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     Sammy Z 
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    Unfortunately I am unable to share my alter ego Sammy Z with anyone. No one knows I cross dress. My sister may know but I doubt it. The reason I say my sister might know is she use to dress me up as a girl until I was about 8 or 9 and my Mom put a stop to it. She also caught me wearing her panties a few times in high school but that was it. So if she dosent know NOBODY knows and I would love to share Sammy Z with my wife but I know she wouldn’t like it at all.

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     Brianne Andrea 
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    Seems like my whole family, closest friends, boufriend, some random guys and I guess all the people who have seen me out and about, but how many would recognize me dressed as a man who knows.

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     Connie Smith 
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    One person. She started out being supportive, I thought, but I came to realize she was just humoring me and Hoping it would go away.  First time I showed up at her house fully dressed she changed and ended up hurting me

     

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       Tiff Any 
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      Oh Connie, that’s  sooo disappointing

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       Toni Kohls 
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      Oh honey I’m so sorry. ❤️

      Hugs

      Toni

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    Very few.  The guy I go to for “massage” and a lady who helps me dress and takes photos of me.  Sure wish I had a CD friend to TV to spend some time with.

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     Tina Thompson 
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    A lot of people (at least 100) know that I am a TG/CD, but maybe a third of them or less have seen me in my male presentation.

    Those that don’t know are some vanilla friends and any extended family.  I’m not particularly scared to tell them, especially given that I am a Kleinfelter’s person have the chromosomes of both sexes, but I just don’t really feel like dealing with the questions and curiosity.

    And if one more CIS person asks me “if I am going to cut my d**k off” I think I will scream.  I know that they have no idea what happens as part of SRS, but it’s a rude question to begin with that totally defies common sense!

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       Roxanne Lanyon 
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      Your reply is so interesting. I often wonder myself what all is involved with having the proverbial “sex change”.  I often think of it myself, but am so nervous about it!  For instance, what would a man say about me if I ever did it?

      Roxanne Lanyon, “Being a Girl for Real?”

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       Scarlett398 
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      Thanks a bunch for sending in your response to my question and I really enjoyed reading your more than interesting answer!

      XOXO Scarlett

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     Amelia walker 
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    I think you may well hit the 1,000 mark here as for most cross dressing is a guilty, secret pleasure.

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       Scarlett398 
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      I think you’re right Amelia!

      Hey Girl, have a super weekend!

      XOXO Scareltt

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     Phoebe Pink 
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    Not many.  A very nice young makeup specialist at a Sephora in my town, a makeup specialist in Atlanta and that’s about it.

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       Scarlett398 
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      Hi there Phoebe! About 7 years ago, I was about that deep in the closet! Now I’m almost to the point that I’m so proud of my cross dressing skills I don’t really care how many people know I’m into it now!

      Thanks for sending in your response to my question, Phoebe!

      Have a super weekend!

      XOXO Scarlett

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     Elise Michelle 
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    Have to change my answer again. I came out to my eldest daughter too. So now it’s you girls and two of my four children.

    Ohh, and Amazon. Amazon for sure knows….

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     Lucinda Hawkns 
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    lets see who knows? my wife, i believe my niece does but not sure, i had her dress me up as a female for Halloween one year, she loved it when i asked her to dress me up as a female. my daughter knows and does not care, its my body not hers she told mom one day. so that’s about it that knows i dress up. beside all the gals here on C.D.H.

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       Roxanne Lanyon 
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      Oh Lucinda,

      Then why can’t we be friends, honey?

      Your Roxanne Lanyon

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       Scarlett398 
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      Lucinda, thanks so much for offering up a response which brings the number of responses to 771. I think that’s a record on replies to a question on here but I’m not sure!

      XOXO Scarlett

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         Lucinda Hawkns 
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        u r welcome, this is a good question to ask??  when we dress up its in the closet so no one knows, but then when people know we are x dressers is it still in the closet x dressers?? some dress up with S.O. knowing of our desire or hobby to dress up and show our fem side., for the number of responses i don;t know the number.

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           Roxanne Lanyon 
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          Lucinda, I would dress for you!

          Your Loving Roxanne

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           Scarlett398 
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          Lucinda, the number of replies is at an astounding 773!

          Sincerely, Scarlett

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           Roxanne Lanyon 
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          You are such a sweet girl, Lucinda.

          Your Roxanne Lanyon

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     Elise Michelle 
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    Well, I guess I have to change my previous answer since I came out to my youngest child this week. So, now it’s all you gurls on CDH and one other.

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       Roxanne Lanyon 
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      Lucinda,

      What about your girl friend, Roxanne Lanyon? I would be proud to be one of those, too!

      Your Friend, Roxanne

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       Scarlett398 
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      Yay Elise! I hope that daughter of yours was OK with your cross dressing thrill. If she’s less than 4 or 5 years old, I’m sure everything was just peachy keen!

      If she was 40 or 44 like my kids are, it might have taken a bit more splainin’ and met with a lot more resistance to acceptance of your thrill of cross dressing!

      XOXO Scarlett

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         Elise Michelle 
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        Hi Scarlett:

        Yes, she’s completely fine with it. She’s 15, and the reason I chose to tell her is because she identifies as non-binary and we were already talking about gender identity. Since she has been completely open and honest with me about her gender issues, I thought it was an opportune moment to let her know she isn’t the only one in the family with gender issues. I was concerned it might affect her opinion of me, but she assured me it won’t. It was a big relief. I will probably also tell my eldest at some point because she’s a big LGBTQ activist, but I don’t think I can ever tell my two middle kids. They arent as open minded .

        Hugs,

        Elise

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           Roxanne Lanyon 
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          Elise, you are a ray of sweet sunshine! I am so impressed with you!

          Roxanne would be so happy to meet and talk with you!

          Your “bi” girl, Roxanne

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     melissa la quinta 
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    Hmm. let’s see, who knows about my femme side?

    Three therapists, one of whom was terrific and so helpful. She offered me the opportunity to come to sessions dressed, but that didn’t go over well with my wife, so I never took her up on it. She relocated to another city, and I miss her so much.

    My wife. I came out to her three years ago, and she said she had known for quite a long time, having discovered my stash od lingerie (in the trunk of my car). She did not take the disclosure well at first, lots of tears and insecurity, but she’s evolved quite a bit since then, to the point where she actually has encouraged me to dress and go out on the town and to meetings with other CD’s.

    Members of a support group that I’ve sort of loosely connected with. They are mostly post op trans girls, or going through transition. Most of their focus is on health and medical related issues, is I found another group of trans women who are very welcoming for CD’s who have no plans to transition. So there are probably 20 or so CD’s and trans women around here who know both me and my alter ego.

    I’m not quite ready to come out to other family members (children, grandchildren, siblings). And of course, although all my CDH friends know I am CD, they don’t know me in my male life.

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       Scarlett398 
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      Super Melissa, I so happy that your wife along with mine have come miles forward with their acceptance of our thrill of cross dressing. My has come miles forward just in the last 6 months to 1 year.

      The other day was a real pleasant surprise. We were both shopping at TJ Maxx and I was, as usual, helping her pick out dresses, tops, and skirts. That girl won’t purchase a thing without my input. She really respects my sense of style. I think most of the CDH girls on here do the same based on all the positive feedback I get from my photo posts.

      Anyway, I picked out a solid red Tommy Hilfiger flutter sleeved dress in my size and asked her what she thought about the dress. She loved it and then said to me, “You wanna get it?” I almost fell out on the floor. I was never ever to purchase any of Scarlett’s things while in the presence of my wife! I always had to go back the next day and purchased whatever I liked from the previous day of shopping. On this occasion I said, “Are you sure you’re OK with me purchasing this dress at the same time both of us check out?” and she said, “Sure, go ahead and drape it over the side of the cart so it won’t get all wrinkled up in our cart.” So she had her things rang up by the cashier and then I had my dress rang up by the same cashier and I asked her if I could keep the hanger to the dress and asked if I could carry it out just like it is without it being put in a bag and wrinkled up and she said sure! And that was my very first Scarlett dress purchase with my wife which basically gives me the OK to buy Scarlett whatever I want while I’m shopping with my wife.

      Melissa, you’re so lucky to have a crew to hang out with and a wife that lets you out of the house to do just that. You are in a distinct minority and a very lucky one at that. We don’t have 20 cross dressers or trans girls withing 200 miles of this little old country conservative town I live in. Hell, the girls around her wear camouflage right beside their boyfriends or husbands! They won’t even let you in our Walmart unless you’re wearing some item with the camouflage pattern on it. That’s why I shop at Publix now!

      If we have one cross dresser within a 100 miles of here, I’ve never seen that person and he/she is so far deep in the closet I’ll never see him or her out in public.

      That’s plenty for now! And thanks for your input, Melissa!

      XOXO Scarlett

       

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         Roxanne Lanyon 
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        I wish I had a husband who knew, and would go with me to pick out dresses, and skirts, and other feminine dainties!

        Roxanne Lanyon

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       Roxanne Lanyon 
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      Melissa,

      I almost went to a therapist once, but got nervous and had to back out.  I guess I am simply a scaredy cat little girl.  I think it would be wonderful to ge dressed as Roxanne, and learn how to live as a a sweet, charming wife.  I think that would be ever so lovely.  Just to have a darling, strong, safe man would be ever so wonderful.  I would be married to him forever!

      Roxanne Lanyon

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     karley delaware 
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    Hi.   I recently   told  my therapist.     Looking back I am surprised at how matter  of  fact I was  about it.    I was quietly  amused  she wrote a lot  in her notebook  and I  talked about  CDH  and the wonderful girls there.  I offered to show my profile pics at next meeting.  At this  moment I am thinking of having  a session with her en femme  as  Karley.   Crazy huh??

    karley delaware

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       Scarlett398 
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      Hi Karley, no not crazy at all! I wish I could go in full up Scarlett mode to my psychiatrist. But leaving our home in our neighborhood in broad daylight and coming back in broad daylight would not be within my wife’s limits imposed on my cross dressing which is just fine with me.

      But go for it girl friend! I was so surprised after meeting with my psychiatrist for over 27  years and he knowing me as a jock and sports fanatic for all of those years that he took the cross dressing news and the 50 8×10 photos I brought him of Scarlett in such a cool stride. He was really impressed at how hot I looked as a girl and was very supportive of me exploring the femme side of me which has been going on for decades. He was very accepting, supportive, and encouraging which absolutely floored me. We covered everything from the first time I put on my mom’s sexy black lingerie right up through my photo postings and interactions with her girls here at CDH!

      Have a super weekend, Karley! XOXOX Scarlett

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         karley delaware 
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        Hi Scarlett.   I did show her a couple of my profile pictures and was surprised at how casual I was about it. She looked at them and studied them, smiled a little then wrote in her notebook. At the next meeting I think I will ask if she would like to meet Karley.  I’ll just make a quick change in the restroom, and have Karley tell her about me.  Being able to actually tell someone  about CD and not be judged has been very helpful.   She mentioned we were now getting into so really deep stuff here.  Will tell how this goes…………………….karley

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         Donna James 
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        Scarlett what are you doing to me. After my previous post saying that the title Psychiatrist having a more negative vibe than Therapist you change your description to that.

        Think I need to see one myself now.lol.

        Enjoy the weekend, holiday weekend here is it in your ‘neck of the woods.

        Donna xoxo.

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           Scarlett398 
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          Thanks Baby Doll! He’s my psychiatrist and has never referred to his self as a therapist but I see them as one in the same.

          You should see the diplomas he has on his wall! You could wallpaper a decent sized room with them! I’m always impressed with a pile of diplomas. I have three college diplomas myself! One bachelors and two masters!

          Love ya! XOXOX Scarlett

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           Donna James 
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          Hey girl you got some letters after your name. What subjects have you achieved these levels in? I have noted that CD community seems to have a large contingent of educated people. I went to a grammar school (non fee paying) as I passed what we call the 11plus. However 1980s industrial Manchester few children went to University and was expected to get out there and working, Sheet metal worker was where I ended up and as that industry dried up due to Chinese pre-fabricated imports have done many things since. Although educated since on the mean streets of Manchester I am well read in British and classical history. Anyway thats enough of me and its not really site relevant but I love to hear of peoples lives both in panties and out.

          Was not implying that there’s any problem with a problem with a Therapist or Psychiatrist just the semantics of the titles. We over here could learn from America and not bottle everything up a open up to people, its just not in our psyche. Anyway it seems to work as you always seem to be smiling. Keep it going girl.

          Hugs and kisses back to you. Donna.

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           Amelia walker 
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          Hi Donna! There seems to be fads for titles in the mental health field. I did an online course for clinical psychology where the objective was to classify every illness in such a way as to enable a CS to prescribe the appropriate treatment by using an algorithm. Being also brought up on the mean streets of Manchester (Gorton) where you would only go to a psychiatrist if ordered to by the court I would be interested to know what a therapist/psychologist actually does. I failed math in my 11 plus and was taken out of school by my parents before I could take my GEC’s or eqivalents so ended up doing menial work. I became a qualified teacher late in life and am now an ESL coordinator and math/science teacher.

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           Scarlett398 
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          Hi there Donna, it’s Scarlett again.

          And yes, my education is quite extensive and it didn’t come easy. My parents divorced the day I graduated from high school. One moved to one state and the other moved to another state and I didn’t get invited to go with either one of them. Two weeks later I was working as a brick mason’s laborer, living in a car, and stealing lunch meat from a local grocery store to survive!

          When my girl friend who became my wife was seven and a half months pregnant with my first son, I went down and enlisted into the Air Force and that’s how I got my son born in a hospital instead of the back seat of my car.

          I’ll spare you the in between details but if I had not started my young adult life living in a car and having to steal lunch meat to survive, I would have never had the drive to work really high profile jobs and go to college every single night after work while raising a family of four. I ended up with one bachelors degree and two masters degrees all gotten the hard way with absolutely now help from anyone else.

          That’s the very abbreviated of how I got all of my education which led to all of my professional success at high profile jobs.

          Now I’m retired, do some editing work for Crossdresser Heaven and I give entertaining presentations and speeches to various groups of  people in our county just for my own fun and entertainment.

          I smile all of the time because I’m genuinely really happy. I love my sexy wife, my two Corgi dogs, and our dream home we worked for over forty years for. So all is really great now and I don’t take one day of my blessed life for granted and give my God thanks for leading me to the life I have an opportunity to live now.

          I finally get to spend more time exploring the thrill of cross dressing and my ability to get my total girl on as Scarlett.

          Donna, that’s if for now but there’s a ton of great stuff left out of the rest of my story!

          XOXOXO Scarlett

           

           

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       Roxanne Lanyon 
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      No, Karley, Dear,

      I think that is so sweet!  Honey, what does this therapist do for you?  Do you think one would help me prepare to be wed?

      Roxanne Lanyon

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     Toni Kohls 
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    I love this site too! Only people in stores. Bought all my new clothes at regular stores like target and a mall. I’ve only been at it a few weeks. I can’t wait to go out dressed!

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       Roxanne Lanyon 
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      Please, Toni,

      With me?

      Roxanne Lanyon

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       Scarlett398 
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      Wow! A cross dressing rookie! We don’t get to many of them on a site like this. I’ve been at it for decades now.

      You landed on the best cross dressing site in the world, Toni! You’ll get a ton of encouragement and support on this site and can gain a pile of knowledge to learn how to take your cross dressing skills to their highest levels.

      Take care and glad to have you on board!

      Sincerely, Scarlett

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         Toni Kohls 
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        Omg thank you Scarlett! I have been so warmly received here ❤️  I didn’t know what it was all about. I have had so much fun from getting my first bra and stuffing it with socks to grabbing some nice silicone breast forms. I think I have a small wardrobe started. (I can’t stop buying panties I wear them all the time they feel and look great!) My clothes are so nice and I just love them. I even painted my toenails for the first time today.

        I’m just dying to go out dressed but I need a wig and I really really want some strappy shoes and a purse. I don’t have any makeup other than lipstick and I have absolutely no clue! But I’m so excited to learn. I can’t wait to find someone to have some girl time with although I don’t mind doing it by myself.

        You are so pretty and you look like a pro at it! Thank you thank you for your encouragement!

        😘❤️

        Toni

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           Scarlett398 
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          Thanks for the compliment Toni! I’ve been at it for decades. That amount of time and great genes from my mom and dad have enabled me to take my cross dressing skills to the highest level as you can see from the photos!

          XOXO Scarlett

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           Roxanne Lanyon 
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          Scarlett,

          You ARE a cute girl!  I hope I can find a handsome husband who is as cute as you!

          Your Sweet, Gentle Roxanne

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           Toni Kohls 
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          I think I have some girly features and naturally feminine mannerisms that will make me good eventually. I can’t help it but letting them express I feel more girly and I love it!!! I actually feel all around better when I have some girl time!

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     Brandy B 
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    Only my wife, who is non-supportive and wants me to stop, and my therapist.  And of course all of you!!!

     

    Brandy

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       Donna James 
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      It’s Ok we won’t tell anybody.

      Your better than me. Wife doesn’t know, no therapist so it’s just all on here.

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         Brandy B 
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        Just between us girls!

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         Scarlett398 
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        Hi Donna, don’t worry about a thing! We’ll all keep it deep in the closet for you!

        Love ya! XOXO Scarlett

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          Scarlott,

          I wish I had a husband who knew!

          Roxanne Lanyon, “A Sweet Wife”

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          Scarlet so sweet of you to keep my little secret and who knows one day I might break the doors off that closet as Donna bursts out on to the worlds stage.

          I bet those Therapists could tell a tale or two if they ever broke professional confidence. Its interesting the amount of girls in the good old US of A use therapists. Here in the UK its not quite as popular, we tend to bottle things you know ‘stiff upper lip old chap’. Don’t think it helps that we refer to them as Psychiatrists which gives a slightly more negative vibe. Anyway your pics always look great and the smile on your face says the Therapist is doing a good job or you don’t need him or her.

          For now keep our secret I will let you know when you can shout it from the roof tops.

          Hugs from the old country Donna.

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       Scarlett398 
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      Brandy B., it’s Scarlett and I, like you, had to stay deep in that closet for decades. I had to hide everything Scarlett and keep everything secret.

      My wife is now totally with only two limitations place on my thrill of cross dressing and they are: Don’t be dressed as Scarlett while in her presence and don’t go out in public while dresses as Scarlett! Both are just fine with me, Brandy. However, I do go out in public as Scarlett four nights per year when my wife is away at her quarterly conferences pertaining to her line of work. I go to the mall, the movie theater, and on occasions to our safe bars downtown which in this area they are all connected by one huge long hallway and different types of music are played in each bar. People dance, have fun, drink a little, and just have some super conversation, and of course people watch. I don’t go there to sit down and have drinks although I get offered plenty drinks by the guys while I’m there. I have danced on occasion but usually just walk out in the middle of the crowd and dance with the girls rather than the guys. Sometimes I head to an old outdoor auto repair shop that is brightly lit up all night long and it serves as a rather neat and unique place to take my camera, place it on my tripod and take photos of myself in different areas of this old shop that looks like something you would see back in the 1940s!

      It took many many years for my feminine side to be accepted by my sexy redheaded wife. She understands what an important part of my life Scarlett is and how it’s actually a very healthy part of my happy mental health. Me without getting my girl on as Scarlett for more than a month is very similar to me being without sex from my sexy redhead for over a month. I find myself getting a bit on the cranky side so I need Scarlett as much as I need sex in my life.

      I totally respect my wife’s boundaries and they have be so relaxed over just the past two years. I can now store all of Scarlett’s things in our brand new expansive home with a ton of closet space for the both of us. We are both clothes whores and we both need lots of closet space. We also purchase clothing that doesn’t go out of style very quickly at all. You can see that from my photos of Scarlett on here! Most of the things I wear I could put on 20 years from now and still be in style.

      I hope things improve for you over the year, Brandy, with acceptance from your wife. Non of my neighbors know but several people outside of my neighborhood and family know such as the women at the places where I purchase all of Scarlett’s things and also girls out our two Sephora shops. Those girls are open to cross dressers and trans folks. Most makeup shops are! My hair stylist knows and for the very first time in close to 30 years, I let my psychiatrist know and he was very open and supportive to it. He knew me as an athlete and jock and huge sports fan so I thought he would totally freak out when I told him I was a cross dresser and busted out with about 50 color 8×10 photos of Scarlett.

      Well that’s way too much for now, Brandy. Just keep hope up that things can get better on the acceptance side with an unsupportive spouse and I’m living proof of it!

      XOXOXO Scarlett

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        Scarlett: Thank you so much for those comments.  It is difficult as my wife has known for many years and only seems to get more resistant as the years progress.  I travel a good deal so get to let Brandy out on my trips, but sadly, that just isn’t enough.

        I truly appreciate your thoughtful remarks,

         

        Brandy

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    Basically no one and hopefully no one ever will. In the uK crossdressing is still classed as sexual deviance and CDs have no protection unless they are diagnosed as transgender.

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       Scarlett398 
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      Wow Iain, that’s quite enlightening. Because we have quite a few girls from England on here and I was definitely under the impression that Europeans in general were a quite a bit more liberal with things like cross dressing than certain parts in America. In the deep southeastern part of the United States, it’s definitely something very taboo and unaccepted with the exception of New Orleans Louisiana where almost anything goes!

      Thanks for writing and letting us know what’s up over there when it comes to cross dressing!

      XOXO Scarlett

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         Donna James 
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        Scarlett the UK is just like the US enclaves of acceptance examples part of Manchester, B Brighton. But most other places are similar to your experience we may not have the deep South but the working class North, and deeply conservative areas and let’s not get to religion. A repressed society. One common sketch on Monty Python would be the business man going to work with bowler  hat, pin stripe suit, brief case and stockings and suspenders underneath.

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           Amelia walker 
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          Being English but living in Thailand for 13 years my views may be out of date but as I recall the “Transphobia” in the UK is born out of the traditions of the music halls where men dressed as women for comic effect. I wouldn’t be embarrassed to walk around around Manchester in my sluttiest outfit but I would be a little scared. The last time I was in Manchester anti social teenagers were untouchable and immune from police action.

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           Scarlett398 
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          Thanks for your update on the UK Amelia! Looks like I won’t be visiting he UK while on vacation anytime soon!

          The last horrific news story I witnessed from there were people getting run over by buses or cars in the heart of London. I value the life of my sexy redhead and me never to be vacationing abroad in the near future. To many terrorist wandering around over there. I’ll stick with the Grand Canyon, Yosimite National Park, or the Smokey Mountains for now. I’ve never heard of anyone getting run over by a bus or car in those areas of America!

          Thanks for chiming in, Amelia! XOXOXO Scarlett

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           Amelia walker 
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          Sadly I would discourage anyone from visiting the UK especially LGBT. It was a very dark and nasty place and the main reason I came to Thailand.

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           Scarlett398 
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          Thanks for the heads up Girl Friend!

          XOXO Scarlett

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           Scarlett398 
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          Donna, you are one funny girl! Thank so much for your reply! It was a real hoot to read!

          XOXO Scarlett

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         Roxanne Lanyon 
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        Scarlett, I am a bit confused.

        I have a good friend in England, and he is a very beautiful girl.  He also has a small group of lovely “girlfriends”, as well.  They do not ever sound repressed.  In fact, I often reflect on going over there to become more and more a “woman”.

        Roxanne Lanyon

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           Roxanne Lanyon 
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          Oh my!

           

           

          Well, I have learned something here!  But I do want to find a place where a girl like me can live happy, and fulfilled!

          Roxanne Lanyon

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           Scarlett398 
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          Well Roxy, I guess based on Donna’s input on the UK, it just like the great US of A! It has it’s liberal areas and it’s conservative areas just like America. We have our San Francisco, Santa Monica, New Orleans, and New York. We also have our Birmingham, Jackson, Augusta, Troy, and Montgomery.

          Ain’t that somethin’?

          XOXO Scarlett

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           Donna James 
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          Scarlett Europe has a problem with terrorism of that there is no doubt, we had the Arena bombing in Manchester. Don’t let it put you off.It always seems worse from far away we think its like the Gunfight at the OK corral over there and it’s not (I hope).  Anyway Majorca soon for me get your bikini I’ll see you at the beach.

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           Roxanne Lanyon 
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          Man,

          I watch FOX news Atlanta (Channel 5) every morning.  Let me tell you, this place is not a happy, safe place!  Killings, Robberies, every morning!  It is worse that other cesspools in this country I know of!

          Roxanne Lnyon

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    I think almost everyone (family/friends & neighbors know & have seen me dressed–Most accept & some encourage–my wife (who recently died of heart failure) had fun with It & helped me alone the way–My eldest son is an exception– but he has always been a problem for us & his siblings–very self centered & seems to have been born without Empathy–so he & his family (Two kids) we rarely see or even hear from–He married into Money–so her family are the important ones–but the rest of the kids & grandkids are fine with my dressing- I do have to be somewhat care out in public (locally ) because of my job –the folks I work for & 1/2 my co-workers are very uptight about these types of things–
    Going forward–I’m Not sure how to go about it unless I can make friends with like minded people (esp since I will have to work longer hrs to pay the bills without my wives’ income–& more importantly without her help & encouragement –Jane

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       Scarlett398 
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      Hi Janedon! Sorry about the passing of your wife and so happy to here what of crowd of folks know about your cross dressing and for the most part are very supportive.

      I can definitely related to an estranged relationship with a son. It’s that way with both of mine. I rented a home I owned for over 20 years to my irresponsible oldest son and his irresponsible wife and their two kids and a dog and a cat. Both adults in this family were former military officers which was ironic because they lived in that home (which almost still looked like brand new when they moved in) for three and a half years and completely destroyed both the inside and outside of that gorgeous little home. And I rented it to them for half the going rental rate in that neighborhood which was an average of $1,400 a month and they were living in it for $700 a month. After they moved out, it took me and 5 contractors over two months to fix the inside and outside – over $28,000 was also spent on drywall, paint, new cabinets, new toilets, new granite counter tops, new doors all the way inside and around the exterior of the home. The yard and planting beds had to be redone from scratch with brand new sod, plants, and everything! They didn’t cut the yard or fertilize it for the entire three and a half years the lived there and that wife didn’t scrub a toilet for the three and a half years they lived there either. When the realtor and contractors came into the home before they moved out but while they were away on a trip to the in law’s place, they said they couldn’t believe that a family could live in such filth! They had never seen anything like this in their lives. And then when they came back and I called my son away from the family and asked him why didn’t he cut the grass or clean anything in the home for three and a half years, he just snapped and tried to kill me on the side of my own home.

      I haven’t spoke to him since and that was well over a year ago and have no plans of ever speaking to him or anyone is his family ever again!

      Sorry about the whining but I just had to get that out today, Janedon!

      Thanks for your response and have a wonderful rest of the week!

      XOXOXO Scarlett

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         Roxanne Lanyon 
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        ar Charlotte,

        Its me, Roxanne again.  I am so sorry about your story.  It is amazing what people can do to each other!  In a way, I guess I am happy I am un-attached right now.  As Roxanne, I will always try to make sure my man, any man, will have a happy, clean home here.  I so want to be a good wife, and a loving, caring one too.  Oh, how I wish I had just a chance!

        Good luck to you, Charlotte.  You ARE a special Girl!

        Roxanne Lanyon

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       Roxanne Lanyon 
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      Miss Jane,

      It is always so good to hear from you on this site.

      I am divorced now for three years, and it does get a bit lonely.  I hope your life only gets better!  Sometimes I think it would be nice to have a caring SiOther to live with, and share this “femininity” issue with!  Oh, wouldn’t life be so much better then!  I am always searching for this!

      Roxanne Lanyon  “Lonliness is not for Sissies-unless you are Me!”

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     Sandi Santora 
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    Good question gurlfriend. Personally, I have kept my en femme life a secret from my family and friends.  They would be absolutely shocked!  I am married and my wife does not know.  I have adult children, and they don’t know, or need to know.  I think it would crush them.  Only a few close gurlfriends have seen me in male/female modes. When I dress, I only allow people to see me in my femme mode.

    The front desk (female) clerk at the motel I stay at while on business, knows.  The department manager of the  WalMart cosmetic area, knows.  And one gal at a local department store service counter, knows.   One close female biological girfriend knows.   And thats it other than the people I meet out and about in public as Sandi.

    It’s a double life, and it’s a tough life.

     

    Sandi

     

     

     

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       Scarlett398 
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      Sandi, I totally understand where you’re coming from and I had to live that total life of secrecy when it came to my cross dressing for many many years. It was only until an on line cross dressing site that I’m no long a member of was created that I was able to come out and share my photos, experiences, knowledge, and thrill of cross dressing with others.

      My sexy redheaded wife is very accepting of it now, however, I can’t get my girl on as Scarlett in her presence which is just fine with me and a very acceptable limitation with me as well. Other than that, she’s just fine with it an for the first time ever the other night while out shopping, I was able to pick out and purchase a dress for Scarlett in her presence while at our TJ Maxx store in Pensacola and was able to take it up to the register and purchase the dress at the same time she was able to purchase her selected items. I never thought I’d see that day or night ever happen.

      In the past, I would be shopping for Scarlett’s things while she would be in the fitting room and then go back the following day to make my purchases and place them in my closets. Now I have the go ahead to buy Scarlett anything I want while shopping together with her. Took me years and years to get to this milestone and just another huge weight has been lifted off of my cross dressing shoulders!

      Thanks a bunch for sending in your response Sandi. I enjoyed reading it and so did Roxy who’s one of my best girl friends on here now!

      XOXO Scarlett

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         Roxanne Lanyon 
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        Oops, Sorry!  I meant Scarlett, not Charlotte!  Oh, I must be just a silly girl, to get that wrong!  Again, so sorry, Girl!

         

        Your Roxanne Lanyon

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       Roxanne Lanyon 
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      Thanks, Sandi,

      I would hate to be so secretive, but, of course, we must, at times.  That is part of why I want a “bi” relationship with a loving partner.  I just want to be Roxanne, all of the time, and even be her in public – with my Other.  Oh what a great life that would be!  I so wish someone who wants me comes along, and sweeps me off my feet, and into his/her arms!

      Roxanne Lanyon

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         Sandi Santora 
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        Rox,

        That person is out there for you. They are just very difficult to find.

        Sandi

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           Roxanne Lanyon 
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          Oh Sandi,

          Sometimes I just want to cry!  It is so difficult living alone.  Having a sweet partner, who understands and wants me, as Roxanne, would make life ever so much more sweet!

          I woke up this morning in my violet, feminine PJ’s, and just could not bring myself to take them off!  I would so much enjoy having a husband to wrap his arms around me and give me a long, lingering kiss, as my love for him pours out!  Oh, I know I am being a wishful, silly girl, but I do need that relationship!

          I often think of putting on my prettiest dress and going off to a romantic island with him, and remain in his arms for weeks on end!  God, I would love that!

          Oh well, Sandi, I will just have to dream a while longer!

          Roxanne Lanyon  “A Girl’s Heart Will Always Quiver”

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           Sandi Santora 
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          I feel your pain…….

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           Roxanne Lanyon 
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          Sandi,

          Sometimes I wish I could go to Amazon and shop for a nice, gentle man that I could order and have in less than a week!

          I just know I could be such a sweet girl for him!

          Roxanne Lanyon

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    My immediate family, my cousin, my sister’s on/off bf, and most of my friends.

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       Scarlett398 
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      Thanks for your response Azalea! That’s a pretty good sized crowd who knows of your cross dressing. I hope all of them are accepting and supportive!

      XOXO Scarlett

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        Aww thanks sweetie. I came out after holding my femme secret for nearly 20 years and it’s a weight off my shoulders.

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          Dear azalea,

          Isn’t it the most wonderful thing?  I love being Roxanne so much!  I want to be her forever and ever!  I want to be the best sweet girl a sig other could ever have!  Oh, I would be ever so good and gentle for him!

          Roxanne Lanyon

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         Roxanne Lanyon 
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        Scarlett is so right!

        It is wonderful to be understood and accepted.  It is my feminine dream!

        Roxanne Lanyon

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    The nurse who gave me an ECG must have suspected possibly due to my lack of body and arm hair while attaching the electrodes, but also my light purple painted toenails which I had forgotten about until I removed my socks for the lower electrodes!

    It did make me smile, and as she yanked the sticky electrodes off the nurse quipped that I was getting a free wax.

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      Oh Jasmine,

      That sounds so humorously sweet!  I would have blushed all over if she said something to me!  I stay shaved all over pretty much as well!  A girl needs to keep up her appearances, right?

      Roxanne Lanyon

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       Amelia walker 
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      Great story Jasmine. The whole school nearly found out when we went to a water park and everyone threw off their shoes and socks for a group photo in the pool.I kept my socks on but could still see the pink nail polish.

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       Scarlett398 
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      Very funny short story Jasmine! I stay shaved as well. My sexy redheaded wife actually likes me totally shaved with just a little sexy patch of neatly trimmed hair locate about my male plumbing!

      At first, long ago, she thought the first time I shaved my legs it was a bit strange. I just told her the truth that most of the military guys at the huge gym I work out in all shave not only their legs but their entire bodies. A lot of them are body sculptors or swimmers out back in our olympic sized pool at the gym so shaving the body is a very common thing.

      It makes my legs look sexier as well!

      Thanks for your response girl friend! XOXOX Scarlett

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    My mum and sis have been supporting me since i was a teenager. Then even buy me my girly underwear. And my sister is pregnant right now and she is joking saying that i will make a better aunty than an uncle for her first child. And i’m gonna reveal my secret to my girlfriend soon too. Other than that my best friend this childhood knows i crossdress and she adores me as a girl

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    Hi

    My SO is aware and supportive and helps me out occasionally.  My counselor who is very helpful in having me accept myself, all parts of myself and now all of you on this site.  You’ve all been very welcoming and very helpful.  I thank you all.

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       Scarlett398 
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      Thanks for your response Rachel. You are so fortunate to have an SO who’s very supportive of your thrill of cross dressing. Not all of us are that fortunate. However, that sexy redheaded wife of mine has come miles forward with her acceptance just in the last six months or so! About the only limitation on my cross dressing is when I get my girl on as Scarlett, I just don’t do it while she’s present which is just fine with me!

      Yes, this CD site is the best ever because of the founder, the staff, and the girls. Now I got slammed today by a girl who sent in a tough response to my article in the article section pertaining to my refusal to refer to myself as Drab when I’m dressed in guys clothes.

      But that’s OK, I expected a huge variety of responses when I wrote the article.

      But the lovely and supportive notes and compliments I receive from most all of the girls on the site who know me and enjoy my photos far outweigh any rare negative comments that may appear.

      Have a super weekend, Rachel! XOXO Scarlett

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      My counselor will be my husband.

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        Roxy, I can hardly wait for you to find the perfect man!

        Love ya! XOXO Scarlett

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          Scarlotte,

          I am still looking!  I will be so happy when I can find him!

          Roxanne Lanyon

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          Me too Roxy! You deserve the very best! Love ya! XOXOX Scarlett

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          Miss Scarlott,

          Thank you, dear girl!  I would adore waking up next to my sweet, loving man, and cuddling next to him!

          Roxanne Lanyon

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    Other than ladies I’ve talked to online (i.e., who could never pick me out of a lineup 🙂  ), there’s my exwife (although we never really discussed it) and an ex gf, with whom I went through a range of reactions, including toleration to happy lovemaking to her becoming somewhat domme. There is a friend (male) whom I suspect the exwife told; I also suspect that he dresses, and he has come on to me once. This was awkward, as I’m not attracted to men at all unless I’m en femme, and even then he’s not my type.

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       Scarlett398 
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      Very interesting response, Debbi. I hope the next SO you find is very accepting of your cross dressing thrill! I know it’s a thrill for me and I can never seem to get enough of it!

      XOXO Scarlett

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    Only one very special to me

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      Thanks for your response, Cherry! Hope more get to be supportive of your dressing in the near future! XOXO Scarlett

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    Myself and the girls on this forum.

    If it ain’t broke don’t fix it.

    But someday it will come out since I am really a woman living in a man’s body and would like to be a woman 24/7

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       Roxanne Lanyon 
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      I would love to be Roxanne for him.  So much so!

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      Roxanne Lanyon

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      Thank you Martha for sending in an answer to my question! As you can see, it’s generated quite a response from the girls on this site! I’ve had a blast reading and responding to those who served up an answer. I wish I had more Scarlett time too but my current schedule just doesn’t allow it. I haven’t had any Scarlett time in over a month now and I’m so ready for my Scarlett time coming up on next Tuesday, Martha.

      And I hope you enjoy my photos from that photo shoot I have planned right here at my home by me next Tuesday!

      Take care and thanks again for offering up your response to my question!

      XOXO Scarlett

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    Only 2 people my sister and a friend that will be it for a while but that works for me at the moment

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       Scarlett398 
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      Thanks, Melody, for responding to my question. My circle of the folks who knew for decades was one or two folks. Now many people know about Scarlett and the shame and guilt of cross dressing has been long gone for several years know. I know wear my cross dressing skills as a badge of honor now and I dress up with great pride and satisfaction now!

      XOXO Scarlett

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    Myself and the girls on this forum!

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    Just one. My GF of 7 years knows.

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       Scarlett398 
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      Thanks Chelly and I hope you have an opportunity to share your thrill of cross dressing with several more folks in the near future!

      XOXO Scarlett

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    So, my wife knows I dress ever since she discovered my little stash of lingerie under the bed of some years ago. Having sought advice from a marriage counsellor, who told her that sexuality covered a wide spectrum and so she shouldn’t worry about my x-dressing desires, my wife even bought me some hold-ups to wear and seemed Ok with me dressing in bra and panties. However, since then I have tried to be discrete about wearing as I don’t want to make her awkward, etc. but I know she knows as I happily put my panties into the laundry basket, and she says nothing – is that acceptance? I think so since we have been very happily married for over 35 years. More recently I have been buying ladies’ tops and pants plus shoes from a store which specialises in clothes for tall women, but here I am careful not to wear in front of my lovely wife as I don’t want to push things too far. As for others who know, I have bought lingerie sets from two specialist stores where the owners encourage me to dress – one even wants me to dress fully as a woman – how nice! And then there is our lovely leaning lady who has been coming every fortnight for the last couple of years. One time I left a pair of panties on my bedroom chair under my sweaters and she folded them and placed them on the bed, I assume thinking they were my wife’s. Another time she folded a pair and left them on my chair, so I conclude she knows about me wearing panties – I don’t mind her knowing, kind of naughty really!

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       Scarlett398 
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      Thank you Rose for sharing your wife’s acceptance of your cross dressing with us. It sounds like she’s quite OK with it. Yep, just don’t push things too far. Have you had “The Talk” with her yet covering the entire subject of your cross dressing such as when you started and how you started. And then where you are at with your cross dressing today.

      Would you feel awkward dressed as Rose in her presence?  It she’s just fine with that, you are one lucky girl. My wife will never go there with me. She much prefers me as her handsome husband.

      That’s it for now, Rose, and again, thanks for sharing with us!

      XOXO Scarlett

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    The girls that work at Torrid and the ladies that work at Catherine’s and the girl that does my makeover they are all so sweet and supportive I actually feel good when I am around them good question Scarlett

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       Scarlett398 
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      Thanks for your reply, Jasmine! No guys know about Scarlett!  The girls noted above who all know about Scarlett are very encouraging and supportive and always want me to bring in my latest collection of Scarlett’s 8×10 photos! They really love to see my photos each time I bring them in! My circle of folks who know about Scarlett is not much larger than yours Jasmine.

      I live in Northwest Florida which is a very conservative part of the country. I’ve been here for over 40 years and have never seen another cross dresser within 200 miles of this place unless they have been a couple of them out there who are 100% passable like I am!

      That’s it for today! I have much to do with that sexy redhead of mine!

      Thanks again for you response Jasmine! XOXOXO Scarlett

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        1. Hey girl I don’t know why but I don’t have any problem telling GG girls not one guy knows thanks again for this question it was a good one kiss kiss 💋💋 jasmine
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     Maggie Diaz 
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    My wife know but is totally unaccepted to it, so it make it difficult for me to become who I want to be.  I have a friend that know we have even dressed together.  But other than these two people no one else know.

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       Roxanne Lanyon 
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      Well, Maggie Dear,

      Now there are a few of us who know as well!  And we love you!

      Roxanne Lanyon

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    Nobody. Im here to explore a way to tell my wife. I truly enjoy wearing womans clothing and panties. I don’t plan to do it everyday but I want her to kow that I enjoy it. Just scared she will lose her mind???

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       Scarlett398 
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      Samantha, I was in your situation for many many years. She finally came home from work unannounced two hours early and caught me all dolled up as Scarlett and it was very embarrassing and awkward and I go the silent treatment for a couple of days and then I got a chance to tell her how long I had been cross dressing, when I started, how I started, why I started, and how important that part of my life is to me and how I wouldn’t be able to stop and that she would always me my first love and my cross dressing will never ever replace the love and affection I have for her. I told her I had no plans on becoming a full time girl and that I enjoy being her handsome husband.

      She finally gave in to my thrill of cross dressing with limits. I can now dress as much as I want as long as I do it while not in her presence! The limits she places on me are all accepted by me and respected by me. So when you do tell your wife that you are a cross dresser and love the look and feel of ladies clothing against your skin and you want to improve your cross dressing skills with her approval.

      Hopefully, you will get a light silent treatment like I did and then she’ll start to fully understand how the cross dressing will never effect the level of unconditional love you have for her.

      Good luck Samantha! I understand where you are at and I’m so glad I’m past that awkward stage of my cross dressing days/nights!

      XOXOXO Scarlett

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        and then again, she might just be your best helper…………..marriage is about support and encouragement, my SO hates my motorcycles, but goes along because she wants to be supportive and when she wants to go shopping at the outlet malls, I am all in……………it’s a two way street—what really do wives see when their husband is beautiful ??? or trying to be ???   a sick joke ?  a deviant ?  I sure couldn’t do this without the support I get, and encouragement, and the hiding away is so painful and self debilitating.

         

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      • #166244
         Roxanne Lanyon 
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        Scarlett,

        I truly envy what you have.  It is just that, I want to be ever so pretty for my spouse, when I get one.  I want to be the best girl he/she could ever have, and show her all of the love I have to give to him/her.

        Roxanne Lanyon

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           Scarlett398 
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          Now Roxy, you do know from my previous writings that my sexy redhead is not all in with my cross dressing and I do have acceptable limitations placed on how far I can go with it. For instance, I can’t be dressed as Scarlett in her presence which is just fine with me. I actually would feel rather awkward around her dressed as Scarlett unless she was just fine with my cross dressing and we used it strictly in the bedroom at the close of date night for lots of fun under candle light with both of us dressed in very similar outfits. That’s been one of my all time fantasies for years but I realize that fantasy will have to remain just that – a fantasy!

          She has come miles forward with her acceptance in the last few months out to a year and a half ago. We finally had “The Talk” about three months ago and I told her how I started cross dressing in my mothers sexy black lingerie when I was about 9 or 10 years old and brought her all of the way forward to know. She now even knows about this CD site and is accepting of it. She knows I really enjoy talking with you girls on here and knows that I’m now an associate editor in the Article section of the site. It gives me a chance to keep my mind lubricated now that I’m retired.

          I had two very cerebral and high profile jobs before I retired and she knew I missed having to use my brain each day at work. My job I retired from the first time required me to first purchase missiles and bombs that went underneath our highest tech jets here in the states. Later I became the teacher of teams of civil service workers and contractors who would do the analysis and purchasing of the weapons. After retiring from that, I went back to grad school and took enough courses to complete a second master’s degree and then took several state exams to get certified to teach school at the middle and high school levels. I taught Math, Algebra, Social Studies, English and Grammar. I missed using my brain when I retired from both of those jobs. I now give entertaining speeches to local groups in our county on a myriad of subjects. These groups specifically ask for me because most all other speakers they have come to there meetings to give presentations are a real stare when compared to me. I can keep a crowd entertaining and laughing for two straight hours!

          Well Roxy, I’ve rambled on way too long this morning and sorry about that! Thanks for responding to many of the girls who send in responses to my questions. You’ve been a huge support cast for me in responding to the answers of these girls on this site.

          XOXOXO Scarlett

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           Amelia walker 
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          Oh dear sweet Roxanne. I hope you find someone worthy of all that love.

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          Thank you, Amelia.

          I am still looking for someone to love.  mcanoe84@yahoo.com

           

          Roxanne Lanyon

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    All the girls on this site and my gender therapist is all who knows.

    Im so jealous that your wife knows! I wish mine could be accepting of it, even if only a little bit… :/

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      Abby,

      I feel so fortunate that I have no wife to try to please.  I am Roxanne anytime I feel lke it, and I feel like it quite often!

      Roxanne Lanyon

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        Roxy, you are so darn lucky you get to be Roxanne anytime you want to be Roxanne! However, if you knew how sexy and hot my wife is and what a hoot she is to be around, you wouldn’t give something like that relationship up for anything.

        I can’t keep my paws off of her! She calls it groping and I call it public displays of affection! I love to squeeze her butt when we are out shopping or just walking the dogs or in cooking supper together. When we are in public, I make sure now one is in our same isle when I pinch her butt. She gets really mad if she thinks someone sees that sort of thing. But when we are home and cooking together, I take the groping or displays of affection to a much higher level than when we are out in public.

        She’s actually quite hilarious to be around and we are best buddies forever and love each other’s company. I can’t imagine life without her and I am probably way blessed beyond what I deserve in the wife department. I do wish I had a ton more Scarlett time but I would trade Scarlett time for Sandy time any day or night of the week. I’m so lucky!

        But I’ve been single and happy as well but only for a short period of time. I don’t know if I could make it without a loving partner around in the evenings and on the weekends. I’m not sure my two Corgis could take up the place of filling my love needs. I am very needy in the love department! My sexy redhead would tell you I’m way too needy in the love department and she’s probably right!

        Have a super weekend, Roxanne, and I love reading your short notes! Sorry for the length of this one!

        XOXOX Scarlett

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          Hi Scarlett,  I have seen your amazing skill you show in all of your photos here on CDH……….as well as I’ve read your comments here related to your relationship with your SO………..and I’ve seen evidence of your great success in your life, work, dream home, 4×4’s, two corgis ( I have two giant schnauzers)–etc, but I am compelled to ask you—‘what is your ‘end game’ ???   Once you take all the time to ‘do your thing’–take a few new photos—do you just look at your watch and go take it all off and ‘put it away’ until tomorrow ??   Please share what it is that drives you ?  Do you wear a nightie to bed ?  Does your SO know your shave gel is in the bathroom ?  When I engage Mikki, it’s to spend a long evening together with my SO, enjoying each other’s feminine company, that is always exciting………..and I don’t think I’d ever take the time to create Mikki if it weren’t for my SO awaiting her…………..it always ends well for both of us.   I’ve never thought of taking photos and posting them, is it that you’re simply posing for the community ?  If you are, you do a wonderful job, it just seems to  me, wasted if you do not share it in person with the one you love most, and maybe people in your area…………Just a friendly question, I’m not being critical or judgmental, but such skill should be illustrated and shared……at least in my thinking……………best to you !!!

          Mikki

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           Scarlett398 
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          Mikki, that’s such a super question – “What is your end game?”

          Mikki, I’m married to my sexy redhead who I can’t keep my paws off of!  We enjoy our evenings together starting out with walking our two little corgies for about a mile around the undeveloped section next to where our dream home has been built. New construction is going on now in phase II of our housing development where new houses not quite as gorgeous as our home are being built. Then I come back and take care of a few home projects either inside or outside of our dream home. After that, we share cooking duties and settle in for a night of TV watching of our favorite shows. I spend a lot of time massaging her feet or just feeling her legs while we watch our shows.

          Our date nights are usually on Saturday nights and we go out to dinner and then go see a movie or go shopping together. I don’t buy things for Scarlett while I’m with my wife. I help her pick out things for herself while at the same time, I’ll be looking for dresses, skirts, or top for Scarlett which I may go back the very next day while she’s at work to make my Scarlett purchases. When date night in pubic is up, we return home and I put on something sexy which is explained further below and she puts on a long sleeved stretch lace top with a matching thong (she has a pile of these outfits in such sexy varieties of stretch lace colors) and then I light about four Yankee candles and we spend the next two hours or so involved in extremely passionate love making! I’ll spare ya the details to keep me from getting kicked off this wonderful CD site! But it’s delicious and absolutely off the chain incredible!

          Now Sandy, my wife, doesn’t allow me to dress as Scarlett in her presence. It’s one of my few limitations that is just fine with me. She much prefers me to be her “Handsome Husband”. So my dressing time is usually limited to once per week or every other week when she has a full work day and then has a meeting with one of the many organizations she’s a member of or when she’s having her hair done once a month after work. On those particular days and nights, I have 12 hours to myself and that’s when I get my girl on as Scarlett.

          My “End Game” you are asking me about is me dressing up as Scarlett in a variety of outfits – many new ones you haven’t seen yet – and setting up my Nikon D3100 or D3400  cameras atop a very nice Vivitar tripod with the camera set on the 10 second self timer which gives me plenty of time to go and get in front of the camera to strike a pose wherever in this gorgeous home I want to! Then comes the end game and that is my only way of getting Scarlett out of the house which is sharing my photographs with the girls here at CDH!  I simply match my cross dressing skills with my photography skills and put them to work in order to share Scarlett with the rest of the world. But as you will soon read, Mikki, there’s much more to Scarlett’s end game than that!

          I love receiving all of the encouraging and lovely compliments I get from the girls on this site in response to my photos. I have my own sort of groupies who are a few girls who love me and love my photos. They always send me sweet notes in response to my posted pictures. This adds so very much to my thrill of cross dressing. Many of the girls tell me I’m the best on this site and many come to me in private messages or in our chat room asking for all kinds of advice on how to take their cross dressing skills to their own personal highest levels possible.

          As a current entertaining public speaker and a former teacher, I love to share my own knowledge I’ve gained over the many years of my cross dressing to help them take their own skills to their highest levels. The girls ask me an endless amount of questions which would take about a week to list here so I won’t bother you with a list of questions a mile long I get asked from the girls.

          The staff here, Mikki, after reading many of my private messages and writings in the chat room, asked me to become an associated editor in the Article section of this site. They also had much respect for my extensive formal education as well. I was flattered to be asked to become their first associated editor in that department and I’m getting pretty darn good at the process after editing about five articles to date now with many more to come in the future. It keeps my brain lubricated and adds a bit more to my cross dressing “end game” I guess you could say.

          Would I love to be in a position like yours with an encouraging wife/SO when it comes to your cross dressing? You bet! However, Mikki, as noted above my sexy redhead is not into seeing me as cute, sexy, classy Scarlett. She loves me as her handsome husband and I completely understand that because I am a very good looking handsome husband if I may say so myself. And that’s just not my own humble opinion, it’s the same of my wife and everyone of her many girl friends or the employees she has working for her which are about 65 in number.

          All of the girls who know her or work with her would love to have a handsome, funny, entertaining husband who just loves the stew out of them like I do that sexy redhead of mind. I just can’t keep my paws off of her! What she calls grouping, I call public or non public displays of affection.

          And when it comes to preferred clothing, if you looked in her closet and then looked in mine, Mikki, you probably couldn’t tell which one was hers and which one was mine because we wear almost and sometimes do wear identical outfits. She won’t purchase a thing without me giving her the two thumbs up or tell her how gorgeous she looks in a particular dress or outfit when she comes out of the fitting room! She won’t even buy a purse, a pair of heels, or even a darn pair of sunglasses unless I tell her – “Oh, that’s definitely you girl friend! You look amazing in that or those!” It’s really special how much she leans on me when it comes to lady’s fashion!

          Now, Mikki, onto other quick questions of yours! Yes, she knows what kind of shaving cream I use in the shower not only to shave my legs but the rest of my body as well. I wasn’t born with thick black hair on my body. It’s fine hair almost like that of a woman and my body hair doesn’t grow fast. I shave me legs every day and shave my underarms about once per week. I shave my arms about once a month. I shave my private parts as well with the exception of a small well groomed patch that my wife prefers me to leave just above my male plumbing. Kinda like a lot of girls leave above their vagina. I think a nicely groomed patch above those parts is sexier than no hair at all. And by the way, I’ve been shaving my legs every morning for the past eight years or so and my wife really likes my pretty legs shaved. The first day I did it years ago she wondered why. And after I told her all of the guys at the gym and all of the swimmers in the olympic pool out in back of they gym do it, she was just fine with it and now prefers them shaved each and every day.

          Now on to what to what I wear to bed each night! I usually wear a Gap Lowery long sleeved black or white lady’s T Shirt that looks kind of unisex. They are light and extremely comfortable. I pair the Gap long sleeved T shirts with a pair of my favorite ladies underwear. That is a pair of Ellen Tracy microfiber bikini briefs. They are sexy, stretchy, and so comfy that I choose to wear them every day under my shorts or jeans or suits. I must have over 50 pairs of them in every color they have ever made them in. When I have a black top on when going to bed, I match it up with a black pair of Ellen Tracy briefs. When I’m wearing a white Gap top, I usually pair the white top with either white, nude, or darker nude Ellen Tracy briefs. I feel really sexy and comfortable and it doesn’t freak my wife out because everything I have on looks kinda unisex rather than frilly, girly, lacy, and ultra feminine which she wouldn’t be OK with.

          Besides sharing my Scarlett photos with you girls on this site to get Scarlett out of the house, I do get Scarlett out of the house in public four times per year when my wife is away at company conferences. I go to the mall, the movie theater, and our safe downtown bar area. All of these bars are connected by one huge, long, wide hallway and you can walk from one end to the other in about 15 minutes. And as you can tell by my photos, no one has a clue that Scarlett is a guy dressed up as a sexy, cute, classy girl. They have no idea I’m a cross dresser which is a real rush to me and part of my “end game” which only happens four nights per year. I have to pull the new Honda CRV out of the garage after the sun goes down because none of my conservative neighbors know that one of the sexiest cross dressers in the world lives next to them. So I have to leave when it’s dark and come back when it’s late and dark. It’s a really fun part of my “end game” and I so look forward to those rare four nights per year!

          The last part of my “end game” is the shopping aspect of it! Now the only time you’ll see me shopping for men’s clothing is usually when I’m in the process of adding another slim cut suit to my extensive men’s suit collection. Most all of them come from Joseph A. Banks in Pensacola Florida. I wear those suits to my wife’s semi formal events, to church, or when I am giving a special entertaining speech/presentation to a local group of folks like I am this coming Friday at the senior’s volunteer group out of Navarre Florida. I usually pair the suits with expensive permanent press pin point cotton shirts from the Paul Fredrick’s catalogs. I can get the perfect slim cut fit with the perfect sleeve length to compliment the suit. I usually have a white or pink long sleeved dress shirt on with a navy blue, gray, or black suit. Some suits with a window pane pattern to them and some with what they call a solid shark skin pattern to them. I pair the shirts and suits with some very expensive slightly thin but not real skinny ties usually of yellow, Carolina blue, silver, red, or gold colored silk ties. And then top things off with either a pair of black or mahogany colored Johnston and Murphy dress shoes – usually cap toed dress shoes which is what our presidents wear most of the time.

          Ninety-five percent of my shopping time is spent on Scarlett or my wife or both at the same time! I just can’t purchase Scarlett things while shopping with my wife. I go back the next day to purchase those items.

          Well Mikki, I’ve written a darn novel trying to explain what my “end game” to my thrill of cross dressing is! I hope you understand now what my overall mission is with cute sexy Scarlett! There’s many facets to her end game as you can understand now.

          Sorry for rambling on for so long but I hope you enjoyed my writing on the end game subject! And thank you so much for sending me your insightful questions. I loved all of them!

          I look so forward to hearing back from you very soon and sorry it took so long to find your note and get back to you regarding your questions. I hope I more than covered them all!

          Sincerely, Scarlett   XOXOXO

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          Thank you for your obvious patience with the children…..you explained well beyond my right to know.  But, I am glad I do know now.

          With respect

          Mikki

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          Honey,

          Your “end game” is just the beginning for me.

          mcanoe84@yahoo.com

          Roxanne Lanyon

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          Good questions, Scarlotte,

          I am Roxanne Lanyon, and am single.  I love being a girl so  can attract a caring significant other to be in my life, as my mate, and friend.  He/she will be very welcome in my heart!

          Roxanne Lanyon

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          Scarlett,

          You are so much fun, and so interesting!  One day, if I am lucky, I will find a husband who will lead me down his path of humor, passion, and just plain romance!  I dream, and look, for it, right now!

          Roxanne, Sweet, Gentle, and Available!

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          Love ya Roxy! Hang in there girl friend! You will have someone who will love the stew out of you soon! I’m praying for you! And a lot of my prayers get answered!

          XOXOXO Scarlett

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          Oh Scarlet,

          You are a true Angel!  Thank you so much for your concern, and prayers!

          Your Roxanne, “A Wife to Be”

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      Abby, it took my wife 15 years to be totally accepting of my cross dressing and it’s still with limits! One is the fact that I can’t be dressed as Scarlett while in her presence and I don’t ever see any change to that limitation!

      But I love that sexy redhead unconditionally and she knows that and understands that every single day!

      Thanks Abby, for sending in your response!

      XOXO Scarlett

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    Just my wife

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      Thanks Danielle! It was that way with me more many many years! Now a pile of people know! And none of them have an issue with it and some want to see the latest photos of Scarlett on a regular basis!

      XOXO Scarlett

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        Scarlott,

        I think you are quite cute!

        Your Roxanne

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          Thank you My Roxanne! That’s so sweet of you to say that! I was kinda hoping you had a little crush on me!

          XOXOXO Scarlett

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          Oh, Dear,

          How could I not have one?

          Your Roxanne

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      Danielle,

      Of course, now the rest of us!

      Your Roxanne

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    I have a friend that guessed it out of me, she actually got me to start trying to understand this side of me rather than avoiding it, and ended up leading me to all of you. Also, my roommates know (a male and female). I decided to talk to them individually about it, so I wouldnt have to hide anything. I am still early on in my journey, as I havent dressed in years. As we all know, no matter how much you purge the urges dont really leave. However, this time I am starting with supportive people. Not sure how this journey will go but I plan to start shopping soon.

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      Hi there Nameless and you don’t have to be so shy on this site! It’s the classiest CD site out there in cyber land. The founder, Vanessa Law, has kept it that way from day one.

      I’ve purged twice before and I wish I had all those $10,000 worth of Scarlett’s things back right now! They are all sitting in the bottom of our local landfill and all of it would still look gorgeous and be in style today!

      Thanks for you lovely note and sounds like you’re in a great space to totally start getting your girl on!

      XOXO Scarlett

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        Thank you, this entire thread might be the most helpful thing I’ve come across. Seeing everyone’s story is refreshing, the good and the bad… I think at such long last I have created a space to start, but I guess I am taking my time. I have yet to understand what cross dressing really means to me, but I think I will soon figure it out.

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           Scarlett398 
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          It does take much time to figure it all out. It took me decades to refine my CD skills to become 100% passable out in public!

          It won’t take you that long because you have this site, Google, and You Tube to help you with your makeup application skills and ideas from photos on here on what looks great and what doesn’t.

          I had none of this help when I started decades ago so you can flatten out the CD curve in a hurry!

          Good luck on your journey! By the way, girls come to me in Private Messages looking or knowledge, tips, and advice all of the time. Anytime you have a need to ask me a question on how to take your cross dressing skills to your own individual highest levels, feel free to send me any questions you need answers to!

          XOXOX Scarlett

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           Amelia walker 
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          To quote John Winston Lennon. “ There is nowhere you can be that’s not where your meant to be, it’s easy, all you need is ❤️.”

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          And Amelia, we give plenty of love on this site don’t we!

          XOXOXO Scarlett

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          Girls,

          I feel Roxanne , bless her sweet little heart, is in the right place!

          Roxanne Lanyon, “A Girl Feeling Good”

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           Amelia walker 
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          Oodles and oodles Scarlett.❤️💋♥️👩‍❤️‍👩

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          Love ya my new Girl Friend! XOXO Scarlett

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          Oh Girl,

          I feel like I need love right now!

          Roxanne Lanyon

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          Hi Roxy, Scarlett here! And I’m always getting lots of unconditional love from my two cutie pie Corgis named Sully and Scarlett.

          And same thing from that sexy redhead of mine.

          I’m very blessed in the love department and I never ever take it for granted that’s for sure!

          XOXOX Scarlett

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          A Woman,

          To be a woman, loved, must be the most wonderful feeling in the world!

          Roxanne Lanyon

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          Yep Roxy and sometimes I think that sexy redhead of mine takes all that unconditional love I give her all of the time for granted! Both in and out of the bedroom!

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          Scarlett,

          That is wonderfully sweet.  I am so envious, and wish I will be that fortunate as a wife some day!

          Roxanne Lanyon,,, “Wanting to be His Woman”

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       Roxanne Lanyon 
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      Oh Dear,

      Pick out something pretty and feminine!

      Roxanne

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        Love ya Roxy! XOXO Scarlett

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          Scarlotte,

          I am blushing so much right now!

          Your Dear Roxanne

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           Amelia walker 
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          Me too Rox. Keep 😊. It’s a good look 💗.

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          Thank you, Amelia.

          Roxanne

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      Don’t be nameless! Women are wonderful .emulating them is a cause for celebration not shame. I came out about 4 months ago and am having a great time. 👄💄👩‍❤️‍👩 Love and hugs.

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        Way to go Amelia! Keep pumping these shy girls up and let them know we are so proud to be enjoying the total thrill of cross dressing! It’s a Girly Blast!

        XOXO Scarlett

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    One or 2 guy friends and one of my brothers, whom I also live with. He isn’t supportive, out of sight out of mind sort of thing. I know it would make him uncomfortable to see me in anything other than male clothes. My friends haven’t seen me dressed, only 1 of them saw some photos of a Sephora Makeover. He is totally cool with it though.

    I feel like I’m living a double life in my living arrangement. Doing my girl laundry when he’s out. Getting changed in the middle of the night from my girl PJ’s to use the bathroom. Make sure my painted toenails are covered by socks.

    Maybe it wouldn’t be so bad if he saw a few things. I know I get quite self conscious and have felt judged by him in the past when I’ve shown a bit, like wearing skinny jeans around the house.

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      Kristy, Dear,

      Just do it!  I know they will love you, and you will be ever so cute!  How could they not a dore you?

      Your Roxanne

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      Hi Kristy and thanks for your response. Trust me, with my wife of many years, I had to keep things out of sight and out of her mind. To this day, I can’t be dressed as Scarlett at anytime she’s in my presence! She is finally OK with me keeping all of Scarlett’s things here in our dream home!

      I know what you are going through and I don’t envy your situation, Kristy!

      XOXOX Scarlett

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        Thanks Scarlett 🙂 Good thread topic too, I’ve enjoyed seeing everyone’s perspective

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          Me too Sweetie Pie and thanks for your input. I just sent you a reply to your Private Message to me!

          XOXO Scarlet

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      You don’t say how old you are or mention parents Kristy. It may be time to fly the coop and live your own life. Good luck. I hope things work out for you.

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        Hi Amelia,

        I’m 37, quit my job and went back to school full time a few years ago to do a degree. Living alone isn’t financially viable right now but I’d sooo love to wear my  cute things whenever I want in my own space …. one day….

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          Use the needs you have as extra motivation. Get that degree and live lfe the way you want to and choose a name.💋♥️💄.

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          Oh yes, Honey,

          You really need a sweet, feminine name!

          Roxanne Lanyon

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    Hi Scarlett

    my 3 grown up kids are the only ones to know about me. I loved my wife so much I told her after a month but I  always felt embarrassed (not ashamed). We were together 30 years but she never honestly came to terms with who I really am. She always felt threatened. However she did occasionally buy me clothes, but then during arguments always brought up my crossdressing making me feel even more insecure. (So I suppressed my urges which made me very unhappy). Unfortunately she passed in January and I’m now trying to find the real me. Last night I dressed fully with wig, makeup and heels for the first time in forever and although I’m still grieving I felt so released and happy with myself. I’m still scared to tell anyone else but I know I can’t change the person I was destined to be. What  do you and others think I should do? X

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      Enjoy your femininity, Dear.  I do.

      Roxanne

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        Hi Roxy, thanks for sending in that reply. I’m assuming it’s directed towards Cheryl and that’s exactly what she should do!

        XOXOX Scarlett

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      Hi Cheryl and thanks so much for sharing your story and so sorry about your wife’s passing.

      Your story and mine are very similar. My wife is accepting of my cross dressing now, however, in a very limited way. I can’t dress or be dressed while in her presence which is just fine with me. When she did come home early from work unannounced two hours early years ago, I was embarrassed and felt very awkward. She was not happy and I’ll save all the details that happened after that discovery because I would be writing for days and I don’t have time for that now.

      She has now become much more accepting of the cross dressing side of my life and I can now keep all of Scarlett’s things on the inside of our dream home. And after many many years, we just recently had “The Talk”. I had her undivided attention for exchanges pertaining to my cross dressing for at least an hour and a half and I took her all of the way back to my very first time of putting on my mom’s sexy black lingerie back when I was nine years old and worked forward to today. She now totally understands the whole story from beginning to now and I can now discuss the subject while on date night dinners or while riding together in one of our vehicles.

      Now I don’t know what your current limitations are for you to be able to get your girl on! I don’t know your neighbor situation, your work situation, and if you still have anyone living with you know. However, I would dress as often as I could and keep most all of it in the privacy of your home and maybe outside of your home on occasion based on what your passability of a girl is.

      I don’t know what your feelings are towards the time you would like to get your girl on or if you have any plans for some level of transitioning to become a girl. I won’t go there because I love my wife too much and I am allergic to pain and surgeries! I like being a guy and making love to my wife as a handsome husband and that’s the way she’s prefers me when it’s time to get busy at the end of date nights. I have never had any desire whatsoever to transition to becoming a girl. I like the masculine side of me almost as much as the feminine side of me. Some girls are simply not happy with the masculine side of their selves and feel a strong desire to make the total or not so total transition to become a girl. That will never be in the cards for me for reasons stated above.

      Cheryl, please send me a Private Message and tell me what you think of my writings here and what your desires are now that you are single for the first time in many years of your life. I’m interested to see where you want to go with the cross dressing side of your life!

      Please stay in touch! XOXOXO Scarlett

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       Amelia walker 
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      Would it be ironic or insensitive to mourn in a black female outfit?

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        Insensitive without a doubt! XOXO Scarlett

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    I had my eyebrows “micro bladed” at weekend. I wear two sets of non gender specific earrings. I am getting eyelash extensions this weekend as well as manicured nails, and waxing plus gel for my holidays.  So a few more might have some suspicions (if not actually know) when I get back. I think I will make sure my contract is renewed before I come to school wearing my “lippy” and a dress.

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       Scarlett398 
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      Wow, sounds like you’re going all out Amelia! You mentioned the renewing of your contract…Are you a teacher? Or in another field of employment that requires a contract!

      Hope for the best for you girl friend! Keep me posted as to what happens and what girly stuff is up next for you!

      XOXOXO Scarlett

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         Amelia walker 
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        I’m going on a girly holiday with my wife for a week then having another week off. I will have to keep the brows but the gel will have to come off and I will see what state the lashes are in before I go back to work. I want to live my life as a woman but I can’t go too far just yet.

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           Scarlett398 
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          Understand now….Wow, wish I could go on a girly vacation with my sexy redheaded wife! That will never ever happen! She’s OK with my cross dressing as long as I keep it totally out of her sight and that’s the way it will probably remain for the rest of my cross dressing life!

          Take care, Amelia, and have a wonderful girly vacation with your wife you lucky girl you!

          XOXOXO Scarlett

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           Amelia walker 
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          Thanks Scarlett. It would be great if some more of the girls come. I am counting the hours 💋💗 to all the ladies.

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       Roxanne Lanyon 
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      Oh my!

      I would adore being in your class, honey!

      Your Roxanne

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         Amelia walker 
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        It’s real hoot darling💗.

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           Scarlett398 
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          Amelia, if you’re a teacher, that was my profession for my last six years of real employment! If you are teaching middle school in an economically depressed area, I sure you would completely understand why I almost ended up the nut house as a result of that last six years!

          XOXOX Scarlett

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           Amelia walker 
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          I teach middle school ESL in Thailand. The students here are usually respectful so it’s not as tough as some countries. I love teaching so cannot go too far just yet.

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           Scarlett398 
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          Now Amelia, if I could teach in a country like Thailand or Japan where the respect and discipline are on a much higher level than here in the states, I would have loved teaching.

          Here in America, if your school is located in an economically depressed area, you have a bunch of minority kids and in a classroom of 28 students, you might have about 3 in the class who actually want to learn something. Most are into sex and drugs and it starts very early on here in the states. And once they kids let that toothpaste out of the tube, they can’t put it back in or get enough of it. I could tell you stories about what our janitor would tell me about what he would witness going on in the girls bathroom that would make your toe nails curl!

          Lucky for you girl friend! My advice to you is stay overseas and teach and never return to the states to teach!

          XOXOXO Scarlett

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           Amelia walker 
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          I have heard stories. To be honest I don’t think I would survive the day.

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           Scarlett398 
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          Just trust me, Amelia, you wouldn’t! I couldn’t believe I lasted six years! I should be in the nut house or in serious therapy by now!

          Love ya! XOXO Scarlett….Send me a PM and stay in touch and we’ll swap stories!

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           Amelia walker 
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          Sure!

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           Amelia walker 
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          Pedicure/manicure, waxing and lashes on Friday. I hope they don’t look too closely at my passport photo. It is a domestic flight so should be OK. I got my wife to sex it up a bit so she doesn’t get mistaken for my mother (again).

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           Roxanne Lanyon 
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          With you,

          I’ll bet it is!

          Roxanne Lanyon

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     Imogen Mann 
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    Who knows ? My entire family (even some of the more distant rellies, 3rd and 4th cousins), my GP, all the people who I worked with at my second to previous job, all of my friends, three of my ex’s, two of their families (incl new partners)… And anyone any of the above has told (out of spite in some misguided cases)… And a fair clutch of on-line ‘friends’ too.

    Imogen x

     

     

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       Scarlett398 
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      Imogen, that girl friend, might be one of the largest clans of folks noted in response to this question! Good for you, Imogen, and I hope one day we all can be so open to such a large group of folks!

      XOXOXO Scarlett

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     Denise Walker 
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    Only people on here, unless someone is perving at me through the windows. Improbable, but not impossible. It’s not so much that it’s a secret, though, it’s just because there’s no-one I feel the need to tell at the moment.

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    • #164466
       Roxanne Lanyon 
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      It just goes on, and on, and on . . . . .when does it end?

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         Scarlett398 
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        Roxy, I know you’re bored with this question and the answers to it, however, I don’t decide when the question and answers stop.

        I guess, because of the amount of interest still there and the answers to the questions keep rolling in on a regular basis, the brass of CDH feel a need to keep it going!

        Sorry!

        Now you come up with some fascinating question for these wonderful CDH girls to answer. Something other than – “What color panties are your favorite?”

        Ha Ha     XOXOXO Scarlett

         

         

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           Roxanne Lanyon 
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          Okay, Scarlett.  Here goes,

           

          “Who really wants her/his crossdressing to be their lifestyle?”

           

          Roxanne Lanyon

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           Scarlett398 
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          Now Roxy, that’s a decent question!….Scarlett

           

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           Amelia walker 
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          I love 💗 my white panties Scarlett.

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           Scarlett398 
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          Love your response Amelia!

          And I’m really more in love with my black panties! The first pair I ever put on was a pair of my mother’s found in two full drawers of the sexiest black lingerie I ever saw in my life! That was at 9 years old and haven’t been able to stop putting on sexy girl’s clothes and under garments ever since!

          XOXO Scarlett

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  • #159166
     Amelia walker 
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    I would like the whole world to know, if my employers were ok with it I would tell them. Most of my Thai neighbours know, our gay friends, of course my wife my parents (who died a couple of years ago) would be informed, as would my sisters if they were in touch. I enjoy being a girl it feels great!

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  • #159133
     Sami Dee 
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    Goodness Scarlett what a fun question,

    Lets see, younger sister, daughter (Tho has never seen Sami), wife, a few very close and supportive friends.

    I like this question as it made me do an inventory of people in my life and how lucky I am to be supported by wonderful people.  Thanks this one put a smile on my face.

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       Roxanne Lanyon 
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      A few in my old support group, and a couple who I “internet” with.

      Roxanne Lanyon

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     Val’sheril Starsong 
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    Both of my cis-girl exes (if they even remember; it’s been decades).  Verdict is out on whether my dressing was the death knell on either of these relationships.

    More recently, my beautiful trans girl and her other bf who have been very accepting, as well as several trusted and likeminded online friends who have also been very supportive.  As has been the cis-girl saleswoman at the TG boutique I visited whilst in Michigan meeting said t-girl.

    And if I’m honest, likely at least my mother and sister know… they’re sharp-witted and I’m sort of an idiot with hiding my illicit femme activities from them… but if so it’s strictly DADT.

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     Jasmine Jeffries 
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    To be honest the ladies at the Torrid store and the beautiful girl that gave me my first makeover and my mom

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     Brandy B 
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    The only two people are my wife and my therapist.  Would love to expand that group, but that brings with it many complications.

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     RACHEL McWILLIAM 
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    My ex wife of course knows as I dressed with her we only lasted 6 months , she in turn told her friends and family I was a pervert sissy,I moved town and my ex wife and associates forgot about me,  I have been married to my wife and mistress Janice for 12 happy years , her youngest sister knows as she caught me , she has no problem with it and I am comfortable dressed in her presence ,my daughter knows as she caught me as well 2 years back she was aged 16 , but has only seen me dressed that one time

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    • #157229
       Roxanne Lanyon 
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      So, your point would be . . . . .?

      Roxanne

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         Scarlett398 
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        Hi Roxanne, it’s Scarlett. I think my point was: “How many people know right now that you are a cross dresser?” Pretty direct, simple, and right to the “point”.

        Apparently, Roxanne, as you can see above, the girls felt a need to respond to my question. Just scroll through and read the answers varying from girl to girl. And there so many responses to my question it might take you quite a while to read all of them.

        I’m sorry if you felt the question was not interesting in the least. Lots of girls have given answers to the question and I still get about 3 to 4 answers per day in response to my question.

        Now it’s your turn to generate an interesting question for the girls. And please don’t go with something like: “What’s you favorite color of panties?” Try going for something that’s a little deeper than that one!

        XOXOXO Scarlett

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           Roxanne Lanyon 
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          “How many girls want to go out in public as there feminine self?

          Roxanne

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           Marianne 
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          I do go out en femme as often as possible and just love it.

          Marianne

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     Tallia Ronin 
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    Yes, I have known since Johnson was in office LOL

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    Hi girls!!

    new to the site, Ilove it!!  My Mom knows since I was a teenager, my dentist

    (long story!) and now you girls. I’m happy to be here!!

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       Scarlett398 
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      Hi Cindy it’s Scarlett and are so glad you’re here! This is by far the best cross dressing site on line! It definitely lives up to its name of Crossdressing Heaven!

      You’ll love it here! The girls, owner, and moderators are wonderful!

      XOXOXO Scarlett

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     Rozalyne Richards 
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    Apart from you girls on this site and a couple of other sites i visit no one knows that I’m a cross-dresser, I’ve hidden it all my life even from my family, i grew up in a time when they still sent you to prison for being gay, if you said that you liked to cross dress they would say there was something wrong with you and call you a freak, i thought i was the only person who was like this so i kept it to myself and didn’t let anyone see me,, of course i know better now and this site has been a godsend, meeting people just like me has really opened my eyes and mind,, it can’t be sinful if there are millions of us do it,, the next thing on my wishlist is to have a make over and photo shoot,

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    • #155670
       Roxanne Lanyon 
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      Hi Roxalyn!  I am Roxanne, and more and more people find me every day.  I belong to an Atlanta Support Group, and may have even found a boyfriend!  How excited I am about that!  Yes, things are different since the 1950’s, when I started this journey.  Now, many decades later, I am ready to become a wife to a wonderful man!  Oh, I am so excited!

      Roxanne Lanyon

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        Good for you Roxalyn.

        I’m a long time closet dresser who’s wife can’t live me and I refuse to live in my home that breeds guilt and shame. I want to be free to wear what I want to wear inside my home. Is it selfish of me to be the cause for the divorce? How are my kids going to react. I too hope to find a partner who can accept me for who I am and what makes me happy. ❤️ Lacy

  • #154268
     Patty Pepper 
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    Both ex wives. Don’t believe CD’ing had anything to do with the divorces, but who really knows.

    My current GF/SO knows & is VERY supportive. To the point that on a trip to Boston this weekend we’re both trying to figure out what to wear for the cross country red-eye flight. Skirt & nylons are obvious for her, but I’ll probably underdress with nylons under some silky PJs and a slinky Cami on top.

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       Scarlett398 
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      Sounds sexy Patty! And I love Boston! And the entire surrounding area of Boston as well! The American history up there is off the charts! The shops in a around Faniel Hall and the rest of the area are just super! I love that place especially when the foliage is at the peak of color which is usually around the third week in September.

      We usually stay in a Hampton in about 7 miles from the heart of the city. I always talk them into letting me stay there for 84 bucks a night which is incredible and free breakfast in the morning and I’m not talking just a bowl of cereal and a banana. I’m talking a full up breakfast with whatever you want and how ever much you want as well!

      Sandy and I love going there! We will never get enough of that place. We want to go one year during December right before Christmas when it’s snowing!

      XOXOXO Scarlett

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       Roxanne Lanyon 
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      I would adore to fly with a pair of Capris, a tunic top, and my hairpiece!  Oh, I would simply love that!

      Roxanne lanyon

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     Allison CDGB 
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    I am being honest with myself, I know I am.  Coming out is another story.

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       Roxanne Lanyon 
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      Allison, I, too, am honest with myself.  I want to come out.  I want to be Roxanne.

      Roxanne Lanyon

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         Kaarina silberg 
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        I understand that,i would like to be Kaarina 24/7,but it dont work right now to feminize me 100%.

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           Roxanne Lanyon 
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          But that is what I dream about, honey.

          Roxanne Lanyon

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     Danielle Rostencowski 
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    No one except people I talk to online. No one IRL as they say…

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     Jena Oakley 
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    Who bows:

    1 buddy From OIF

    1 buddy from OEF

    sure a few at the gym suspect something from leggings under my shorts and the bright shoelaces-my sports tops are a little too fitted to be men’s also the only guy on the elipitcal tippy toed going backward-I suspect a few of them also, takes one to know one

    my fam will never know-thought about telling my oldest stepdaughter though. My wife would never understand- even after all the man stuff I’ve accomplished-she maybe considered a homophobe-not cool

    -JO

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     Kaarina silberg 
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    I have some friends who know (my best friend have know i’m CD  so long time she know me,she give me name kaarina) and my sister and her oldest daughter knows.My parents would never accept it,i love them but they are religious

     

    Kaarina

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    My SO, who enjoys and encourages it (I wear lingerie, and sometimes makeup, often when we’re just chilling in the house). My friends, to an extent (I’ve worn dresses, skirts, and makeup to house parties on a few occasions). My wardrobe is often “genderfucked,” as is that of some of my friends, so mostly it’s a lot of blurring the lines.  My SO and I both feel that gender is a purely social concept, so we both “play” with it quite a bit.

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     Scarlett398 
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    Dang, great results with 98 votes so far….Looks like it turned out to be an interesting question that the girls wanted to weigh in on!

    Thanks girls! XOXOXO Scarlett

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       Roxanne Lanyon 
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      Just mostly you girls, My Sisters!  Aren’t we a sweet, feminine bunch?

      Your Roxanne

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        Yes we are

         

        Kaarina

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     Jen Kelly 
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    Wife and Mother.  That’s it

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     Caroline Peters 
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    Hi Scarlett. Bit late to the topic but only recently joined and still finding my way round.

    My mum was the first person, she had known for ages that I wore her clothes and makeup. There was only the two of us so it wasn’t too difficult for her to work out what was happening. She hoped I would tell her but when I didn’t she sat me down for a talk. Bum cringe time!! She was very understanding and supportive and said all she wanted was for me to be happy and be myself. I now live full time as Caroline and I’m as happy as can be living at home.

    I suppose nearly everyone I know sees me as Caroline.

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    My wife has known for 37 years however at that time she said she didn’t want to be involved.  We haven’t spoken of it since and so I still sneak around about it.  I just know that if she catches me it will not end our marriage.  We really have a great marriage but of course as we have aged our intimate life has gotten a bit boring.  I try to spice things up with toys etc. and she enjoys that.  But I think me getting dressed might be fun too.  I just don’t know how to approach.  I thought of writing her a very sincere letter.  I would appreciate any thoughts on the subject.  Thanks Ladies.

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       Roxanne Lanyon 
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      Two, maybe three glasses of champaigne, then a frank, sincere discussion.  Tell er you would really enjoy being her girlfriend.  See if that works!

      Roxanne

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    At the moment, my wife (and she’d rather NOT know, so I don’t make it an issue), and an old friend from my neighborhood.  She has known me since we were 5, and she’s been extremely supportive of me since I came out to her.  So, in summary, 2 people (outside of this group) know about Paige.

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    Good question Scarlett

    You girls of course and my wife.

    She is supportive, buys me shoes at goodwill, does my makeup and lets me dress around the house.

    However she doesn’t want me to be romantic with her in femme which I understand and she didn’t Like it when I shaved my legs.

    The leg shaving part I hate because I love having shaven legs.

    But I love her very much

    Patty

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       Roxanne Lanyon 
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      Oh, a few in my Support Group, and the man who is flirting with me over the internet!  Successfully so far!

      Roxanne Lanyon

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     Amelia 
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    Everyone I care about know and, for the most part, tolerate it. My grandparents, aunt, and uncle haven’t seen me en femme, though.

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       Roxanne Lanyon 
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      My support Group girls, and the man I hope to make mine, some day.

      He admires me!

      Roxanne Lanyon

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    Tisk tisk, it’s a very long list.  But unfortunately I fear physical acts of violence in and around my neighborhood.  I live in a very very right leaning area and I am a minority.  I have already had some bad racially motivated experiences that have cost me thousands in damages to my property and cars so I don’t feel comfortable 100 percent exposing Nayomi here or at work.  But other than that I go out to other local areas with my wife, family, and many friends as Nayomi.   Shopping, dining, and clubbing.  There are a few folks at work that know and hang out too.  It’s fun to have them hug me and whisper,”Hello Nayomi” in my ear.  I will be fully retired soon and we are going to move where I will be damned if I hold Nayomi back.

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       Roxanne Lanyon 
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      Retirement is great for the likes of us!  I am even falling in love!

      Roxanne Lanyon

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     Bobbi 
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    Everybody knows! I came out in high school, because I couldn’t hide my girls in boys clothes anymore, (and I didn’t want to, so what’s the point?) & because it’s so much easier when you’re young, & I didn’t want any secrets. This way, nobody could threaten to “out me”. Mommy & Daddy came around, after the initial shock wore off. I’m a total Daddy’s girl, now.
    I’ve had no regrets. 🙂

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     Kay Smith 
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    Only my wife to the best of my knowledge. She so so with it I do sit around home in panties bra and ladies jeans all the time my kids come over do not seem to notice the jeans are not to girl. But at night I love to get into a dress do my makeup then for bed a nice nightgown it feels so sexy 😍😍

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     Roxanne Lanyon 
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    Well, right now, a girl who has become my Sister in London knows.  She has loads of advice for me to help me become a girl!  And, a man, who has become interested in me.  Oh!  I have never had a caring significant other before.  I think I like it!

    Roxanne Lanyon

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     Davina Jefferys 
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    well, there’s my sister, my nephew, two of my friends, one male & the other is female. most of the of the women in the office at work & two of the guys in the workshop & my optician.              So in all that’s fifteen people.

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     Dawn Jones 
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    Still just my wife but i’m hoping some day soon.

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    My wife and her sister know. Nobody else! Sis in law donates clothes which is exciting! X

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    Several members of my family.

    2 of my sister’s

    6 of my cousins

    1 aunt

    My wife 😊

    It’s pretty close knit, and of course everyone here.

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       Scarlett398 
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      Hi Sasha! That’s a pretty big crowd compared to many of the other girls who responded to my question!

      This question has generated a number of responses and I’m glad so many of the girls decided to share who knows. Many of us are curious as to who we should let know and who we shouldn’t let know.

      My wife knows and that’s it as far as family members. I have a brother in law and sister in law I could probably share the secret with and they are on the open side of being accepting of these type subjects so one day I might share with them.

      But most of mine are not close to the family or my neighbors at all. I would never let any of my neighbors know. These folks are too old and too conservative even more so than most pe0ple here in the deep south. If there are any cross dressers here, they are really deep in the closet. I’ve been here for over 30 years and have never seen one unless there’s been one like me who you can’t come close to telling I’m a guy when I’m in Scarlett mode. You can see by my photos. I make a total transition and I’ve not taken any hormones or anything close to that. I go from handsome husband to cute, sexy, and classy Scarlett in less than an hour and a half and that includes the nail polish on all 20 nails!

      Take care Sasha and thank you so much for sharing with me!

      XOXOXO Scarlett

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     Janine 
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    Nobody in my family or close friends
    As far as I know the only one who knows is a crossdresser that I came out to when I was in Marathon FL a year and a half ago when I went there for a few days to live entirely as a female.
    She was there for the same reason I was and we became friends when we met at the motel where we were staying.
    After confessing to her it was like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders.
    I really didn’t expect to find someone who understands the way that I have the need to crossdress but she did because she had the same feelings about it as I did
    We talked for hours and spent everyday together sightseeing and shopping until I left to go home.
    We’ve remained friends and text each other almost every day sharing stories about our lives and supporting each other as we continue to crossdress
    I never expected to find someone who I felt comfortable enough with to tell that I’m a crossdresser until I found her.

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       Scarlett398 
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      Janine, I just wrote you a big ole note in reply to your response and then inadvertently deleted it by mistake and don’t have time to rewrite it because a hurricane is headed this way and I have a lot of chores to do to prepare for the on coming storm. So I’ll write more when I have the time!

      Love ya and thanks for writing! XOXO Scarlett

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     Alyxis Bee 
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    Thanks for your story Scarlet. You are ahead of me. Nobody knows about me . . . Yet. Alexis Bee

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     PY Marshall 
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    Me my wife and her mum who has been living with us for 5 years.My wife and her mum found  out when i found out ,  my youngest daughter found out a couple of months ago  but has fallen out with me .She is 36 & blew a fuse and notified a close friend of the family but i have no idea who it could be .So If i am confronted to my face  i will come clean. I did not ask to be a crossdresser,and i have had  no choice in the matter, a genetic malfunction maybe ! but it is a malfunction i  have accepted and enjoy very very! much.  Py x.

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    My nephew knows and that’s all for now.

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     Lori Shane 
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    Hi, my neighbor and best friend was the first I came out to she had suspected for a couple years as we shop a lot together, i was surprised at how she accepted me as a cd. However she in turn told her daughter and daughter in law which really surprised me, her daughter is really supportive in fact she looks for clothing for me. My two daughters know and it was no big deal there either. I recently told a long time friend from way back and she loves it. So far so good💜

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       Scarlett398 
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      Lori, so happy everyone who knows is very supportive! That’s very rare and you are a lucky girl! XOXO Scarlett!

       

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         Lori Shane 
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        Always waiting for the first non acceptance

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     Roberta Thomas 
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    Only my wife knows. I am quite happy to keep it that way.I would not want the rest of my family to know,I don’t think they would ever accept it or understand.

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     Roberta Thomas 
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    Right now only my girlfriend knows and so far she loves it when I dress as Alianna she complements me all the time even gives me advice on what I wear

    My wife is exactly the same Alianna.She is always complimenting me on what I am wearing.When I get up in the morning I start thinking about what I am going to wear for the day.I usually know what skirt or dress to wear but I look to my wife to suggest a top that matches.I keep telling her that her advice is invaluable.

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     Charmagne Stewart 
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    Just my wife and my youngest daughter.

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       Charmagne Stewart 
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      In addition to my wife and youngest daughter , I also just came out to a close lady friend of many years whom I knew I could trust.  She was very understanding and compassionate.

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     Scarlett398 
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    Thanks girls for sending in so many different answers to this question! I loved reading each and every one of them. No two are alike! I have a pretty large circle of folks who know I get my girl on as Scarlett now but no family members other than that sexy redheaded wife of mine. She’s not crazy about Scarlett but she now knows how much of an important part of me she is and accepts the femme side of me now with acceptable limits. One is I can’t dress or be dressed while she’s at home. Two is I can’t tell any of the neighbors which I wouldn’t want to anyway! And three is to keep things as private as possible close to home because of her high profile job/position here in our county. I had a high profile job as well before I retired two years ago.

    Love all of you girls for responding to my question which a ton of girls have responded to! Take care with love from Scarlett! XOXOXO

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     Terri Anne 
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    Hi Scarlett,

    I have finally started reading more of the forums:  Really glad I came across your piece here.

    Having been a Closeted-dressing at home- CD for ever since I was able to live on my own [ never crossdressed when in a relationship- too scared].

    I never would have guessed in a million years that:  For me the list of those who know has grown in past two years since I started dressing full time outside of my home. The list is getting long!!

    All of the stylists[4] who cut/color my hair, the women at second floor of our nearest JC Penney store [ lol], the women in the Sephoras makeup section, Each of my Baristas, all of the servers at my fav restaurant, all of the Sales Assoc at my Favorite clothing store- Catherine’s and many others  to numerous to mention AND you girls here at CDH and TGH.

    -Terri Anne

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       Scarlett398 
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      Hi Terri Anne, it’s Scarlett! Your story is so very similar to mine – almost identical really!

      Yes my number of people who know is growing as well. I’m much more  open about my cross dressing now but not to family, friends who have known me for years, and my very conservative neighbors.

      So you know your JC Penney girls in customer service too huh! That’s funny!

      I do wish my sexy redheaded wife was more willing to talk about it with me and ask questions about why we have this need and thrill to cross dress. She’s not interested and can’t understand it and doesn’t want to talk about it. However she is more accepting of it and knows I do it on a regular basis now. She also lets me keep all of Scarlett’s things in our new dream home. That’s really nice because going back and forth to a temperature controlled storage unit was a logistical nightmare!

      Take care and thanks for sending in such a nice response to my question! I’ve gotten a ton of responses to this question. Girls just have a need to tell me their story relating to who knows and who doesn’t know about their cross dressing.

      Love ya and thanks for sharing! XOXO Scarlett

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     Alianna Lopez 
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    Right now only my girlfriend knows and so far she loves it when I dress as Alianna she complements me all the time even gives me advice on what I wear

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    Scarlett the only people who know I’m a cross dresser are one of my sister’s, a female at some flats I used to live at and my ex wife.

    My ex wife once I told her over the phone teased me and began asking what I wore, how she would choose to dress me, what I should wear to go out dressed etc,etc. Basically she got so much enjoyment from me telling her, she sensed she was humiliating me and she was enjoying it. She made me understand that after having told her I should become a cross dresser permanently and she wants me like that. It’s her secrete to amuse herself with and I’ve become it (slightly because of her) and am now considering if I should tell her to access CDH and see me actually come out on site ? Deb’s.

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     Emily 
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    I have quite a few close friends that know. Very few that have ever met Emily though.

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     Sa·man·tha 
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    Hello Scarlett & company,

    For me, these would include my son and his older sister

    Not sure if their mom “knows” per se but she’s seen enough of me that she should

    My sister.  Not sure if my sister mentioned it to mom but I think mom knows me well enough that she should’ve figured it out anyway

    Another of my ex girlfriends whom I deliberately outed myself to.  We still talk sometimes.

    And God only knows who else.  I haven’t been real open with a lot of people but haven’t put much effort into hiding either, especially if they understood what I was trying to tell them all these years.

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     Lauren 
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    Hi everyone,

    I’m Lauren, this is my first post here other than my introduction post. One of the first people I came out to was one of my guitar students who was transitioning at the time female to male. I know he was really shocked, and that relationship has continued to grow. My hair dresser sells wigs in his salon and he knows about me, we have wig parties about twice a year where I go all out and buy a couple of nice wigs from him, he also styles all my wigs when they get out of hand.  A guy who helps put on the local drag show knows about me, I occasionally see him at the gym, and we have chatted in the sauna.  Then my wife found out when I accidentally left my breastforms in the bathroom, she is okay with it, but she doesn’t want to see me dressed. The wonderful women at the Beauty Supply shop 30 miles north of me, and they are so much fun letting me try on wigs all day, because they know I will spend money there. A few other local crossdressers know of my secret past time as well. And a beautiful transgender woman, and her wife who I went to school with. So there, that’s quite a list! And who knows who else at this point!

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     Tempest Black 
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    Several people know about my crossdressing. But the latest two are one of my roommates, he caught editing a wishliwis on Amazon, and the ex-wife of a former friend, she has been very supportive of me over the last few months. I’m rebuilding my woredrobe, over the years it has been lost or stolen by ex-girlfriends. I just need to figure out how to handle my other roommate before I go full dive back into it.

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    No one close but lots of strangers know me as Denise like the store clerks that wait on me, waitresses, and the gurls I meet in my support groups and several cd friends from that.

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     NHCD1717 whysovisible 
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    I only came out to one ex girlfriend about 5 years ago regarding this aspect of sexuality. She was very negative (we were in our 40’s at the time – I came into the practice late).

    Since then I have found a mutual female friend I can trust and she even takes me shopping in Macy’s and  out/in for the occasional photo shoot. She’s very accepting and seems honored by the trust. We have loads of innocent fun.

    My current GF is aware and intellectually accepting but we have yet to incorporate it into our personal lives.

     

     

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     Sassy South 
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    I started dressing off and on around 2012. I would get a hotel room snd play dress up and take photos and posted them on FetLife. Because I felt the need to share what I was doing and plus there is nothing like someone giving you positive responses. Well I guess I managed to hide, not delete some photos I took on a old phone. I later gave that old phone to someone who happened to find them. At that time I was going through a break up and they sent the pictures to her and well from there they got passed around to a few people. Then a so called “friend” decided to make a Facebook page exploiting my secret. Well after a little back forth between everyone I simply told everyone they’re just mad because I actually look good as woman etc etc… Anyway of course I was secretly still dressing but not sharing it with others. Mainly because nobody else was interested in it or cared to explore it. A couple years later I got the idea that I would like to introduce Sassy to a woman and see what might happen. So I first tried with an older lady friend of mine who seemed to have a curious mindset. Well it shocked her but she did participate a couple of times. She even did my makeup for me one time. But I could tell that she wasn’t feeling it. So I stopped dressing around her. Then I met someone who had a couple friends that where trans woman. So after hanging out a few times I reviled my secret. She pretended to be into it but really she was jealous of my female side. She basically said that I was obsessed with myself. Which is true because it nice to dress up and see the change. So just like a woman I enjoy playing and being pretty and try to get as much out of it before it is over. Dressing up for is something that allows me to escape from my everyday life and it also is erotic but in a different way than intercourse. So yeah anyway later the last woman basically through me under the bus about dressing up when she got mad at me for not wanting to date her. I tried to explain she would be happy with me because I would feel the need to dress without her around because of how she was acting when I tried it with her. So yeah at this point I’ve not dressed up in over a year and half and feel the need to dress up coming on stronger as time passes. I have also shared Sassy with strangers a couple of guys, trans women and other crossdressers but it was nothing more than hookups, which I actually feel more comfortable with than having a long term partner. I’m also just as happy being alone and sharing pics and videos online. Vanity isn’t a bad thing especially if you are into crossdressing. I do see pushing the feminine qualities further in the future. Which means going out more in public as Sassy. I’m so tired of being a guy. Girls have more fun that’s for sure. I would like to meet others who dress and want to go out together. Since I live close to New Orleans I will probably take my adventure that way.

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     Anjanette Miranda 
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    New here.

    Just my wife.  Told her a few days ago.

    A J.

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     Pink 
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    Just my SO

     

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     Diana Myers 
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    But it took many years to became so open about it.

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     Diana Myers 
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    Too many to count. There are some I hide from. Right now,  just my siblings. Even they know at least that I have at some times had some female clothing.

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     Courtney Smiles 
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    No one knows I am a cross dresser. I have tried to come out to my wife several times but I think she sees it coming and shuts me down. My character and  Ocupation lends itself to a  more   feminine side. I have expressed that I am at a point where I do not intend on hiding my feelings about my feminine side in hopes that cross dressing will come up again. That did land me some prettier clothes but men none the less.  So I continue to wear my lace panties unde my clothes and dress when I get time alone.

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     Rubie Sometimes 
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    Hi Scarlett,

    Beyond the world wide internet, in the “real world;” my wife, a female coworker, and a handful of drive-thru window attendants.

     

    Almost everyone I know, knows that I paint my toenails all the time, and often My fingernails.

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    Quite a few folks actually. But very few of those are close to me. The first group comprises three wonderful make up artists who are responsible for the great makeovers in my profile photos, plus a number of lovely female vendors who supply Caty’s needs.  (EG Allysium Jewellery in Brisbane for gorgeous clip on earrings and necklace sets) The second is an email group of “Aussie girls” whom I’ve known and valued their friendship for many years.

    Last but not least is my wonderful partner who knows, (found some jewellery laying round), but definitely does not approve. (As an aside, I’m the wrong side of 3 score and ten and I’m heartily sick of the lies and subterfuges that go on to conceal Caty from her. I dont expect her to “accept” Caty, merely “understand”!!** I suspect my brother and sister in law know, but nothing is said . This sub group also comprises two mates who I fessed up to, but it hs not been discussed since

    A sub group to all of the above is my ex, my two very grown up daughters . They all think I “signed the pledge” about 18 years ago and yes for a while I was “clean”, but as we all know sooner or later, “it all comes back” .I told my ex just before our first arrived, she hated it all with a passion from that day on. Unlike my current lovely partner, At least she did not find out the hard way

    The bolding is due to the fact I had a very close schoolmate of over half a century’s standing who I used to tell my “Caty stories” to. He was very understanding and joined in the macabre jokes about it all, but he passed away a month ago. So whatever time I have left I want to enjoy being Caty as much as I can.

    As in today. Underdressed in 16A bra panties and thermal femme singlet. (It’s winter down here!!)

    There.. got that lot off my “16A chest”

    Caty

    Anyone else in the “same boat??”

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     Helena 
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    I just came out to a new female co-worker on Friday. She’s supportive, but I am kicking myself for having shared that so soon. We bonded pretty quickly and that is a story unto itself. She’s been on the job coming up on a month, but I moved to fast.

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     Max Garcia 
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    My wife and the wonderful ladies here on CDH are the only ones that know. Not sure if anyone else will ever know.

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     Diane 
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    Only the wonderful girls on CDH and the lovely woman who gave me a makeover a few weeks ago (and who, unwittingly, set everything in motion and opened up my mind to crossdressing).

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       Scarlett398 
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      Love ya girl friend and I’m always here for ya! XOXO Scarlett

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     rebekka moore 
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    For me only the girls here know I’m doing this now, my wife knows I’ve done so in the past (does not accept it), and may be suspicious now.

    She recently noticed I was shaving a lot, chest, legs, genitals and asked me to stop.  Now I just keep my thighs shaved but I’m getting ready to do it all again.  She recently noticed as well a pair of “girl jeans” I was wearing the other day, asking whose they were.  She did not say anything.  Today I’ve been wearing my cropped jeans, mid-calf length that she’s seen several times, and has not said anything.

    Many years ago an old girl friend knew and was very curious and excited by it.  I only dressed once for her, long shirt, thigh high stockings, heels and panties.  She really loved it and complimented my shoes and legs. 🙂  I should have done more with her.

    But for now I’m “undercover” sort of, but have to be careful.

    🙁

     

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     Allyson Nicole 
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    There are a few who know  I dress and have a consuming desire to be female. My girlfriend (very supportive), one of my daughters, exwife and the owner of the mastectomy shop where I shop for breast forms & lingerie. I believe the ladies at ny nail salon have their suspicons since they color my toenails and always compliment me on my smooth shaved legs😏  of course I must include all the wonderful girls here at CDH.

    Xoxo Allyson

     

     

     

     

     

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     Landi 
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    Another weekend alone dressed as myself, a work buddy and his girlfriend kept nagging me to come over. So I’m up two…

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    Hi Scarlett

    nobody knows out my crossdressing except for the girls on CDH , I have recently started to keep my legs  and chest shaved , but no one has ever noticed .

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    My crossdressin began early in life and I was caught by my mother. Being caught by her was such an embarrassing moment that I just keep my femme side under lock and key from just about everyone. As for a significant other, I have trust issues with a biological woman’s vindictive side. Should there be any differences within the relationship at any time, that person has that hanging over your head if they know that your femme side is your weak spot.

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      Welcome to this site!

      I told my two ex-wives. Big mistake! I had asked them not to tell anyone else, and I told them because I wanted them to trust me, and I did not want to hide this from them.  The first wife told people simply out of spite after our divorce. We divorced for other reasons. My CDing never bothered her. The next wife had to tell someone I suppose. It’s a pretty big thing for a wife to keep to herself I guess. She never wanted to talk to other wives of crossdressers but had no problem telling her friends, one of whom couldn’t keep her mouth shut and the knowledge snowballed. In retrospect, I should have never trusted them, but keeping from them was a violation of trust they had in me. I can only take solace I kept my made up face held high!  lol.

       

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        We all know we have no control over the urges to dress. And if there were a magic pill to kill it, id take it. But that’s not the way it is and for many of us, stealth is the name of the game. I’m single and live alone now. So, I now, I can visit with Cherie any time I want and chat with all the other girls and not feel alone. The way I see it is that one may come out to his wife or girlfriend when things are going smoothly. But bio women will keep that dirt on you should it be necessary to gain leverage on you, especially if your masculine persona is what you’re best known for.

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           Stef Smith 
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          stealth is the word

          i told my wife and a GF

          as far as I know they ve kept it a secret

          its so hard having to hide but the consequences are too great

          we are so misunderstood

          so i underdress and mix in some femme jeans and sweaters keep my toes painted and keep it moving

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      Referring to cherie wells comment. Sorry I’m a idiot.

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        Mikayla,

        lol gurl you can’t be an idiot dear! I totally got what you were referring to and I get it  with the vindictive thing. First wife was a doozy for being vindictive and a biotch about it too. So nope no idiots here sis. Just people who have a feminine self and feel good about it. I don’t think many of us would be vindictive after everything we’ve been through. I know for one that I have never been vindictive and I will never be. So dress to the nines, pour that bottle of wine, “walk this way” and “walk the line”, and everything else is just fine! Do you have the time? Oh dear I’m late, I’m late, I’m late for a very important date. Lol, sorry I couldn’t help it 😉! TTFN💋👠 Hugs of course 🤗

        Danielle

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      Well said.. Couldn’t agree more.. Almost came out to my Ex of 18 years. Sure glad I didn’t.

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     Amanda Patrick 
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    Hi Scarlett,

    My Wife and My Oldest Child Know. And of course anybody who serves me in in a Store if I go in to try something on.  Any body I have Met up with from this Site. Plus the ladies I have met at Pub nights. And Who ever serves me if I go to Starbucks.

    Amanda

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     Paula1 
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    Hi Scarlett

    My wife knows and three of her friends which are really cool about it, also my mother in law who is really accepting and one of my work partners and she is really  supportive about my dressing and we intend on having a Girls night out soon, which I can’t wait as this will be my first night out, I wish I could off spoken to my mother before she had passed away last year but never had the courage to do so as I believe she always did know as I always had some female clothing hidden in my room as I was growing up.

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       Scarlett398 
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      Thank you, Paula, for your reply to my question. Both my mother and father passed away not knowing that I cross dressed and to be honest, I didn’t do a lot of it when I was a child at home while they were raising me. I always snuck into my mother’s sexy lingerie draws where she kept a huge selection of sexy black articles of lingerie to include thigh high hose, panties, and garter belts that once I started as a young boy putting these sexy articles of clothing on when no family members where going to be around for hours, it was like a drug I couldn’t get off of!

      I would put these sexy articles on and have my way with myself and I’m sure you know what that means…

      The only one of my two parents I would let know now if they were alive would be my mother.

      There are still many people in my life I would love to share my thrill of cross dressing with but where I live and how I lived and coached and taught, I would be extremely hesitant to do so. The next person who may know might be my psychiatrist of 27 years.

      Thanks again for writing and looking forward to hearing more from you in the near future, Paula    XOXO Scarlett

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     Evelina Yen 
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    No one. and I indent to keep it that way for now

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     Patricia Waldron 
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    My best friend and his partner know about my crossdressing and they are OK and open minded and very understanding about it. My GP also knows. I am also lucky that I am happily single and spend a lot of time being dressed en femme.

  • #106626
     Julie Shaw 
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    My circle of “Sister Friends” has been growing recently.  Right Now Today there are 8 in my close circle – my wife (although she’s not supportive), her mother (ditto), 3 girl friends, 1 professional drag queen and 2 new friends of Julie (married couple, he’s a CD too).

    Julie M Shaw

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     Vivienne H 
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    <p style=”text-align: left;”>My Wife, my Counsellor, and one female friend. I want to let my feminine side out but I worry about the consequences.</p>

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       Scarlett398 
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      Hi Vivienne…it’s Scarlett. I know exactly how you feel. I want to let more of the feminine side of me out as well and want to let more people know about my cross dressing fun with Scarlett but I too am afraid of the consequences.

      I live in such a conservative part of the country and as you saw in my question, only a limited amount of people know about Scarlett and my sexy wife is the only relative of mine who knows and accepts Scarlett with limits placed on when I can cross dress.

      She has a very high profile job in our conservative county and as a result, I have to keep my cross dressing inside our new home while she is not at home. And the only time I go out in public as Scarlett is when she’s away on business trips. Her business trips only happen about 4 times a year. One of them is going to be this coming week starting Monday. However, at this time of year, the sun doesn’t go completely down until after 8pm or later so I have to wait until it’s completely dark to get in the car and leave our conservative neighborhood. None of my neighbors know that Scarlett exists.

      Take care Vivienne and I love your femme name and hope to hear from you again. I’ll send you a friend request now! XOXO Scarlett

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         Vivienne H 
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        Hi Scarlett. I know exactly what you mean!

        Thankyou for the compliment regarding my en femme name. Sorry for not replying sooner. I’m finding this forum a little tricky to navigate. But I shall get used to it.

        Best wishes.

        Xxx.

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     Edie Majeski 
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    My mother and sister knows that I CD when I was younger, and my mother tried to discourage me from dressing. They probably don’t know that I still CD now that I’m older, and I have no intention of telling them since they didn’t except when I was younger. My X knew and accepted but exposed my CD to her family when she decided to get rid of me. To my surprise, her family actually supported me.

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     Olivia Faye Marie 
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    My mom knows, but we don’t really talk about it.

    Caelynn

  • #106242
     Carolyne Sherman 
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    Hello Scarlett and welcome. Interesting question and at first I thought not to many but here we go…

    wife, sister, mother, best male friend, best girl friend, wifes friend, 2  brother inlaws, sister inlaw, at least 2 nieces, 3 ladies from work, hair laser tech (now a friend), entire group from  Boomerang Club, several hotel staff members from hotels I frequent, my Mary Kay lady, all of my CDH friends, PROBABLY my daughter and any number of miscellaneous people on the road. Not exactly quiet about being tg.

    I am also the happiest in my life I have ever been because I am fairly open about being ME!  Hope everyone had a wonderful Independence Day!  I still kind of like the New World, and yes I have seen a lot of this big ole blue marble.

    🍷C

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       Scarlett398 
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      Me too Carolyne, and I have never been happier in my life as well. My wife is now more accepting of my cross dressing and I’ve just gotten hooked on dresses – especially Calvin Klein dresses!

      I too have become more open with my sharing of my thrill of cross dressing – more so with shop owners or sales associates rather than people who have known me for many years. It just seems much easier for me to share my cross dressing with people I’m not a family member or close friend of!

      That’s quite a list who knows about you and your thrill! And I’m so glad you have shared it with so many people and groups! Keep sharing girl friend! XOXO Scarlett

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     Cindy Drapes 
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    I think almost everyone I know I am into cosplay and I crossdress.  My son who is 12 knows due to a separation 3 years ago where my ex displayed all the symptoms of parental alienation syndrome sharing all my secrets with anybody who’d listen.  She thought I was cheating on her due to finding thigh highs and lipstick.  Knowing I am a CD was convinced it was front or alibi for being with other women.  The only person is my Father who would not understand and likely be devasted and hurt. Hell I am confused and unaware of what I am. My psychiatrist says I am heterosexual cross dresser and the Shame and self hate stems from my Latino origins.  So I am keeping it in the closet with only those people who won’t emotionally hurt me.

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       Scarlett398 
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      Don’t blame you, Cindy, and I consider myself a heterosexual cross dresser who’s just totally into my sexy redheaded wife who’s just as pretty on the inside as she is on the outside.

      She’s not totally on board with my cross dressing but has come miles from where she was just three or four years ago with it. She doesn’t want to view any of my photos or see me getting my girl on as Scarlett when she’s at home. I’m glad in regards to that last limit on my cross dressing because I would feel rather awkward around her dressed up as Scarlett. I would like to have fun in the bed towards the end of date night with both of us dressed up as girls but that will have to remain a fantasy for probably the rest of my life.

      I do wish she would see some of my Scarlett photos and have some open discussions and question and answer sessions in relation to my thrill of cross dressing. She doesn’t want to see it or talk about it though and that’s fine with me and I won’t press the issue of discussions or questions and answers regarding the issue. I would like her to have a better understanding of when I started and why I do it.

      That’s it for now and it’s OK having to be in your closet about it and I can completely relate to your situation!

      Take care and I look forward to hearing more from you in the near future, Cindy…Sincerely Scarlett

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     Brooke Stevens 
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    My sweet wonderful wife does not know. And I don’t think she would want to or that she needs the burden. I do have friends who know. A pastor who lives out of State and lives as a straight man but is in fact gay. He doesn’t act on it but he knows of his orientation and says he is quite happy. He lives his wife as do I. I do have a friend close by who is bisexual. He knows. He is also closeted. He has a girlfriend and yes he is attracted to me. However I have pledged to be faithful to my wife. I am happy dressing up in private. I can be myself onnline and n a few special environments. Will I expand further. That I can’t answer. I am taking this journey one step at a time.

    -“Brooke”

     

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       Scarlett398 
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      So happy to hear from you Brooke! I had kept it secret from my wife for many years until she stumbled across a bunch of photos of Scarlett I had uploaded on our office computer in the study which has a much larger screen than my laptop. I wanted to see Scarlett in larger pictures and then forgot to delete them or deleted them but not entirely! It was embarrassing because I was sitting right next to her at the computer when the photos popped up! That was the first time my cover as a cross dresser was blown and then came another couple of times with photos and one where she came home from work two hours early without any warning and I had my total girl on as Scarlett when she walked in the door. At that point I just had to come clean and admit I was a cross dresser and had been a cross dresser for a long long time!

      She’s come to a level of acceptance now where I can keep all of Scarlett’s clothes, heels, booties, boots, makeup, and all other cross dressing necessities here in our brand new very spacious house with tons of closet space.

      I have to keep things private and can’t dress while she’s at home but all is well with her limited acceptance now!

      That’s it for now…take care and have a wonderful upcoming weekend! XOXO Scarlett

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     Samantha Church 
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    My wife knows that I like dressing after finding pictures of me dressed on one of my old phones that my eldest son of 3 likes playing games on, she was so shocked she even messaged my mum about it so she also knows and it hasn’t been mentioned from her since, my wife isn’t happy I do it and she has caught me a few more times wearing panties she says she doesn’t care but to do it when she isn’t around so that’s just what I do. Hopefully she will come around to me being a crossdresser someday.

     

     

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     MacKenzie Alexandra 
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    My wife knows, and is generally supportive.  She has her limits which mostly deal with how it would affect our standing in the community. However, as her comfort level grows, she is slowly becoming more open to me being more openly expressive. It is far from where I hope it to get still, but with patience and time, it may get there. I will always hope.

    My mother my suspect. She tried to be helpful and fold my wife’s and my laundry last summer. She could not have noticed that there were no boxers in the load and there two different size panties. She has not said anything, and I have broached the subject as I do not want to put her in a position to lie to my father who wouldn’t be supportive.

    My friends here know, as do some of their families of those who I have met I real life.

    Several of my medical practitioners probably have their suspicion as I have worn panties exclusively and other select items for several years now. They, of course, would not say anything.

    Lastly, several of the sales clerks were I frequently shopped do. If they don’t know, they would have to be the most oblivious individuals on the planet.

    MacKenzie Alexandra

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     MacKenzie Alexandra 
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    My wife knows, and is generally supportive.  She has her limits which mostly deal with how it would affect our standing in the community. However, as her comfort level grows, she is slowly becoming more open to me being more openly expressive. It is far from where I hope it to get still, but with patience and time, it may get there. I will always hope.

    My mother my suspect. She tried to be helpful and fold my wife’s and my laundry last summer. She could not have noticed that there were no boxers in the load and there two different size panties. She has not said anything, and I have broached the subject as I do not want to put her in a position to lie to my father who wouldn’t be supportive.

    My friends here know, as do some of their families of those who I have met I real life.

    Several of my medical practitioners probably have their suspicion as I have worn panties exclusively and other select items for several years now. They, of course, would not say anything.

    Lastly, several of the sales clerks were I frequently shopped do. If they don’t know, they would have to be the most oblivious individuals on the planet.

    MacKenzie Alexandra

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