When your dressed as a woman do you feel differently about men?

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    • #399433
      Janice Doe
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      I am more of a lesbian cross dresser. I am attracted to all kinds of women both dressed and in drab. I have found that I really enjoy being with another cross dresser for both conversation and if the chance arises, sex. But, I am generally not attracted to men. Although, I have had plenty of offers from men who have seen me dressed, but most of them just creeped me out.

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      Aaron “Adrianna”
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      No but then again I’m a virgin so I don’t know what sex is like with anyone regardless of gender identity lol

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      Joanne Jackson
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      Not sure.  The situation never presented itself.

      I imagine I’d be open to it but it would depend on the actual circumstances.  is he sweet?  Is he a creeper? Some very good and thoughtful responses to your question has presented me with quite a conundrum.  Put me down as a definite maybe!

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      Robyn Devine
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      For me, men in general/drab do nothing for me.  When dressed I do think differently. Men do become more appealing (as Im bi-curious) but I prefer crossdressed over straight men any day.  Dressing up does become a persona and mindset. Trans-lesbian?? I guess but not 100%?  I just love the female image and persona.

      Robyn

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      Genivieve Bujold
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      I voted Yes, when I am dressed and presenting as Genivieve, I have evolved from wanting to look like a woman, to wanting to be a woman. When in girl mode now I am not happy to merely look female, I want to be female. I look, act and feel all woman. Thus I want what women want, and for me that includes the attention of a man. I have dated and it is so very femininely affirming! 

       

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      Cindy Jones
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      Hi Cindy,

      I love this question.  Here’s a reprint of my response from a similar forum about a year ago…

      I can only speak for myself, but I think there are internal and external factors at work here.  I did indeed answer yes.  And, I have been with a guy (sexually) as Cindy.

      I think the internal aspect has to do with “feeling femme”.  We start with panties and/or pantyhose and it makes us feel like a girl and we really like that feeling.  So, with each progression…  skirts, dresses, high heels, breast forms, wig, makeup…  we feel more and more like a girl and therefore enjoy that feeling even more and more.  And, for some of us (only some, emphasis added) if we imagine ourselves with a guy or act upon those feelings, we hit the maximum “feeling femme” which can be very intoxicating.

      The external aspect (thanks mostly to the internet) is the “femme validation”.  When we dress, no matter what stage we are in, we see ourselves as a woman.  Now, we can share pics, vids, blogs, etc. and have others comment on our femininity.  How wonderful it is to be told that you look beautiful or sexy as a woman.  And, for some of us (only some, emphasis added) to have a man see you as female (and want you sexually) is the maximum validation of our female self.  So, in imagining that male/female dynamic, we start to look at guys differently and start to feel an attraction toward them.

      So, here’s the kicker for me…  occasionally, when drab, and even when I’m with other people, I might see a guy and think…  “He’s really handsome, I think Cindy would like him”

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      Amanda Cook
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      I have crossed dresses for a long long time. Yes I have had spells when I have not!!! But always come back.  I voted yes for I’ve always had thoughts of men when Xdressed only. For many years it was just wishful thinking!!!  Then about 8 years ago I got myself tarted up like a lady of the night and told myself I’m not going to come back home till I’ve lost my female virginity ?!?! And that’s exactly what Amanda did  3 men later!!!  The first 2 was just sex quick wham- bang- thank you mam  but the third man was different from the start? He treated me like I was the love of his life!!! He was slow touché all over me it was nice   Then he kissed me out of the blue?!?! I was not ready for that?!?! Amanda hadn’t been kissed before?!?! At first I did not like it for about 5 seconds then I did we had a bit of fun in and on his car and after we wos haveing a kiss and cuddle and he asked me to go back to his place this wos about midnight so I did and did not leave him till late the next day   We still see each other on and off and repeat the first time   My only regret is I left it all the years thinking about it   So I say don’t waist time go for it now

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      Deborah Sullivan
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      I adore men especially admirers that treat us like ladies. It is so exciting to be held cuddled and kissed . Much more fun not being the alpha male

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      Evelyn
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      For me, there is no other reason to be dressed. The thrill of being being dressed as a woman is, and always has been, totally exhilerating, but it as nothing when compared to the ecstacy that ovetwhelmes you when you are in the arms of a man.

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      Connie Love
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      When I am dressed i would love a man to pay attention to me. Im pretty sure i want to know what it fells like to be hit on. Dont think i want sex with a guy but would really like to know how it feels to fend one off.

       

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      Haley Ann
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      Absolutely! When I started dressing in my mom’s things, sexuality was not even a question that was on my mind…the fabrics just felt food against my skin and it made me feel pretty, like my mom. At about 15, I was so girl and car crazy that dressing just got shuffled out of my life…for 30 years. During that period my bi side got unlocked, and when I started dressing again, even though it was just a pair of panties and/or pantyhose, my intent was to look desirable and sexy to men. In my real life, it was all about controlling everything, making the next deal, being the alpha male. But en femme, I could allow myself to be soft and somewhat vulnerable, and to allow myself to explore a little. I had this fantasy of a porn star boyfriend, but at 65 my views on men have changed. And I still want to be pretty and have some fun, like most girls! I have a friend, he’s never seen me in drab, and he treats me like a lady (well, most of the time anyway😈). He’s my age, polite, in good enough shape…and that makes him sexy to Haley. Would I enjoy a “lesbian” encounter with my wife? Oh my yes, but outside of that this girl is definitely a man’s lady.

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      Haley Ann
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      Absolutely! When I started dressing again in my early 40s, one of my motives was to further explore my sexuality as Haley. It has been a long and very difficult process of discovery…but after many aborted attempts (kind of like purging), many near misses, a few TDs at the door, a couple of nice guys surfaced. And when they did, it allowed me to look at men differently. I’ve discovered that for me self-discovery is overrated, and does self-understanding ever happen?  Ladies, at 65 Haley wants to do what most girls like to do…look beautiful and have some fun! I have a friend and he has never seen me in drab, and he treats me like a lady…well, maybe I’m a little s****y at times, but he’s a nice guy. He is polite yet suggestive, my age but very functional, and secure in his friendship with me. It’s funny, as Haley has aged and evolved, her fantasy of a porn star boyfriend has been accepted as purely fantasy…and it’s all good. While I will admit that a lesbian encounter with my wife would be an incredible experience, outsideof that Haley enjoys being a man’s lady.

       

       

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      Emily
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      I answered yes, I’ve never thought about being with a man sexually, but as Emily I do wonder what it would be like to really be with a man.

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      Maria Pink
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      I answered yes. I am Bi but generally attracted to women more unless I am dressed. When I am dressed, men get my attention more as I get into my feminine side.

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      Debbie Lynn
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      Oh yes!! I want to give myself to a man and be his toy. Just being honest!

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      Linda Lee
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      I hope Sara can experience intimacy with a man you will enjoy  it

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      Linda Lee
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      It does make you feel different about  men when you are all dressed and wearing your most intimate clothing you really feel so wonderful  when a man pays special  attention  to you and you have the most  intimate  of moments  with him I hope you get to experience  all this different lifestyle  offers

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      Cindy Rush
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      All the time

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      Samantha Aviadd
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      I attracted to woman’s but when I’m dressed and feel so feminine. I would feel the comfort and protection of a men. So far I don’t fantasize about sex but definitely who’s to be on his arms and make me feel a full woman.

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      Sara Todd
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      I voted yes, When I am fully en femme it is like having a switch turned on. I find that in addition to being sexually attracted to women of any sort asI am at all times, I become sexually attracted to men. I want to experience an encounter with a man  how a woman would.

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      Jenny Thigh High
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      technically no, because I love men whether or not I’m dressed.

      however, I voted YES because I find men even hotter when I’m dressed than I normally do 🙂

       

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      This is a hard one for me.  I know the internal pleasure I get from dressing up and feeling my feminine side and it calms and coddles me in the way I need.  In my life I have seen so many women abused and hurt by their spouse that I don’t ever want to experience that myself.  Someone else posted that they would probably lean towards being a Lesbian and I almost agree with that thought.  Myself, if I could find a woman that would allow me to have MY feminine side, I would love to pamper her and love her in ways that would please both of us.  I feel sometimes I could care less about my personal sexual drive and to me it the pleasure of my partner that I am more inclined towards.  So I don’t know where that puts me!

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      Carrisa Gayet
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      Yes when I’m dressed i think sometimes i would like to feel like a woman not sure about it though. I think it would be nicer with one of you girls

    • #390573
      Mary Jane
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      no. Not attracted to men at all. When dressed I consider myself 100% lesbian.

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      Stevie65
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      I voted no as i always enjoyed being with both sexes. At the same time it would be just as nice to be picked up dressed enfemme. Just as much as it would be nice to be picked up by a GG.

       

       

      Stevie

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      Samantha Darling
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      Absolutely!  I feel very much the same.  I would never have a Romantic relationship of any kind with a man.  But when I’m dressed as a woman, I have such a desire to fulfill a feminine role with a man sexually.  Not really into kissing him, but rather a limited sexual encounter only.  And, afterwards, I tend to lose my desire to dress en femme.

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      Rebecca Turner
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      Cindy Rush,

      I completely understand.  Even as bi, I’m not attracted to men. It’s more the idea of completing the sensation of a woman. To be taken as you described.

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      Rachel Williams
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      I actually voted no.  Even when in drab, I’m attracted to all people.  I just feel a sense of calm & peace when I’m Rachel.

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      When I am Annie, I do wonder about how it would feel to be on a date with a man. How it would feel to walk hand in hand,   To be held dancing and perhaps kisses gently and romantically.  Perhaps some gentle making out but I would want to stop there.     As Annie, I truly develop a female persona and love to experience more and more. 

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      I voted no, when I’m Jessica I’m not attracted to men. I’ve always liked women and regardless of how I look that doesn’t change. I see them as friends.

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      Madelynn Fox
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      When I am in Venus mode, I definitely desire being with a man.  I too have flirted and chatted with men when I’m dressed.  I guess I want to try to feel as much like a woman as I can, so I find that I let go and allow myself to desire men.

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      Laura Jane Moore
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      I have been fixating on a man when I am dressed and beginning to assess men when I am not dressed.  Lately have been fantasizing about a man taking me in his arms and sweeping me off my feet and treating me like a woman. I have been reading more about SRS even though I will neve have it and wishing I had a vagina like those who have been through it all…. oh my how my desires have heightened.

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      Cindy Rush
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      Great response

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      Kelly Terry
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      I voted no since I don’t really change my personality just because I change my clothes.
      I’m to close to the closet to be exposed to any men but to what little exposure I do have I don’t feel like I want anything to do with them beyond maybe a appreciative look (to acknowledge that Kelly looks like a woman).

      /kt

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      Cindy Rush
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      Amanda I can understand that. I guess its really just bringing a feeling that’s inside of us. The desire may have always been there just intensifies while Dressed.

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      Phoebe Smyth
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      I put yes but I don’t see them differently in a sexual sense.
      I like women either way.
      Instead I see them as a potential problem to deal with.
      I have experienced much more hostility (in a broad sense) from men as compared to women.
      Not that I haven’t been treated with hostility by a few women also.

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      Amanda Burton
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      I don’t feel differently about men in general, as Amanda I am some what more cautious around them, I certainly don’t out of my way to attract their attention, other than the way I dress,prefer female friends and company always have which other mode I am in or was.

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      Heather Harrison
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      I voted yes, as when dressed I have flirted with and have actually been attracted to a couple of gay male friends.

       

       

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