So, just how did you choose your name?

I've wondered for a bit if time about this. Many of us pick a special name. What's yours?

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  • I feminized my name. That's who I am after all.
  • It's the name of someone who was close to me.
  • Just used my first initial and went with it.
  • My name is a name I've always loved.
  • I was just drinking and it came to me.

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      Rachel Cross
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      my name comes from my first letter of my name. R and rachel comes from one of my favorite aunts. i remember how nice she looked in a red dress. the C in my real last name. is short for crossdresser. just drop the dresser. and my middle name would be brandy because my real middle name starts with B. and brandy is the name of the song i like.

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      Emily Alt
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      I chose a name I liked and is dissimilar from my legal name. A few things were important considerations:

      • I don’t like any part of my legal name. I wanted a fresh start.
      • Keeping my legal identity and CD identity completely separate to reduce the chance of being outed to family, friends, and work. Select individuals and organizations know (or will know) about me, but it’s on my terms.
      • I wanted a name I’d be comfortable using legally if I ever transitioned.
      • If I transition, I want to respect the conservative sensibilities of my relatives. Having a completely different name is one way to minimize the fallout.

      Emily

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      Maria Pink
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      My name comes from an ex-girlfriend that I had that was not only the only person that knew but actually encouraged me to dress. Even though things didn’t work out for us I still miss her at times and thought it would be a fitting tribute for her and women like her that help and encourage us girls to be who we are.

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      Berta
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      Berta…. Thank you for sharing… Awesome story. Gen 💋

      Thank you, Gen.

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      Genevïéve
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      Genevïeve ‘ Atkinson…..  a character on the television soap opera ‘The Young and the Restless’. Played by Genie Francis.

      Thought that name was so feminine and classy sounding.

      Gen 💋

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      Jennifer Lynn
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      My wife chose mine based on my birth name. She said it should be somewhat similar.

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      Berta
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      Like Paula shared I chose “I feminized my name….” as it is the closest to what actually happened and how Berta came to be. My Mom insisted I was going to be the daughter she’d always wanted. (My 6 year older brother had taken care of the family name continuation.) As she was near 40 yo I had to be her girl baby. She told everyone this and insisted that any and all baby gifts had to be for her girl baby who’s name would be Roberta. When I arrived (in April, 1940 there was no way to accurately predetermine a baby’s gender) with a tiny spicket and no slit she simply dropped the “a” and I was Robert. I was dressed in all the lovely baby girl satin, etc. dresses and gowns she’d been given. When I started school Dad told her to get me little boy clothes to wear, which she did. What he never knew is that she still dressed me me in the lovely lacy satin girls underwear she’d been given under my little boy school outfits! I am positive that is the reason for my overwhelming need and desire to wear satin whenever I can still today at age 80.5! When I rediscovered my need to be encased in feminine satin again after our 3 children had left home I just did it. When I discovered the old MSN Crossdresser chatroom and came to know I wasn’t the only male with these needs and feelings I had to adopt a name to use on line in those chat sessions. While many crossed my mind I decided that I’d honor my Mom so I dropped the “Ro” and restored the “a” to the end and Berta was created!

      Tuesday, Oct. 13, 2020, 4:51 PM EDT

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        Genevïéve
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        Berta….

        Thank you for sharing… Awesome story.

        Gen 💋

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      Leslies Ann Gray Girl
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      Hi i am Leslie , and it just happens to be my real name , so i liked it and just added Anne as a middle name and felt very comfortable with it . I found myself in love with a girl named Anne one time and really like it so i said this is my fem name . It makes me smile when addressed as Leslie Anne . Thank you for this post . Leslie

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      Rachel Cross
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      i love that song and could have used that name too.

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      Paula F
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      I had to pick that I feminized my name, as it is the closest to what happened.  Actually my sister and her friend who helped her dress me that very first time created it by just adding the ‘A’ on the end.  But, I liked it so well, I became the girl they created that day.

      PaulaF

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      Veronica
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      None of the above. A friend gave me the name.

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      Jane Don
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      There was nothing Romantic Or really meaningful about choosing my fem name–My wife & I went back & forth with names til we came across one that No family member or friend had & was quick & easy to say & not be confused with My Male persona–  We Could have used a Version of my male name (sounding the same but spelt different but–it would be to easy to make a mistake—

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      Brandie Nochole
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      None of the above.

      It was going to be my name if I was born a girl Its from the song Brandy (your a fine girl) by Looking Glass

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      Amy Myers
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      My name just seemed to come to me one day as my femme identity was getting stronger and I started thinking “she” should have her own name. No idea, as I haven’t know many Amy’s, but over the following few days I though through several other names, but “Amy” seemed to be the one I felt comfortable with.

      So I could say, Amy chose me. When I was signing up for CDH, they needed a last name, so I choose Myers, as I used to live in the area where the actor Mike Myers grew up in.

      Amy

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      Vanessa ?
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      Mine is a “none of the above” situation.  I had a few other ideas for possible girl-names before I settled on Vanessa, but wasn’t really 100% on board with any of them.

      Vanessa actually was suggested to me in a comment on one of my really early pictures posted on another site.  I kinda liked it but wasn’t 100% sure at first.  But a few days later when I was talking about the subject of picking a girl-name for myself and brought up the suggestion to my roommate (well, she was my girlfriend at the time, now ex but still living together) the way her face just lit up had me like “yep, that’s it, that’s the name!” 😅

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      Mary Priscilla
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      My first name (Mary) honors a very good woman friend who has been a wonderful support in my desire to CD.  My second name (Priscilla) comes from one of my favorite movies; “The Adventures of Priscilla, Queen of the Desert.”  While campy and flamboyant, the characters were, to me, very real and charming.

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      I always loved the name. The first time being called Nicole by someone felt great.

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      Heather Jameson
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      Heather is the name I was supposed to be if I’d been born a girl so it just seemed logical to go with that, not too much thought process.

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      Patty Phose
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      When I began dressing fully en femme at 18, my role mode and inspiration was Daisy Duke. When I first went out to a Halloween Party at college, I essentially dressed like Daisy. I met other dressers there. we got together and partied often. I always wore nice pantyhose. Girls teased me and began calling me Pantyhose. They even gave me a name badge. That eventually became Panty Hose. Then a small written “n” made it look like Paty Hose. Then it made it’s way to Patty Pantyhose and eventually Patty Phose. So my name was essentially made up by others, especially girls having fun with me.

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      Rei Durden
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      Rei only recently introduced herself to me while I was purchasing ‘clothes’ online. When it came time to enter personal info under first name, there she was.

      She has always been with me, but I’ve only allowed space in my life for her in the last year or two (how sad to have been hidden away for 40 years)

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      Suzette York
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      i said it was a name that i always loved. However that is not really true – it is actually a name that my SO suggested for me when she was more into me exploring my femme self.  i have loved it ever since then as i love how femme it is.

      hugs,

      suzette

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      Krista
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      Hi Stevie, thanks for the question, you needed an “other” category in the poll.  It was my Mom who gave me my name.  She had told me my whole life that I should have been born a girl.  And she really wanted a daughter.  So one day a few years ago before she passed away, I asked her, what would you have named me if I had been born a girl?  Without blinking she answered Krista.  Wow, I immediately loved it.  I wish I had been Krista all my life, but at least I have Krista in my life now.  I know my Mom would have accepted me as a CD.  Unlike my super traditional and cold father, Mom was caring, loving, understanding and probably had the most influence on my life.  Stay safe, stay healthy, All the Best, Hugs, Krista.

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      Laura Lovett
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      Well I chose “My name is a name I’ve always loved”, because I loved it when my wife chose me to play the part of Laura Lovett in a costume party for her birthday, some 7 years ago.

      Having the chance to fully feminise at a party to which she’d invited all her old school friends was just bliss – I really thought she’d fully accepted me, but, alas, I was not to get into a dress again in front of her for many years after.

      But her friends posted pictures on Facebook, and I shared them – I was and still am very proud of my creation.

      And, as my profile picture shows, I’m even prouder, with the frankly staggering makeover that Poppy achieved on Saturday.

      Yes, I FaceApped it, but only to look at the next steps! It’s really not far off!

      Love Laura

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      Kay Anderson
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      Well, if you really must know… I had a dear dog that I truly loved. She would follow me everywhere. My wife named her KayLee. So I often used the name KayLee for times when I needed to sign up for something and I knew that it would result in junk mail or junk email. I got so used to using it, I decided to go with a shortened version, Kay. It seemed to fit my personality. My wife also liked it. Oh Kay?

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        Grace Scarlett
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        Oh Kay….that so lovely…and so honest.

        Smiles, grace xx

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      Stephanie Flowers
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      Yes its Feminized to who I am but there’s other reason for my choice.  Secondly Stephanie is my wife’s middle name and  lastly many year’s ago my mother has always told me that if I was her daughter she would have name me Stephanie too.  With everything pointing to the same name it was  obviously my first choice…  And flowers 💐,  well its me.  I love flowers as in my gardening and in my  fashion styles,  love florals….

      Stephanie flowers 🌷

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      Debbie J
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      I used to go by Michelle, after a pseudo girlfriend, but even though I think it’s a very femme name I just didn’t feel like it fit me. Once day I hit of Deborah, shortened to Debbie, which does come the the first initial of my boyo name, and it felt right.

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      Joanne Jackson
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      A number of factors went into my real name but ultimately it is a tribute to a couple of people close to me.

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      Wendy C
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      Hello all.

      My gurl name is special to me as I know it would have been my birth name had I been born a biological girl, ie. AFAB.  Since it has that link, I view it as my ‘actual’ name when in my feminine.

      So much so that I am seriously considering changing my middle name to Wendy via Deed-Poll even though I do not intend to fully transition to girl.

      So yes, my name is important to me 🙂

       

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      Lucinda Hawkns
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      it was a name that i knew a girl a knew down the street from me, her name was Lucinda, so i took that name.   she was my school sweet heart, she moved away a few years later. i miss mer i wanted to marry her but never got the chance to ask her she moved away before i could ask her

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      Laura Morgan
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      I used a name of a distant a sector who had to survive hard times as a woman during the American Civil War. She had to suffer from her dad being gone to the war (which he didn’t agree with) had to suffer the economic severity of that war then had to help rebuild after the war. She had to do “man’s work” since all the men were conscripted into the Army to keep the farm going. She had to survive the hardships after the war and rebuild her own and her family’s life. I seen an old black and white 19th Century photo of her with her new husband. She was a beautiful woman despite the photo being old school black and white flash photography. I admired her spirit, her character, and her courage. I wish I was like her so I chose her name

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      Cassie
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      I started with the root name of my real name which is Cassius. Someone on here asked me if I had a femme name, I kinda thought that was but I suggested they could call me Cassie. Then I also thought Cass is close enough to my birth name that if someone called me from across the street I would react to it. Whereas if I used something like Marie, I wouldn’t react the same way unless I knew someone was actually calling me.

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      Danielle Silverfeather
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      Danielle is a name we have always loved. Silverfeather is a tribute to our Native American bloodline.

      Hugs

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      Alice Underwire
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      I’ve always loved the name Alice and decided it would fit.

      Alice

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      Grace Scarlett
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      Hi Stevie

      Interesting post

      Nothing to do with drinking.. honest !? Believe it or not I simply love the name….all my life it’s never changed and I have never wanted to change it…. after all…grace is who I am!!

      Ms Scarlett xx

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      T.J. Byron
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      Yeah, my initials worked for receiving packages, CDH posts…and as a doctor, that’s how I signed my charts and reports.

      A good friend is ” P.J.” so I figured,  why not!

      Love to all

      Dr.T.J.

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      Kathleen 60454
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      Hi Stevie,

      It was a name that I have always liked and also it was the ne of a girl that I was in grammar school that had very beautiful and natural long blonde hair that when half way down her back, that was braided every day for at least six years of grammar school.

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      Bettylou Cox
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      Actually, it’s a variation on my wife’s name;  when  I first started shopping online, I was too shy to buy clothes using my male ID,  and I hadn’t developed enough to create a femme name for myself.  I just kept it when I joined CDH, and now I own it.  LOL.

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      Lexie Trask
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      My name was chosen by someone else, but there is no option for that in this poll.

      I did not participate in this poll.

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