Hello, darlings.
this is your nosy manager back for another issue of Managers’ Musings, and I’m going to tell you about yet another attempt to draw our members off-site, where the staff can’t take action to protect our members.
a member (almost always a new member in the last few hours) contacts a member, often it’s new members, but sometimes it’s ones who are well established on the site.
the first thing this new member (who, hereinafter will be referred to as “a troll”) is to send a private message to our members, asking for off-site chat, phone, email address, zoom, insta, skype, google chat, etc… this should be a HUGE tipoff… I don’t know about you, but I come to this site to be on this site, and not to be immediately whisked off to someplace else.
if you send a member your offsite contact information, there is NOTHING the staff of this site can do to help you.
if someone contacts you for this reason and it doesn’t seem right, please contact a staff member, or even better, a manager or myself immediately!
now, obviously, you’ve chatted with someone for years, you want to meet for coffee, etc, you may wish to share some such information between you… ensure that you do that in either a private chat or private message. Those are the ONLY secure and private ways of sending messages on this site. again, if this goes bad (it has for even me… once…) there is nothing this site and the staff can do for you.
Please, darlings, be internet safe!
BillieJay
Managing Ambassador
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Thank you for the heads up. Much appreciated.
Thank you for your informative article..forewarned forearmed …
Thank you, BillieJay, for your constant vigilance. And thanks also to the “troll hunters" who find these people and cast them out into the non-femme darkness from whence they came.
Thank you BillieJay for the heads up and warning. I’ve been fortunate never to have a CDH member (Troll) contact me requesting off-site chat, or personal information, but if this happens, I will notify you or another manager.
Thanks for keeping our CDH family more safe.
Love, Rev
Thanks for the article. I personally have never had a troll ask me for off site contact although I did meet one of our lovely members in person who lived in a neighboring city. That experience went extremely well and we became fast friends. On other sites, however I have had a couple people try to use my cross dressing and activities as a tool against me. They actually tried to blackmail me and claimed they would expose me to my family. It did not succeed for two reasons. One, I have already come out to my wife, the most… Read more »
Thank you for your wisdom. We do live in dangerous times and it behooves us to live accordingly. Aurora B.
Thank you for the reminder. I love your pictures.
Hugs and Kisses Amber
It happens, I get a request now and then to chat elsewhere. It always sets off my early warning system. Thanks for posting this @billiejay
that’s what I do here, love, taking care of our members
you’re welcome
And we love that you do sugar!!!