m more comfortable and look at things a different way.

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      For Timea Jane, the fetishy, sexual component is definitely a part of it. I’ve always loved women’s clothes, shoes, and I enjoy being feminine, but I’m tempted by myself, enjoy pampering my legs and feet, and entertain fantasies of being a woman sexually, so that’s definitely a larger part of the equation. Interesting question to ponder!

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      I’d say anymore

      10% number one I think women’s clothes are so much softer sexier and I love the way they fit and feel against my skin and I love being completely shaved. I just wish I didn’t have to shave at all. Hopefully soon

      80% number 2 I really have come to realize I’d be a woman in a second if I could. I’m not sure I could give up everything and my sons mom would not accept me at all. She didn’t accept my dressing and has nothing but horrible and derogatory things to say about anyone that is trans between my business and my son I’m not sure I could transition. But I may make the move sometime. I’ll see how the next couple years go

      10% number 3 the clothes are sexy and that used to be my major reason to dress but now I realize I’m really trans it’s much less of a component. But I still find myself far more likely to feel sexy as a woman than in drab

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      Hi fiona ann moss,

      Nr 3 . L feel such a sexual kick,feeling whats its like to be like a woman .The feeling of wearing all there lovely clothes and underwear is so erotic. It makes me calm and happy. l only dress one a month,with my wifes involvement. We pretand to be lesbians and watch only lesbian porn. So fn exciting. Would love to do it twice a month ,but wife says no. When its all over, then get the clothes off quick. All the guilt,shame ,embarrasment,all comes flooding in. Mainly because l have 3 older boys in the house. If they found out,l would die. If they were not home, then l would dress for hours and would not panic to get the clothes off after a session with wifey. It is not fair that woman have such a lovely choice of clothes and especially their underwear,men like all those soft fabrics also. Woman dont know how lucky they are. l suppose if your born a woman then itsall taking for granted. They dont get the excitement l get when l put on there lingerie,some perhaps do but most might not.. Sabrina

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      A little of all three for me!!

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      Yeah, that matches what I read. A delayed menarche or tests for infertility seem to be the usual paths to discovery. In one case a blood test came back marked ‘male’, much to the lady’s dismay. I saw no mention of late-onset hence my surprise. But, perhaps, there are numerous mild variations. Perhaps males who have a tendency to femininity in behaviour and appearance have inherited that predisposition. Perhaps a bit too speculative. i wonder if there are any recent, significant studies available?

      Araminta.

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      Hi, Bobbie.

      Actually I was writing to Lisaff Norman but I am not used to the formatting on this site and saw your name at the bottom and thought it was your message. Sorry about that. Also this site does not (apparently) ‘nest’ responses so it gets confusing.

      AIS is Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome. As the human body develops, both before and after birth, hormones determine the anatomy. Male hormones ‘masculinize’ the body, especially at puberty. For some males the male hormones are ‘blocked’ so the body develops along a sort of default, feminine format. CAIS is Complete Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome. The person develops female genitalia, breast, etc. but male reproductive organs internally (i.e., testes) which remain internal. To all appearances they are female until appropriate tests are done. They grow up, marry, live as wives but cannot conceive. I rather suspect that there are more instances than are suspected. It sort of like being on testosterone blockers and Hormone Replacement Therapy naturally (?).

      Apparently it is a matter of epigenetics, which I do not really understand. Something like the masculinizing genes are not activated. So, I have heard of this manifesting in youth and it is generally effectively treated in its ‘milder’ forms by taking testosterone.

      Again, it is evidence to me that both males or females can be masculine or feminine depending on circumstances and what one does with those circumstances. Something I do not believe has been done is a study to see if there is any correlation between AIS and cross-dressing.

      Araminta.

       

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        Ah. When i was still in practice it was called Testicular Feminization Syndrome and only recognized congenitally.  During my residency we diagnosed a very nice 16 year old daughter with it while working up why she never had a period.  In those cases the individuals appeared typically female until puberty simply never happened.  Her case was even more challenging because she was the dependent daughter of a Royal Saudi Air Force captain about to rotate back to Saudi Arabia.  The social issues were staggering.  i was not aware of a partial or later onset version. 

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      To Bobbie1951:

      I have not heard of late-onset AIS. It must be traumatic at times but, as they say, “This too shall pass!” You seem to be adjusting as best you can and finding some benefits. You can imagine the shock received by CAIS ladies when they learn that they are actually male. They tend to dramatically contest that conclusion.

      AIS and especially CAIS is one of the instances that to me validates the concept that one does not have to be female to be a lady. As difficult as it may be to live with such a physiological anomaly I have to admit that, at this time at least, I am a bit envious.

      Araminta.

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        Thanks Araminta.  i am not sure what AIS &CAIS are acronyms for.  I actually do not feel that i am transgender but rather that there is a distinct femme aspect to my personality but not a distinction, independent personality as you might see in Multiple Personality Disorder.  i simply use the name Bobbie to describe me on those times i express my femme side but i also have a mascuside.  Just watch me on a hike.  i prefer to allow both aspects of me to be expressed independently though i am looking into hiking kilts and even hiking skirts

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      i am in a wonderful marriage and i really never thought of fem as being me. i have always had a type-A job and an average size penis “until ” 12 years ago. i am retired spec-ops because we can retire after 15 years. i did take steroids but things were changing a few years later. i am blessed with same doc for 18 years. My testosterone was a panic level low and that’s ok as they have shots but we also noticed changes with shots. My estrogen and progesterone levels were going out of site. To shorten the story. I have to have some testosterone for my health but i was diagnosed with Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome. I just developed it late in life. My wife and i struggled because of changes down there and breast beginning to form. My foreskin came back with vengeance and i was losing both length and girth. i was also working hard at the gym to maintain my athletic body as i did it in my job! Finally my wife and i talked as we do everyday but the subject material was on me becoming fem. I could fight it or accept it. Intercourse was becoming difficult because of length so we decided that night our marriage was more important as long as we were intimate! she told me your way too masculine to ever pass but from nips to knees your a girl. I began to wear intimates and felt normal! we celebrated a year later with a men’s underwear burning. I am at home in skinny jeans and tank! We do have some neighbors who know since we mostly have hot tubs and parties. Some guys feel as if my wife needs a big male thing. She is pretty open and tells me she is very fine with me! I do wear a duty uniform to work but generic white panties underneath. My wife’s favorite quote to me is ,”clits belong in panties!” I enjoy it! I wear a 40B! I am dressing more. My wife and me have a normal marriage and we do have fusses but its not sexual fusses! Is life stressful yes but having been a navy seal and my current job stress is normal way of life for me. I am a girl now period! Yes! i was introduced to this fem thing by a physical anomaly but i do understand the hormones and respect all who are male and feel like they should have been born a female or are struggling with themselves. Be who you are and enjoy!

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        You are one lucky guy/ girl!  Your wife’s acceptance of your situation and your creativity as a couple is actually quite remarkable.  Best of luck to both of you

        Bobbie 💋💋❤️

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        You are one lucky guy/ girl!  Your wife’s acceptance of your situation and your creativity as a couple is actually quite remarkable.  Best of luck to both of you

        Bobbie 💋💋❤️

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      #1 – I absolutely adore women. I love the fashion choices available to them, the look and feel of the clothes and fabrics, the colors, the lacy intimates. I love their hair styles and their eyes and their smiles and their scent. And their legs, oh their legs!  And butts. I didn’t date a lot when I was younger, so I used to explain my dressing as “being the woman that I couldn’t date”.

      #2 – I have a lot of women in my life – family and friends – so I think that helps me see, understand, and empathize with their perspective. It helps me be more compassionate and nurturing. And because of #1, I really want to look like them. I want to be pretty and admired the same way. But only when I’m enjoying “Pamela” time, not as a permanent change or permanent presentation.

      #3 – Dressing is a little bit of stress relief by stepping outside of myself for a little bit. But primarily, dressing for me is fetish, erotic, and sexual. My origin story is sexual and that’s mostly where it has remained. I would say 1% emotional and 99% sexual.

      I’m so glad I found this group and someday I’ll have pics to share.

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      JSX1575
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      1. you just like womens clothes:

      Definitely. They feel so much better. love the fabric against my skin and how female clothing hugs my body, highlighting my curves.

      2. you are femme at heart like a woman stuck inside a mans body.

      Not in my case. Everyone is different though.  I respect everyone’s thoughts on this.

      3. wearing womens clothes is like a kind of sexual thing, maybe a fetish or roleplay.

      Guilty as charged. This forum isn’t really geared towards sexual talk, so I will leave it at that.

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      Mmmm, I thought I’d replied to this but then I can’t find it…..

      Like many other ladies I feel a mixture of all three.
      1. I love the look and feel of women’s clothing, lingerie, makeup and nail colour. I’m always checking out what other women are wearing, what makeup, real or false nails (not judging, just observing). I’ve had to repress my personal dressing throughout my life but having recently come out to my wife I’m planning on giving this side of my personality some air. I’m also conscious of the ‘softer’, less confrontational, more conciliatory side of the female psyche (something the world needs a lot more of imho)
      2. I don’t know, sometimes yes, sometimes no. If I could just click my fingers now, would I change? Maybe I would, but half and half would be better</p>
      3. definitely plays a big part in my dressing, maybe because it’s always been repressed and time to dress is often rushed and private. My upbringing and environment have also reinforced/highlighted the taboo nature of these desires/compulsion/fetishes. The initial rush I get from dressing and doing my makeup normally subsides if I have time and space to be replaced by an inner calm and peace.

      S xx

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        Kim Rose
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        <p style=”text-align: left;”>Seraphina – that’s pretty much word for word my own experience, feelings and thoughts on this! It’s like you’ve stepped into my head and answered for me, and that’s  a wonderfully comforting thing! x</p>

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      Well, Fiona-Ann, this is certainly thought-provoking.  In the course of a day I may focus on any one of these but I’ll try to give you my overall perspective.

      #1– Probably my strongest agreement.  Women have it all over men when it comes to clothing.  Fashion is so much more creative and comfortable with so many more opportunities to look and feel pretty.  And the fabric feels so much nicer against bare skin.

      #2– I have my days when this can cross my mind; when my emotions run high when I hug my granddaughter, when I send my daughter and son-in-law back home out of state, when I’m weeping at a Hallmark movie, but mostly when my mother’s words ring in  my ears about my sensitivity and compassion.  Even as male as I think I am, I identify so much more as a woman in many of my thoughts and actions.

      #3– Most definitely a sexual thing.  Women are so much more sexual and especially sensual. Being expressive and caring are so much more female traits and I do identify very strongly with these.

      I hope this helps, you really have me a reason to think about it (in a good way).  Keep the thoughts coming and enjoy your lunch!

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      Hi, I have just seen this post and had to reply, for me it was just sexual even at the age of 7. It has developed to me wanting to look attractive and yes wear lovely clothes, it saddens me GGs don’t make the most of their choice in what to wear as they have so many lovely options that men do not. That is before we start on make up, putting foundation and eye make up and the rest also makes you look younger something men cannot do ( unless you a feminine gay man ). Now I am intrigued by what it would be like to date a man, of course he would have to be just right for me with a nice personality not to mention drop dead gorgeous lol.

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      <p style=”text-align: left;”>Like many other ladies I feel a mixture of all three.
      1. I love the look and feel of women’s clothing, lingerie, makeup and nail colour. I’m always checking out what other women are wearing, what makeup, real or false nails. I’ve had to repress my personal dressing throughout my life but having recently come out to my wife I’m planning on giving this side of my personality some air
      2. I don’t know, sometimes yes, sometimes no. If I could just click my fingers now, would I change? Maybe I would, but half and half would be better</p>
      3. definitely plays a big part in my dressing, maybe because it’s always been repressed and time to dress is often rushed and private. My upbringing and environment have also reinforced/highlighted the taboo nature of these desires/compulsion/fetishes. The initial rush I get from dressing and doing my makeup normally subsides if I have time and space to be replaced by an inner calm and peace.

      S xx

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      Samantha Murphy
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      Mostly #1. Women’s clothing is prettier, more comfy and feminine. Men’s clothing is just plain boring to me. I’m trying to learn to appreciate men’s fashion, but I don’t care for it. I feel the #1 rule of men’s fashion is to look at the article of clothing and ask 1 question. Is there something on it unnecessary or fun, if so get rid of it.

      #2 I wouldn’t say I feel like a woman trapped in a man’s body, but I’m just beginning to explore my femme side now.

      #3 I’ve experienced some arousal at first, but nothing too strong and not every time I dress. I wouldn’t say it’s a sexual thing.

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      Reese Fields
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      It used to be an escape for me.  I would take a bubble bath and enjoy a glass of wine.  After working with my therapist, it’s become clear that I want to live my life as a women.

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      I feel like I have two lives. I have my friends from work and recreation and then a group that knows debbie since they too are cds. I so enjoy my outings and gatherings with the girls and being myself. At times if might be a fetish but with time it has become just natural like this is who I am today before stepping out

       

       

       

       

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      It’s all 3 for me, but the first time I was told I looked happy when dressed up made me realize that I truly am a girl stuck inside a boys body. I’ve always always felt so out of place, and like an outcast. When I dress up I feel comfortable in my own skin.

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      I must admit it’s a mixture of all 3, when I first started crossdressing it was mostly a sexual thing but the older I’ve gotten it’s more that I just like to wear womens clothes, I’m still in the closet because I’m married and my wife doesn’t know about my crossdressing life, I’m not sure she would understand, if somehow my marriage was to end I would dress 24/7, I’m not sure if i would take the next step in transitioning I’m not sure if I’m to old I’m in my late 60s, we can only see what happens in the future when it happens, I do like wearing women’s clothing because of the colourful clothes they are so much prettier than drab men’s clothes x

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      Hi

      I think I have always had a part girl in me, when my mum was pregnant with me she had a really hard time, and at one point the doctors told her that she had lost the baby, after further test they found me.. I understand that I was meant to be a twin.

      My dressing started off as a sexual thing, but I have always loved girlie things, now I older I want to take my dressing to the next level, dressing up is no longer sexual but feels so right, its who I should have been.

      Unfortunately my family would not understand so I have to stay in the closet, but I am going to make sure that I at least fulfil part of my desires by secretly learning how to be a woman, maybe one day someone close will understand.

      I have a makeover booked in March, and hopefully they will make me up into what I have dreamed I should be.(or what I should have been)

      I love this website, although I am new it gives you so much advice and, makes you feel that you can do things that seemed out of reach.

       

      Love you all…xxx

       

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      Kimmie
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      My feelings and background is similar to yours (except for the marine part).

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      JamiLin Anthony
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      I know I am not alone, but I am a contradiction.  No more a split personality.  I enjoy my male side and revel in that.  I am an alpha male in most of my life.  Profession, past history, Marine, College athlete.  But since my early teens, I have been fascinated with women, their personalities, their nature, their way of thinking, their sexuality and everything.

      Oh yes, and their fashions and clothing.  I love both the male side and parts of me want to feel exactly as woman does.

      But I am deep in the closet and can dress only from time to time.  So my category is most of the things mentioned.

      I would really like to find a like-minded friend or two nearby.  Even em-mails and chat to share.

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      Angel Deville
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      For myself it’s a bit of all three in a weird way, like at times it’s a sex thing and others I feel like a woman.

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      Hi. This is Alice Black and here is my response to your forum topic.

      I love wearing woman’s clothes. The colors, the look and the feel all are a magnet to me. Men’s clothing is plain and boring and can not compare.  I would say 60% my reason for dressing.

      I have begun to feel more a  like a woman as I get older.. Some of my body parts are  just feminine in nature( and I did not do anything to take them in that direction – no waxing or hormones ). I would say  20% my reason for dressing.

      Last but not least, some of woman’s clothing does stimulate the sexual part of my being. I would say 20% my reason for dressing.

      Alice

       

       

       

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      I refer to what I am as an athenist and ‘dressing’ is athenising. To me ‘cross-dress’ is pejorative suggesting that males should not be feminine or pretty. Athenising is the use of clothing, cosmetics, accessories (especially shoes), scents, posture, walk, speech, intonation, etc., etc., to create a feminine persona with the goal of being as attractive as possible. In short, I dress to be pretty. After that it gets tricky.

      The difference between a ‘cross-dresser’ and an ‘athenist’ is that a ‘cross-dresser’ is being faulted because of their sex. An athenist is someone who tries to be feminine regardless of their sex. While it is true that most athenists are female I see no reason to assume that the behaviour should be restricted to females. So, to me, it is not always ‘cross-dressing’, it is just ‘dressing’ and lots of people do it, some do not, some are male and some are not.  It is just being human.

      I took the term from Athena who feminized Pandora through clothing, accessories, etc.

      Araminta.

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      Hi. I find that, these days, I dress to suit the way I feel. I class myself as gender fluid so I dress to suit my uppermost self. Some days femme, some male, some mixing it up. Always in trousers, always in heels (makes my legs look longer). Some days full femme, some with my man face on. I hVe even worn my current goatee beard and long boots. Dress to be you. Yoy are always beautiful.

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      Marlene Roberts
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      “I like being a man, and I like being beautiful. You be the judge if you must, but I am me.”

       

      Great attitude.

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      Hi girls,

      As all of you have, I’m sure, I have thought about this alot. My reasons boil down to:

      I do dress in female fetish type lingerie for erotic stimulation occasionally, but there are many other things that stimulate me that way also.

      My actual dressing is inspired by the fact that I have a deep desire to feel pretty, and in turn, to feel good about myself. It doesn’t seem to be dependent on gender per say, but my brain is wired to “feminine” being beautiful, therefore, the more feminine I look AND act, the more beautiful I feel. I definitely enjoy the feels and textures of feminine clothing, probably for the same reason.

      I like being a man, and I like being beautiful. You be the judge if you must, but I am me.

      Hugs

      Meeshell

       

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      I am still in the closet. Once in awhile I get semi dressed wearing gender neutral cloths, no wig, no boobs, no jewelry, a hint of makeup, and clear nail polish with clear mascara. Then I go shopping for womens cloths in the better stores. I just tell the clerk I am looking for something  for my wife’s birthday.

      I like to blend in with tight fitting jeans, an untucked paisley blouse and sandals. That is as far as I go in public. I at least feel better!

      I love womens cloths as they have better styles, better fit, and lots more colors to choose from. Men’s cloths are boring! However, I noticed that more men are wearing the stretch jeans and pink shirts and even jumpsuits and rompers at the beach. Very cool!

      Why do I do it, I don’t really know. I gave up on that one. I just do it when I feel like it. My wife is a straight arrow and won’t tolerate it. She doesn’t want to be embarrassed she tells me.  So I remain in the closet 🙁 most of the time. She has not realized that times have changed and LGBT is more acceptable now. Not to make waves, I maintain a low feminine profile. CD only when the opportunity presents itself.  That’s my story.

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      Kathryn Black
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      I have felt the need to be a woman for many years now. I can’t say when this need began but it a need I can’t explain. Thank you for the encouragement

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      Marlene Roberts
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      Sorry, sent before I had finished my thought. It was the surname “Maidenform” that I thought cute.

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      Marlene Roberts
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      Love your surname! And agree that women’s clothes are so much better, lighter, colorful and better fitting when you get it right, than men’s.

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    • #268349
      Brenda Maidenform
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      Definitely 1,3

      No.1 I like women clothes because they look and  feel more comfortable them mens. It men would get past the ladies part and tried the right kind of panties they would know that they are far more comfortable them mens by a mile.

      No.3 putting on sexy lingerie makes me feel sexy and that will arouse me.  It improves my sexual times with my wife and me. Shaved legs are more sensitive to touch and nylon just feels great.

      I do not want to be a women or try to pass as one.I just want to wear what I feel looks good and is comfortable to wear. Thanks for the question.

       

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      Robin Snow
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      Hi Fiona,

      Definitely a 1.  I absolutely adore wearing women’s clothes.

      Somewhat a 2!  I have always had  female side.  No enough to transition.  Dressing is my way of letting he out.

      Somewhat a 3!  I find the anticipation or recap o dressing to be arousing.   Dressing just feels right.

      Robin

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      Tara April
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      More of #1
      It’s NOT a fetish
      Also i know i not TG women.

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      Beachingirl
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      All above I just love being a woman

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    • #267708
      Frederica Woodbridge
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      Definitely 3, and a bit of 1.

      My wife died from cancer 7 years ago (sound familiar?, and since she was 5 feet 10 inches, I kept some of her clothes, and particularly a pink dress.

      Before that, I’d cross dressed when I had the chance, from the age of 15, when I started wearing panties and nylons I stole from washing lines. While married, I’d wear my wife’s bras and pantyhose when I got the chance, and bought a pair of heels, which I hid for use when I had the chance.

      As time has passed I have bought many items; skirts, dresses, shoes, wigs, forms, bras, panties, stockings and pantyhose. I dress whenever my son is not home.

      For 10 months or so, I met a woman who indulged me. She bought me underwear, made me up and we went out together to restaurants, stayed at hotels with me fully en femme. By the end of each ‘adventure’, I was exhausted. I never felt like I could relax, and when we returned to the hotel I undressed rapidly. Looking back, I think the difficulty was that I always felt under a microscope.

      We are no longer together, and I go out on my own now. There is no pressure and I can do whatever I want, in my own time. I drove to the Delaware shore last week, stopped for fuel, bought some beer, fully en femme, and I thoroughly enjoyed myself. The feeling of fresh air on nyloned legs under a skirt while wearing heels and bouncy breast forms was amazing. It still is.

      It’s very liberating; no-one notices.

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      Nikki, I feel exactly the same way. The more I crossdress the more I feel sexually aroused to get dressed and while dressed and have an overwhelming desire to be with a man while dressed.

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    • #266186
      Danielle Anaya
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      Before that first day my 10 year old self went into my mom’s room and thought “what would it be like to wear those shorts and that wig?” I don’t think I ever even considered wearing female clothes.  Something un-explainable happened to me when it happened.  I think it was a fetish at first, but fascination with how girls walked, talked and dressed differently than boys quickly became powerful.  Not being much of a ladies man, I could be friends with a lot of girls and started learning their mannerisms, how they moved, and how they talked.  I became obsessed with femininity.  I wanted to be a girl.  I love wearing women’s clothes.  Now, I live my life presenting as a woman, and except when I actually think about it I don’t see the man I was before.  The sexuality thing is still confusing for me because I am still naturally primarily attracted to women, even though I have been intimate with a few men as Danielle and have enjoyed that part of it too.  I don’t think I will ever fully understand how all of this happened.

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    • #266084
      Hanna Wannabee
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      Hi,

      I fall into 1 and 3, I love dressing and it also gets my motor running, and I have the fantasy of playing with a similar attired gi

       

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    • #265875
      Dana “Jennifer” Banton
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      Number 2 for me.  I can’t say that I welcome the feelings but I have to be honest.

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    • #264955
      Gina Perone
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      Yes to all the above. Lol. I enjoy the softness of some of the clothes I wear, from panties, pantyhose to skirts and dresses. It’s mostly a sexual turn on for me. I’ve enjoyed being with other cd’s dressed in the past. I’d love to find others who feel the same way and explore more dressed

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    • #264924
      Brittany Lov
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      I know personally I’m a number 2 I’ve been dressing since as long as I can remember thanks to my two sisters who I love and adore , who to this day have no real idea what they really started way back when , whenever we have a gathering and they like 2 talk about how they used to dress me up , I never quite used the time to inform them that I never stopped . I have asked myself many times where I see it all going , sexually there is an arousal for sure thanks to an unfortunate situation in my very young days I was introduced to Men and their desires , and that puts a whole different spin on things kind of reshape my hole idea of dressing as a woman or at that time a girl I have engraved all my experience is good and bad they made me the person I am today a wonderful loving caring person

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    • #264835
      Christinajane
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      I am 99 % sure I am a number 2. All my life I have related to females how they look and act. It takes a lot to say that I actually have feminine thoughts and feel at peace when I am not fighting them off – after many years of trying to run away from them I now just let them be and I am happiest when I embrace them and am just one of the girls.

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    • #263401
      Jamie Sweetly
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      Definitely all of the above for me. I’ve always been very sexual. I had many girlfriends when I was a teenager and loved being with them so much more than boys, both for sexual reasons and just plain good friendship. I love women’s bodies. I love sexy men. I love sexy clothes. I love flirting. I love skin against skin. I love deep, serious conversations. Sometimes I want someone to sweep me off my feet and make mad love to me in my mini skirt and panties. I would love to have the freedom to dress as a woman openly whenever I wanted. I love the act of making myself pretty and sexy. I love just sitting around watching TV and doing household chores in lacy panties, tights, and a slinky halter top. I love putting on make up, shaving my legs. Lately, I’ve been plucking and shaping my eyebrows and growing out my nails, partly because I want to and partly because I want to see if anyone notices and says anything.  I’m a hopeless case. Sometimes I’m such a pent up fem that I can’t believe I’ve hid it for so long!

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    • #262923
      Pattie Obarito
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      Why?  How?   What is wrong with me?

      questions i have asked myself for 40 years.   I have spent much time reviewing my childhood And self-analyzing.   I have reached some conclusions that seem logical to me, thought i had it figured out, but…..

      after all of this, here i am apparently no closer than i was.   In my short time on TGH i have seen many comments from others saying that it never goes away.   i see no evidence to indicate they are wrong.
      you can quit if you put your mind to it.  I did for more than ten years.   But indubitably here i am…..

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    • #262921
      Nikki Bae
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      #3 for me.

      I just love the feeling of getting dressed up.  putting on a bra gets me so excited, panties too.

      I consider myself straight until dressed, then I want another man in lingerie with me.

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        Becca Booty
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        Nikki you put it perfectly for me.  I am straight but bi curious so when I put on some sexy lingerie I want another man with me too. Either a man dressed up sexy like me or a big burly man to take me.

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    • #262677
      Rachel Williams
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      Gotta admit, it started at 3.  But over time, it progressed into 2 with a touch of 3.

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      One and two

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    • #260983
      Alexa Baxter
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      Im waiting fo that stage where my crossdressing will evolve into something much more deeper and personal. because Right now it is absolutely a fetish and sexualised experience for me. I would say that other types of womens clothing only mildly interest me  With next To no interest in shoes and such, but when it comes to lingerie and swimsuits, Im just full on and ready to go.

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        Becca Booty
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        Alexa I’m in the same boat as you. But I do like a sexy pair of heels to go with my lingerie as they make me look sexier. It is a fetish for me and very sexualised.  Maybe we can chat about it some time.

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    • #260950
      Madelynn Fox
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      I know for me it is definitely 2 and 3.  I love to allow my Venus side out when I am dressed.  I love to turn on my female brain and let Madelynn free.  With that, Madelynn has no problem wanting to feel like a woman with a man!  Plus, no matter man or woman, everything is better when I’m wearing fur!

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    • #259166
      Bobbie1951
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      i find that i both enjoy fetishistic crossdressing when in BDSM mode; i look for a Domme who like sissies and feminizes her subs.  i am on my own right now with a vanilla wife but i find i enjoy letting a mature femme side out as well.  Heck it sounds like i have multiple personality disorder

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    • #259141
      Kimmie
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      I’m definitely in the minority here, but for me, it started as a fetish long before I had any idea what a fetish is. For whatever reason, that has never changed.

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      I crossdress for two reasons, though the dominance of one reason over another has changed as I have gotten older. Initially, crossdressing was a fetish. Then, as the process of crossdressing evolved and my understanding of this aspect of myself grew in sophistication, the act became more about artistic expression (i.e., I love the illusion, essentially performance art, and the challenge of altering my body to simulate a feminine aspect). The fetish part is still there, but at a lower level.

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      Marlene Roberts
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      For me it is 98% number 1. Women’s clothes are just better styled, colorful and varied. Even the jeans, such as Gloria Vanderbilt Amanda, fit me better as the band is elastic to some extent. I have more bras, panties, dresses and stockings than my wife, who approves of my wearing them; she sometimes buys me presents such as ear rings and panties and shows interest in my new wardrobe additions.

      On our weekly date night we go out with as much common clothes as we can: matching bra, panties, undershirt/chemise, jeans, shoes and stockings. I wear a ladies shirt (it buttons differently but nobody notices that I believe), but no makeup or wig, and just one ear ring. I would love to go out full en femme but in our small town that is really not feasible. I do the full in the house on occasion.

      When I do the full I tell my wife that one of the girls is coming over and she always asks which one (there are three persona with different styles and attributes) and she says that she will be delighted to meet her. We often have tea together and chat away like two women. She is so kind and understanding.

      Incidentally I am not attracted to men sexually at all; I like women. Maybe that is part of why I like to dress as one. And my wife is not a bit attracted to women sexually. Go figure.

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    • #257952
      Jennifer Heels
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      at a young age, 4 to teen, i just wanted to wear pantyhose and high heels. in puberty well it was more a sexual hormone thing if you know what i mean. as my 20s plus came around it just felt more natural and what i should wear. after my 40s it was more of the woman inside of me thing.

      I questing why me? will this what i be the rest of my life? what woman would want me as i dress like a woman? is this normal? what is wrong with me?

       

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    • #255527
      Samantha Joan
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      Hi Fiona!

      This is a great question. My first ever experience was probably as many, trying on a pair of tights. It wasn’t especially a sexy experience but certainly had an impact. As I was living at home, a pair of tights was easy to hide. For me she’s always been here so for me I’m in the number 1 bracket. Women’s clothes have a range of styles, colours and accessories that men cannot compete with, for me it’s all about the colour and feel.

      Also for me, growing up with strong female role models and working in a predominantly female industry has confirmed that I will never be a mans, man but if this has made me who I am, then I am very happy and regret nothing!

      Its sadly only been in the last 3 years that Samantha has been able to come out properly and have an understanding of what makes my individual style. Thanks to some great people around me, I have able to hone my looks properly.

      Samantha x x

       

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      I think we all can relate to all three. I know I do. I wear panties and bra all the time just because I can. I’ve been a female trapped in male body.

      I think my story is little different being I’m attracted to men sexually but have never gone that far. It’s  very frustrating.

       

       

       

       

       

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    • #254932
      Jessica Gomes
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      I believe most of us go thru those three at one point. It all depends on what is going on in your life at the moment. We are all like a beautiful butterfly and just like a butterfly life cycle we go through it as well. I was just thinking about it myself. I thought about how turned on I would get every time I would dress up and buy things that would look sexy. Now I dress up like is a part of me and that it feels right. If I buy or see some clothes I look for something that would look classy and sexy something that says this is me!

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        Beautifully expressed Jessica!

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      Fiona; Thank you for such a thought provoking post. Like most of us I find in myself a bit of all three. #3 is naughty and makes me tingle, but #1 & 2 are real and true feelings. I especially like how High Quality underthings make me feel. I wear them all the time. Dressing for the public remains sadly out of reach for now. I love beautiful women and I am insane for beautiful crossdressers! This is both wonderful and a dilemma. To go from a hard-bitten, combat tested Marine to someone who spends hours shopping for fine lingerie has made this hackneyed, lonely, existence I have the nerve to call a life very, very confusing.

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      Becca Booty
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      For the most part I only wear lingerie cause I love how it makes me feels sexy and Fem.  And yes I admit a little slutty too.  Once in a great while I’ll put on one of my wife’s dresses and that feels OK. Being that I’m Bi curious, I’d like to one day wear my lingerie for a big strong man or another sexy CD. I don’t get to wear them that often. I want to underdress and wear a pair of sexy panties to work but still haven’t done it.

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      Michelle D
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      For me, it’s mainly #1 and #2, I have always felt more feminine, believing that I would have made a better woman. I am confident in who I am as a person regardless of gender, I’d probably still be the same person just enjoying my clothes a whole lot more.  I do admit to a little of #3 in me, it’s kind of that release I think many of us have inside wanting to know what it’s like to have someone thing of you as being sexy as a woman.

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