Dear Readers,
It’s not often that I receive a story from a member of our armed services. It is with gratitude for her service that I share Linda’s story. She has kept the woman inside her alive even through the most masculine of environments. It just goes to show that our true soul can blossom anywhere if we nurture it.
Linda’s Crossdressing Success Story
As I have read far too often, I started when I was small. I couldn’t understand why I had only white underwear, but my sister had all sorts of wonderful pastel panties. Girls had all sorts of soft things, but boys had monotone cotton clothes. And, yes, I tried on many of them in secret.
When I was 17 I joined the army, and had to set such thoughts aside.
I was still in the army when I met my wife. One day we were playing around and she had me wear a pair of her panties. All of those feelings came rushing back. We were married for about a year, and I had been wearing parities with her most of it when I decided that I had to tell her of my desires. Being the strong silent type, I knew that whatever I said had to be truthful. I got every book I could find on the subject and, pro or con on the subject I gave them to her. The first one she read was by Virginia Prince titled Understanding Cross dressing. After a couple of days we talked quite a while about it. A week later, we were in a thrift store and she asked me if I would like to get a dress. I was floored! She proceeded to the dresses and got 2 she liked. That evening after our girls went to bed, she put make-up on my face and for the first time I wore a dress in front of someone. She thought it was fun too. Over the next few months we got my own undergarments. The most fun was when she got us matching bras and pantie sets.
After the girls married and moved out my wife declared that one of their rooms was to be Linda’s room. I filled the closet with dresses and we even bought a vanity for me. I wore a dress almost every evening after I got home from work.
I have since retired and now when I get up I put on a dress. My wife thinks I am more relaxed and a nicer person if I am in a dress.
For our 35th anniversary, we decided to renew our vows. The event was held at the VFW (Veterans of Foreign Wars) post. I bought a tux for it and got her a beautiful dress. Underneath, we were wearing matching bras, panties and garter belts with hose. There were probably 50 or so people at the ceremony. None knew but us that I stood there with a chest full of medals and a pink bra under them.
We live very near a Marine base, so going outside as Linda would be tantamount to suicide. So, I enjoy my dress and heels inside. Of course, having a fenced in back yard allows me to barbeque steaks in my dress. Often we will eat them outside too.
An update from Linda
I heard from Linda after posting her story, and she reminds us that one of the key points of her story is that she decided to tell her wife. Many of the girls say that they wish that they could, but remain secretive about their inner self.
She says, “I did not find it easy to broach this with my wife. I did because it opened another aspect of my inner person that I could share. I decided that if she loved me, then the Linda inside was also part of what she married and I SHARED all of me with her. Without doing so, I would be living with only half of who she knew.
If the others want to remain hidden, so be it. They are a self-made prisoner of their own making, and they are living a lie to themselves. ”
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An understanding and supportive wife can make all the difference. Linda is indeed fortunate.
BZ. For me itwasmuch the same thing. Iserved my time (26 years() in an ultra masculine environment (Marines). I lived off base for much of the time and dressed only in private in rare circumstances. When I finally retired. Thw oman I was came forward with a vengenance. I now wear dresses and skirts and heels only. Sure I still have some military things but my uniforms are all for female now with all of my awards./decs and I have been to Marine reunions as female. I am a whole new person now and the lady is more fun to… Read more »
Bravo hon! I’m so happy to hear you came out successfully and are living as who you are!
I’d love to hear (and share) some of your stories of coming out to your friends in the Marines if you’d like to Submit your success story
Men have fears, thet hust don’t telk anyone about them most of the tine. ESPECIALLY thier spouse.
1- She will upgrade to a more powerful and dominant male.
But if the spouse is too worried about her fears to nitice that. Her fears can include compating herself with oretty women with more dominant husbands than she has. But, what uf her crissdressed husbsnd looks better enfemme than her??! More competition?
2- They also fear she might trust someone elde more. His needs to find elegance and femininity are because she is not suplying them.
Thank you for sharing….
I was in the Navy for 25 years and I underdressed most of the time. My wife and I have married 45 years, she was very supportive, and encouraged me to join a transgender support group. So Linda, enjoy life being the women you were meant to be.
Ronda thanks for your comment, it’s wonderful to hear about experiences from those in the military, and the courage you have shown in your personal lives as well to embrace this part of you. *hugs*
“You can think you can or you can think you can’t and either way you’re right!" Henry Ford. I had very good reasons why I couldn’t and shouldn’t live the life I’d always wanted to so I didn’t and paid a terrible price. Looking back I can see I was wrong. I could’ve and should’ve much sooner. So everytime I hear someone say they can’t do this or they can’t do that I nod my head and say, “Yup. You’re right." You can’t until you figure out that you can.
Words of wisdom Shirley, thanks! I was fortunate to transition fairly young, and even then I look back and wonder why I waited so long. In the end, the time and circumstances were right for me. I think every woman will find a place and time that opens to them.
You’re right. The only thing you can’t do is what you don’t want to do. You may have good reason for not doing something, but it’s never because you can’t. It’s just because you’re not ready to do it.
Well said Carole, the reasons for not acting are many, complicated and often completely rational. Our path may take us to that point more slowly, or more quickly.
When I initially joined the Australian Army, at just over 16, I hoped that being in the army would ‘cure’ me of the urges and needs I had. What I didn’t realise then was that there was nothing to ‘cure’. What I did realise was how much I coveted the uniforms worn by the female members. The cure certainly wasn’t working. I suppressed my desires because of where I was but there were times when visiting friends that I had to explore laundry hampers just to imagine wearing what I found. I was still in denial and suppressing my inner… Read more »
I commend you I wish I could do it and it turn out half as well . at the present time my wife is mentally unstable and I am afraid that if I tell her she will end her life . I don’t think I could handle that .
When I joined the Army at 18, I like many girls was hoping the Army would “cure" me of my feeling for dressing as a woman also. For the first year, it put those thoughts away, locked into the back of my mind. Then one day I was in the Stars ‘N Stripes bookstore and found Penthouse Variations magazine and decided to check it out. Almost every issue had at least two articles talking about cross dressing and involved sex. When I got discharged, I came home and started going to the adult bookstore and purchasing the same magazine. I… Read more »
Been there, done that! Your whole thing about having these “desires" and dressing up and all is pretty classic stuff. Getting married and trying to get the wifey involved , ditto. However, our experiences as CD’s differ at this juncture. I hope to help you in your endeavors to have your wife participate in your transvestism. For me, I told my wife before we got married. We would go out to my place and she would help me dress up. When I was dressed, I was very demure, submissive and very accommodating to her. In essence, I was her “sissy"… Read more »
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