Why Crossdressing Does Not Matter to God!

Many people will tell you crossdressing is sinful behavior. Then CDs and TGs repress their gift and enter into deep emotional despair. At this point, I would agree crossdressing is a major sin. Everyone misses the mark because we are driving each other away from God, in the name of righteousness. The consequences lead to repression, guilt, and shame that are unnecessary in the eyes of God.

Why are these feeling unnecessary? Well, Jesus died on the cross for our sins and rose again after the third day. As a result, those who follow him have conquered death from sin and do not need guilt or shame because Jesus won. It is through Jesus, we learn to have compassion, become aware of our purpose, and empower others to live again through Christ.

About a year ago, I had an intense dream. Part of that dream was an image of me standing over a battered and broken man chained down, with a sword in my hand. I was preparing to kill him before he said: “who gives you the authority to judge?” I woke after the dream fearful and excited. His words and image echoed in mind ever since.

When it comes to judging others, we all know what Jesus said, in his sermon on the mount. In Matthew 7:3-5 we get “Do not judge or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others you will be judged.” This theme is powerful and repeated in the bible often, just in different ways. Another set of verses comes from James 4:11-12

“Brothers and sisters do not slander one another. Anyone who speaks against a brother or sister or judges them speaks against the law and judges it. When you judge the law, you are not keeping it but sitting judgement on it. There is only one Lawgiver and Judge, the one who can save and destroy. But you—who are you to judge your neighbor?”

Interesting considering what the man said. On some of those verses alone, we can reasonably conclude that no one can judge crossdressing as a sin. When they are making that judgement then they are acting on authority that is not theirs and is therefore worthless. That is why I could not kill the man.

Oddly enough, self-acceptance and empowering others are intrinsically linked in the bible. Self-acceptance occurs through salvation and empowering others is something that followers pass forward. In the context of the dream, the sword represents the Word of God. Do not believe me look at Ephesians 6:17 “the Sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.” Now the interesting question is how does someone use the word of god? Luckily, we have already sufficiently proven not through swinging or stabbing others.

In order to use the Word of God, we must understand the way to salvation. Fundamentally, the only way to salvation is through Jesus Christ, which is flesh and was with God all along (John 1). Without Jesus, there could be no life. Therefore, salvation is achievable through Jesus, whom we openly invite into our heart. Only then are we free from sin, guilt, and shame. As we move beyond salvation, it is our responsibility to serve Christ. As we serve Him, we lift the chains of sin because by lifting our hands in praise we find purpose and grace (Romans 6-8). As a result, we no longer need to care about the opinions of others because healing occurs through Christ. Besides, only the individual knows what Christ is doing in their heart that does not bound them to the opinions of others.

Back to the dream, the appropriate course of action is to give the man the sword of the Spirit. From there he has the choice to break his chains and obey God’s purpose. I can briefly imagine his health returning to him and he would pass forward the sword, so someone else can come to the revelation that the sword of the Spirit can set him or her free to live in grace.

Righteous Christians push CDs and TGs away from God, for their judgments do not belong to God. Luckily there is always hope. How God heals each individual is between them and God, the rest of the world has no say. Crossdressing is a gift from God for whatever the purpose is, and I am a firm believer that God makes no mistakes. Therefore, I challenge you to pick up, receive, or give the Sword of the Spirit to someone who is hurting and watch, as God will work wonders in their heart.

Now for a few questions I would like you to offer up a repsonse to:

  • Has your religion or spirituality ever caused you guilt and shame as a result of your cross dressing?
  • Is there a particular scripture or sermon that caused you to turn away from cross dressing and plunge you into despair?
  • How would you tak up the Sword of God?

Thank all of you CDH readers for taking time to read this article and please take the time to respond to this article if any part of it hits home with you or if you’d like to offer up an answer to any of the three questions noted above.

If you know anyone who is struggling with shame and guilt of self-expression because of biblical scripture or sermons, please have them read this ariticle.

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Jaime Benton

Hey I am Jaime, I am from NC. Just kinda coming out of the closet slowly... XO lol. I look forward to meeting and getting to know some new people.
  1. Hi Jaime,

    Thanks for your post. I’m with you 100%. I first came to Christ when I was 14. I was a strong Christian all through high school, but drifted away as I approached adulthood.

    When I came back, I struggled with my cross-dressing. I was well aware of the nearly universal opinion of cross-dressing in Christian circles. I really wanted to get serious with God. I was at church for every service; twice on Sunday and again mid-week. I was reading my Bible more often than the newspaper. I spent many hours in prayer. I had multiple conformations that God had his hand on me and wanted to use me for his Kingdom.

    Just by way of example: I was in prayer one evening it was one of those prayer sessions where you simply pour your heart out to God. I ended up stretched out prostrate, face down, my head in my hands. I was nearly spent, when it seemed I heard God say, “Become a youth leader.” That took me totally by surprise. So much so, I told God that we had a bad connection. The church I was attending had a strong youth pastor who already had two assistants who were exemplary Christians. But God repeated himself. “Become a youth leader.” Well, I shined it on. I had to be delusional. The very next Sunday, I was standing outside the church in the parking lot talking with another man when the youth pastor drove into the lot. He stopped his car right next to me and just looked at me. I was a little disconcerted because he seemed to be studying me, passing judgement or something. Finally, he rolled down his widow and said, “Pat why don’t you help me in the youth department.” I was hearing from God, no doubt.

    But back to my cross-dressing. Since at the time, I was sharing my wife’s wardrobe, there was no way I could purge, and try as I might, I could go no more than a few days without cross-dressing. This to spite many hours in prayer asking God to help me leave this behind. Finally one Saturday, I had the house to myself. I fully dressed in my wife’s clothes. (BTW she was fully aware of my cross-dressing and while not supportive, she accepted that was just me.) I went in to prayer. It lasted a couple of hours while I complained to God about his lack of answering my prayers concerning cross-dressing. I listed all the other things I had prayed about that he had answered me on. Things I considered trivial compared to my cross-dressing. In the end, I was kneeling at my bedside, leaning across it crying. When God gave me a vision. I saw myself, dressed just as I was, hands lifted in praise and a light shining down from heaven. The verse from 1 Samuel 16:7 came to mind. “…The LORD does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.”

    It became clear to me the reason God hadn’t answered my prayer regarding cross-dressing because he didn’t have an opinion about it. No matter how I was dressed, I was his child and he would use me to farther his Kingdom.

    Our outward trappings are just the package we come in God isn’t interested in that. His concern is where our heart is.

    • Peggy Sue Williams 5 days ago

      A very interesting testimony, Patricia, right from your heart, very similar to a few testimonies I have heard in my church. The unbelieving Christ-hating crowd think we are nuts, when we say God’s Holy Spirit spoke to us. No, not in a human-like voice, but one definitely knows when Jesus arrives on the scene. Some God-called preachers tell similar stories, like yours. And no, I am not talking about the garden-variety seminary-schooled clergymen who practice religion. I am talking about genuine God-called preachers. They will give testimony how being a preacher was the furthest thing from their mind, but God persisted in calling them to preach, so many times and so loud, that they finally had to give in and preach the Word. What an amazing God we have! And all He asks is that we trust in His Son Jesus Christ and gain salvation through Grace. Cross dressing? I believe God is silent on the issue. I can find nothing in the King James Bible that prohibits or condemns cross dressing today. Speaking about myself, when I went completely out-of-the-closet and began presenting in public as a female, I felt for the first time in my life that I was the whole and complete person that God made me.

      Hugs, Hugs, God Bless, from
      Peggy Sue in Atlanta GA

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