A Hodgepodge Submission
My makeup Journey
Okay, not the whole journey, just an excerpt. Like most everyone who’s started this path, I’ve collected my share of random stuff along the way and needed to put things in order.
Recently, I came out to a pile of friends and while most were sort of standoffish, some really embraced the new me. A few even offered to help me with my makeup and clothes, which got me thinking about what I had and if it was actually suitable.
After a couple of discussions and some embarrassing pictures later, I had a list of things that I needed to address.
Number one on the list was a better concealer (the usual chemist store ones weren’t cutting it) and foundation matched to my skin tone. It seems that my hurried race though the chemist and grabbing the dark stuff wasn’t working out so well.
Shuffle forward a few weeks; I’m hearing good things about a store in town that deals with professional makeup artists and the general public. So, putting my big girl panties on, I contact them and ask if it’s okay for a male to come in and get the things he needs. Nervously, I waited for the reply, which I somehow knew was going to be, “No, go away you weirdo!”
But no… they were awesome, made me feel at home and at ease. They explained that they deal with the trans-community and drag queens all the time. They could organize it for me and allow me to be matched in private if I wished as well. They also offered lessons if I was interested.
Thanking them, I said that I’d be in next week. I had the day off (mental health day) and figured why put it off; let’s do this. So, I got up, shaved dressed (drab, dude clothes – I’m not that brave) and drove into town. Admittedly, I drove past once to see if it was busy and saw no cars in the parking lot. I pulled in, parked, took a breath, and then walked into the store.
It was awesome as the lady greeted me (the same one whom Id chatted with.) I introduced myself as Sarah. She just kept on going, no double take or anything. She asked me how my day was going and made simple conversation with me. She then asked what I’d like to do today and the help I needed. I explained I needed a good beard concealer and for the dark rings around my eyes, as well as a foundation to match my skin.
As the store was empty, she asked if I’d be okay with having some product put on my face, either in the store or in private out back. I felt so at ease that I told her, “Let’s do it here.” A few seconds of figuring stuff out and the concealer was on, and we discussed what foundation type to use. It was simple and painless.
Approximately twenty minutes later, I was at the checkout, talking with her about other items that I may need; brushes–they were on sale got added to the pile as well as an eyeliner, a finishing powder puff and powder. Little did I know; the store was set-up to cater to people such as me. It’s a destination store and not somewhere you walk past and think about entering. There’s basically no chance of being spotted awkwardly and half made up as you might be in a department store.
So, will I be back? Absolutely, yes!!!
Some advice for buying:
Be smart and first scope out the store, message or text them; if they’re not receptive, move on to another.
Truthfully talk about your needs and who you are.
Organize a time to meet the person you chatted with, so you won’t need to explain again what you’re after in a crowded store.
Be prepared for the price….it stings, but the good stuff does cost more, and it goes a long way, too.
Be honest. They can’t help if you aren’t upfront with them.
Relax and have fun.Tags: crossdressing resources crossdressing tips Makeup help