Give up the habit of being critical and make your life a much more enjoyable place to be.

Give up the habit of being critical. When you do, you will learn to love yourself and others unconditionally. The greatest thing I have come to understand is that every one of us wants the same thing; to feel loved and to give love.

Being critical of yourself starts the internal creation of a critical mindset in all areas of your life; judging, comparing, and assessing one thing “against” the other.

Being caught up in the drama of the earthly trappings can make us crazy, but remembering that we are a part of a deathless source serves to remind us that everything here on this planet is simply playtime.

I am practicing my thinking of our earth as being a big human day care. Around us are all the imaginable kind and different people, each in their own ways, and in that life, expressing themselves. Each thing is a perfect expression of what it is.

You and I are perfect expressions of whom and what we are, regardless of the judgments of others. They too, are perfect expressions of who and what they are regardless of our judgments. There really isn’t any us or they though because we are all perfect expressions of the one that life is, as it lives on this planet.

I cannot say that my mind is void of self-criticisms and self-doubts. I do find, however, that as I practice just noticing those types of thoughts in my own mind, and then consciously and intentionally choosing to speak a new thought several times, and out loud if possible, that the mindset-container of self-criticism and judgment has become noticeably smaller.

I can feel my confidence expanding from inside of me as I simply practice the skill of feeling and acting confident. I sit quiet every day, for a few minutes, and imagine how I want to be, as if it is already true. This past week in the local grocery store, as my amazing wife and I were shopping, several locals and staff of the store approached us randomly just to chat and visit.

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I was so comfortable in my skin that I totally forgot that I was dressed, perfumed, and decorated with makeup and jewelry and wearing breast prosthesis. I was Char completely unguarded in the middle of a bustling shopping center to the degree of unconscious competence; Mastery of simply “being” there.

There are four stages of understanding; unconscious incompetence, conscious incompetence, conscious competence and unconscious competence or mastery.

What a ride it has been to travel from unconscious incompetence through the four stages to this place of self-creating. Practicing, giving up the habit of being critical and judgmental of myself and others has given me unexpected surprises. Giving up using criticism has freed up and emancipated a deep feeling of belonging, acceptance, and welcome for me that is not being generated from the people around me.

By trading acting critical, for acting confident, I have grown confidence and certainty from within.

From acting certain, I have generated certainty, and by appearing as if I am accepting of all differences, I have become more accepting. This in turn is reflected in others acceptance of me everywhere I go.

By giving up the habit of criticizing and judging, I have opened myself up to so many wonderful feelings and experiences, and that my friends, was a Reset for me! Ping!!

Thanks for reading Your Weekly Reset and thank you for being exactly who you are!



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Dropping out of high school I began touring in the Canadian country music scene at age 17; clubs and soft seat venues, drummer/vocalist for 22 years. After 4 suicide attempts and heavy cocaine etc addiction issues, i decided to learn Self-Acceptance as apposed to self-hatred. I became a student of the Universe and an Instructor of Life Skills at a local College while operating a Private Coaching Practice. Currently, I am rebuilding the Life Coaching practice after a couple years of more personal work well under way. I am also creating online opportunities that will serve our world community…and our world in understanding how the learned life skills of Intentionally and Consciously Creating an Amazing Life have filled my life with Passion, Purpose and Prosperity and they can for you as well... Namaste'

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skippy1965 Cynthia
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1 year ago

Char-as always you go straight to the point. The moment you look in the mirror and feel pride and confidence instead of shame and loathing is when you know you are on your way to living authentically as whoever you are. It is not necessary to know the end state to be confident of where you are RIGHT NOW. I recently joined a third league pool team and last night I decided to confide about Cyn with the captain (as I had with several other friends in the league). Imagine my surprise when she said “oh I’ve known about you… Read more »

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Racheal Allie
1 year ago

Very beautifully said sweetie I wish that I was as brave as you. Thank you

Dianne Baldwin
Dianne Baldwin
1 year ago

Great article. I wish I was brave as you are

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1 year ago

For a lot of us Gurls—It’s not Fear of what others think or even shame–It’s about practical matters– Like keeping ones job/home ect–my supportive wife died a few months ago & now with only one income Paying the mortgage ect is difficult–& I would be out of work as fast as you can say crossdressers & pantyhose– if they found out–I can’t afford to be out of work for even a week or two– With two incomes I/We had the luxury of taking that risk–& we did–Plus-with Alice (wife) doing my makeup I was way more passible —I know there… Read more »

skippy1965 Cynthia
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1 year ago
Reply to  janedon

Totally understand-each person’s circumstances are unique to their own situation. For those whose circumstances preclude being out and about(and I have been in that boat too in the past), I encourage you to set whatever realistic goal you might have..even if that is something only YOU will see or know about. It’s how YOU feel about yourself that’s most important.

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1 year ago

thanks for the encouragement–

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