Overcome your struggles to live as who you are

Dear Readers,

Today you are privileged to meet a lady who has taken a significant step on her journey to live her authentic self. This step takes tremendous courage, courage that Debra Anne has shown in her struggle. Please read Debra Anne’s story, and share some words of encouragement and love in the comments below

Debra Anne Embraces Her Authentic Self

Debra Anne goes full time

Debra Anne goes full time

Since the first of May 2015 I have lived full time as Debra Anne.

I knew since the age of 8 or 9 that I didn’t feel right in my body, but I didn’t understand why. When I was ten I found a pair of my mums knickers in my room and I just felt the urge to put them on. Since then I started to wear them at every opportunity I got. Before long I was dressing in my stepsisters clothes or my mums clothes.

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That was forty years ago.

Throughout my teens I continued to explore my feminine side. I dressed and tried makeup. All the time I felt like I was the only person who did this (Ed: The Internet has been such a blessing for transgender people everywhere!).

Then I met someone – I fell in love, got married and had kids. My dressing became even more secretive. Two years ago I had a breakdown, my marriage ended and I started counseling to deal with it. I finally admitted my true feelings and began the hard job of telling my friends and family. This has been met with mixed responses and led to a few suicide attempts. I even got to point of putting noose around my neck but thoughts of my grand kids stopped me.

I started the process of to get my referral to the Gender Identity Clinic, changed my name by deed poll and applied for my driver’s license in my female name. Since living as the real me I have started to make steady headway in my recovery. I feel happier, more confident and the reactions of those who’ve met me as Debra have been amazing.

These may seem only small successes to some but to me they are huge steps. I couldn’t have done it though without the support of friends new and old.

 


If you are depressed and considering harming yourself please reach out to get help, you can find your local suicide hotline and support online at organizations dedicated to the transgender community. Laura’s Playground runs a chatroom dedicated to helping those in our community through their darkest hours.

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emily
8 years ago

Debra Anne’s story is certainly typical but doesn’t it also serve to point out that “cross dressing" is really a misnomer. Don’t most of us want to be women so why not call it what it is?

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Tammy
8 years ago

Hi Debra Anne thankyou for shearing your story. I so glad you found the true woman you were meant to be.You are such a lovely lady, I hope when it comes to it your transitioning goes well
Hugs Tammy x

Debra Anne
Debra Anne
8 years ago
Reply to  Tammy

Thank you I have always known the true woman I should have been but letting her come forth and be free has been the happiest and hardest thing I’ve done x

Elle
Elle
8 years ago

I love success stories like this. Wish you the best Debra Anne.

Debra Anne
Debra Anne
8 years ago
Reply to  Elle

Thank you but I have only made small steps in a very long journey xx

Jayme Lynn
Jayme Lynn
8 years ago

Such a beautiful and BRAVE!!! step you have taken Debra Anne!! .Much love and respect i give you for finally being YOUR TRUE SELF!

Debra Anne Clark
Debra Anne Clark
8 years ago
Reply to  Jayme Lynn

Thank you for your kind words I don’t feel brave. I feel scared excited and most of all relieved that I have been truthful about my real feelings xx

paula feeback
paula feeback
8 years ago

yes miss clark this is paula feeback <<<< as my femme name and like u i am kind of scared to b dessing as a lady and when i go to shop 4 women's apperal i go at night so no one can c me i hope u or would now of some one to help me fully understand on who i am and i am also looking to meet friends in the crossdressing world and by this reply HOPE i found one

Toni Marshall
Toni Marshall
8 years ago

Looking good, out and about in the fresh air. Debra you are so brave to be moving on with your life. Love xx

Debra Anne Clark
Debra Anne Clark
8 years ago

Where do you live I am in Dorset but if you want to meet more girls you could set up a Facebook account for Paula and I can friend you and you can hopefully find you some one to help you like they helped me but I am sure we can be friends cause us girls have to stick together xx

Dianne
Dianne
8 years ago

You deserve a big hand Way to go Girl

Debra Anne Clark
Debra Anne Clark
8 years ago

Thank you all for the kind words of support and encouragement. My journey is nothing special it is one many girls have travelled before me. It is their stories of success and despair are what gave me the courage to do the same xx

Daphne
Daphne
8 years ago

Way to bloom Debra Anne! Thanks for sharing your story with us. You show through courage such as your own we to can live as we are inside.

darlene
darlene
8 years ago

Vanessa: When are you going to place a regular sign in tab on Crossdresser heaven?

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