Many times in my life I’ve had a case of the “I shoulds”. This was never truer than when it came to being transgendered and crossdressing. “I should” have a separate male and female persona. “I should” not wear that, it’s not me. “I should” not talk about that here because it’s not what most of the girls do. It often left me confused.
The problem with the “I shoulds” is they’re what our head says things should be. Where do they come from? These are messages we’ve gotten, or think we’ve gotten, in the past. Or they’re things we learned and have formed our outlook on life. For example, we all know that binary is binary, right? Except it isn’t. There are things called quantum bits (qubits for short) that can be 1s, 0s, or anything and everything in between. So, if that “fact” is wrong, what else isn’t really so?
Sometimes we should listen to our head. It’s probably not a good idea to wear a string bikini to a conservative swimming pool. But that doesn’t mean your heart isn’t saying in its best Little Rascals impression “aw, gee whiz”.
They say your head is wise, but your heart is wiser still. Truth is what your heart knows, not necessarily your head. I can’t tell you why my heart knows some of the things it knows. My head gave up trying to figure it out years ago.
Some of what your heart knows is experience and some of it is innate. I hate hurting people. I’ve done it enough to know how bad it makes me feel. My head says “don’t hurt people, it isn’t nice”. But it figured that out because my heart knew it all along.
Always go with your heart. Its motivations are pure and its knowledge is true. If your heart says to just be one person, or to go ahead and wear that top, or any of the “I shoulds” from the beginning of this article, accept it and go with it. It’s not easy to accept them. It will take some work.
In cases like these you can eventually override your head. Your heart doesn’t like to be overridden. It will nag you until you listen to it. But when you do the confusion will be replaced by quiet calm. Then you’ll know this is truth for you.
- Have you ever done something that felt right even though your head told you to do something else?”
- ”When have you felt bad because you listened to your head instead of doing what your heart told you to do?”
- ”Have you experienced that peace that comes from doing what you knew was right for you? What was that like?”
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