Where do you fall on the gender spectrum?

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  • I am an underdresser
  • I fully dress for myself only
  • I fully dress and go out occasionally in the dark
  • I fully dress and go out regularly
  • I dress 24/7
  • I am planning on transitioning but I haven’t started yet
  • I am on hormones
  • I have had various cosmetic surgeries
  • I will have top surgery only
  • I have had top and bottom surgery
  • I consider myself as a fully transitioned woman
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    • #470519
      Katie Hildebrand
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      I ebb and flow. I push out a bit further, go on a date, and we get pulled over and im going to cry, so i ease back, stay alert, i feel like the danger is real. I obsess over passing because yes, ive been pulled over. I have also been stuck in a snowbank and hoping the next car will stop and help, not be the law and be accepting. Phew. Sometimes its scary. Tho- most of the time at home, and attempting to grow sweater pups.

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        Serena Stevens
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        Katie, please explain what sweater pups are, please accept my girlfriend request & please stay safe & sexy. I’m about to venture out into what is a dangerous world & appreciate the sentiment. 💋💋

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        • #470545
          Katie Hildebrand
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          Sweater puppies? Lol id like to have a pair, theyre just so soft and sweet. So ive been trying to rear someof my own holistically, tho, as they say, results may vary. Thus far mine have not.

          Of course, theres always saline. And the other path…

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          • #470578
            Serena Stevens
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            DUH! Classic silly girl moment!

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      ChloeC
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      For quite awhile I was somewhere between dress for myself and go out in the dark. Aging , moving to a more populated area, and Covid have greatly reduced the amount of each time and number of times i fully dress and especially dare to venture out though I still underdress as often as possible. I hope at least covid related issues improve enough so I can enjoy it all more.

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      Paula1
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      I under dress every day with ladies jeans and it is always for myself thats why I dress

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    • #468561
      Brittney Andrews
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      Jennifer, I voted I fully dress only for myself. Eventhough I’m married, my wife would never accept me presenting as a woman. I also voted I fully dress and go out occasionally at night. Some evenings I attend two separate CD/TG support groups. I usually underdress while in drab and change to full en fem at the meeting place. Once COVID public restrictions are lifted, I will start going out during the day fully dressed to attend my meetings and other situations.

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      Vanessa ?
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      Voted for “fully dress and go out occasionally in the dark.”  Hasn’t been often between November 2020 and February 2021 (well, hasn’t been at all in those months, after about the first week or so of November!) but I’m slowly starting to get back into it.  Fully dressed for the first time in months last week, and will probably end up going out dressed sometime this week.

      No plans on transitioning, I like both my “guy self” and my “girl self” too much to just get rid of either of them… which makes things complicated sometimes (but also drastically less expensive, so there is that benefit.  I know some trans women and the costs for literally any trans-related surgical procedure are insane.  Even hormone treatments are a hassle to get ahold of, even if he price isn’t so bad if you have insurance that covers it.)

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    • #459620
      Marie Chandler
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      It’s all about fully dressing for me. I’m perfectly happy doing it at home, but I also can’t wait to go out again. Before joining CDH, I had no idea that so many of us just liked under garments and preferred to underdress. I didn’t even know that was a term!  We all share so much, but can also be so diverse and unique at the same time. I love it!

       

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    • #459555
      Rosiebeth
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      Well. I fully dress a lot these days and I’m considering starting to look into transitioning. But I’m a little scared and not sure where to go to even beginning.  I naturally look feminine and a lot like my sisters so I don’t think it would be too hard.
      advice girls?
      HugS

      Rosiebeth.

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    • #458193
      Amy Myers
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      I answered I dress fully and go out regularly, which is exactly what I do, and where I am in the spectrum. Nowadays I consider myself gender fluid, rather than just male, and I’m not ready to be fully female.

      Amy

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    • #458192
      Camryn Occasionnel
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      For me, I can check the only box that applies, which is “I fully dress for myself only”. I guess you could say that I underdress, but I only “underdress” when I’m fully dressed! By “fully dressed” I mean full femme from wig to shoes, except for makeup which I apply from time to time on special occasions.

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      • #458205
        Padgette Parker
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        I can relate to you. This is what I do. Every once in a while I will drive around at nite dressed . I’m happy with this.

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          Camryn Occasionnel
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          I envy you Padgette. I still do not have the nerve or the courage to “drive while dressed”, alone, at any time of the day or night. To make matters worse, I’m an old lady now, so going out after dark is a big deal for me, en femme or en homme.

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          • #458443
            Hilda Beaumont
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            Camryn, M’dear, we were born in the same year! but you are eight days older than me! Plus I’m a very recent cross dresser. How I wish I’d discovered the HildaRuth within years ago. But I’m determined to make up for lost time. Pre Covid I went out dressed quite regularly but I am lucky in living in Brighton, England which is a very LGBTQ friendly place. I wonder if you might not be able to find some ‘safe places to go and stroll around dressed? I do hope so.
            Love and hugs
            HildaRuth 💋💋

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    • #458032
      Laura Lovett
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      https://youtu.be/MnGouhet2HQ

      😍😍😍😍😍😍😘😍😍😍😍😍😘

      Love Laura

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      • #470543
        Serena Stevens
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        Underdress everyday (goodbye men’s underwear, hello cotton bikini briefs) fully dress 1-2 each month, going out in less than two weeks. Nervous but ready to rip off the band-aid!

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        Serena Stevens
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        Laura darling, great tune, great and beautiful woman (her and you)! We are what we are!

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    • #458028
      Millicent Teasedale
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      Covid did mix things up a bit. I underdress more these days. When it’s  over I’ll go back to dressing and going out at night and dressing and going out regularly. It will depend a lot on what the new normal turns out to be. I am suspecting we’ll be living somewhat differently than we did before the pandemic.

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    • #456423
      rhondagurl
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      I dress 24/7 and started my hormones 3 months ago…and what an emotional roller coaster this has turned out to be!

      The slightest thing on the news will get me tearing up….thank heavens for wine and chocolate!

      That being said I wouldn’t change the experience for anything….I’m finally heading to where I want to go.

    • #456389
      Deborah Sullivan
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      I love being out as a woman on a regular basis and have felt the desire for breast implants at times but no desire for bottom surgery. Just happy in my state

    • #456352
      Hilda Beaumont
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      Hi Jen darling
      Very interesting questionnaire but I have to agree with Stephane Plum as to the range of options. The interplay between what one does, how often one does it, in what contexts plus the fact that contexts can and do change makes answering difficult.Nevertheless I did pick out two – I dress for myself and I fully dress and go out regularly. I wonder if is possible for you to correlate the overlap of different answers, given that a respondent can tick more than one box. Also I would add that transitioning is very complex and whilst for some cross dressing is a first step on the journey for many it is not.
      Love and Hugs as always
      HildaRuth 💋💋

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    • #456347
      Alice Black
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      I dress for myself and since retiring and joining CDH, do it nearly every day. Wife sleeps till late in day, so makes it easier to do. When covid ends, would like to venture out but only to meet CDH sisters. Would be too nerved up to go out alone and in public.

       

      Alice Black

    • #456344
      Joanne Watters
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      I dress fully every day, I have been out on dates with men as Joanne. I fully plan to start on hormones in the next year, I know I am a bit late on this but better late then never.

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    • #456326
      Tonya Leren
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      I like to fully dress I do it for myself but occasionally I’ll go dressed to my closest friends. There’s only a handful of people who know the extent of my dressing. Abs they are all over there.

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    • #456293
      stephanie plumb
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      I can’t vote.   The “spectrum” is vastly more complicated than this far too short list of possibilities. Also it is not about gender at all – only about dressing frequency and transitioning options and surgeries.  Bottom surgery? Lol.  Call it like it is, in plain English – vaginoplasty! (or something.) Or do you mean actual bottom enhancement surgery?   Also there is no choice for “other.. please explain.”

      Just my opinion and no offence meant.

      Stephanie P

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    • #456290
      Eva Kelly
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      I would like to transition, but it will be done on my own terms and timeline.

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        Kayla Olson
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        Eva,

        My sentiments exactly. People transition according to their own circumstances, timeline and desires.

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    • #456257
      Andi DuBois
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      Pre-covid, I was “I fully dress and go out regularly” but due to working from home with the SO (who doesn’t know about the dressing) I am currently fall into the “I am an underdresser” camp.

      As soon as the pandemic is over and life gets back to some kind of normal then I am hoping, praying and expecting to go back to the pre-covid routine so that is what I voted for!

      -A.

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    • #456256
      Polly Stewart
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      Jennifer Sweety

      The absolute only time I am drab is when I have to some carpentry jobs. I have promised myself that that will change soon and I will respond to these jobs as Polly.
      All the cooking and catering jobs I do are done by Polly and some of my clients only want Polly to cook for them!
      The issue is of course I am too old for HRT being of much use and my wife does like my dangly bits. I have promised myself boobs in the near future but the vaginoplasty is a wee way off yet. As an aside… I dislike my penis with a passion and I tuck 24/7!
      So I sit on the spectrum fence so to speak!

      Polly xxx

    • #456252
      Grace Scarlett
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      Hello Jennifer.

      Grace most of the time when not at work..i try to get out as often as possible…not easy at the moment, but even out for a walk, its still…..got to be done !!!

      Grace xx

    • #456239
      Trisha Lilly Hibbert
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      I’m a 24/7 gal. It’s fab not having to hide anything from anyone. If I want to dance I dance, if I want to flirt I flirt and if I want to be a bimbo I bimbo.

    • #456238
      Rachel Williams
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      Hi Hi Emily
      Felt unable to vote as currently not doing anything due to my wife discovering a bralette in the washing machine on her return from a few days away which has resulted in a Purge. It I have regularly underdressed I. The past, have fully dressed while home alone and gone out fully dressed in d daylight hours on a handful of times although not with makeup and wig.
      Rachel

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      • #459668
        Melinda
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        Sorry to hear about the Purge. I’ve had a few. Eventually the courage to demand a little room for your clothes, etc., will come. It is amazing that the clothes become friends, and the loss causes emotional pain. Good luck. Stretch out her panties for all of us! Hugs!

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    • #456235
      LisaT
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      As always it’s impossible to cover all variants in a poll. I underdress full time and dress occasionally to go out.  However my style of clothing is increasingly what I want to wear which is colourful and androgynous and usually selected from female clothes. However don’t wear forms out and no make up though my hair is naturally long and my nails manicured.  I’m me on a spectrum somewhere in the middle in lots of ways but feeling no pressure to conform to either binary norm.

       

      hugs

       

      Lisa xxxx

       

       

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    • #456231
      Marti
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      Hi Jennifer.

      I’m just paddling in the shallow waters. I’m an ‘at home’ dresser.

      Another interesting poll!

      Marti x

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    • #456228
      Robyn Devine
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      Jennifer

      I dress fully and go out…on Weekends! Once in a while, during the week.

      Xo Robyn 💃❤️

       

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    • #456226
      Emily Alt
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      Fully dressed and go out regularly….like once in a blue moon during Covid.  During normal times 1-2 times a month.  Transition and full-time is down the road.

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