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- September 27, 2020 at 6:05 am #387983
Hello Sisters,
I happened to stumble across this documentary on YouTube. It really resonated with me, and I thought it did a wonderful job of explaining the gender spectrum. They even used some science!
This is a well done 2 hr. documentary, but well worth the time. I can’t post the link, but look up The Gender Code on YouTube.
xoxoxo
Heather
- September 27, 2020 at 8:54 am #388018
Hi Heather…………..Jennifer Swanson posted “How Feminine are you?” and took the test to reveal I am casually feminine. The site had other tests, and I was classified as Bisexual.
- September 27, 2020 at 10:02 am #388030
I’ll have to take the test, thanks! If you have the time, watch that YouTube video. It was very well done.
- September 27, 2020 at 1:52 pm #388068Anonymous
I’m definitely gender fluid , but mainly now on the female end , rarely venture to the male side 😊😊. Mannerisms , posture , body language etc all femme , sits well within me. Fortunately my wife understands & is comfortable with this .🌹🌹
- September 27, 2020 at 8:06 pm #388163
Hi Heather as a stay at home girl i will look this up and watch it but as Since coming here to CDH i have grown as the Stephanie in my heart and sole i feel more like a girl every day . As we have chatted you know me and want to have you and others here as close friends so im saying im not going for transition but i want to be as girly as i can with respect to my wife as her husband for her so im stuck im a revolving door of i dont know where im going i guess im happy as a man with a womans heart and sole .
Hope thats not to confusing because i am ..LOL..
Hugs girlfriend
💋 Stephanie💋
- September 27, 2020 at 8:14 pm #388164
Stephanie,
I can resonate with what you say. I am not at all passable on the outside and will have to keep my chest hair, and parts below my bellybutton. But I like to maintain myself hair free from the bellybutton down. My wife knows this and also knows that I exclusively wear very girlie pink and floral panties 24/7. I would have to classify myself as a MTF lesbian on the gender spectrum.
Alana
- September 28, 2020 at 10:59 pm #388474
Right now, until I reach that magic 5 year cancer survival line, I would say, and my counselor would agree, that I am transgender not in transition. But if you really look at one of the meanings of transition, I have been this way for most of my life, learning more all the time about who and how I was, and coping with the realization that I wasn’t just CD, or gay, or just weird, but much, much more.
It all became much easier to me once I finally accepted the truth of who I am and began to turn my life in the direction I needed to be happy within as well as with myself, fully transitioned or not.
Would that be considered more gender fluid, gender queer or what? It doesn’t matter anymore to me, I am comfortable, and like ‘The Boss” Springsteen says, “It’s a sad man my friend, who’s livin’ in his own skin, and can’t stand the company. These ARE better days.”
PaulaF
- September 29, 2020 at 7:43 am #388518
I look forward to watching this. Looks like it’s hit or miss with the other commenters… I’ve Always had a feeling of where I am on a “gender scale.” Since I was young, I always knew I was a little bit different. But I was always secure in my sexuality as straight. But I was very comfortable in male or female situations, hanging out with mostly women, cross dressing at a early age, probably 11. I didn’t start to have any attraction to the same sex until I was cross dressing regularly, and then only whenI was dressing and the other person was dressing as well, so to cross dressers together. But when I’m not dressing I have no desire for the same sex at all. I guess that makes me a cross dressing lesbian LOL. I’m grateful for my sexuality security, and while I wish I was able to express my feminine side more with family and the public, I’m satisfied with keeping it as my special routine for myself
- September 29, 2020 at 8:07 am #388526
Hi Stephanie,
Don’t be sorry, I don’t mind constructive criticism at all. I’m still trying to figure out where I fit on the spectrum.
I agree that when we are born we are androgynous, and the way we are raised plays a huge part in what we become. When I watched this, My wife and I both commented on the scope of the film and there was a bias. That being said, the societal issues brought up were accurate.
I’d be very interested in what you have found regarding the science on this.
So no, my feelings aren’t hurt or anything like that. I love discussions.
Heather
- September 29, 2020 at 8:36 am #388545
I think people are too concerned with labels. We are all different and all totally individual and unique.
The spectrum has an infinite number of shades. I think the rainbow is so well chosen to represent LGBTQ+ individuals.
I know I am bi-sexual (as I had a boyfriend before I was married to my lady wife), I consider myself gender-fluid and non-binary and possibly gender-queer as well ! (I’m just hogging all the letters!).
But if I was really a woman (I wish!) then I would definitely be a lesbian as I find the female form so pleasing.
- September 29, 2020 at 1:10 pm #388651
Hi Heather
Thsnks for finding and sharing this wonderful documentary.
Splitting
1’sex’-who we are physically,(male, female, transsexual)
2’gender’-what we are conditioned to be, (masculine and feminine traits,clothes, expectations etc), and
3’sexuality’-who we are attracted to (heterosexual, gay, lesbian, bisexual etc)
It really helped me with respect to an earlier post I made about the meaning of Trans in LGBT by separating out the sex (I’m happily male)and sexuality (I’m happily heterosexual)issues. It is specifically the gender issue I am ‘exploring’ and which brought me here. So I’m exploring my gender (being who I want to be rather than who I have been conditioned to be) —not my sex or sexuality.
From one’ Two spirit ‘ to another.
❤️B
- September 30, 2020 at 9:02 am #388869
Hello girls,
After reading some of the feedback on my post, I just want to say that my intention wasn’t to offend anyone. I thought some of the points brought up in the video were informative and interesting.
As far as the violence depicted in the video, this is real girls. I spent 10 yrs as a law enforcement officer and 7 yrs. as a probation officer here in the U.S. I have seen the brutality the human race is capable of. I have seen some posts here from girls taking what I consider risky behavior, and I never want to hear of one of my sisters being hurt. That being said, I’m not promoting us living in fear, but developing an awareness of your surroundings, (situational awareness), and common sense. Things here in the United States are tense these days.
I have had people try to kill me and it isn’t a good place to be, but I’m still here thanks to my training and practicing situational awareness. If I can help others stay safe, I consider that a continuation of the oath I took years ago.
Again, sorry if this offended. Love you all,
Heather
- September 30, 2020 at 1:39 pm #388976
Stephanie,
I’m so glad that the U.K. doesn’t experience the same level of violence as the U.S. Violence against women here is an everyday occurrence. The number of missing/murdered Native American women and girls is heartbreaking. Violence against trans women has gone up in the last few years as well.
I’m all for social commentary that is beneficial and may raise awareness for segments of our population that are ignored or discriminated against.
Love ya girls,
Heather
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