“Why do women get all the fun fashions and what’s wrong if a guy like me wears them”, I often wonder.
Searching the internet, I’ve found lots of websites targeted towards CD or TS individuals. There seem to be only a few references to guys, like me, who simply like wearing women’s fashions, but have no desire to pass as a woman. This feeling has no explanation, no matter how much I think about it or try to research it.
Simply, I love the way women’s fashions look, and I have this deep, inherent desire to wear those fashions, from heels and flats, to mesh tops and lace tops, to cute party dresses and formal dresses, to exquisite lingerie. I have no interest in makeup or wigs, I really like my guy face and how it challenges people’s thoughts when they see me dressed up in women’s clothing.
It took me a long time to admit that I was actually a crossdresser. I often thought of myself as just a guy who likes to “try on women’s clothes”. At first, the term crossdresser seemed to me as reserved for someone who really wanted to look like a woman. 
With no interest in transitioning, my daily struggle is how to be true to myself while trying to make sure most of my world doesn’t know that I’m a crossdresser.
Advice, comments, questions, email are all welcome. I’m just hoping to hear if any of have had similar experiences and struggles, or know someone like me, “Just a guy wearing women’s fashions.”
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Hi all :). I’m thrilled to have found this site; I’ve enjoyed reading your post Lea, and all the successive comments by everybody. I’m actually a straight cisgender (?) woman. I’m just learning the terms. However, I’m here because at 48 I have two young boys, special needs, one who likes to wear girls clothes, the other I found (after gentle non-leading questions) feels ‘like a girl inside’, and really doesn’t like being called a boy. He (she?) is 6, my CD is 8. Fairly certain my CD is just that, but after hearing (brother) say he feels like a… Read more »
Michelle, you are a super-mom, that mom who suppresses her own fear in search for the happiness of her kids. From various CD sites, you’ll find that many of us started having these girly feelings when we were toddlers, way before adolescence. Some non-CD sites will say many boys have girly feelings and outgrow them, but there is no follow up to see if that was really true or just suppression. Only your boys are going to know which term truly fits them, only after they’ve grown old enough to experience puberty and attraction. I can understand that desire to… Read more »
Michelle, I do applaud you for being here and for being understanding and wanting to learn about it. I know my mother did not react anywhere near in that manner and it further strained our already poor relationship forever. I did want to say that in my search for information I have stumbled onto a forum or two that was just of mom’s of CD’s. It seems they may have primarily been in England. They were mostly positive and supportive conversations. I only perused a conversation or two and was not able to join as I am not a mom.… Read more »
Let them wear what the heart desires ,love all around will be doubled
Just buy them some girl underclothes panties slips training bra if they would like it could be worn under male clothes there are also sites like homme mysterre that caters to crossdressers also on amazon and ebay also just a thought hope it helps
i too just like the clothes
i like the way they look on my athletic build
i dont want a wig or femme make up though i d like to try some eyliner
tight jeans peep toe platforms bras nice shirt or sweater that would be me if i could and i love the way my feet look with polish
men need polish more than women it makes youe feet look way better
i m with you the clothes are the draw
Great Article Lea!!!!! Just found a FB page that was about mens fashion with a female twist. If the site is solid I will share!
Thanks Codille. Hope that FB page is legit, would be nice to see something like that getting more popularity on FB (and making my fashion choice feel more real).
Lea, To the topic at hand. I made a post on Quora recently. Someone asked what articles of women’s clothing could a male get away with wearing without being noticed. To back up a little, I’m a fairly observant person. I went back to college late in life and while on that journey I noticed one day that one of my classmates was in his business suit for a presentation and while sitting down his pant legs raised up and exposed his droopy socks and bare ankles. I found this to be tacky and unprofessional. I turned to men’s style… Read more »
Thanks for sharing that experience Danielle! Nice to hear that you found a way to come up with professional and snazzy fashion combinations. I completely agree, simply wearing womens socks doesn’t seem like a CD thing. After all, I sometimes hear of women who wear men’s briefs, undershirts, or socks because of how practical and fitting they can be, and those women don’t think of it at all that’s it’s a CD thing. I too have always been very observant about fashion. It seems so stereotypical that fashionable guys are made out to be gay. That seems to be changing… Read more »
Your closing comment struck home for me. I’m fairly new to the CD lifestyle, and I’m not brave enough (yet) to go dress shopping, so I bought a pair of leggings that look like jeans, but they feel like sweatpants material. Paired with my peep toe heels, they slim my legs up and look fabulous! I expect they’ll do in a pinch for winter underwear, too, which will give me an “undercover" feminine feeling.
Leggings jegging are very comfortable tights are also! It is ok to be stylish rMens running tights are also very comfortable gives the very illusion of wearing painted on outerwear!
Hi Lea! Great post! Here’s something from my work past when I worked in a sales organization. The dress code for men in the summer was suit and tie, and if the manager allowed it, they could allow a polo on a Friday. The dress code for women was basically, don’t look like a whore. Had to have a blouse and a skirt that couldn’t be less than 3 inches above the knee. One of the reasons I dress is that women’s clothes have all the fabrics, colours and textures that aren’t allowed for men. When it gets hot, I’d… Read more »