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Well, I chose “Straight”. I understand “Gay”, but I’m not that. I understand “Bisexual”, but I’m not that either — even when dressed in full femme I’m still attracted exclusively to women. I’d like to fantasize that I’m a lesbian when en femme, but I can’t be that, either, because, under the hood I’m still only an old man in a dress and I’m acutely aware of that.
As to the other choices, well, I don’t even know what those are. Guess I’m just a naïve old man in a dress.
I checked the “straght” box, but age has effectively neutered me; so “asexual” is a more accurate label.
Hi Tisha,
The every present other – the curse of cdh polls 😉
I think what fits me closest is demisexual, which is on the asexual spectrum. I need a strong emotional connection first before sexual attraction kicks in. Not sure it’s an ‘official’ designation but it’s dotted around the internet these days. My wife had a better way of describing the asexual spectrum. At one end is a groin person’ at the other end is a non groin person’.
Marti xxx
I am bisexual always been since younger
I’m straight, but have experimented a little in the past. I love women and the female form. Nowadays I look at a woman and wish I looked like her or had her clothes or shoes, etc. just as much as I am attracted to them. I suspect the HRT train I’m about to reboard will flatten those desires a bit.
Hi Jenna Been on HRT myself for 6 months going to do final transition at the middle of November to become a woman. As for desires nothing changed for myself like woman and men. Present time leaning more to men.
Donna
IDK. I chose pansexual based on how I feel. I’m attracted to people that identify as female. Their genitals can be biologically male or female. Both are appealing. In the right situation I might be attracted to someone that identifies as male.
Emily; I’m not sure at this point about all the different labels and tiles. But I’m with you with the feminine presentation. I don’t find anything attractive about the male hairiness. One of the attributes of Femininity that attracts me is the smoothness. A point I do my best to imitate in my presentation
little hair think ok for my man when with one don’t want no hairy bear now lol.
Hi Trisha!!!
I am 100% straight, which makes Grace 100% lesbian….see, I’m getting confused already!!!!
Huggs, 💓💓
I have always considered myself to be straight. I have a great relationship with my wife and could never cheat on her. However, if I was granted a free pass I wouldn’t hesitate to choose another CD/TG woman. But definitely not a male.
So what box does that fit into? I think it’s Straight with a Twist.Marie Jane
It took a while to admit to myself and my wife that I enjoy the company of a man every so often. So yes bi-sexual and believe it or not it works for us.
I guess I’m not really sure anymore. A few years ago, I wouldn’t have hesitated to say I’m straight. When I came out to my wife (the last time) she assumed I was Bi, and for whatever reason, I didn’t correct her or disagree. I guess the dressing has gotten me thinking about it a bit more. I think people can be beautiful (on the inside and/or outside) regardless of their gender. So, am I Pan? I really don’t know, but I’ll let you girls know if I ever figure it out! 🙂
So, funny story… About a week ago at work, a guy was making a comment about wanting to walk by the gym to look at a young woman who was coaching a kids team. While his sexist attitude was not right, and bothered me, it got worse. A woman with us at the time commented to him that that was weird. His response, “No, it would be weird if I were going to look at a guy.” My homophobe meter went off, so I was going to say something. Keep in mind, I’m one of those people who thinks of the right response 1/2 hour after the conversation is over. But, in the moment, what came out of my mouth was, “That’s not weird to go to the gym to see a guy.” Everyone kind of went silent and that was the end of the conversation. Meanwhile, I’m thinking to myself, that didn’t exactly come out like I intended. I just wanted to try to normalize same sex attraction/relationships with him. But, instead, I think this came off as me coming out as gay, or bi, or something other than straight. I decided to let it go. If he thinks I’m gay, so what. Maybe that will make him think twice next time he is about to make a homophobic comment. Or maybe not, we’ll see.
Birel
How incredibly brave of you. The small details are where you show who you are and what you believe in. Good for you, that is kind of inspiring!
That’s a question I’ve spent a fair amount of time on lol. Like many of us, I’ve bounced around my understanding of my sexuality and who I am. If it was a pinball machine I’ve probably tapped all of the bumpers at least once lol. The truth, my truth, is that I’m pan. I came out to my wife as bi, because it’s just easier for me to explain lol, but I know in my heart who I am now.
100%_straight, not attracted to men in any shape of form, females only,
Well, my sexuality is confusing, may I choose more than one? I’ll say I am attracted to the feminine gender and the sexuality will develop from that. I guess my emotions and desires are ruled more by what’s inside their heart and head than what’s inside their dress, be it GG or TG. So… ABiPan sexual?
I’m certainly not auto sexual, that much I can say. So, ones been eliminated at least!
Hmm. TECHNICALLY, I guess Bi. But my attraction is to all that is feminine. So a guy presenting as a guy, no interest. But presenting Fem, I’m fine with. Women I however tend to extremes. You can melt my heart dressed in classic high fem, but there is a special place in my heart for Furiosa or Galadriel (pointy ears <3!) type strong women. The equipment is secondary for me. So what I really like is fem with fem. No Idea how that gets defined. In my writing, all my main characters are strong women, most either Ace or lesbian. Although I am outlining one now where the MC is an android that presents often as female! If that says anything psychologically about me.
I love lotr. I love the nobility of Arwen, awe of Galadriel, and Strength and determination of Eowyn. Though I’d love to be with the noble yet humble Faramir.
Definitely on the bisexual/pansexual spectrum. It took years before I came to the revelation. When I dressed in my youth I was so unsure of what I was trying to express dressing en femme, who I was and why I continued to come back to it again and again. I also rarely experimented with makeup, wigs, breast forms etc. When I finally committed to a true transformation and saw Felicia in the mirror it really shattered every preconception I had of who I was and that included my sexuality. It was more than a little mind blowing figuring all of this out in mid-life. Maybe I had been in denial, maybe conditioning and what I wanted to believe prevented me from exploring more when I was young but I regret that more and more every day.
I chose ‘other’ as I am T, but it isn’t on the list. It is my desire to live my life femme, whether or not I have the final surgery. Some have argued that I am just a gay male as I freely admit to never having intimate relations with a femsle.
If the final step is taken, and I am sure it will be soon, I will still enjoy and seek my intimacy with men. Then that would make me what? Str8/hetero/trans/fluid? By legal definition, and also personal perspective, I do believe I would be a woman (though some are beginning to say that label is sexist because it has ‘that’s word in it).
PaulaF
Well Paula, maybe I can use myself as an example to better help you. If I were to only be attracted to women it would consist of GG, CDs, and Trans Women. So I would be considered a lesbian CD. And of course if I was straight I’d more or less only be attracted to men and Trans Men.
Since I though am attracted to so many levels of gender identification and prominent physical features (like female bodybuilders mmm…) I get bumped up to pansexual status (either by others or myself lol).
Hope this helps.
Kisses…
Quinetta, thank you for your reply, and concern about this old girl not knowing who/what she is. I really appreciate it, and please don’t worry, you gave me a good chuckle. It was just a rhetorical question.
Now, your interest in T bodybuilders, now there is an interesting personality I have never met.
Stay sweet hon.
PaulaF
Need two more selections in your poll: gynephilia and autogynephilia. Trying not to offend anyone, but I’m repulsed by men who look like men but attracted to men who look like stunningly beautiful women…and to female GGs.
I always find it so interesting to hear about other girl’s sexuality. I am always surprised when I see how many girls are strictly hetero. I really shouldn’t be surprised but it seems like being open to men while femme is natural but it couldn’t be less so for many girls.
For me my inclination has changed over the years and I find trans women in general most desirable. I love women as well but it has changed and I see women in a bit of a different light, more friend like though I still am sexually attracted to women but few are attracted to girls like me.
With men, well it is mostly about sex but I love the attention and they do make me feel more feminine and desired.
I am attracted to femininity, even as Eva. That could be a woman, CD or TG. I am not into men.
Definitely Bi but lean toward gynosexual. Not into hairy guys at all. When it comes to men, swimmer bods are a sweet spot for me.
I would have thought this ODD, but I guess what I heard is TRUE. Most CD’s are straight, at least according to the poll results. Not that it matters.
I personally am a straight CD, but my view is “as long as you’re happy”.
I love the people I’ve met here on CDH, and everyone has been so kind and comforting. I have even met a FRIEND who I chat with everyday!! I didn’t know what to expect here, but I’m SO glad I joined!
Valerie
Great topic Trisha and really happy to see the number of bi’s we have here being one myself. I was pretty much “straight” in my teens but became really attracted to guys by the time I hit my 20s and realized I was definitely bi then. I wanted a boyfriend badly and wanted to have sex with him as soon as I could. I didn’t find myself attracted to any guy (I was picky before getting a boyfriend) but finding the right one was incredible and I haven’t looked at women the same way since. I’m so in love with my boyfriend and very happily bi.
If i find someone sexy or beautiful its because i just do and not because the genitals are inside or outside. Beautiful people come in all shapes and forms ❤
Trisha,
My other would be “Fluid”, those who experience shifts in their sexuality, sexual attraction, or sexual behavior in different situations or throughout the course of their lifetime,
or,
”Queer”, which opens up options beyond lesbian, gay, and bisexual to individuals who don’t fit neatly into these categories or prefer a category that isn’t dependent on sex and gender.
I’ve been happily married and faithful to my wife for 27 years, but I can’t say that over the years, I haven’t had sexual desires that run the gamut, from wanting to be with a man as a man to wanting to please a man and be taken as Raquel to being with a woman as either. Generally, I tend towards fantasizing being in a submissive role, but not in an abusive way. My femininity evokes a desire to please my partner, whoever it may be.
I am straight but when I’m dressed the thought of a man being attracted to me is intriguing. I’m not sure if I would give in to female desires or not.
Hugs, Liara
Like said before I am Bi and dressing doesn’t matter towards me can be with a woman or a man. Knowing my desires are leaning more to the male. Since being on HRT and transitioning to a woman. Been dating a guy now for over month and we are wonderful together. Also he very supportive of my transition and saying be very happy once November comes around and have women’s part downstairs.
Donna
Liara. Be careful. Sometimes all it takes is holding the right hand. Something magic happens if it fits yours just right and your fingers intertwine. I can tell you a kiss is usually the next thing to follow.
I have always been straight, but I am getting more interested in men and I think I would like to have sex with a man. So I think I must be bi sexual
Kim. That is similar to how I started out. PM me if you want to talk.
Love all things feminine and the lives of women. So much so I prefer to be with a man and enjoy the total experience of loving and caring for him.
Deborah I’m hoping to be with a man myself, but the dating game is proving to be difficult. Can’t wait to feel how it feels myself.
Any guy would be lucky to have a lady like you.
I had relations with both men and women since I was a teenager but I had an awakening moment about 10 years ago. One day by the seashore a man and a woman were walking in my direction, and I suddenly realized that I was checking out the man’s body and not the woman’s body. I thought about it and realized that since my youth I always paid more attention to men’s bodies than to women’s bodies. I used to think I admired men’s bodies because I had a complex about how skinny I was. That day by the seashore I finally admitted to myself that I was gay. I do miss intimate relations with women, which I found more satisfying, but I have not pursued that route in many years. I am attracted to men. I am now attracted to crossdressing men, but I find that most are married and I am not willing to date a married man.
Call me old fashioned (and I hope I’m not offending anybody). I love wearing women’s clothes when I can, but will always refer to myself as male. For me in most cases you’re either born a man or a woman. I believe in a God who made me in the form He wanted me to be. Sometimes I feel that even having these thoughts I’m offending my Lord
Trisha thank your for your understanding, a lot of people would be slagging me of. I don’t mind anybody having a different opinion than me but we’re living in a society where some people if you disagree with them, you’re labeled. Love your outfits by the way especially the red summer dress. Red’s my favorite color
Hi all
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Honestly I have to say I knew I was bisexual and I knew I was a cross dresser all the way back to like 7 8 years old I had a friend of mine who’s a female cute girl but with her it was more about doing hair makeup girly things she was also my first kiss not that I knew what that meant at that time but a lot of times I found myself looking at her twin brother because he was a sweetheart I was more concerned with stealing her panties so it can get pretty complicated it wasn’t until my teens that I actually was able to figure it out and then I figured out there yes I am crossing dresser
Maybe it is the way I see the world today – are men more sloppily dressed then ever? When out as a man, unless I am working on the house or yard, I almost always have a nice pair of jeans(or business jeans) a nice shirt with a collar and a sport coat if out at a nice restaurant. Maybe I’m old fashioned at my middle age. LOL! Interested to see if anyone else has this view.
Yes, I dress nice as a man and of course as a woman. Men have hit on me(even in the presence of my much better looking wife). I do appreciate the attention however, I review their look, behavior and clothing and think – what are they trying to accomplish?????Ah, I should clarify my earlier post. Survey after survey of women who are in a relationship with a crossdresser(MtF), and have a comparison with a cis-man, state we as crossdressers are more attentive, show greater respect to our partner, take better care of our appearance(man or dressed), are more understanding and of course make better lovers.
Check it out on any search engine you prefer. I know for a fact we make better lovers but then again, I just might be a tiny bit bias. 😁 Just saying…….
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