Have you been out dressed in public before?
If you have you probably know the fear that comes with taking those first steps out into the world, and the constant anxiety of being read. Passing in public is the holy grail for crossdressers, but too many see it as an impossible challenge far out of reach. It doesn’t have to be.
On Crossdresser Heaven you’ll find many articles on how to crossdress – you’ll learn about the importance of smiling, how you carry yourself and the subtle cues that give your secret away. What you wear can be just as important as your mannerisms and voice. As you browse the site you’ll find advice on how to choose the appropriate clothes, as well as where to find larger size clothes and shoes that will fit you better.
If anything stands out about our community it is the sisterhood that we share. We learn and grow together – our mistakes and discoveries make it easier for those who follow to blossom. So instead of writing another article on how to crossdress, I want to hear from you:
What works for you? How do you ensure that you pass in public? How do you react if you’re read?
I encourage you to take a moment to share some of the wisdom you’ve acquired in your journey. It might just be the distinction that a new girl needs to get her started.
Advice for how to pass as a woman
From the Crossdresser Heaven community: – scroll down to the comments to see the advice and add your own!
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I’ll start us off – smile! You’ll not only be more approachable, but have you ever noticed how men seem so serious, and woman smile more often?
As a side benefit, you’ll feel better too 🙂
One from Emma on Twitter, “just wear old trainers, baggy jeans, plane top and zero to very little makeup. Like 99.9% of women do.."
I feel that when women do this they don’t appreciate the awesomeness of wearing some makeup to look beautiful and the pretty clothes / outfits they can wear.
Bobbie Carr
I have dresses since 1957 I was cought be mother and taken to a shrink who had me dress all summer 100% of the time I enjoyed that time several girls visited me dayly did make up etc and I learned to service girls as a lesbeon The experiment did not work I wanted to dress all the time. I got the guts to go to Trenton and ask the owner of a bra & girdle shop to fit me in a girdle she first made me buy panties then she measured me and we talked of breast size she… Read more »
From Google+, Harley says, “Living " full time" I personally “pass" at a glance. even for a few minutes. Genetics played a bit of a trick on this preop transwoman. Even after 5 years hrt I am still not exactly the built femininely 5’11" makes for a good sized girl even at 165lbs. No matter though, whatever others think is for me irrelevant, though I understand the concern many have. These are the same feelings that I experienced early into my transition. What I would like to highlight hear is a simple thing I have learned. With very few exceptions… Read more »
When you go out en femme “act" like you are supposed to be there! That will help you to blend in.
When going out, like shopping, or lunch, walk in the place with a smile and head up. Walk in like you own the place. Look at a sales clerks or waitress name tag, call them by name. Make eye contact. And most important dress to blend in.
Elle those are great tips! Smile, be confident! Others can sense your confident energy, and will react to it as well!
I agree I dress conservative
Quickest answer is simply I don’t care if I am read or not. If anyone has a problem with it its exactly that their problem not mine Simply be yourself..be the woman you think and know you are. Would she slouch? Would she not look at people or smile? CERTAINLY NOT! Dress your age, dress to blend in to the surroundings. I have been stopped a few times by police but was always treated professionally and with courtesy. The same goes for going into stores or wherever else. Remember most people don’t notice what is right in front of them… Read more »
I agree with the other ladies… My first time in Public was nerve “racking" to say the least… I should have gone with someone with me… but I ventured alone… Drove to the local Taco Bell down the street fully dressed in a rental car and “tested the waters"… so to speak… I went thru the Drive-thru and ordered in my best enFemme (falsetto) voice and then went to the pick-up window… the girl and boy at the window collected my payment and handed me my purchase… with a smile I said “thank you" and they replied “Have a good… Read more »
Wonderful Marsha! What an empowering first experience! Thank you for sharing love!
What works for me is just be “yourself" i dont want to do a “put on" to seem female….Im just me and just be yourself i feel