Why Crossdressing Does Not Matter to God!
Many people will tell you crossdressing is sinful behavior. Then CDs and TGs repress their gift and enter into deep emotional despair. At this point, I would agree crossdressing is a major sin. Everyone misses the mark because we are driving each other away from God, in the name of righteousness. The consequences lead to repression, guilt, and shame that are unnecessary in the eyes of God.
Why are these feeling unnecessary? Well, Jesus died on the cross for our sins and rose again after the third day. As a result, those who follow him have conquered death from sin and do not need guilt or shame because Jesus won. It is through Jesus, we learn to have compassion, become aware of our purpose, and empower others to live again through Christ.
About a year ago, I had an intense dream. Part of that dream was an image of me standing over a battered and broken man chained down, with a sword in my hand. I was preparing to kill him before he said: “who gives you the authority to judge?” I woke after the dream fearful and excited. His words and image echoed in mind ever since.
When it comes to judging others, we all know what Jesus said, in his sermon on the mount. In Matthew 7:3-5 we get “Do not judge or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others you will be judged.” This theme is powerful and repeated in the bible often, just in different ways. Another set of verses comes from James 4:11-12
“Brothers and sisters do not slander one another. Anyone who speaks against a brother or sister or judges them speaks against the law and judges it. When you judge the law, you are not keeping it but sitting judgement on it. There is only one Lawgiver and Judge, the one who can save and destroy. But you—who are you to judge your neighbor?”
Interesting considering what the man said. On some of those verses alone, we can reasonably conclude that no one can judge crossdressing as a sin. When they are making that judgement then they are acting on authority that is not theirs and is therefore worthless. That is why I could not kill the man.
Oddly enough, self-acceptance and empowering others are intrinsically linked in the bible. Self-acceptance occurs through salvation and empowering others is something that followers pass forward. In the context of the dream, the sword represents the Word of God. Do not believe me look at Ephesians 6:17 “the Sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.” Now the interesting question is how does someone use the word of god? Luckily, we have already sufficiently proven not through swinging or stabbing others.
In order to use the Word of God, we must understand the way to salvation. Fundamentally, the only way to salvation is through Jesus Christ, which is flesh and was with God all along (John 1). Without Jesus, there could be no life. Therefore, salvation is achievable through Jesus, whom we openly invite into our heart. Only then are we free from sin, guilt, and shame. As we move beyond salvation, it is our responsibility to serve Christ. As we serve Him, we lift the chains of sin because by lifting our hands in praise we find purpose and grace (Romans 6-8). As a result, we no longer need to care about the opinions of others because healing occurs through Christ. Besides, only the individual knows what Christ is doing in their heart that does not bound them to the opinions of others.
Back to the dream, the appropriate course of action is to give the man the sword of the Spirit. From there he has the choice to break his chains and obey God’s purpose. I can briefly imagine his health returning to him and he would pass forward the sword, so someone else can come to the revelation that the sword of the Spirit can set him or her free to live in grace.
Righteous Christians push CDs and TGs away from God, for their judgments do not belong to God. Luckily there is always hope. How God heals each individual is between them and God, the rest of the world has no say. Crossdressing is a gift from God for whatever the purpose is, and I am a firm believer that God makes no mistakes. Therefore, I challenge you to pick up, receive, or give the Sword of the Spirit to someone who is hurting and watch, as God will work wonders in their heart.
Now for a few questions I would like you to offer up a repsonse to:
- Has your religion or spirituality ever caused you guilt and shame as a result of your cross dressing?
- Is there a particular scripture or sermon that caused you to turn away from cross dressing and plunge you into despair?
- How would you tak up the Sword of God?
Thank all of you CDH readers for taking time to read this article and please take the time to respond to this article if any part of it hits home with you or if you’d like to offer up an answer to any of the three questions noted above.
If you know anyone who is struggling with shame and guilt of self-expression because of biblical scripture or sermons, please have them read this ariticle.
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Deuteronomy 22:5 and I Corinthians 6:9 are two versus which are misquoted and misunderstood by many people trying to make an argument against cross dressing. I am a fundamental Bible-believing Bible-preaching Christian, I use the KJV Bible only, and I have long ago reconciled my heterosexual cross dressing with my faith and trust for eternal salvation by grace through the Lord Jesus Christ. Anyone who cherry-picks these two versus in an attempt to mount an argument against cross dressing is not following the command of 2 Timothy 2:15, by “…rightly dividing the Word of Truth." IMHO, I think there is… Read more »
Thanks for sharing. Was beautifully written and moved me. God really does work in mysterious ways.
Oxox
Rosiebeth
Thank you! Indeed, He DOES work in strange mysterious ways.
Hello to all Christian CDs,
in June 2018 I posted an article on the very subject of “Crossdressing and the Bible", dealing with Deuteronomy 22:5. It is archived in “Crossdressing and Religion". Thank you Jaime for your encouraging post. Love Stella
Stella,
Yes, well-written. I went back, found your June 2018 article and read it. That is the key, reading a verse in context, with surrounding verses, the entire chapter, and the entire book. etc.
Thank you,
Peggy Sue
My Sister Jamie, Very well written! As for how would I take up the Sword, Well I ran CDH for 3 years and have been a part of it since its rebirth as it brought about mine. I am one of the voices in my church that stands up and explains, protects and supports the LGBTQ community and will be expanding that roll in the upcoming year and going forward. I am marked with the sign of my Savior in the form of a Cross tattoo. I am a voice in the dark to anyone that needs to talk here… Read more »
How would one take up the Sword of the Lord?
That could be answered by carrying out The Great Commission, as the resurrected Jesus Christ commanded in Matthew 28:18-20 (KJV).
Well written Jaime! I did struggle at first with the question of: Is cross dressing a sin? Then I was at a meeting (en femme) with people from the community and I found my self sharing the fact that Jesus taught us to love one another! His message is love! Since that time I have accepted His love and am not concerned with other peoples opinions or judgement. I pray to Him as my true female self and I feel His love back. We need more women like you to remind everyone why Jesus died and rose again! It was… Read more »
I’m sorry, religious books can be interpreted in many different ways like any book. A CDphobic can look at the same book and say that you are a sinner. I understand that you can relax by accepting yourself through religion, but that’s not my way. I live in a secular country where the majority of the population is Muslim. I read all the religious books (Quran, Bible, Torah) when my CD tendencies first appeared in my childhood. Because I believed in God back then. And I came to the conclusion: God is a man and he doesn’t like people like… Read more »
Eser, I am not sure what your point is, but you say you are a self-proclaimed atheist. Thus, for you, it is easy, your cross dressing does not create a conflict with Christian beliefs, since you have no Christian beliefs. Oh, BTW, being a Bible-believing Christian is not being religious. When Jesus Christ walked the Earth as a man, he got plenty of grief from the religionists of His day. The very religious Sadducees, Pharisees, and Scribes were continually harassing and threatening Jesus. I am glad at one point in your life you read the Bible, I know many atheists… Read more »
Hi Peggy Sue, My problem is not with Christianity, but with all religions. There are many Muslim LGBT people in Turkey. I see them trying to judge and justify themselves through religion. I only find this effort pointless and I tell them too what I wrote here. I think that religions, especially organized religions (churches, mosques, or synagogues) are the means of putting pressure on people. LGBT people are also the ones who get their share from this pressure. I do not find it right to respect a force that exerts pressure on me, to judge myself through it. Your… Read more »
What a beautiful article! As a GG I can confirm that those feelings of guilt and shame are universal. We all deal with it from time to time. When we come to a place of acceptance in our lives, not only for others but for ourselves, every day becomes brighter and easier to handle no matter what comes. The bible says “Love one another" and I’m pretty sure there aren’t any exceptions. I was encouraged by your words today.
XOXO
Lisa
Each of us is a perfect creation exactly as we are…our job, is to accept that truth and live it out loud for all the unaware to witness, love, unconditional…Namaste’
Thank you Jaimie,
n huggles for you
Char
Hi Jaime, Thank you for this article. As a Christian, I really needed to read your sharing today. You have made a big diference in me for now and my future.
God Bless you and all of us who have suffered or are still suffering. Hopefully your sharing will set more free to enjoy our faith and our crossdressing without feeling the fear of being judged.
Terri Anne
Hi Jaime, Thanks for your post. I’m with you 100%. I first came to Christ when I was 14. I was a strong Christian all through high school, but drifted away as I approached adulthood. When I came back, I struggled with my cross-dressing. I was well aware of the nearly universal opinion of cross-dressing in Christian circles. I really wanted to get serious with God. I was at church for every service; twice on Sunday and again mid-week. I was reading my Bible more often than the newspaper. I spent many hours in prayer. I had multiple conformations that… Read more »
A very interesting testimony, Patricia, right from your heart, very similar to a few testimonies I have heard in my church. The unbelieving Christ-hating crowd think we are nuts, when we say God’s Holy Spirit spoke to us. No, not in a human-like voice, but one definitely knows when Jesus arrives on the scene. Some God-called preachers tell similar stories, like yours. And no, I am not talking about the garden-variety seminary-schooled clergymen who practice religion. I am talking about genuine God-called preachers. They will give testimony how being a preacher was the furthest thing from their mind, but God… Read more »
As a result of coming to the conclusion I reached at the end of my time in prayer that I decided that I would never again come to God all manly. It took some time, but I’ve completely replaced my wardrobe so that even the clothes I wear that allow those who need to, to see me as the average male, are women’s clothes. I started almost immediately to underdress daily. Minimum of panties, often a cami and when I felt brave enough a bra. Over the years, I’ve become totally comfortable with that and now wear all of that… Read more »