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Triesste replied to the topic "Triumph-and Tragedy" – 3 weeks ago
Thank you to everyone for your kind words. A few years ago, the bass player from our live band in New York was also lost to addiction. He was also a talented multi-instrumentalist, fluent on the Indian sarod. I was… Read more»
Jacqueline Larkspur replied to the topic "Triumph-and Tragedy" – 3 weeks ago
@astreena
My condolences to you on the sad loss of your friend. Take care.
xxxEllie Davis replied to the topic "Triumph-and Tragedy" – 3 weeks ago
@astreena Oh, Triesste. I am so, so sorry to read this. You never know what people are going through in their lives – we’re just too damn good at covering things up. Your friend was clearly very special. I don’t… Read more»
Alexina (Allie) replied to the topic "Triumph-and Tragedy" – 3 weeks ago
@astreena
Thanks for posting this, Triestte, I have seen the damage alcohol abuse can do and it’s heartbreaking.
My thoughts are with you.
Allie xRebecca Lewis replied to the topic "Triumph-and Tragedy" – 3 weeks ago
@astreena Thank you for that wonderful contribution. Having known someone who nearly went down that route, but in the end sought help, I endorse the plea for those, who know they need help, to overcome their fears and ask for… Read more»
Triesste wrote a new post 3 weeks ago
Triumph-and Tragedy Hello and best wishes to everyone On February 17th, Triesste & Friends had its fourth and final edition in Tokyo. I don’t think it’s an
Triesste replied to the topic "Next Stages" – 3 months ago
Very good point-always have an exit strategy. Thank you!
Triesste replied to the topic "Next Stages" – 3 months ago
@harriette I will do that!
Harriette replied to the topic "Next Stages" – 3 months ago
@astreena Nice to meet you, Triesste!
Let us know how it all works out, please.Triesste wrote a new post 3 months ago
Next Stages Hello fellow travelers I am writing this on December 31, 2023. As such, I would like to start by hoping everyone had a joyful and happy
No matter what the future holds you have a wonderful past living your life to the full with beautiful memories. The future is full of opportunities to be found and I am sure you will find a new balance in life Triesste.
Nothing has to be forever. If moving back to the States is best for you and your family, do it, but leave options open for a return to Japan, if that is what you want. An important mantra I picked up is to “Move forward with reversible results”. In other words, try new things, but go back to the old ways if necessary.
Very good point-always have an exit strategy. Thank you!
@astreena Nice to meet you, Triesste!
Let us know how it all works out, please.@harriette I will do that!
Triesste replied to the topic "The “Thrill” is gone, or is it?" – 3 months ago
Thank you Amy. i tried to edit my comment-I didn’t want to be about myself so much. But i got a message that I could no longer edit. Yes, about that image thing-well since i started with our group, even… Read more»
Triesste replied to the topic "The “Thrill” is gone, or is it?" – 3 months ago
Thank you Amy. i tried to edit my comment-I didn’t want to be about myself so much. But i got a message that I could no longer edit. Yes, about that image thing-well since i started with our group, even… Read more»
Triesste replied to the topic "The “Thrill” is gone, or is it?" – 3 months ago
Hi Amy Thank you for your article. You touch on some issues that don’t have easy answers. I have an article on the way which will explain my situation in more detail but, I am at kind of a crossroads… Read more»
Triesste replied to the topic "The “Thrill” is gone, or is it?" – 3 months ago
Hi Amy Thank you for your article. You touch on some issues that don’t have easy answers. I have an article on the way which will explain my situation in more detail but, I am at kind of a crossroads… Read more»
Triesste wrote a new post 8 months ago
Ten Years (part 2) Well, July was quite a month! On July 8th, as mentioned in my previous article, the Tokyo Closet Ball held our tenth anniversary
Triesste wrote a new post 1 years ago
Ten years How many times have we all heard it? “Where on Earth does the time go?” I have no idea. My first thought; on Earth is probably the wrong
Congratulations on ten years Triesste, that is not an easy thing to do as a performer. I wish you the best on your July show, hopfully you’ll share with us how it went.
Congratulations Triesste. I suppose that we all are performers in homing the art in private then stepping out on that stage presenting ourselves to the public. What are the reactions going to be, how will we go down? It’s all there, the nerves, the good and bad but like troupers we carry on and as the plaudits get better our confidence is such that the performance is worthy of an encore….
Triesste
I have so much admiration for anyone brave enough to put themselves out there as a performer. Congratulations! And yes, how do we all make the most of the time we have left?
Thanks for sharing
EvieTen years! Wow! WTG, girl!
As I think you know, I’m a performer, too. Occasionally, I have performed as myself rather than him– and it is such a glorious & liberating feeling. I feel like I’m where–and who– I should be.
Thanks for sharing your story!
Best wishes,
DawnThat is quite the accomplishment, 10 years doing shows, you deserve a huge round of applause! Congratulations!!
This comes at an interesting time in my life as in two weeks time I will be making my debut performing as Amy. I’m more than a bit scared at this, and hope I can do a good performance and can keep my nerves under control.
I like to perform, but am terrified of it too and now I’ll be up there as Amy. Though the venue is a LGBTQ+ club so acceptance on that level at least is assured.
The piece I’m performing is the famous Queen song, Bohemian Rhapsody, and since I’m no singer I’m playing it on keyboard. The arrangement I play is similar to one I saw Freddie perform once, and it’s like his original, long, complex and challenging to play.Not only am I worried about my performance, I can’t decide what to wear as well!
Thank you very much for sharing your story, and allowing me to share a piece of mine!
Amy
Triesste replied to the topic Would you go on a date with a man? in the forum Crossdresser Heaven Polls 1 years ago
I want to comment, and I hope it’s not taken as being mean or patronizing at all, I really just want it to be helpful. I’ve been reading through the comments-now I have not lived in the Western world for a long time, and I have dated in Japan my country of residence, but not lately. That said, I am seeing comments that suggest dating is an…[Read more]
Triesste wrote a new post 1 years ago
Greetings and warmest wishes to everyone for peace, joy, health, and prosperity over the holidays and into the new year. And all other days. They come and go too quickly to spend them any other way.
For many
hello and great post hope for the same for you. and a better year and society will be better with the LGBTQIA+. it would be nice for society to open up so us cross dressers can come out of the closet and show how pretty we can be since real woman d does not dress like woman, they wear pants and shirt deal which they call blouse. no make up no dresses, so we can dress up like a real female and be happy and show our feminine side.
Great year Europe finally opened and I could visit Victoria’s Secret at Bond Street London. Even though I buy online, I love to visit shops too, because every time you buy personally gives outstanding feeling.
Hey ladies
Well just to update, Triesste & Friends was a smash, everyone loved it.
Technical problems-of course. But the club, the performers, the audience-everyone was happy. I’m thinking to do it again in fall, after the summer nuclear furnace is off.
Thank you for your comments they are appreciated.
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@astreena Thank you for that wonderful contribution. Having known someone who nearly went down that route, but in the end sought help, I endorse the plea for those, who know they need help, to overcome their fears and ask for it.
I had raised enzyme levels in my liver that was probably (certainly?) caused by drinking [for more than fifty years] and it was only found in a routine blood test for something completely unrelated. I immediately gave it up (which was hard for a few months) and things returned to normal within a year so hopefully, I dodged a bullet there. Alcohol damage is like high blood pressure, it’s killing you and it is quite possible to not know it until it’s too late.
I am sorry for your loss. 🙁
@astreena
Thanks for posting this, Triestte, I have seen the damage alcohol abuse can do and it’s heartbreaking.
My thoughts are with you.
Allie x
It is one of those things that whatever we do the destiny is there. Like many I have seen the destruction alcohol can do not only to individuals but family as well. It would not be uncommon for some crossdressers to seek solace in the bottle to hide the frustrations of this secret. Like any addiction it is down to the individual as much as family and friends try to do all they can that terrible cycle has to broken. For the individual that is the hardest part.
I know that the girls here would rally round and do all we can for anyone in distress and offer what we can to help.
That’s the beauty of this site where we are always here to listen.
Thank you for sharing Triesste
@astreena
Oh, Triesste.
I am so, so sorry to read this.
You never know what people are going through in their lives – we’re just too damn good at covering things up.
Your friend was clearly very special.
I don’t have the right words. I hope you’re okay.
Ellie x
@astreena
My condolences to you on the sad loss of your friend. Take care.
xxx
Thank you to everyone for your kind words.
A few years ago, the bass player from our live band in New York was also lost to addiction. He was also a talented multi-instrumentalist, fluent on the Indian sarod. I was so sad, but it was far away. This happened right in front of me. It’s a kick in the gut.
I’m not one to go off on a rant about drugs or intoxication in general. That will be happening long after all of us are skeletons. I just hope everyone will recognize their value as living beings, and stick around.
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I am sharing this, in part, because I don’t want it to happen to anyone else.
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There is an on-line acquaintance (I can’t really say that he is a friend) who also drinks and is literally killing his liver. He had been hospitalized for related things before I met him, plus he had a recent bout with serious issues. He has quit and restarted a few times.
Stubborn? Yes. Carefree? To some degree because he knows what he has done to himself and won’t stop. Addiction is a b-word. Am I upset about it? There is not a damned thing that I will be able to do that will change his outcome and he isn’t willing or able to change, so I am not going to get emotional about it. All of the others in this on-line group, more or less, feel the same way – helpless. It’s like we are watching a trainwreck in slow motion.
Another person who is a friend smokes – a lot. Can’t talk him out of it and protecting himself, either. He also lives too far away to be able to affect him much. Again, addiction is a b-word and I will get upset when his health breaks down.
We can only do so much unless a person wants to help him or herself.
Condolences to her friends and family.
Hey girls. Look, I drink far too much. I’m also a lifelong smoker. What can I say? After 40 years without seeing a health professional I’ve had shed loads of tests for all sorts of things in the last 18 months, and luckily nothing serious to report. I’m not proud of my vices but honestly I can’t imagine giving them up at present. Also I’ve watched aged parents and parents in law endure horribly restricting health problems over many years, and maybe it’s better to go a bit earlier. Gosh, never posted anything so morbid 😂. Finally, and I’ve posted on this before, there’s something about a pretty woman smoking elegantly that I find intensively sexy, and I love to try and emulate that when I’m dressed. So judge me …
Hugs, Chrissie xx.