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Simple to answer: I offered to do this – she declined and took my surname instead. I can’t see why it should be considered “unusual” for the XY chromosome to allow the XX version to retain their historical identity, any more than for the “conventional” other way round. Surely, shouldn’t the idea be that both partners decide on a neutral name for them both to adopt? Now, what would my new surname havve been?… Trump? Duterte? Mussolini? Stroessner? Truss? Ahem – maybe I need to consider this a little longer… Holly XXX
Interesting Kirk is church, Dingle is a small wooded valley. Not sure if Paddy traded up or not.
We both kept our last names.
Taking my name was important to me when my wife and I got married. She had floated the question of keeping her name for professional reasons (her degrees were in her maiden name). I said explained that her idea would had merit, but she did not have a professional reputation beyond her degrees. I did suggest that had she had a professional reputation, I would not stop her from keeping her name professionally, but legally it was important that we shared a name in marriage.
MacKenzie Alexandra
No, I think the whole name change thing is silly. When we got married there was no thought of my wife changing her name to mine, nor me changing to her’s. We are both professionals and practices under our own names. The only discussion was when kids were born we just used my name on the birth certificate.
Interestingly, my daughter, who is a professional as well, took her husbands last name, but changed her middle name to her maiden name. Her husband is pretty conservative and I think would have felt emasculated had she kept her name. The male ego is a fragile thing.
I voted no…the reasons are easy.
1. I’m not someone’s property. Women changed their names to respect whose property they were. This is purely a Celtic tradition for what it’s worth. Go to Italy or France. Those women would never give up their father’s name. They will add a name before giving up their family name.
2. I’ll never give up my birthrights. With the family name goes certain birthrights. Changing one’s name and dropping the family name eliminates them from birthrights. And wills…I’ve tried to get my wife to return to her maiden name…
I offered. My wife is the last of her family’s side. I had two brothers. One had one son, the other had two sons, so our name would live on. I offered to take my wife’s name so it could carry on. She said that she didn’t want that, so she took mine. we have a son, so there are four men carrying on the name.
Cerys
I answered no for one main reason: our family is the end of the line for our branch of it.
On my side, we are a very small family, but I have two brothers. The other two are nuclear families, one son, one daughter. Mine, as luck would have it, is only one daughter. So our surname continues, but barely. My wife’s family is large, so no pressure there.
On the other hand, while my wife uses my surname, she still hasn’t officially changed it yet. Life is funny like that. 😁
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