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Patricia Gil Hernandez replied to the topic "Underdressing: Secretly enjoying your feminine side" – 3 months ago
Been under dressing since I was 13. Went to school in a pantygirdle with thigh high nylons since pantyhose hadn’t quite made it on the scene just yet. By graduation I was wearing pantyhose almost everyday. These days its, pantyhose,… Read more»
Patricia Gil Hernandez replied to the topic "Sometimes Awkward or Embarrassing" – 4 months ago
Frankly I enjoy getting dressed while my wife watches. Especially when putting on nylons or pantyhose. Gives me a sense of just being myself without the need to hide. The most she has ever said is that I am very… Read more»
Patricia Gil Hernandez replied to the topic When in your current or latest relationship did you tell your significant other? in the forum Crossdresser Heaven Polls 6 months ago
Told her when dating as I did with a number of ladies. Most couldn’t deal with it so they were just friends. Then one day I told the lady that would eventually become my wife. She was amazing from square one so, yes I was a bit nervous. She didn’t answer that evening. The following morning she called and told me it wasn’t a problem. She has been…[Read more]
Patricia Gil Hernandez replied to the topic Do you wear a bra and panties daily in the forum Fashion Beauty & Makeup 7 months ago
Panties, pantyhose, leggings, cute top with kitten heels, and earrings.
Patricia Gil Hernandez replied to the topic Buying Clothes in the forum General Chat "Life as it Goes On" 1 years ago
Usually just shop whenever and wherever the the mood hits me. Not much of a big deal if anyone questions me anylonger.
Patricia Gil Hernandez replied to the topic So what are we wearing? in the forum General Chat "Life as it Goes On" 1 years ago
Leggings, lacy panties, camisole, cute flower top, pantyhose, and kitten heels, and lets not forget hoop earrings with a skrunchy to keep my long hair in a ponytail. Though usually I dress like this everyday now that I am the lady of the house.
Patricia Gil Hernandez replied to the topic What is your favorite covering for your legs? in the forum Crossdresser Heaven Polls 1 years ago
Pantyhose are a must for me. Then I do keep my legs smooth all the time these days. No one really says much about them. Besides I am just being me.
Patricia Gil Hernandez wrote a new post 2 years ago
The past, not any past, but your past. Was there someone who knew about you, and totally disapproved. Told you negative things about you or even things that were not very nice. The things such as you need
Patricia Gil Hernandez replied to the topic Your Style in the forum Fashion Beauty & Makeup 2 years ago
Cute clubbing outfit, or just a cute outfit. Let’s just say we like an outfit that just comes together in a rather femme manner. That is all part of being a girl is’t it? I just love it when my outfits come together. There is just something about the whole sensation of it. One evening I put on my black dress with a pair of silver heels. Bit dressy…[Read more]
Patricia Gil Hernandez replied to the topic Your Style in the forum Fashion Beauty & Makeup 2 years ago
Cute clothes for teens are just that, for teens. As I looked at a dress more than once my wife asked why didn’t I purchase it. Simple response was ” I like the dress, but it doesn’t like me”. Somethings just don’t work for any of us. Our youth is gone, but this happens to us all now doesn’t it? Still it is nice to be in a dress with kitten heels,…[Read more]
Patricia Gil Hernandez replied to the topic Your Style in the forum Fashion Beauty & Makeup 2 years ago
Boring, I think not. We are who we are and that includes those of us who are not so flamboyant as this young gay friend of mine put it to me. I am neither, gay, nor flamboyant. Though I will say that I do like a nice looking outfit to just come together nicely. You know many of us enjoy this without being the center of attention. Just having the…[Read more]
Patricia Gil Hernandez replied to the topic Talking about clothes in the forum General Chat "Life as it Goes On" 2 years ago
Taking about clothes, why not? That is part of being a girl I always thought, and it works for me. The discovery is as I become more comfortable with dressing I also become more comfortable with the person that is me. Interestingly enough this is very new to me as it is to you as well. What say we just run with it, and see where it takes us. Those…[Read more]
Patricia Gil Hernandez replied to the topic Taking a big step today in the forum General Chat "Life as it Goes On" 2 years ago
Wonderful, taking this step can be so exciting. Just a few days ago I wore my girl jeans out with a tunic, pantyhose, and kitten sneakers(2 inch heels on them) which just made me feel wonderful. Oh yes I also had on my large hoop earrings, and my hair in a ponytail with pink schrunchy. Keep it up.
Patricia Gil Hernandez replied to the topic Your Style in the forum Fashion Beauty & Makeup 2 years ago
Being ourselves is basically all we are saying. Yes, many of us have missed the teen years and all the wonderful clothes that come with being a teenager. That reality is just the way it is. Though we do have some time to be who we are at this time in our lives. Where we are in our lives is pretty much as common with what a woman our age must deal…[Read more]
Patricia Gil Hernandez replied to the topic Your Style in the forum Fashion Beauty & Makeup 2 years ago
Getting out and being alive. Yes that does make such a difference. Totally get it as being real especially to the person that matters to us. One of my favorite things is putting on my pantyhose with her in the room. Silly, but it makes such a statement without words. Once she damaged her heels, and when she told me about my immediate response…[Read more]
Patricia Gil Hernandez replied to the topic Your Style in the forum Fashion Beauty & Makeup 2 years ago
Nice to know I am not the only senior out there that prefers to dress like a lady, and also for the mention of lingerie. Wow, they both have really nice choices. Might as well feel pretty now, because we aren’t taking all the pretty things with us. As for heels mine also are about two inches, and to me anything over three inches just makes one…[Read more]
Patricia Gil Hernandez started the topic Your Style in the forum Fashion Beauty & Makeup 2 years ago
Being a lady of the house in the house. There are many different styles on being the lady of the house. Choose to create your own style. Style, now isn’t that just one point on the joy of being a girl? Let me say style is just one of the reasons that I prefer clothing that many say women wear. Style is rather a nice thing to add to my recipe of l…[Read more]
Patricia Gil Hernandez replied to the topic Stockings why do I love them in the forum General Chat "Life as it Goes On" 2 years ago
Stockings feel wonderful. Wearing them everyday is now the normal for this gal. Not only do my legs look better, but a definite must when shopping for a new pair of heels. I just love the way ones foot slips into the heels so much easier when wearing stockings.
Patricia Gil Hernandez replied to the topic Do you want to see your SO in the style of clothes you buy/wear as a CD? in the forum General Chat "Life as it Goes On" 2 years ago
My wife and I have very different taste. Once she wore a pair of heels and they got damaged a bit. My response was simple, ” why are you wearing heels? that’s my job.” She just laughed, and agreed with me. Honestly I have more hose, heels, and dresses than her. Both of us share earrings. Be well,
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I know that my mother knew that I was different but we never really came to the point that you and your mother did. Nevertheless, while my mom lacked full understanding she loved me anyway. I’m a little saddened that it took me most of my life to figure it all out. Thank you Patricia for this very moving story, Marg
Your comment and the poster made me wonder whether my mom knew that there was something unique in me for the disposition; how I presented myself to the world; for the things I liked and talked about..I was definitely my own person, right out of the womb, and never followed the boy crowd as a compelling need, or as a matter of principal.This is not to say that I did not enjoy a boy’s antics within this group, which made me feel I was a part of something. It’s just that i didn’t NEED to.do this; to be a part of this. I wonder now how much my mother saw me as a whole person, and how she interpreted this. Whatever she did notice, there were no words available to her to describe it, this person who did not need to subscribe to the conventions of male or female. I wonder what she would have had to say about this in an era where words are now available to describe the nuance of gender identity.
Claudia, I think that moms just know but may not be able to verbalize it or perhaps choose not to verbalize it. And yes, we have come a long way toward understanding. Marg
I was (past tense of course..) married to a woman who hated my CDing with a passion and long term it did contribute to our divorce.
These days I’ve notched up 20 plus years with my loving life pertner who “knows. but she does not want to know”
So as much as it pains me we work on “DADT” in this house….I underdress 24/7 and sleep femme in my own room every night.
I would be so much happier if we could have an open discussion about it, but I dont want to “stir the pot”.
Caty.
My wife is the same, similar to the “don’t ask don’t tell” philosophy from the Armed Forces in the states, years back. At least I get to sleep in nighties in the same bed as my wife, as long as they are not too feminine.
Since I was five or early years I played with regular toys but never dolls cause had no sisters except when one of my cousin came we would play girl doll time she was the most beautiful cousins I had those days three but she was the one I admire her looks her dresses until now I don’t know why she never said nothing about my desires, one time my aunt came to invite us to a swimming/picnic after we got home my cousin went to take her one pc. swim suit and when I took my turn and taking off my trunks I saw my cousin left hers I don’t know if she left them for me but when they left I went back to the bathroom I tried them it felt perfect I was in heaven until Mom opened door (forgot to lock door) she said what was I doing to take them off but she didn’t say anything that had been my second time Mom new something but never said nothing, up to now Mom knows but like a lot of us only until maybe ten years ago a I went to a Halloween party but called her if I could borrow one of her dresses she’s was surprised I showed well dress in a regular black dress she said I look good and give me one of her beautiful dresses a red satin dress since then she wil come here at home just checking if that was for Halloween. I’m trying to remember only one time (my wife was at work) one of my friends that I haven’t seen in the past call me he wanted to came visit me I had also the urge to surprise all dressed to him and just when I offer him a drink and went to change then someone ring the doorbell it was Mom I don’t know up to date what would happened finding me all dressed and with my friend maybe her sixth sense. Until now have all my sisters happy dressing. Auroras L.
Hello Patricia, you hit the nail on the head with your comments. Yes I have been told similar remarks about dressing. Unnatural, you look stupid, or sometimes a glaring disapproving passer by would snigger.
But my mum knew early on about my crossdressing side, and a sister did too.
Now I dress up at work, and when my wife and I go out. Today our situation has improved, but spiteful people will always comment, especially if you look better then they do.
A good hearted person is always a winner.
ENJOY, change your day wear a dress.
Best Wishes Jane
great words and great story. people should just mind their own business if they see a man dressed in as a female, let it go. this is 2022 and woman wear men cloths 24 7, so why cannot men wear female cloths and get away with it. women marry woman, men marry men. so, we are cross dressers and would like to come out of the closet and be respected as one. except us for what we are dressed for and showing our fem side. every man has one and every woman has a male side. my wife knows i dress up, but will not help with make up or see me even tho she has seen me getting dressed up, but will not have me sit in same room as her ad watch T.V. and talk about why what i feel when dressed up
Hi Patricia, I loved this article! The timing of reading this for me is spot on. My wife and I went to a Wynonna Judd concert Saturday night in a small venue near Pittsburgh. lThe concert was great but there was either a drag queen or very loyal tribute fan there with a big hair red wig, long coffin nails, all the makeup and outfit. When I first saw them I wanted to tell them I was proud for them, but I passed by and went back to my seat. They came down to the front row and everyone in the row behind us either snickered or made rude comments. If I hadn’t been worried about humiliating my wife I would have stood up and asked them who was the person hurting and what gave them the right to act like that. But I just sat there and tried to ignore them. What made me feel worse was my resentment of the drag queen for making it harder for the rest of us. I’m ashamed to say it, but then I realized they were happy as they were and I should be too.
Thanks for sharing this!
Hugs,
Brie