Many crossdressers choose to keep their thrilling feminine hobby or lifestyle a secret. Why? The LGBT community have their rights, and cross dressers are under the “transgender umbrella” so why are some of us afraid of admitting that we’re a cross dresser? It can be for different reasons. We choose to keep it secret because cross dressers are misunderstood people, or perhaps we have kept it secret for so long, that we have a feeling of “guilt” and are afraid to reveal that we cross dress to family and friends. In any case, if we decide to reveal that we cross dress to family and friends, it can be a great risk because if it goes bad, it can make your relationship with them worse instead of better. However, based upon my experience, there is a way to make it work. Here is my true story and advice…
My elderly father lives with me, and I’m his family caregiver. I kept being a cross dresser secret from my “Daddy” for over two years! This was not easy. I could only dress up as a woman and walk around freely in the comfort of my own home when he either went to town, or he went to sleep at night. How I finally decided to reveal “Revel” and that I’m a cross dresser was clever. There’s only one day (or night) of the year that you can dress up as anything you want, and not be judged – Halloween! So on Halloween night this year, I strongly felt it was “now or never” and I dressed up as sexy “Revel the Devil Girl” and made him close his eyes before I walked out in front of him. Then when I said out loud in my feminine voice “open your eyes for a surprise” he opened them and he was amazed! At first, he was a little shocked, but then he finally spoke and explained to me that I looked great! I thanked him, and gave him a big smile. Then he took a picture of me posing. When I felt comfortable enough, I explained to him that I’ve been cross dressing for quite some time – over two years since July 2018. He told me that he was “all for it” and was 100% supportive! I also modeled two more outfits for him as well. One was an orange dress, and the other was a shirt and a dark pink pleated skirt. My Daddy not only helped give me life, but he gave me the greatest gift of all…acceptance. So I gave him a kiss on his cheek and thanked him for being so kind. Halloween 2020 was the BEST Halloween I ever had! It will be a cherished memory forever!
We now have total respect for one another. He used to be a photographer at weddings. Now that he’s retired, he sometimes enjoys taking pictures of his daughter Revel (me) posing and modeling. Then after looking at the pictures together, we share some ideas back and forth. He taught me that “variety is the spice of life” and he once told me the best thing he likes about my place is Revel! Our bond is inseparable. This has made my life easier for me to be a cross dresser freely in the comfort of my own home. We have good clean fun together. I realize I’m in a distinct minority of crossdressers, but based upon my experience, it’s all about the right timing to make acceptance work.
So remember my cross dressing sisters, if you ever want to reveal to your family or friends that you’re a cross dresser, I strongly advise to wait until Halloween. It’s the safest time to dress up as a woman and not be judged. It may be worth the wait! I hope that you take my advice into consideration and if you decide to take the risk on Halloween, I wish you the best of luck! My Daddy and I both feel that crossdressers are very kind and beautiful people, and we hope that our true story is helpful to the cross dressing community. If you enjoyed my article, please leave a kind comment below or send me a private message. Or take the time to answer one or more of the questions I’ve posed to you below:
- Who was the first member of your immediate family did you disclose the fact you were a cross dresser and how did they react and what did they say?
- If it wasn’t a family member you first told about your thrill of cross dressing, who was it and were they accepting and supportive or just the opposite?
- How many of you cross dressers have a supportive wife or SO and what are their limits placed on your ability to cross dress, if any?
Thanks for taking the time to read my article girls!
Sincerely, Revel
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Revel, I couldn’t wait. It was very informative and well written. You were quite creative to use Halloween as an opportunity. I’m sooo happy for you that your Daddy was so accepting! Now that you have revealed he is a photographer, I expect to see more photos in your profile, especially the one of you in your Halloween costume! By looking at the formatting of your article, I would expect Scarlett was your editor, yes? She’s excellent! (To hedge my bet, if not her, the editing was excellent too). Now that you are an accomplished author, are planning future articles?… Read more »
My first comment!
Thank you Marian for the kind comment about my article.
I prefer to keep my pictures private, but I will consider adding more photos in my profile. You are correct about Scarlett. She really is an excellent editor, and a wonderful sister! I will also consider writing another article in the future. Time will tell.
I’m glad that you enjoyed reading my article on Christmas Eve. Now that I think about it, my name “Revel" has the word “eve" in it!
Merry Christmas Eve, sisters! ♥️
Revel
That was a good way to show yourself Revel. So far I have told 2 of my 4 brothers. With the covid as an excuse I let my hair grow out and in Sept. and had it colored to cover the gray. In Oct I went to one brothers house, when I got there I pulled a hood over my head and after we said hi I uncovered my hair and showed him my pierced ears. Then I told him the whole thing , that I CD. He was ok with it. I told him I couldn’t stop him from… Read more »
Thank you Sandy for sharing your experience. Yes. Halloween was a good way to show myself, and reveal to my Daddy that I’m a crossdresser. I was a clever Devil Girl, but in a good way. I firmly believe that Halloween is the best time of the year to reveal to your family that you’re a CD. However, the way that you revealed to part of your family that you’re a CD was clever. Well done, sister! Revealing that you’re a crossdresser to your family or friends is always a risk, but if all goes well, and they have “acceptance"… Read more »
Revel, thanks for such a great article! I have gone through the gamut of guilt and shame of being what I am since I discovered my fondness for wearing women’s clothes about age 12. I’m 67 now and just recently fully accepted my gender fluid nature as not being something to be ashamed of. My wife has always known about my fondness for borrowing her bra’s from time to time, I had my own panties for a long time, then one time she told me I should have my own bras too. Now I have about 5 times as many… Read more »
Thank you Amy for commenting that my article was great. This meant a lot to me because great is better than good! Thank you for sharing your experience as well. I’m glad to know that you no longer feel guilt or shame. Congratulations, girl! It’s always a comforting thought that the one you live with accepts you, and that you have plenty of bras! Even with your wife putting limits on your dressing, it’s nice to know that it has brought you closer together. I have lived with my Daddy all my life, and dread the day when he will… Read more »
I hope you have as much success with your Mom!
Also, I love the cover photo too!
Thank you sister.
My Mother never spends Halloween with me anymore so I’m going to be very cautious about this. I plan on asking her how she feels about crossdressers BEFORE revealing anything. My Daddy will be present, and will explain to her how he’s 100% supportive of me being a CD so in theory, she will have acceptance in her heart as well.
Yes! The cover photo of the Devil Girl is sexy and classy. When I dress up as a Devil Girl (my favorite costume) I look pretty sexy too! 🙂
An absolutely beautiful event! Every now & then, a girl finds acceptance with her father, & it is life changing! My time came early (I was a pre-teen). Both of my parents were very accepting. My paternal grandmother knew before I did!
She bought me the most beautiful dresses, did my hair & makeup, & took me out to lunch with her lady friends, who thought I was a darling little girl.
I wish all girls could have that kind of acceptance.
Revel, bless your daddy. He is a good man. 🙂
Thank you Bobbi for the kind comment and sharing your experience. Yes, it was life changing, and that’s a really good way to put it! In fact, my Daddy and I get along even better now.
I’m glad to know that your family showed kindness and acceptance, and you and I both wish that all girls could have that kind of acceptance.
Yes, my Daddy is a good man. I read him your compliment, and he wanted me to thank you. 🙂
Revel
Hello Revel, I loved your story and my wife and I talked about me doing it this past Halloween as well. I didn’t go through with it but she was ok if I had made the decision to do so ! Now I may not have came out to my friends that night that I had been a crossdresser for years now but I think it could have been a start. So to answer your other questions I’ve told my wife which was about 5 years ago now. Of course she had all the text book questions but after a… Read more »
Thank you Ashley for the kind comment about my article being lovely. A lot of time and thought went into it, and it’s nice to know that my sisters here at CDH are enjoying it. 🙂
It’s always a comforting thought when your spouse or loved ones have acceptance in their heart. This is the key to make everything work smoothly. Now that your wife and oldest sister are so kind and supportive, you may have a fun Halloween next year!
All the best.
Revel
Thanks for sharing your story hun!
You’ve certainly had a unique experience Rev, the stuff legends are made of! I’m sure glad it’s been a positive experience.
Thank you, girlfriend! Not only I had a positive experience with my Daddy, but here at Crossdresser Heaven as well. I’m so glad that I decided to join last month, and write this article to share with my sisters.
XOXO Rev
Hi Rev, I really loved reading and hearing about your experience. It’s so nice to hear of sisters who have had a positive experience sharing their passion with close friends and relatives. Thank you for writing this article.
I totally agree with you, K!
Being a crossdresser isn’t easy when you have to keep your passion a secret, or worse, when getting caught. However, when family and friends accept your passion, it makes things much easier and better. It creates a positive feeling. I’m glad that you enjoyed my article. Thanks for the comment, girlfriend!
XOXO Rev
Revel, you have a pure heart and such a kind soul. I’m proud to be one of your sisters.
Thank you for writing such a nice, inspiring piece and sharing your story!
..You are right, that is a clever ‘reveal’ Not exactly manipulating people, but shaping them to you will and yet, still getting the result you want all in a socially acceptable form! haha! Nice job! 😉
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Thanks Kitty! Another kind comment from another sister in the UK!
I do my best and I’m touched by your kind words. Yes, it was clever in a socially acceptable form. UK girls are so articulate! I love it. 🙂
XOXO Revel
Good idea. I suspect though that you know your father and had some idea of how he would react. I guessing you might not have if he was a Terry Milkovich type of person.
Not exactly. Although I know my Daddy very well, he’s very elderly and from the old school, and you never know exactly how the old timers will react. Back in his day, crossdressers were called “transvestites" and were misunderstood people, and sadly we are still misunderstood, but thanks to my Daddy having acceptance in his heart, it went smoothly. 🙂
Revel
My Mommy decided to celebrate my Daddy’s Birthday, and visit my Daddy and I for a week. The day after my Daddy’s Birthday on 1/11/2021 I decided it was time to reveal her daughter, Revel! It wasn’t Halloween night so I was extra cautious, and my Daddy was present for the revealing. First I asked my Mommy how she felt about transgender and crossdresser people? She calmly explained that she is okay with them, and that my nephew has a cousin who’s a transgender, and this TG is my nephew’s favorite cousin. Then I explained to her the difference between… Read more »