- Department store (ie Macy’s)
- Outlet (ie nordstrom rack)
- Small boutique stores
- Victoria secret
- Thrift stores
- Relatives (wife, sister)
- Online cross dressing stores
- Online women’s fashion stores
- Neighbor’s clothesline
- Other cds
- November 9, 2019 at 5:06 pm #246615Jennifer SwansonParticipantRegistered On: April 20, 2019Topics: 34Replies: 120Has thanked: 2498 timesBeen thanked: 520 times
We all get our clothing from many different sources. What are some of the places you get your clothes? Please share your secrets in the comment section
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- November 20, 2019 at 10:25 am #251027karley delawareParticipantRegistered On: October 23, 2017Topics: 8Replies: 245Has thanked: 790 timesBeen thanked: 380 times
I”m a girl on a budget. When helping SO or relatives with “cleaning out” and find something destined for the donation pile, I’ll pilfer something cute……….as payment for free labor and being easy going and cheerful in doing the mule work. When I was a lot younger, I did my clothes wash at the coin laundromat. Once a couple of young chatty cute girls came to do theirs. Their skimpy attire and sexy figures aroused me as a guy and made me jealous as a girl. Anyway, something came up on their phone and they rushed out………..leaving a lingerie bag in a machine. I slipped it into my stuff and left. Jackpot! Victoria Secret bra and panties! Something I always wanted but to shy to buy. A little small, but exercised and rode my bike more to lose those few pounds and I was a pretty girl!! This was in pre-internet shopping . These days there is the alley behind me with occasional flotsam of stuff, sometimes piles of clothes. When cleaning my part of the alley, I’ll sometimes find a treasure there. Wash it, and I have a cute skirt, blouse or …….something. Then there is the neighborhood yard sales ( not my neighborhood) and buy other things to mask my true piece of interest. Other than that, it’s thrift stores and internet shopping with personal pick up.
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- November 19, 2019 at 8:50 pm #250869anne-marieParticipantRegistered On: August 26, 2018Topics: 3Replies: 280Has thanked: 278 timesBeen thanked: 498 times
I buy my femme clothes from a good range of outlets. As I’m in the U.K. I’m guessing quite a lot of you won’t have heard of them.
My first skirt bought many, many moons ago was from Matalan. Did this in person as at that time very few retailers had a web presence. I still buy quite a lot from Matalan but mainly click and collect these days.
I also use Asda (U.K. flavour of Walmart) quite a lot both in person and click and collect. Also use TU at Sainsburys supermaket. Again both in person and click and collect.
Of course, I use Amazon and eBay. I’m not really a massive fan of these (don’t like there business models but still get dragged in – no pun intended lol).
Then if I’m out and about and spy something I like at the right price and in my size of course, it just has to cime home with me so have bought qite a few items like this. I have bought from BHS (before they clossed) Debenhams, M&S, New look, Top shop, Principles, Simply Be, Yours etc etc – the list goes on and on.
Just incase you are wondeing, when it cones to femme clothes, I’m a shopaholic – I just cannot resist!
Take care girls.
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- November 18, 2019 at 5:59 pm #250509TerriParticipantRegistered On: May 17, 2016Topics: 0Replies: 92Has thanked: 80 timesBeen thanked: 189 times
The first female clothes I bought was in a thrift in 79 or 80. Now I buy in Macy’s (Backstage is great) Dress Barn (closing soon) Torrid, Lane Bryant and anywhere else. My only rule is I buy nothing that isn’t on sale. I only shop enfemme and I enjoy every minute of it.
- November 18, 2019 at 9:52 am #250301Jammie CollinsParticipantRegistered On: August 7, 2019Topics: 1Replies: 18Has thanked: 22 timesBeen thanked: 31 times
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- November 16, 2019 at 5:56 pm #249785Tabitha B.ParticipantRegistered On: August 23, 2015Topics: 4Replies: 67Has thanked: 19 timesBeen thanked: 110 times
I recently discovered the on-line world of ThredUp, (thredup.com). ThredUp sells new and second-hand women’s clothing at bargain prices! You can even sell your clothes on consignment through their site. I have bought, new (with tags still attached and probably never worn), and gently used clothing, purses, etc. and have only been disappointed once, (when I received a clothing item accidently inaccurately cataloged by ThredUp). When I contacted the website, they paid for me to ship the item back to them and refunded my purchase price at 100%. This site is really worth a look; ( and I have no financial interest or business interest with the site/business).
- November 16, 2019 at 5:56 am #249316Gina PeroneParticipantRegistered On: November 16, 2019Topics: 0Replies: 4Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 8 times
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- November 15, 2019 at 6:36 am #249028Jemma SchumpertParticipantRegistered On: July 6, 2019Topics: 1Replies: 12Has thanked: 10 timesBeen thanked: 36 times
My first skirt was a mini I bought on a whim at WalMart! After I decided to explore more of this side of me, I began shopping at local thrift stores, where I could try things on more easily without attracting attention and where prices were much easier on the wallet if they didn’t work out later. Lately, I have begun shopping at Burlington factory and the local Sears that is going out of business. Usually, I first take mens clothing to the dressing rooms to scope out how much of a gatekeeper presence there is. If there is no gatekeeper or they are just there watching people come and go, then I head back to the real goodies and load up.
I have shopped as Jemma in the local Diversity Thrift but not at a major chain yet. that is my next evolution and I cannot wait to try. The amazing thing is, that as I have shopped more and more, I have begun not to care so much whether I pass or not. I love being Jemma and wearing what I want and I no longer need the approval of others when doing it. That being said, it is wonderful when I do manage to pass!!
I just got off the phone with an old client who needs a ride to DC! I do believe I will take Jemma with me and let her do a little shopping full on!! I can hardly wait!!
- November 15, 2019 at 1:46 am #248975RoseParticipantRegistered On: December 18, 2016Topics: 1Replies: 21Has thanked: 4 timesBeen thanked: 57 times
I usually buy my bras and panties from two lovely specialist boutiques where the owners will fit me – such a lovely, thrilling feeling to have a woman adjusting the straps on your bra and then saying ‘oh, that fits you perfectly’! For outerwear I have been making my purchases from http://www.longtallsally.com, who specialise in clothes for taller girls. They had a store in central London until July where I could try on blouses or pants before buying, but sadly it closed like so many stores these days, so now I buy from them online. Not quite the same experience, but I know my size and have been very happy with my purchases so far.
- November 13, 2019 at 4:43 pm #248559DeeAnn HopingsParticipantRegistered On: November 10, 2019Topics: 1Replies: 73Has thanked: 5 timesBeen thanked: 91 times
At least 80% of my clothes come from thrift stores, both online and brick and mortar. All of my jewelry comes from thrift stores. All of my shoes, undergarments and hats are new, either online or brick and mortar…
- November 20, 2019 at 1:15 pm #251076DeeAnn HopingsParticipantRegistered On: November 10, 2019Topics: 1Replies: 73Has thanked: 5 timesBeen thanked: 91 times
The area where I live has a number of thrift shops run buy various charities. There are a couple that I frequent and both have multiple locations here in The Valley. I’m torn between them as one organization sorts by size and that makes shopping much easier. The other organization sorts by color, which I find annoying, but there seems to be more upscale labels that are donated.
There is a chain of thrift stores called SAVERS. They started in Canada and also have shops in the US and Australia. What they do is partner with a local charity and the profits are shared. All of the SAVERS stores that I’ve been in (includes 7 stores in 5 states) are laid out essentially the same. Unfortunately the closest one to me is an hour away, but I always stop in when I’m in or passing through the area. In some areas the chain is known as Value Village. I had a friend with whom I would make runs to SAVERS and make a day out of it, but she passed away a year and a half ago.
Online, I frequent rustyzipper.com for vintage items and sierra.com for new items. Ems.com is good for activity and athletic-oriented clothing. I’ve bought a number of skorts and convertible hiking pants there. I would go there in person, but we don’t have any stores out this way. They have name brand and house brand items.
I am often on Etsy, and to a lesser extent, Poshmark. I really like Etsy and have bought suits, blazers, blouses, pants, scarves, shorts and jewelry there. On the other hand, Poshmark is EXTREMELY frustrating. One of the things that I learned early on is that there is NO Standard Sizing in women’s clothing. This is the reason behind some of my pants being size 14 on others size 16. Same for dresses and blazers between size 16 and 18. However, what SO MANY Poshmark vendors will do is ONLY list the numerical or letter size with NO Measurements. Even if there was standard sizing, how a garment is designed to fit would throw that off. For example, dresses could be bodycon, traditional or oversize in terms of fit. I’ve gotten to the point that if no measurements are listed, I skip that entry. A piece would have to be EXTREMELY interesting in order for me to take the time to send a message to request measurements. If someone is lame enough to not take initial measurements when they list an item, why should I waste my time? To top it off, I’ve seen questions go unanswered for MONTHS, even though the listing says “updated” and the date. There was one piece that I REALLY liked and I asked for measurements. The reply was that they only had the size that was on the tag and there were no measurements on the tag. If they are that dumb, they do not deserve my business!!
For some reason, I rarely go shoe shopping. I will usually do DSW, Zappos, 6pm and Sierra online. Most outlets will have sizing information in inches or centimeters somewhere on their web site. That thing about a 2 size difference between men’s and women’s doesn’t work for many people, including me (9 1/2 or 10 in men’s). My longer foot measures 10 9/16”. There is a bit of difference between various charts, but the majority show a women’s size 11 as 10 1/2” or 10 5/8”. My only problem is width as most women’s shoes are only in Medium width and I need a Wide or sometimes a Double Wide. Open sandals are usually not a problem, but often closed toe or completely close shoes will need some width stretching.
Hats from Magellan’s and Sierra or a local flea market.
Undergarments are Target or Walmart in person or onehanesplacce.com and HerRoom.com (and maybe a few others) online.
I think the look that you are after will greatly influence where you shop. My goal has never been to be “in style”. It is to be “stylish”. I have items dating back to at least the 60’s and up to the 90’s. I enjoy mixing eras and am either very colorful or only one or two colors in order to emphasize my jewelry. My one regret is that I love sweater dresses and the desert is not sweater dress friendly!
- November 13, 2019 at 6:43 am #248361BobbiParticipantRegistered On: September 13, 2018Topics: 15Replies: 964Has thanked: 900 timesBeen thanked: 1634 times
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- November 13, 2019 at 6:18 am #248356BobbiParticipantRegistered On: September 13, 2018Topics: 15Replies: 964Has thanked: 900 timesBeen thanked: 1634 times
I like to spread the love. I’ll shop anywhere. (I prefer to keep it local, to support my economy).
Charity shops are a treasury of cute outfits, & they can be obtained on the cheap, while helping a worthy cause! The only things I will NOT buy second hand: intimates. That’s too weird!
Garage sales are good, too. I found a lovely vintage black cocktail dress from the 1960s at a garage sale. (the owner even let me take it in her house to try it on!)
She told me “the dress looked like it was made for me!”.
Me, my sister, & all of our girlfriends share clothes, so between all of us, we have this ENORMOUS virtual closet! If one of us buys a new dress, we ALL have a new dress!
Life is good! 🙂
- November 12, 2019 at 10:39 pm #248265Roni CalinParticipantRegistered On: August 13, 2019Topics: 6Replies: 51Has thanked: 126 timesBeen thanked: 94 times
- November 12, 2019 at 2:40 pm #248064GailParticipantRegistered On: May 12, 2016Topics: 0Replies: 17Has thanked: 17 timesBeen thanked: 31 times
I usually buy my Foundations, nighties and Breast forms @ Sally Ann Corset Shop, they are in Chicago Il. on Western Ave. about 105th street in the Beverly area.
They have been in business for years and originally owned by two CIS sisters who were so very kind and thoughtful. Unfortunately one of the sisters died and I believe the other sister has turned over most of her time in the shop to other ladies. Anyway the shop is still CD friendly, I just went in last week and fitted for a Bra and I bought another pair of padded Control panties.
I have also had great experiences dealing with Janet’s Closet.
By the way Sally Ann Corset Shop can be found online and they do advertise on some web sites.
- November 11, 2019 at 2:36 pm #247624sarasue olsonParticipantRegistered On: October 7, 2018Topics: 10Replies: 86Has thanked: 181 timesBeen thanked: 226 times
LIKE ALL OF YOU I PURCHASE MY CLOTHES FROM SEVERAL SOURCES, SOME MY FAVORITE ARE VANITY FAIR OUTLETS AS THEY ALWAYS HAVE A GOOD SELECTION BRAS PANTIES AS WELL AS JEANS AND TOPS. I ALSO HAVE FOUND SOME VERY NICE TOPS AND LEGGINGS AT RUE 21, JC PENNY IS ALWAYS ON MY LIST AS A GREAT PLACE TO SHOP AS WELL AS COLES. SOME TIMES I FIND THINGS AT DILLARDS I LIKE.
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- November 14, 2019 at 5:14 am #248693BobbiParticipantRegistered On: September 13, 2018Topics: 15Replies: 964Has thanked: 900 timesBeen thanked: 1634 times
Why are you shouting, dear?
- November 11, 2019 at 8:52 am #247524Melissa DavisParticipantRegistered On: September 4, 2018Topics: 2Replies: 49Has thanked: 553 timesBeen thanked: 95 times
I shop in drab for clothes and cosmetics, perhaps resembling a husband with a shopping list, at Macy’s, H&M, Uniqlo, Target, Nordstrom, Nordstrom Rack, TJ Maxx and Land’s End. These are places where I can return things easily. Now that Amazon takes returns at Kohl’s stores, I take advantage of that. Some of the girls tell me that shopping en femme is a thrill, but I haven’t tried that yet. I have found a couple of lucky buys at eBay and Poshmark and haven’t had to return anything.
- November 10, 2019 at 7:15 pm #247200MichelleParticipantRegistered On: January 27, 2019Topics: 0Replies: 19Has thanked: 2 timesBeen thanked: 48 times
Macy’s is my go to store for clothing like blouses, slacks, etc. that can be in public appearing unisex. The sales assistants are not judgmental and helpful when you have a question in drab or not. Mostly sizes. If I try the items on it’s in the men’s changing rooms while in drab.
I had great success online at Ali Express. You need know your size and figure it out in metric since most are sold that way. I DO NOT rely on the sizes either US or European countries even when they are listed. I have never had a problem that was not fixed, substituted or refunded because there was a mistake by myself or the vendor.
- November 10, 2019 at 11:56 am #246987danielleParticipantRegistered On: January 4, 2018Topics: 1Replies: 3Has thanked: 15 timesBeen thanked: 7 times
I’ve found seasonal appropriate fashion, safety and security shopping in chain stores with self checkout options (Meijer, Walmart, Target). I also like to shop chain stores with clearance racks (Ross, TJ Maxx, JCP, Kohl’s). No one seems to care when/whether I’m looking through underwear/bras, dresses, tops or slacks. I usually shop openly as a male and have never been questioned. (I am always prepared to say I’m looking for bargains for my wife (girlfriend).) Just be confident. You only look awkward or guilty if you FEEL that way 😉
- November 10, 2019 at 8:12 am #246906Rachel WilliamsParticipantRegistered On: November 3, 2019Topics: 1Replies: 33Has thanked: 35 timesBeen thanked: 68 times
Initially from Amazon then from UK stores such as Sainsburys, Tescos, and Marks and Spencer buying on line for collection at store. Do buy some items such as Panties, Camis, and Hold Ups in person at Marks and Spencer and Sainsburys. I prefer dresses to skirts but have not yet gone into a store en Femme to try any clothes on. Was achieving a 50% success rate with my on line purchasing of dresses prior to my purge very early this year. Have so far only made one on line dress purchase since building a new collection and am pleased with it.
- November 10, 2019 at 7:43 am #246898Rami LoveParticipantRegistered On: November 30, 2018Topics: 2Replies: 48Has thanked: 14 timesBeen thanked: 71 times
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Don’t go by size number as there are no standards. Take your measurements and compare with what is stated on store web sites. There will usually be a link for a Size Guide on the page for the item. However, some places, like Sierra Trading, often have a generic sizing guide and that is less helpful.
Shoe size guides are also frequently published on sites like Zappos, DSW, etc. in inches. That often mentioned thing about 2 sizes between men’s and women’s sizes doesn’t work for many people. For example. My men’s size is 9 1/2 or 10. My length measurement is 10 9/16”. Depending upon the site, 10 1/2” Or 10 5/8” is a women’s size 11.
- November 10, 2019 at 6:50 am #246861Patty PhoseParticipantRegistered On: May 7, 2016Topics: 0Replies: 789Has thanked: 430 timesBeen thanked: 1144 times
I’ve shopped for and bought clothes from pretty much everywhere, starting with buying my own pantyhose at 13 from JC Penney.
At 17 when I began dressing partly fem to a year later being fully fem, I bought all my clothes from stores. I enjoyed being out partially dressed while buying more fem fantasy clothes as I worked on new and improved way to show off my legs in pantyhose. Sometimes if I saw and item in a store I wanted but wasn’t in my size I would go to a catalogue and order from there.
More often I have been purchasing clothes online. I still prefer stores and seeing what I’m buying and even trying them on. But the online selections are just too good to ignore.
- November 10, 2019 at 6:21 am #246839Anne PreussParticipantRegistered On: December 13, 2018Topics: 2Replies: 412Has thanked: 572 timesBeen thanked: 651 times
I checked both online boxes, dept store and boutique.
It’s dangerous “window shopping” online. The stores do a great job with the model images that show off the clothes….thank God I am not an impulse buyer (though my red cocktail dress and red pumps were impulse buys as I walked through JC Penney for the dress and Boston Store for the pumps. Never regretted those purchases. 🙂 )
- November 10, 2019 at 3:58 am #246795Amber MartinezParticipantRegistered On: May 12, 2019Topics: 3Replies: 59Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 145 times
Well when I first started to buy my own bras panties I would go to a small 5 and dine store they always had bras and panties and cheap pantyhose. But as I got more FEMININE mother took me to jcpenney. For more girl clothes and better quality
- November 9, 2019 at 8:16 pm #246701KristaParticipantRegistered On: January 24, 2017Topics: 5Replies: 117Has thanked: 44 timesBeen thanked: 292 times
Thanks for the question Jennifer. I’ll shop anywhere there is a good sale, especially at Christmas/Boxing Day. I much prefer to shop in person. And when I go shopping, I’m always dressed androgynously. I’m mistaken for female quite often. I really enjoy when the cashiers call me Ma’am when I’m paying. Because of the crazy difference in sizing in women’s clothing, trying them on is a good thing to do. Saves the hassle of returning stuff. I only do a little bit of online shopping from regular department store sites. Always check their website clearance page. But my problem nowadays is that I just have too much women’s clothing. I have three large closets. My men’s clothes take up maybe a quarter of the space. I also have three chests of drawers. And again my men’s stuff takes up only a small portion of the space. My rule is when I buy something new, I have to donate something to charity to make room for the purchase. It’s a win-win I guess. Hugs, Krista
- November 9, 2019 at 8:06 pm #246691Ruby SmithParticipantRegistered On: October 17, 2019Topics: 7Replies: 222Has thanked: 320 timesBeen thanked: 365 times
I’ve been buying from Amazon, Wish, Wal-Mart (for leggings), and from the nearest Torrid. I very much enjoyed Torrid and I plan on buying my first high heels through them (so far I’ve been wearing high heel boots).
- November 9, 2019 at 7:09 pm #246667Bren WhymeParticipantRegistered On: November 30, 2018Topics: 27Replies: 240Has thanked: 127 timesBeen thanked: 553 times
When I first began dressing again I made several purchases from on-line CD stores but had too much trouble finding quality clothing that fit right. I also made several purchases from Amazon but I quickly became tired of returning most of my purchases for poor fit or it just looked better on the model. Now, I only purchase from stores like Macy’s, Dillards, JC Penney and/or smaller boutiques where I can try on clothing before I buy it. And I must say, I do live 24/7 as a woman, but I have days where the male in me over powers the female and every store clerk I have encountered has been wonderfully helpful and respectful!!
- November 9, 2019 at 7:00 pm #246665Bettylou CoxParticipantRegistered On: May 26, 2019Topics: 4Replies: 561Has thanked: 515 timesBeen thanked: 996 times
My first buys were from Amazon because I was too shy to shop in person. Then I “graduated” to the self-checkout line at Walmart; to buy online and pick-up at Dressbarn, and finally in-person shopping at Penney, Macy, Dillard and Kohl. As a bonus, I’ve inherited a few things which my wife outgrew, and a few more which she ordered online for herself, but fit me, instead. Except for two online buys, shoes all came from Payless during their liquidation.
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- November 9, 2019 at 6:18 pm #246642Jennifer RamirezParticipantRegistered On: November 6, 2019Topics: 0Replies: 19Has thanked: 29 timesBeen thanked: 31 times
A variaty of places, Burlington, thrift stores, vintage , boutique shopped, yard sales, wish online, swap meets etc. Underwear, bras, pantyhose, garter belts are at a lingerie boutique.
- November 9, 2019 at 6:16 pm #246641LeonaraAmbassadorRegistered On: October 13, 2015Topics: 2Replies: 287Has thanked: 481 timesBeen thanked: 341 times
My go to store for fashions is Macy’s…and TGIF boutiques for padded panties and wigs. For the most part I buy in person drab and also online. Macy’s has a pickup option at the store for which I take advantage. When the SA asks whether to open the sealed package, I politely say no thank you. However, one of the ladies here mentioned they know exactly what I purchased…so let them guess who they are for, lol….all my purchases are on special…e.g. My favorite $89 lace LBD was $35 with an extra $10 coupon… At Christmas time , I buy in drab at Macy’s for dress, slacks, tops, etc.
One for Leonara and one for my wife. Kathy’s an 8 petite and I am 10 misses. When the SA points out that they are different sizes , I smile and say “I know” ;-). I’ve Ben getting my clothes this way for the last 5 years and it has worked for me…
Thanks for listening ladies and I hope my buying experience my be of some help…Leonara
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- November 9, 2019 at 5:49 pm #246627Alice UnderwireParticipantRegistered On: September 16, 2019Topics: 5Replies: 365Has thanked: 110 timesBeen thanked: 545 times
A great question Jennifer,
I shop in most of the establishments you’ve included. I prefer shopping in person and am able to try a potential purchase on for fit and style. Sizing can vary quite a bit. If a store doesn’t have the size or color you want it may be available on line. Often the sales associate can check and order your size for you. And the store will ship it free to your home or to the store if Home isn’t a good option.
Thrift stores and outlet stores are great choices too. You’ll enjoy great savings and often find a special promotion. These stores may offer additional savings by joining their rewards program.
If you wear tall or Plus sizes there are speciality stores that carry items just for you.
Small boutiques often offer personal service as well as fashion/color//style recommendations that a department store doesn’t.
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