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I am a 62 year old heterosexual male that likes to dress as a female sometimes..I have been told I am bigender..When I am drab,I do not wear shorts,feminine colors or clothes,do not shave etc…When I am femme,I dress all the way with shaving my body,wearing accessories ,and having full m to f makeover in TAkoma PArk(that is where my pics on this site are from)..I am recently divorced,due to this,We remain good friends,but not as a husband..How can I meet a female who accepts both parts of me and will date me? Michaela Lee
That is a tough question! Dating sites have risks attached as there are some dubious people out there. If you are out to family and friends socialising just get out there and see where it goes. It’s better to meet in the flesh and gauge what you see. I am in a similar situation to you and decided to keep single but live in hopes. I have friends that are girls who are of a similar age and single, know me as Angela and have never asked about me as a T person. We are friends and I will not attempt to break that by wanting to go further as I value the friendship. I am enjoying the fact that I am living the dream but will never say never as who knows?
I didn’t think I’d be able to find an accepting woman which is why I went for a guy and currently have a boyfriend.
Jess,
What you said is interesting. I recently got divorced, had a relationship with a woman who knew I am a Crossdresser and it turned out bad, both her and my aunt have both suggested that I might like guys. They made some compelling arguments which I could nor disagree with and like the OP I worry about finding someone who is accepting. How did you get to your decision, if it is too personal I understand.
Sorry to hear that Alla, I’d be happy to answer that question – I considered myself straight in my teens but I felt increasingly feminine as time went by, probably from wearing romantic lingerie to bed every night, and the urges and compulsions got to a point where I couldn’t stop thinking about wanting a boyfriend, and then it happened.
Unfortunately you may win the lottery before you find a completely accepting female. Those who have an accepting mate who helps them are extremely lucky… are you lucky?…. being rich may help.
I agree with Angela. Dating sites are risky. Better to meet in person and gauge what you see.
This may sound strange but I’ve discovered gay dance clubs are surprisingly popular with cis-gender women. They go there because it’s a safe space. They don’t get hit on by guys. They can hit on girls if they choose. And they can dance of course.
I’ve been hit on by girls a number of times in these clubs. A couple of times quite aggressively. The opportunity for more was clearly there. I’m obviously trans and they knew exactly what they were getting into. It would’ve been easy to get a phone number or an Uber and take it from there.
/EA
Hey gf
hmmm as I’m married I can’t say I have tons of experience but the best advice I think was from Emily. The girls there will be likely be more liberal and open minded. I was out in DC with a few girls at a bar that caters to lgbtq and they had a band where the singer was Trans. I met a woman there who was very good looking, smart and fun. Due to my situation I could not act on it but it reflects exactly what Emily said. Go out …have fun send out positive energy and you never know. Love your pictures and I m a huge fan of Elizabeth’s….she’s amazing. I’ve been to some of her events. Come and join us !
Happy New Year !
carole
Hi Michaela. Just to my .02, I’d say look for women who are familiar and more importantly, enjoy such things as men’s competitive bodybuilding, swimming, diving, and cycling. In all these sports, men as a matter of fact, wear what could be considered attire with a feminine tilt and additionally competitors have various degrees of shaved bodies. Women who enjoy these sports are very used to shaved male bodies and guys wearing bikinis and tights.
I myself am a former competitive bodybuilder. I haven’t had any body hair since I shaved it off at around 16 when I entered my first contest. Bodybuilding posing trunks are basically what amounts to women’s Brazilian bikini bottoms. I only wear bikini bottoms, of a more moderate cut, at the beach or pool. No one has ever said anything uncomplimentary to me or my face or within earshot in the 25 plus I’ve dressed and presented this way. All of my girlfriends were fans of the sport and the ones whom I eventually became intimate with including my wife, never stuttered or batted an eyelash when I informed them I wore only panties for underwear. Several as I was told, just naturally assumed I did to begin with. Moreover, my eventual wife was the one who nudged me into wearing women’s jeans, shorts and slacks since I’ve always had difficulty finding bottoms which fit correctly as my hips and waste are very much proportioned with a feminine body type. You yourself don’t have to be a competitor but women who enjoy these sports are very used to, and from my experience accepting of unconventional dressing from from their boyfriends/husbands.
Big question. Personally I think the question is rather shallow.
Its along the lines of where do I find a girl that likes- fat bottoms, skinny bellys, rich men, poor men, voilent men, passive men… etal.
My wife is into me. She isnt into many of my hobbies, such as hunting. Butchering our own meat. Wood working. Tractor work.
I’m not into some of her hobbies either. She isn’t into my crossdressing either. And thats ok.
But, we are into each other. And treat each other with love, dignity, and respect. And nothing can beat that.
I know this might sound crazy, but I think that the way to find a woman who accepts your unique gender is to go out en femme and see who you attract. I speak from some experience in that I have always been surprised by how many women approached me when I was out in full girl mode (obviously, I didn’t “pass”) and showed a lot of interest in getting to acquainted. I was married at the time and wasn’t able or at least ethically didn’t feel I could take advantage of those opportunities.
At the very least you will make some new female friends and some of them will very likely be interested in a deeper relationship.
Hi all
I am single for a long time and now 73 and not dated since all the pre covid propaganda. People were running scared and I respect everyone’s views and how they dealt with it but saying that we were shut down and almost 3 years of our lives have been taken from us and you can’t get them back. I am just now getting back into the dating scene as more women are now relaxing (And so are the men but I am as straight as an arrow)
I would love to meet a woman who would accept my dressing if/when I tell her and help me if possible but that is probably a high expectation to ask for.
It might be a fantasy but also a dream.
SaraAbout six months ago, I started dating a woman. I am 69, she is 66. I waited a few dates and then told her I like to wear women’s clothing.
I figured I would do this until I found a woman who accepted this. I lucked out on my first try. Immediately, she started buying me lacy underwear.
My advice is not to look for a woman who accepts crossdressing. Just look for a woman who enjoys your company and vice versa. Then tell her your interests. If you do not get a positive response, move on and try again with another woman.Thank you..it seems strange to me that transgeder with surgeries and hormones is more accepted than a person who likes to wear womens clothes but doesn ot want to change their sex…same goes for bisexual,homosexual etc.. It sees society wants people to go 100% trans,or hetero,or homosecual and has problems with people who like women,do not want to change their sex,and only likes dressing up sometimes(this is in no way criticizing anyone,
So true, Michaela! Of all the variants, cross dressers are the hardest to understand. Like they can’t commit one way or the other. We know that’s not true.
Wish you luck! BTW, I’m taken.
Hugs, Eileen
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