“Why do women get all the fun fashions and what’s wrong if a guy like me wears them”, I often wonder.
Searching the internet, I’ve found lots of websites targeted towards CD or TS individuals. There seem to be only a few references to guys, like me, who simply like wearing women’s fashions, but have no desire to pass as a woman. This feeling has no explanation, no matter how much I think about it or try to research it.
Simply, I love the way women’s fashions look, and I have this deep, inherent desire to wear those fashions, from heels and flats, to mesh tops and lace tops, to cute party dresses and formal dresses, to exquisite lingerie. I have no interest in makeup or wigs, I really like my guy face and how it challenges people’s thoughts when they see me dressed up in women’s clothing.
It took me a long time to admit that I was actually a crossdresser. I often thought of myself as just a guy who likes to “try on women’s clothes”. At first, the term crossdresser seemed to me as reserved for someone who really wanted to look like a woman. 
With no interest in transitioning, my daily struggle is how to be true to myself while trying to make sure most of my world doesn’t know that I’m a crossdresser.
Advice, comments, questions, email are all welcome. I’m just hoping to hear if any of have had similar experiences and struggles, or know someone like me, “Just a guy wearing women’s fashions.”
I started cross dressing in my mid teens for same reason liked the femminne clothing and feel of silk next to my skin. There was no make up or wigs till I reached my late fifties and at this point realized that I want more. I will never go threw sex change just because it’s to expensive.
I now wear breast forms , wig and make up. My wife is discussed but I’ve decided it’s my life and I’m going to live it they I feel most full filled
Hugs and kisses
Sorry to hear your wife isn’t supportive, but glad to hear you’re living your life. My wife used to be disgusted, now she seems just not interested, I doubt she’ll ever be supportive.
Love, deep connections, years already together, and having a sense of family with them (and having kids together in some situations) is what seems to keep many of us crossdressers married to women who don’t support us in this one endeavor, but hopefully support the rest of who we are.
This piece probably describes most members here. The ability to wear pretty things and then switch back to male mode when necessary is totally ok if you can do it and remain happy and accept yourself. Besides..who here DOESN’T love to wear pretty feminine things!
Thanks for being so encouraging!
So enjoy this opportunity to chat with fellow femme travelers. I’my sitting here in stockings and one of my niece’s cute dresses. Unfortunately, she and her wardrobe are moving out of town. Finally, I will be compelled to do what I’ve always dreamed of/dreaded doing – shopping for beautiful, sexy ladies clothing. I CAN’T WAIT!
At first I dreaded the shopping, and now I love it!! Turns out, most people in a store just don’t notice a guy in the women’s dept. And sales associates can be really helpful (and non-judging), especially younger women. A few tips I’ve learned, start by being friendly (hi, how are you) to disarm people, be honest that you’re looking for yourself (I started with “a gift for someone", but now I can easily say “for me" and the conversation gets so much better), be confident, and don’t be shy about complimenting associates if they’re wearing something you adore (women… Read more »
I read most of the comments. I see that most do not expect a transition or further any surgeries. Please help me understand, if you feel comfortable wearing and looking femenine, wouldn’t you step forward and possibly progress into a more realistic femenine look. Note that most comments indicate satisfaction and comfort wearing and carrying on as a woman even wearing female undergarments all the time. In comparison than been a man. I do understsnd many of us TG’s have lived in the wrong structure and as we get older our Testasteron level goes down, while the little estrogen we… Read more »
For me, I’ve spent countless hours thinking about how far do I want to go. I tend to go for the super-feminine-fashion-foward-looking-guy, yet sport a well kept beard, guy haircut, and neat unpainted nails. I enjoy a new found attention from women that I just don’t get in guy mode. And i definitely avoid any attention from guys (postive or negative, I’m too cautious). So, for now, I don’t want to transition. Though, one lesson I’ve learned, is “never say never" on this road – seems like the older we get, our desires change. I once told my wife I… Read more »
I also love wearing women’s clothes. They just feel so much more comfortable than mens clothes and they just feel right on me. As I get older I also feel like my testosterone level is dropping. Any estrogen in me is having no effect so far, except in my feminine thoughts. If I were alone in the world I would definitely transition, but my loved ones are not ready to accept that. So I will continue to wear my ugly man suit, and dress en femme when I can.
KerryMichelle
Kerry, you are not alone in your situation or how you feel. Trust me, I know. Best of luck girlfriend!
Kerry, I too find that women’s clothes are just so much more comfortable, and cuter 🙂 I often read the labels and it seems that women’s clothes like to add in spandex and other fibers so that they stretch, and that seems to make them feel so much more relaxing. Some styles have a snug fit and strangely, that snugness feels comforting – like a nicely fitted bra. Your comment on testosterone is something I’ve been thinking about too. It “feels" like my level has gone down, even though a test a few years ago said it was normal. I… Read more »
Thank you to each of you for your reassuring replies! For the first time in a long time, I don’t feel alone. Your words have given new hope, encouragement, and insight to me, and I’m sure to many others, as we strive to find that perfect balance for our complicated lives.
Thank you for the topic, I relate to it 100%.
If we look back in time the men were ones in high heels and lace. We have Queen Vic to thank for the drab as well as other sufferings.
Hugs,
Jane
I once tried to persuade my wife with that same historical reference. I struggle that is no logic for why women get to wear heels and lace, and men don’t (at least for now).
I love your progression. I’m always looking for guys fashion that justifies my feminine choices. Satchels for guy are “in", but I substitute a cute purse that might pass instead.
Karyn, I meant to add this reply to your reply.
Hi Lea! Your post is quite interesting and insightful. Since I started wearing panties, and that was when I was 5 years old, at that age I just feel the need to do so. Nothing more. When I grew older the need was more intense and it was the pleasure of feeling the softness of the panty touching my body… and how good I felt! Then I went for more: bras, skirts, dresses, camisoles, babydolls, gowns, pantyhoses and stockings, shoes and make up. Only women can feel “feminine" or a man can feel it too? I can say that it… Read more »
O.B., so eloquently put. That sensation of looking like, feeling like, acting like, and thinking like a woman is that much needed escape from guy life. If only there was a way to reach routine, where there was full acceptance for a guy running errands in a long tunic shirt, leggings, and flip flops or a guy casually walking into the office wearing a summer dress, heels, and a cute purse.